I never met

Posted By: Siren on 2007-12-18
In Reply to: Please wait - DW

"the other woman." I wish I would have. It drives me crazy sometimes wondering if I just passed her in the store, etc. My husband described her. Yes, he sure did. He told me how beautiful she was with her green eyes and long black hair, tiny little body - - blah, blah, blah. Then he would compare me to her. I am overweight and apparently not as attractive in his eyes. Whenever I pass someone who fits this description I wonder if it is her. The affair was 5 years ago and I still have problems getting past it. There are times I become so angry I could just spit! I have come to the point that I am financially comfortable right now, trying to lose weight, and I will see what the future holds for my marriage. I have invested 35 years of my life in this adventure and I am not bailing out just yet. I definitely have trust issues and probably always will. I am working on me for a change.

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What would y'all do??.....sm - Help me please...
- update....sm - Help me please...
  - counselor - txcatgirl
  - Yikes. - MslaMT
  - Please wait - DW
    - I never met - Siren
      - Here, Here - marilyn
- Don't jump... - sm
- Get help. You can't get through this on - your own.
- Definitely try counselling; then at least you know - sm -
- like a cow, he does what the guy in front of him does; sees it in the media, thinks it's real - he needs to be snapped into reality; NM
- My thoughts - see inside - anon
- how did you find out? did he volunteer this info? - n/m
  - I see your answer in post below me; so he did not tell you, and he would not have; he got caught - that should tell you something -n/m
- thank you all for the advice and caring.....sm - Help me please...
  - I know where you are at and I have been there, too sm - BTDT
  - Wishing you strength..sm - Kathleen
- My advice is... - OldiebutgoodieMT
  - Call Me Princess - just an MT
- Definitely go to counseling! - anon
- talk a lot, - sm
- Just want to tell you I'm sorry - annabanana
  - What is there to think about? Marriage... - he's a jerk
    - Marriage is a vow. - annabanana
      - marriage is also an institution.....no msg - never did like to be institutionalized..LOL
      - Marriage may be a vow, but if OPs spouse was unfaithful then she has - every right to divorce him. nm
        Of course she does. She has a right - annabanana
- I definitely wouldn't stick around! Once a cheater, always a cheater. - ERMT
  - Can, but might not. I know from personal experience. nm - Wannie
    - how do you know? - - n/m
      - Because my husband did it once many years ago and has - Wannie
    - Yeah...might not if you use blunt scissors to "take care of business" LOL - AnonMT123
      - I should add this.. - AnonMT123
- If he won't agree to counseling, then I say get rid of him, - too. No sex YET?!!! Hmmm...nm
- Leave the lying, cheatin dirtbag. - Who needs em!
  - My personal thoughts - Siren

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