I just recently got out of a similar situation
Posted By: AnonMT on 2009-06-10
In Reply to: A question... - I'll try to make it short
Although it had many other fatal flaws in it, one of them was the fact that the majority of the shoulders he cried on were either women he had once had relationships with or women who wanted to have relationships with him. These were the women that when we had a fight, he would call the second I was out the door. I hate to say that single men and single women can't be friends, this was always just something that made me uncomfortable. Maybe it was intuition, maybe it was just my own insecurity. He denied there was anything to it...just friends he said...in the past he said...until he ended up inviting one of them to a BBQ he and some friends were having (he needed someone to pick up some beer because it started before I could get there). Her chin hit the floor when I showed up and he swooped me up and planted one on me. After she attempted several well-aimed barbs my direction for a few hours in the afternoon, she finally could hold back no longer and unleashed her venom on him....telling him that she had assumed she was his date for the BBQ and wondering what I was doing there.
To a degree, I do believe him that he had no romantic interest in these women- they were ego strokers for when we were fighting to reaffirm his manhood. However, he also drank to excess, so I always worried just how much stroking his ego (and other things) might accept with active enticement. Of course, the BBQ wench was just one of many, and between his femmes and the unholy alliance/reliance he has with his drunk-azz cousin, after a year and a half I could take no more, grabbed up my dogs, and headed home to Normalville.
So congrads to your DD. While she may hurt now, believe me when I say that it would have gotten no better and ended up totally messing with her own self-esteem.
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I had a similar situation not too long ago with my mother in law. Everyone thought because I worked at home I could take my mother in law to her doctor appointments and grocery shopping and anything else she needed to do. I informed everyone that I started a job with a new transcription company and I could no longer come and go as I please during the day. I told them I am logged on to the new company's computer starting at 8 AM until 4 PM every day, and I have to be there when work comes through or the company would know I was gone and I would lose my job. It really has worked. No one bugs me during the day anymore. They finally think I have a "real job". 
A similar situation (sm)
I also read your post from below and now I feel compelled to respond. My sister went through a very similar situation. She has always been overweight and her ex-husband married her that way. He gave her grief in the entire relationship about her weight, threatened divorce, the whole bit. He, too, was very picky about how the house was kept, how his meals were prepared, etc. Like you, she did what she could to make him happy, but it never seemed to be enough. It seemed the more he ragged her about losing weight, the heavier she got. He just couldn't understand that (he never had a weight issue). They separated at one point, she moved out, only to move back in several months later to try to make things work. Guess what...it didn't work. She finally made the decision to leave for good, now she is remarried and very happy. And she is still overweight but her current husband doesn't mind (he's heavy too!). I saw my sister spend many years unhappy and it is so good to see her happy now. She and her first husband didn't have children together, but her current husband has two sons that she absolutely loves.
I know the thought of divorce must be extremely scary, and I know there are children involved. But you need to be happy, and your children need you to be happy and healthy. It doesn't sound like things are going to change in your situation. I think you know you have been there long enough to figure that out. You need to do what is best for you and your kids, and if your husband can't accept and love you for who you are, then he doesn't deserve to be with you. Just my opinion!
Best of luck to you. Keep us posted on what you decide to do!
I am going through a similar situation...
My husband said the same things about me. He left 2 years ago, then cried and came back saying he made a huge mistake. He tried to be happy for the last 2 years and a month ago, left me and our 3 kids again. He was never happy. He said he did not feel anything for me except contempt basically that I have kept him from doing the things he wants to do, fish, hunt, etc. He says he will always feel a fondness for me and the time that we were happy and the fact that we have 3 wonderful kids, but he cannot be happy with me. If he does not like who you are, then let him go. Or you go, whatever you need to do. Especially since he hit you. That is one thing you should not let go. My husband never hit me, but he was getting to the point that he hated me. I still love him, but I think the best thing for us is to not be together anymore. He is being selfish (my hubby and yours). Go, and find someone someday that will love you the way you are, flaws and perfection. That is the hope that is keeping me going, that there is still someone out there who will treat us like the goddesses we are. Hang in there!! You can do it. It will not be easy or happy, but in the long run, you will probably be better off.
my situation is very similar...
i was about 40 lb overweight, didn't want to go on a 'diet' or give up my food types. I started walking 30-45 min x5 days a week which helps tremendously. I joined CalorieKing.com ($55.) a year, and did not change my food types (hardly). but i log my foods eaten/exercise on line and it calculates my calories consumed/spent. (also gives nutrient breakdown). Its been less tedious and i've lost 13 lb (3 months incl holidays!) and not trying real hard. The website has lots of helpful information and is very educational. It has helped me. I've lost inches and have fit into a smaller size jeans already. I forget for sure, but believe there is a 30-day money back guarantee (or ?less days). Might check into it. p.s. i saw results in 2 weeks as i recall.
Similar situation
Fights/arguments are coming more and more often. Split our checking account/bills up several months ago. When others ask me why I stay, I always say because of our son (7 years old). Funny thing is, husband travels a lot and my son told me just yesterday how much he enjoys it when it is just him and I. So, maybe I'm just too chicken!
My situation was very similar (SM)
except that I had such low self esteem I did stay and periodically it would happen again. I was scared to leave him because I had no family or support system to go to and had children with him. Looking back I wish I had left after the very first event but it took a long time for me to get the courage and the self respect. We are now divorced.
It's a tough decision particularly if you have children. How is he if you argue with him? Does he respect you? Lots of factors to take into consideration before you decide what to do, but I'd agree with trusting your gut.
Similar situation here
My aunt is 86, so vibrant, did all her housework, cooking, etc. Fell and broke her hip about 2 1/2 years ago and really threw her for a loop. After rehab she continued to do her own shopping although on a walker, cane occasionally. I talked to her about someone close by her to assist her and she would not listen to me. When she told me she had fell 3 times (once getting groceries in) I made appt with her doctor's office. They told me unable to talk with me- I said they did not have to - just listen and makes notes of what I had to say. I traveled out of town, met with the office manager, told them all I wanted them to know, told them this was her favorite doctor and named why she came there and lo and behold, the next visit that month with the physician he told her it was time for her to get help, maybe assisted living or with a relative, she should not be living alone anymore. She almost worships this doctor. That was last month. This month she is moving to be with her son and his wife who will provide the care she needs. There are ways to take care of things like this. I know.
I had a similar situation
5 years ago on Christmas eve I got online to find that $5K was missing from my checking acount. (oh yeah, nice christmas gift) I then got on to check my credit cards and noticed an amount for under $30 had been charged at some restaurant in a different state, and someone made an online purchase to Sears for a purchase of about 1400. Luckily bank refunded my money in 24 hours (I had proof I was never in the state - luckily the bank where the withdrawal was made had cameras, and the teller who let the woman withdraw $5000 without putting a cash hold for 48 or 72 hours or whatever she was supposed to do was fired. Credit card was cancelled and new one issues and of course investigation started.
It's getting more and more frustrating how many criminals are out there. Don't get discouraged though, it's not your fault. As they say sh!t happens. I've got some more criminal stories to tell, but got to run for now. Will post more later about some scams going on.
I am in a very similar situation (sm)
if you want to talk please email me - pmic9999@yahoo.com
My daughter going through a similar situation
and her attorney told her not to allow the child to take anything from home to his place and not to allow the child in the door with anything from his place. This all began quite innnocently when my daughter - Mom- kept sending favorite doll with her daughter and 9 times out of 10 the father would forget to bring back with her causing huge bedtime problems, etc., and lots of stress on the family as he did not drive - and the burden fell to his mother to bring the favorite doll back over and you can imagine the stress. So - the attorney decided nothing leaves the house with her and nothing comes back in - it put a stop to the slurpees and garbage Dad was sending home with her right away!! Best of luck.
I had a similar situation but not exact...sm
when we bought our house 2 years ago. I had to have my office sign something of that nature, but not saying I would still be working there after so much time like yours. I faxed the form letter to them and they faxed it back for my broker's records to give to underwriter. I also had to provide my 1099s from the previous 2 years. On the day of the closing, we had to sit there and wait for them to call my office one more time just to make sure I still worked there, which they didn't do with my husband. It seemed to be a pretty strict procedure but can understand why they would. We also refinanced about 8 months after moving to get a better rate, but didn't have any problems because we used the same broker. Good luck!
Well, have a granddaughter, similar situation
never hear from her, in same town, no calls, no visits. She graduated high school this year- I got invite - did not go, my gift nada. Why should I put myself out if others don’t seem to care about me??
similar situation a while back....sm
I blew a fit years ago and just told my husband that I'd rather be consulted about any plans than to be informed after the fact considering we're in this relationship until death do us part....(a cleaver unto thy husband came to mind, but that was cancelled by the thou shalt not kill clause). Yeah, I was hot, but he got the message and we've lived happily ever after.  Cat
My neice had a similar situation....
My vet and hers said feed her what she will eat and that there was nothing wrong with boiled chicken, veggies, etc., and add a vitamin to her diet. Many animals are fed "people" food as their daily diet and are perfectly healthy. In this case, you are trying to sustain her health until her mom gets home. My vet believes most dry foods on the shelves aren't healthy. I try to buy Royal Canin or Pet Promise foods but they do cost more.
Similar situation....(long and babbling, lol)
My sister's neighbor got into a heated argument with his wife, which caused her to leave the house with their small children. She called 911 from her cell phone and asked if they could dispatch an officer to do a well-check on her husband. I should point out my sister lives in a rural area with everyone on 5-acre parcels of land, so she neither heard the argument nor saw the responding PO show up to talk to Jerry.
She did, however, hear a huge shotgun blast in the early evening but, being in a rural area with rattlesnakes, etc., didn't think much about it.
The wife came home the next day and fortunately was ahead of her children when she entered her house and the first thing she saw was what was left of her husband. He had apparently used a deer rifle to take himself out shortly after the PO had left the night before.
When the area was released by the authorities after their investigation, she had some family members go in and pack up her things. I don't believe she ever went back into the house herself. She immediately listed it for sale.
A few months later, a new owner was in the home, having relocated to the area after a 'personal tragedy' in another town. During the course of doing yard work one day, one of the neighbors stopped by to chat. In the course of conversation, this neighbor brought up Jerry and how he had suicided in the house.
The new owner was horrified. As it turns out, the 'personal tragedy' they had moved away from was that their own son, who was about the same age as Jerry, had also committed suicide via gunshot in their home. They had no idea about the history of their new home or that just a few months before the previous owner had taken his own life in their new abode.
There was talk of suing the real estate company/agent for lack of disclosure (this happened in CA), but I don't know whatever became of it. The new owners immediately relisted the home when they found out its history and apparently left the area.
Since there was talk of a lawsuit and settlements, I'm assuming CA must have that disclosure law as well.
While I'm not sure knowing a suicide had occurred in a home I was interested in purchasing would dissuade me, I'd still like all of the information above board and out in the open so I could make an informed decision. I think we should all be entitled to that.
Not chastising you, or someone in a similar situation. It's the people who abuse the system by ly
about their under the table income, assets, shiny new car/S, high def tvs, etc., etc. et cetera.....
Similar situation, my hubby drives 1 hr 45 mins to work from house and sm
he suggested 2 nights a week staying at a hotel that his company would pay for if the company apartment was full. I say company apartment "lightly" as it is a room above the office and just has bed, AC window unit. At first I was hesitant but then I drove it one way in the morning and again in 5 o'clock traffic and said you must be nuts! He gets up at 4:30 am to be at work by 6:30.
I was just recently .....
At the GYN, and had a PAP/HPV test and I was told it is actually the male who spreads HPV, and yes, males will be tested in the future as well. I was also told that the thing of the future will be the HPV test replacing the Pap smear. Interesting.
I had a friend who was recently
selling his house and buying another one who stored some things in a storage facility. He opted not to get the insurance on it. It got broken into and his things stolen. He thought it was an inside job since it happened not too long after he rented the place and no other units were broken into.
You sign a contract though usually when you get a rental unit. I bet you somewhere on that contract it stated they are not liable. That is why they have the insurance you can purchase. Kind of a different scenario. Plus, if they had stored them properly and then they were stolen, no, it wouldn’t be their fault at all. There are situations where some things are out of people’s hands. They acted negligently though.
Whether the husband should have made a better decision is really beyond the point. They both knew that storing them near the street could mean them getting stolen and they did it anyways, but they didn't put their quads there.
That is my point, yeah the husband should have made a better decision, without a doubt, but they completely had no regard for her property, but did for their own property. I think that is pretty crappy.
Had 1 just recently - that was fine
within the past 4 months, so next step??
I recently had a talk with my ex
I am the grandma, but I'm raising my granddaughter. Both parents have supervised visitation, but don't visit. My ex-husband, my GD's only grandfather, comes to get her every couple of months for a visit either alone with her or with his family. When this happens, she gets loaded down with presents. Even though there are other children in the family (although she is the youngest), none of the others are not treated equally. They all feel "so bad" for what has happened to my GD (granted it HAS been bad), but a special extended family dinner, huge bag of toys and candies for Valentine's Day was just too much for me. I asked him to please consider and talk to his family about these excesses. I reminded him that if he/they continued to treat her as "damaged," she will consider herself as being "damaged" and will always have a victim attitude and have the expectation that she should be treated differently. Once he thought about it from point of view, he understood better and things have cooled down. They still visit, but the gifts are fewer and not as over-the-top as before.
I think the same thing happens to children of divorces. The noncustodial family tries to over compensate for not being there as much as the custodial parent. I don't think your daughter needs to speak to the new "wife", but should try to have a reasonable and nonthreatening talk with her ex about always trying to think what is best for the child...not the adults. Every time I need to make a decision, I always ask myself "is this in her best interest." I've had to make some hard decisions, and this philosophy has made everything easier. Good luck.
I just recently saw her on a bunch of
with her new body, etc. So maybe instead of rehab, she went to a spa and got into shape, cause she does look great (at least on the magazine covers), but certainly desperately needs rehab and lots of therapy. She is a beautiful girl, can't say very talented, but it is a shame to see her so out of control and living so dangerously...
My dad passed away recently too
You say you think it is disrespectful to cremate and memorialize later.
Some things you should take into consideration. Did your cousin pass away far from home? My dad did. In fact, he was 1610 miles from home, on the road, with only my mother there with him. Options were limited.
Secondly, where is the family? All of us kids are on the west coast, my dad's family is in the mid west. As a matter of fact, my mom and dad had just sold their home here on the west coast and moved back to my dad's home town less than one month ago.
Third, who are you to decide what is the best for everyone? Our IMMEDIATE family has lost a father, husband, and grandfather. It is our choice and we are the ones who were informed of his wishes prior to his death, not our cousins, aunts, uncles, etc... How would you know?
I recently adopted a cat
from a rescue facility. She is a total sweetheart and so petite! I named her Tinkerbell. She shed like crazy at first but I think it was nerves because now a couple weeks later she has stopped shedding and seems to have settled in nicely, plays with my other cat (male) and loves my dog!
The only thing I've noticed is she is a bit gassy - not a lot but at times worse than others. My question is, is there something I can give her otc to help with her "problem"? 
Anyone have a mammogram recently?
I have to get one soon, but I am so afraid to do it. I'm 43 and it will be my first one. I know I should just do it, but I keep putting it off. Just the thought of those 2 glass (?) plates smashing down on the booberoos keeps me from going through wtih it.
Can anyone who has had one recently help me out....How bad does it hurt? How far down do they smash them? Within one inch? Two inches? or just enough to get a good view?
Had one recently, they're much better than they used to be!
I also have small boobage, and the more uncomfortable part is where the edges of the machine hit me during the strange contortions in order to get the boobage on the plate! The actual mammomash is more pressure than any pain, they only go far enough to get a good view and it's over pretty quickly.
One time I went they offered some sort of padding, which meant the plate wasn't quite as cold, but other than that no difference. The tech said that some women with sensitive breasts think they are awesome.
Just go! A couple minutes and it's done...and you really need this!
I recently learned that among those who are into -
New Age beliefs (which I'm not particularly), a personality type called "Indigo" exists. The 25 traits that make up an Indigo fit me and my authority-questioning ways to a T. It was quite a shock how exact the match was. Even more interesting was other people's descriptions of their lives, etc. as an Indigo. You might check that term out, cuz you just might be one, too!
According to the teachings of that group, Indigos often lead difficult lives because they spend much of them swimming against the current, but that they are ultimately the ones who will save the world.
Food for thought, when it comes to the differences between leaders, and followers!
I used to agree with you until recently. sm
We have had a few pits over the years and they were fine. DH brought one home from work recently that he bought for $200, 6-month old fully registered. We had 2 pigmy goats in their pen. Within 3 hours of him bringing this pit home, it attacked and killed one of our goats. My kiddos were trying to get it off the goat before I knew it, could have killed them but they don't understand the seriousness, they were only trying to save their pet. When I realized what was going on, DH and I both tried to get that dog away and neither one of us could until the goat was dead. DH took him and shot him. Fast forward about 2 months and now there is a wild pit I guess someone dropped off around here. I have seen it maybe twice. Killed my kiddos' kitten. Heard lots of commotion one night and went out to see the kitten in its mouth. Not the same pit but you could tell this dog was pit. DH wasn't here but we are trying to locate that dog and it will be disappear as well if I see it on my property again. They don't kill to eat, they kill just to kill. A few years ago, my BIL brought his pit to our family reunion. Had him on a chain and my DS at the time was maybe 6. He as petting him but had a bag of cheetos in his hands. The pit attacked him and almost ripped is ear off before we got him away and probably the only reason we got him away from the pit was because the pit was on a chain and saw it happen instantly. My kids will NEVER be allowed around any pit whatsoever. I say Amen to the representatives trying to pass this bill. I agree with them 100%. You never know when they will attack and I personally now believe it has nothing to do with how they were raised. It is in their genetics.
I just recently went out and got my own account sm
to avoid the arguments over money. He is not very happy about it, but I told him that after 18 years of being together I cannot have this argument any longer. My husband was a real mama's boy and he got whatever he wanted when he was a child (an ONLY child BTW). I came from a large family where I wore my brother's hand me downs and share clothes with my sisters. I have decided it is never going to change, but I needed to get that stress out of my life. I told him as long as you pay these bills, your leftover money is yours to do whatever it is you want to do. I am exhausted with this situation. I love my husband, the children adore him, so I am hoping this will help the stress in our marriage so we can stay together. I am sorry to stay this will only get worse. We don't even have a house, we rent an apartment for God's sake. He has no desire to even buy a house . . . I am going to try to qualify on my own. Wish my luck . . .
Been going up and up for 2 years around here not just recently!
xx
I recently realized
that I cannot compare my family to my husbands. It's hard when you grow up with such different values focusing on basic things like the importance of family and relationships.
MIL was recently in the hospital with heart concerns and they just dropped her off and went home. This is the 3rd time her husband has done this. Atleast this time he called the children. It is beyond me why one of her 3 boys (or their spouses) did not make the 15 minute drive to go sit with her. I would have but I was working and figure if out of all those people no one else could make the effort, why should I turn my life upside-down to do it. I can't imagine anyone in my family doing that, even if it was something routine or scheduled. My sister is the one who told me to let it go.
We went recently and stayed almost
100% of the time on the resort. The employees there did take people out on tours and we went with the employees and also took a boat ride over to the island (can't remember the name), but it was also a tour. Don't know I would run around by myself anywhere.
A recently used solution against this group
was applied by Hells Angels. No joke.
The Hells Angels motorcycle group was nearby where a protest was being held and they showed up! Ran off every single one of the Westboro derelicts.
First time I've ever been in favor of Hells Angels.
I have recently begun working out
I have recently begun working out. I am 32 years old and have never seriously worked out in my adult life. I was frightened of the gym but made the commitment.
I work with the trainer 2x per week for resistance and I do cardio 5-6 times a week. I also have made big changes in my diet in the last 3 weeks.
So, today, I got my measurements taken. I did not lose a pound (still at 167). My body fat has decreased 1.7% and I have lost 4.5 inches in my measurements.
I guess I just want to know if this is normal...I would have expected to see some change in the scale and I'm trying not to lose my motivation. Any input or ideas would be appreciated!!
We recently moved 200 miles away and
joined a church after being away from the church for several years. There are so many activities for couples and singles, or both, and not just church/religion related. We have dinners, baseball games, hayrides, dances, etc. and have made several friends in the few months we have been here. We get out more now than ever before. I don't know how old you are, and though I hate to admit it, we joined the seniors center also (you only have to be 50). They do all sorts of things - day trips, 1 and 2 week trips, dinners, plays, game nights, music... I just never thought I would be joining an old folks place, but it's fun and a lot of them are in the 50-60 range. Lots of singles and couples.
Question about my cat who recently had kittens.
She had kittens 7 weeks ago, and we gave them away at 6 weeks. They were eating kitten food, but still nursing just a little bit. Her nipples are really hard, almost feel like tumors, but not hot, red, or oozing. Is this normal? If so, how long should it last?
No. Recently. Besides she is African-American
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I wonder that as well. Recently gave my son's ex-girlfriend
a very expensive baby gift for her new little one (b/4 she was even born). I mean it cost several hundred dollars. Never heard a word, not even a phone call. Then she sent me an invite to her wedding soon after...i respectfully declined. Guess she had a stamp for that, but not for a thank you note.
I recently got mine undershirts - 7 and 9 - sm
but no way, I am not getting them a bra until something starts popping. Neither has a problem with it, and no girls in their classes are wearing bras. I'd be curious though and take a look at the girls in her class though.
Here is our Becky (recently adopted)
Becky loves to cuddle and loves to get her belly rubbed. She would rather be in your lap, but is content to lay at your feet if that's where you prefer her. Becky enjoys her toys and will even carry them around the house and toss them for herself. She knows commands like "sit" and "come", and she comes when called 100% of the time. If you lay on the floor with her while you watch TV and scratch her ears or stroke her fur, she will go right to sleep. Just be sure to have the remote handy so you can turn up the volume once the snoring starts. :)
My son is 15 and just recently became sexually active... SM
Some of you may remember my posting a few weeks back about him. Anyway, I just found out that he has been having sex with his girlfriend. And get this! She is the same age as him, but was by far not a virgin when they started going together. I have always, always, ALWAYS try to remain calm and encourage my son to talk to me no matter how uncomfortable I may feel. And let me tell you, I feel the same as you -- sick to my stomach. When I found out he was having sex, I felt like someone punched me in the gut! I raised him in church, taught him to wait for marriage for sex, that sex is best shared with someone you are in love with, sex should not be had casually. Didn't matter. Before I found out that he was sexually active, I had the "sex talk" with him again just to reiterate a few of the finer points and I talked about waiting for marriage or at the very least, love. He actually laughed at me and said "mom, I don't know anyone - boy or girl - that is waiting until they get married."
How I found out that my son was having sex was I was going through his room because I had reason to believe he was smoking pot. I found two joints and a box of condoms in one of his dresser drawers. Here's how I handled it. I confronted him with the pot and grounded his behind for a month. He also had to take a drug test which was negative (still baffles me, I guess I caught him before he tried it). With the condoms, I simply said "I'm going to give these back to you because I appreciate the fact that if you are having sex, you are at least being smart about it. Please don't do anything stupid."
I left it at that until I had another opening and then I told him how girls get pregnant sometimes on purpose, sometimes out of ignorance of birth controls. I've talked about STDs and HIV and how not only can unprotected sex will make him a father, a responsibility he is not near ready for, but it can also be an eventual death sentence. Every time we talk and I feel like I have an opening, I talk about safe sex and our moral and religious beliefs on sex.
I figure that is all I can do. I can't follow him around every day, on every date. And the truth is, I didn't wait until I was married. My mom said I would go to heck for having premarital sex and hellfire and eternal damnation didn't stop me from having sex.
The only advice I can give you is meet it head on. Don't act hysterical. Just approach straight-forward. She's having sex. It doesn't matter how you feel about it now. She's having it. Now your best course of action is to make sure she's smart and she protects herself. We live in a world where we have to balance our morality with practicality. It sucks, but that's the way it is.
Anyway, your not alone sister! Little comfort, I know.
Cool! My husband recently almost
had me convinced to take our two boys, ages 11 and 13, to see the Black Crowes, whom all four of us LOVE!! He had me up until he used the Mastercard priceless bit and I remembered about all our credit card debt      . . . LOL, I guess.
I have ADD and recently went back on to meds
My oldest child does as well.
I had a hard time medicating him until I found the right doc that listened to my son and how he felt and even asked for feedback from teachers and family.
We found a happy medium for him so that he could be himself and not feel drugged and be able to control his impulses as well as stay on task. Now at 21 his strong intelligent young man who no longer needs medication and makes his mommy so very proud of him.
Now on the other hand Mom now is back on medication because it seems with the big M looming on the horizon I need help to be able to stay on task and get my work done.
Don't rule anything out because its not what you want what is important is your child and how he feels. They have some new medicines out there now and Strattera is a good one that worked for my son however it didn't for me I take Adderall.
If I can be of help in any way feel free to contact me.
My son recently started Respirdal.
He's gained a pound a week since starting it, so we are really going to have to watch that. He's also started having auditory hallucinations, but we aren't sure if that is related to the medication or not. As far as evening him out, I think it is helping with the mood swings.
recently got an IPOD video - how do
I organize my music on it? I recently added Christmas music, and instead of taking it off, I wanted to put it in its own folder for next year. Does anyone know how to do that?
I was feeling sad recently, when I took my 2 babies
to have them bathed (cats). One I had bathed before and he is the most outgoing. His brother (they are 2) is a very shy guy and runs and hides from most except me. The person at the shop picked him from the way his mother would carry him and he went without a whimper. They were there getting bathed from 8 until after 5. I am thinking of bathing them myself next time- I mostly took them because they have dry skin but still came home with dander. I can do it myself- those boys love the water and try to jump in the bathtub so I will run some in there for them. I always heard cats did not like water?
Recently we did a non-stick linoleum and I
cannot believe how much it looks like tile. The installer put in down in 1 sheet and it looks great. Very easy to clean, although you can't see the dirt, and everyone thinks it's tile. I never would have picked this out in a million years but a few people told me to give it a try. I brought a piece home, placed it on my kitchen floor for a couple days and really liked it. We were going to put hardwood in our kitchen (as the rest of our house is hardwood), but I'm really happy with the non-stick linoleum. Good luck.
I recently received info
on ViaCord from registering at Babys R Us. I have heard of them before but not participated in such a thing myself. I'm sure they have information online or you could drop by any store and pick up a brochure. I have received it from other places too and this is the only one that I receive.
This is some advice I recently read
which would benefit me as well. In a nutshell:
Worry only about the things you CAN change, not the things you CAN'T. You'll never change your sisters so let it all go. Change the way YOU handle your life and move forward.
They did not tell her when it happened, they told her recently nm
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sounds like me! I recently stopped to gas up my car sm
and put the gas thingie in my gas tank and squeezed the handle, but no gas would come out...hmmm...I decided the reason for this was that this gas pump was broken and so got in my car and drove around to the other side. Again, put in the nozzle and squeezed the handle and....no gas! What the heck? I honestly stood there for 2 minutes trying to figure out the situation before I realized I had to push the button on the gas pump to select the grade of fuel...DUHHHH! I've only been driving for 30 years... Tee-hee!
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