I have lots more to worry about as well - sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2006-10-29
In Reply to: lucky coat - UNLUCKY
I have a 6-y/o daughter that is only 1 year out from her chemo for kidney cancer and has been having some worrying symptoms lately, I have bills, I have lots of home strife to deal with , I have a DH who acts younger than my kids half of the time and cannot deal with any major problems and has undiagnosed depression and possibly bi-polar. I carry a heavy load here so you are not the only one in this world with problems. OH, I am in the USA too, so what does that have to do with anything? The coat just angered me beyond belief, maybe it is the straw that broke my back, my way of venting, who knows, but it something I can at least try to take some action on and maybe get it back. I cannot control my daughter's cancer recovery, all I can do is watch and wait and see if we make it to 5 years recovery without any recurrence, for the bills I am trying to work harder and make more money, for my DH I just deal with him the best I can and do pretty well but not all the time. So I have trival things and big things to worry about and deal with, along with millions of others. Sorry if my kid's coat loss/theft was such a mundane topic to post about but I am/was T'eed off about it and needed to vent and get opinions if I could on this. Yours is duly noted.
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Worry about finances but don't worry about insurance. sm
Most of the time, the father is awarded through court to provide insurance on the children as well as child support. If not, you might would qualify for some assistance on healthcare for the children. There are a lot of programs out there now. You could always try to find an employee position although that doesn't seem to easy this day and time. In the end, money does not buy happiness nor love.
I think once disgust happens, lots of therapy is needed to feel love again. Lots
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Lots and lots of SKATING ! - sm
Mostly inline street skating, up & down hills, too. Some roller skating and roller-disco. I was doing ice-skating, but can't afford it anymore, plus I prefer to skate outdoors. It works all muscles, is low-impact, fairly quick to learn compared to other sports, like skiing, is a cheap sport, and excellent for keeping balance & reflexes sharp. Most of the people I skate with look & act 10-20 years younger than their chronological ages.
I MAKE the time to skate. I eat my lunch at my desk, but take a break in the late afternoon before it gets dark, to exercise. This can also include a walk or jog around the neighborhood, bike ride into town to go to the market (cheaper than driving), a fast inline skate around town, or dance practice on a local tennis court. Then I work into the evening for as long as it takes to finish up.
By trial and error. Lots and LOTS of error!!! -nm
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Don't worry...
My last pregnancy my dates were off by a week also and my little girl was born 12 weeks ago tomorrow...healthy at 7 pounds 2 ounces...
Not to worry
He probably just wants to know what it feels like to wear diapers. The fact that he does it by himself in private says that he understands that you would not approve of it.
If he were regressing, the diapers would not be clean - they would be soiled.
It's not that unusual and absolutely nothing to be concerned about. If he is still doing it in 3 mos., I would talk to the pediatrician. But for now, let him be.
don't worry
I live outside Cleveland (Lake Erie) and you can only go to the beach a few months a year!
You still worry, but sm
after in college, even you pay the bills, they are adults, and deserve freedom and privacy. My house my rules sucks, for everyone. Let go. It will be okay.
More than that, I would worry about the
fact can you get insurance coverage there or if so, can you keep it? I am hearing loads of people being denied insurance on the coast and even people who have not been threatened or hit by these hurricaines, as higher up the east coast, insurance is being cancelled right and left. I love the coast line to visit but I would really have cause to think this 1 out really well.
Don't worry but...
this happened to two of our older cats (various times in my life) where they would get antsy and roam around and eventually would keep trying to get outside (not outdoor cats either) and when this happened they passed away and were found dead just of old age...Someone once told me and I do not know if it is true or not that some cats will want to up and run away when they know it is time to die...it is like an instinct. I don't know if I believe that or not, but it has happened twice to me...once when I was a child and later as an adult...so sad.
Thank you and don't worry, I'm
not listenting to the one negative post I got. I know what's best for my kids and I know giving them nurture and ALL my love is what is best. Like I said before, he is still scared to sleep upstairs and I only wish we knew we were going to have kids when we built our 2-story! Things would have been different and it would have been a 1-story, but oh well, you work with what you've got!
What me worry?
You see I named it "Mother of the Year" that was tongue in cheek referencing their mother.
Don't worry about it yet - sm
Having raised four totally different kids, I can tell you their personalities, development, everything was completely different.
One walked at 8 months (seriously) and another didn't walk until she was well over a year. The same late walker, never crawled, never bothered to learn to speak very much until she was about two. Her sister is very close in age (older) and they had this secret language that only they understood and big sis "translated" everything for her baby sis. Baby sis didn't have a reason to walk, talk, or anything else. She had three older siblings (the two older ones were 6 and 9 years older) who did everything for her.
Don't sweat it yet. Could just be a late bloomer. My late bloomer is now 15 and I can't get her to sit still or shut up! LOL
not to worry - sm
It's tough to tie ourselves up with something like this. I completely understand. During the past few years my husband has lost his job, got a new one, I have lost income to various reasons (mostly not enough work) but have managed to stick with the plan.
Sometimes it hurts just a little bit for sure.
In your situation, maybe you can set your limits a little lower according to your income each month but maintain one constant... the one you are trying to pay off. Other things can slide a little bit if they need to but just maintain that one bill that you are putting the bigger money on.
I should have mentioned earlier too - Car insurance!
Did you know that some companies offer you a tiny little discount when you pay every 6 months or once a year, rather than once a month?
I now pay about $30 less every year because I pay every 6 months. I know, it's only $30 but it is what it is right?
While everything may not really be negotiable, that's the attitude I have adopted and it has helped me change my money habits for sure.
So what if they tell you no the first time, or the second time, or even the third. Keep asking.
By the way, if you remember the name of that book, please post it. I would be interested in reading it too. Maybe there is something else I have missed that I could be doing.
I used to worry because I also have
no children and will not be a burden to my niece and nephew. I'm 52 now but am making plans for the future. I plan on moving into a 55+ condo, have insurance where I will be taken care of and socking away every penny. Otherwise I have no worries and enjoy being this age. I don't think I would want to be in my 20 and 30's again.
Should Alzheimer's set it and I am wandering around in the neighborhood with just my undies on, at least I'll think it's okay. But that is my biggest fear - not having my mind.
I do not think we have to worry there, now do we?
Looking at the audience in the RNP convention, no diversity at all so that is not a worry on my mind in the least bit. I told my daughter who is mixed, and wobbling back and forth about who to vote for, to just look at the gatherings on both sides- if on the republican she could count at least 10 black faces there, then vote that way. Just could not be done actually.
Don't do it and don't worry about it. sm
It's called chemistry, and this time it's only on your part. I'm too old to remember how it feels, but I do remember feeling intense physical attraction and infatuation in my much younger days, ha ha.
You can't get arrested for what's you're thinking. You also can't think of two things at once. If you find yourself fantasizing about this kid, just replace that thought immediately with another one--say, a task that needs doing in your home, or watch the news on TV.
Age difference is often no respecter of persons when it comes to plain ole chemistry. But self-respect and good family values are more important. You might just pray to get over it. :)
That's another worry
I am 50, so no spring chicken here, and this was all foreign to me. When I met him, I had no idea about all the dark clouds over him. He was semi-sober (he drank to toasted on weekends), which I could sort-of accept as normal, although admittedly I had outgrown that behavior about 30 years ago. A little while into the relationship, I found out that the reason for his semi-sobriety was that he was only a couple months out of prison on probation and was subject to random drug/alcohol testing at any of his Tuesday thru Friday therapy visits.
But I found him on MySpace and there was nothing in his profile to indicate he was an abusive alcoholic, and in the first couple of months, other than the Fri/Sat drinking, I never picked up on it. So I either don't have the AAdar (like gaydar, but for alcoholics) or the FLAYdar (for abusers) to have picked up on it, or I'm giving off some kind of phermone or have a 'look' that will make me a target again.
Don't worry
They go over that you may never be forgiven. They go over you may get divorced. You are off the hook. Do it while he is in treatment and he will have the support he needs and you will have the support you need to not be guilted into changing your mind.
He will change more without you, so you don't need to feel guilty.
Good luck.
Tell him to worry about his own home, and
if he doesn't like it don't come over and don't send his children over.
I hate it when people behave this way. HAPPY HALLOWEEN
Don't worry, after they have counseling
as adults and realize what they went through they will resent her for it and she'll learn the hard way. Happens all the time.
Do not worry about those jobs....
Doing VR and dictator said had positive occult stools ----VR put down positive alcohol school. Lets drink up folks!!!
I wouldn't worry too much!
My husband and I, when we first got married, would go to Bath and Body Works and pick out scents that we both liked. It was something that we both enjoyed. I wouldn't put too much into it. Offer to rub some lotion on his back after his bath or hop in the tub with him!
I don't worry. Just take my massive cat along and
Funny.
I am in NJ and worry about my brother-in-law
even though the fires are not near him, things can change if those winds do not stop soon. I wish the best for your friend. Yes, everyone's spirits out there seem to be good. They go through so much with these fires and earthquakes. I believe that is what gives them the strength to deal with these disasters when they happen.
The thing that would worry me about this is that....
she could be sick. Both times I had cats do this it was because they both had cystitis. A friend of mine who works for a vet told me they associate the pain of the infection with the litter box and stop using it. I don't know how to stop the spraying if there isn't a health problem, but I would first make sure she is okay.
Don't worry about it. There is no deal.
The house doesn't meet your standards or needs, and you aren't interested.
Realtors are supposed to work for you. If you want to buy a house, she should be finding out what you want and bringing papers on homes to you for your consideration. Don't even think you have wasted her time at this point!
I had my Realtor show me every house in my price range in all of the north side of this town. She was great.
Thank goodness don’t have to worry about
things like this but really have heard about it. Ladies, I am telling you now- you have no idea how fast your life will go by- one of these days you will wake up and wonder where the years went. It makes absolutely NO sense to stay with anyone and I mean anyone unless you want to be there- love or lack of, children, family, job security or benefits, etc. etc. Your will be getting older and believe you me when I say I wish I could go back to about 40 and redo things a little. I wasted years. I never worried about making it on my own, in fact I was the money earner in the family so was in a rut and stayed there, not anymore and I will say again, even if there are loads of children, you do yourself a disservice staying in an unloving marriage.
Please try not to worry. Are you sure that are not kidney SM
stones? My opinion is the hospital sent letter as a matter of protocol. When people are discharged from ER, they usually receive followup orders. Maybe they forgot.
Followup with PCP, but try not to worry. Monday will be here soon enough.
I do not understand why the worry
Am in my 60s and never knew when my period was supposed to be, just never kept up with it. I see no problem with not having a period- I would think most women would like that. What is your concern in not having?
Don't worry - it was just one person (sm)
You can't please everyone all of the time :-)
Everyone is strange to someone :-)
You didn't do anything wrong!!
have fun with food and don't worry
they'll eat... I have a strange son who insists that he is never hungry (yet, he is always getting a snack and reminds me it's time to make dinner). Well, he is a quirky one.
I don't have to worry about this for about 5 more years - sm
but I don't plan on giving my daughter a car. Now I may get a second car, smaller used, that she can use, but it will not be "hers". This will be more than my parents did, though I was allowed to use their cars on the rare occasion (mom had a Corvette and dad always had something fast and sporty too so that is probably the main reason why they would not let me drive their cars a lot). I was not allowed to have a car unless I bought it (same with my brother which thed did as they were allowed to work while in high school)and as they would not let me work I was in a catch-22. I did try to get jobs close by (3-5 miles) and would have rode my bike but never got any of the jobs I applied to. I would ride my bike to band camp in the summer since my mom would not take me about 5 miles or so. They did pay for my insurances, attached me to their policy so when I did drive their car I was covered. I had a weekly allowance that was a joke ($2 a week back in early 80s), so obviously I could pay for nothing except maybe a movie once or twice a month. I relied on my friends for rides basically everywhere since my mom did not want to drive me anywhere, it was like pulling teeth (she was sick of being a chauffer after my 2 older brothers), so I lost. But my 2 best friends both had cars, older models, which their parents got for them and I believe paid for everything, so I was able to get about. I did not have to pay for my insurance until after I graduated college, once I was working I took over that payment; and my dad did get me a car as a graduation gift for college (used Nissan wagon) so I could get about (this was after I had an accident in the car he has lent me for getting to work while I was in college....the brakes failed, think he felt guilty about that)
I wouldn't worry too much about that
most of the newer ones it doesn't really matter what time of day you do it.
Dont worry////
What you are going through is normal. I have been married for 15 years and had the same doubts you have. Where you are confused is in thinking that life is over when the partying or going out stops. You can still have fun, just in different ways. Find common interests, hobbies that you and your husband can do together. You will find that you get the same satisfaction out of working on projects together that you do with going out and partying. The key thing is being together, having fun no matter what you are doing. You can still party, it just changes in that you don't go bar hopping anymore and instead invite over some friends to grill and drink some cocktails. I think you are inside your head a bit too much right now and just need to jump outta there and sit back and relax. Enjoy being married. You have a long a happy life ahead of you.
I don't mean any more harm or worry but
being young has nothing to do with it. My bf just lost his uncle early this morning to brain cancer. He was 44.
Personally, I wouldn't worry about your--sm
credit score. as long as you don't have 10 or 15 on there with a whole lot of turndowns, it should be okay. I would rather have confidence in my mortgage company than to worry about my credit score. This *boy* as you put it, sounds like he surely does not know what he is doing and I would be very apprehensive about continuing with him. and yest, it is the underwriter that requests other documentation, if needed. please see someone else. I see red flags going up every where. good luck to you.
Don't worry. Hopefully, you have family support, so
xx
You probably wont have to worry about a divorce on your end
I have been married about 10 years now and exact opposite of what you have. I have love and respect and more but I am older and love the time I can spend with my husband. I think he is the best thing since potato chips. I love and seek out his hugs, his kisses and yes sex. He is not first husband but definitely would be the last, just could never find anyone to measure up to him. I would do anything in my power to make him happy and I think he feels the same about me. Even though you have a young family, feel like the lack of closeness could be very much associated with the fact you are so against the so called slave in the bedroom. I am very surprised that your husband might not be looking outside the marriage to get more satisfaction. Think about it, not just you can get a divorce.
Worry about your inlaws coming in..
sounds like you invite 1 and all.
And you thought you only had to worry about the linens....
Truly disgusting.
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I worry about hormones being regulated - did you (sm)
have any problem with that? How long was your recovery? Thanks
Not my purse I'd worry about -- my kids!
Thanks for this valuable warning.
irregular heartbeat - when to worry?
Okay, I have called two docs (a cardio and our reg physician) and cannot get a danged answer other than "let me take a message and maybe someday call you back about it". Can you tell I am a wee bit down on docs? Here is the problem. My hubby has been having this weird heart beat where he says it feels like his heart is fluttering around. Now, a few years ago he was having cp and had a holter and a treadmill stress test. Those were fine. This symptom he says he has been having for a while, had actually gone to the doc before but was told it was probably gas, esophageal spasms, muscle spasms in the chest wall, etc. Doc had listened, I had listened and never heard anything abnormal. Anyhow, he asked me a few days ago about going to the doc (this from the man who won't take a pain pill unless it is 9/10!) so I said "what's going on?". He told me he had had more fluttering, and so I said the standard "spasm, etc" but then last night I actually got to hear it.
Here is what it sounds like - normal heart beat (if a little "clunky" I guess would be the best word) and every 4-5 beats he would get this weird beat like the heart tripped. Then a little bit of a pause before the next beat, then 4-5 regular beats. Then the trip again, then the pause.
Questions: What do we do? I told him that in my humble opinion he should wait until it is doing it again and go to an urgent care center, er, whatever, and tell them it is doing it, please gimme an EKG. All the reg doc is going to do is that, and then order a bunch of tests, tell him it is stress because it takes more than five minutes to diagnose and send him home, regardless of what it is. At least at the urgent care center he can get someone to do a little bit more in depth look at it.
Like I said earlier, I left messages with his reg doc and with my cardiologist, but the latter said it would probably be Wednesday before they get back to me, and I am concerned about this abnormal beating. Anyone with any advice?
HC
I really wouldn't worry about her not coming
to the shower. She really could have something planned that she is not goign to be around during the time of the shower that has been in the works way in advance of your shower invitation.
I worry more being home alone working all day.
around here. It's even worse at my mom's house (in a nice neighborhood). You see people who obviously dont live there crusing slowly down the street checking places out. She lives alone in a huge house, and is kind of gullible about some things, so sometimes I do worry she'll open the door to the wrong person.
In fancy neighborhoods, the easiest way to get in and out unnoticed is to be a gardner, since everybody there has them. One time when I still lived at home, I was going for a walk around the neighborhood one afternoon, and a white pickup with a couple guys in it, but oddly, just a single lawnmower in the back, slowly drove down the street and went in one driveway after another. (Long driveways, where you often can't see the house it's so far back off the street). Then I forgot about them.
Well, about an hour or so later, I came down another street, and there were some cops there, and that same truck was being hoisted onto a big tow truck. I told the cops I'd been seeing that truck all morning, and asked if it had broken down or something, and they said no, it was a couple of burglars looking for empty houses.
No worry here - all I ever do anymore is work.
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That's exactly what I was thinking. Aromatherapy. Wouldn't worry a bit. nm
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I wouldn't worry - I think he just likes the scent. (sm)
At least you know that when you've taken the same bubble bath or used the same soap, that he like how you smell!
;)
Don't "let" him? There is nothing she can do except worry heself to death.
nm
don't worry - laser doesn't always work
I would not recommend laser to anyone. I spent thousands on it for my daughter who has hair growing in many places that it should not - she started shaving her arms - which has taken care of the situation - she uses a man's razor - which cuts much closer than the women's do. It is a hassel when she does it - but it stays smooth for a longer period of time than cream hair removers, bleaching, etc.
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