I personally wouldn't, but that doesn't make it wrong for you
Posted By: NightOwl on 2009-05-11
In Reply to: Would you charge 18yo rent? - Silly Girl
I've heard of people charging their adult children not in college rent for living at home, but then putting that rent money into a savings account for the child when the child goes to buy a house.
Also, while I said I personally wouldn't, if times were tough for the husband and me, I might change my mind. It's fair to ask somebody to help with expenses when necessary, and they shouldn't end up needing therapy over it if it was an economic necessity at the time.
As for the cell phone and the car expenses, ABSOLUTELY I would expect the child to pay his own way on those expenses. That's a bit different in my mind from charging for a roof over their head, as those tend to be more discretionary expenses - the child can pay cash for a car or he can get a $30,000 loan or anything in between. He can get an iPhone with a 2-year contract and a $100/month bill, or he can get a prepaid phone for less than $30/month. Expecting the child to pay those expenses ensures that he learns the value of money and the power of his choices on his standard of living.
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Personally, I wouldn't
put anything about being 'hot' on my plate or about my specific age. The only one of those I like is 'fun 4 her'.
personally i wouldn't have thought twice about it... but
My daughter recently went into a department store and as she was checking out the male cashier asked her if she was stealing volleyballs. That was a defnite sexual harrassment and management was called as soon as I found out. That was way out of line and they have lost our business. But as far as asking if you found the correct merchandise I personally don't see where that was a sexual comment.
Personally, I wouldn't worry about your--sm
credit score. as long as you don't have 10 or 15 on there with a whole lot of turndowns, it should be okay. I would rather have confidence in my mortgage company than to worry about my credit score. This *boy* as you put it, sounds like he surely does not know what he is doing and I would be very apprehensive about continuing with him. and yest, it is the underwriter that requests other documentation, if needed. please see someone else. I see red flags going up every where. good luck to you.
I'm sure her opinion would be much different. I personally wouldn't
have her job for all the money in the world because that is not my cup of tea. still, she is paid well, has a wonderful retirement plan, good insurance (that she pays dearly for), most holidays off, about a week for Thanksgiving, 2 weeks at Christmas, a week in the spring and several weeks in the summer. She, on the other hand, probably wouldn't want my job either with all the aggravation that goes with it even though I, too, am well paid. 
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
Personally I see nothing wrong with it, I did - sm
My DH's proposal was less than romantic, he had been waiting an hour for me and my family to show up at a restaurant (he was early) and by the time we got there he was pretty toasted. He said we should get engaged before we moved in together, which we were doing in about 2 months and my parents knew about. So the next day I figured he would not remember a thing. He surprised me by saying, well are we going ring shopping or not? We did, though we did not get anything that day, did the next though. We chose it together which I think is the best way to go about it. I had his input on (1) how much he wanted to spend, and (2) what he thought would be nice-- a marquis (he knew I did not want a solitare--but he leaned towards filagree and I do not like that, which I made clear). So together we looked until we found one we both loved and were happy with. The next day he sent me a dozen roses though with the note saying "Will you marry me". To this day he jokes that he never actually said those words to me. Then he told me what he wanted to buy me for my wedding band, a band of diamonds to match the accent diamonds in my engagement ring; and I have wholesale jewelry contacts and was able to order it at a 1/3 of the retail and also his wedding band which he picked out for himself. --Your BF needs to get over it, sounds like his ego is hurt though. Good luck.
I wouldn't make them go...
while it is wonderful your MIL likes to take them maybe you can nicely explain to her that they are getting older and their interests have changed...my parents like to show my kids off too and I stopped that real quick...maybe have your husband talk to her since it is his mother...kinda've hard to talk to MILs sometimes...
No I wouldn't make them.
My kids don't like my mother, I don't much like her either. One of my son's LOVES to go over there and hang out with his papa, the other doesn't. We may go visit as a family but I don't force my older son to stay there if he doesn't want to.
As for calling a grandmother the B word, sometimes they are. Just because you are old doesn't mean you deserve respect.
I wouldn't want to make policy on this issue
With my own cats, though, I have always harness trained them. You put a harness on them instead of a collar and hook the harness to a long leash that's clipped to the clothesline. They can run up and down the length of the clothesline and it seems to satisfy their need to be outside. They can chase butterflies, watch squirrels, and sniff all the good smells that are out there. I didn't want them running loose because there are too many things that are dangerous and could hurt them. I also didn't want them getting into neighbor's trash.
I'm not in favor of cats running loose b/c it's too likely they'll get run over or otherwise hurt, but I'm not sure it's as bad as the article states. Atleast not with domestic cats. Sounds to me more like a feral cat problem. They need to know for sure before making laws that might not even fix the problem.
Even though it used to happen, doesn't make it right.
Honestly the humilitation of being paddled by a man in front of my mother would have sent me into hysterics. I was paddled a couple times in school, and yes it hurt a LOT, by a principal and a teacher but it was always in private, but even with the witness it was always really embarrassing. I hated it, sticking my be-hind out for all the world to see so someone could try to get me to cry.
I don't think humiliation is a good punishment, don't like shame. Pain isn't either.
TV doesn't make it true
I used to work for the Division of Research at Kaiser doing stress testing (I have an MS in Exercise Physiology). The weight limit for the treadmill is 350 pounds, & if a study participant weighed more than that, they could not do that part of the study. Period. They're not going to break a machine letting someone who outweighs its limits get on it!
If it were absolutely essential for her to get a treadmill test (which it wasn't in terms of the study), you can bet I would have suggested a vet lab, except now there are non-exercise tests that do the same thing. In the case of the MRI machine, it's not that it would break but apparently it would do her no good; the image would be useless if it were opened wide enough to accommodate her.
So in other words, their telling her what she needs to do in order to get an accurate image for the purpose of diagnosing a potentially lethal condition is something that makes her angry??? What the heck is next? Someone pushes me out of the way of a speeding locomotive & I sue him or her because I get some bruises? Good grief.
Doesn't make much sense since this is the gab board???? NM
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Doesn't Xanax make you sleepy? nm
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Doesn't it make you sick to hear SM
that their marriages are never forced and that these girls have a choice? They are too young to make that choice, but they are also raised and conditioned to think it is okay. It is all they know. It makes me literally sick. It is particularly insulting and disgusting when people do such things in the name of religion.
Just because you didn't have it doesn't make me a liar
As to the number of people affected by this, the links below prove there are very many, and their symptoms are NOT simply a little depression. Its sooo nice for YOU that your statistic ended up on the "no problems" side; so why would YOU bother to educate yourself?
But your good fortune does not make ME a liar or a kook. And the pills I take are PAIN pills, so take a chill pill yourself, and stop denying that this is real for others simply because it is not real for YOU.
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Sure doesn't make me want to go shopping! : ) - No message
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Refusing to open a bill doesn't make it not yours. nm
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I just read my post, if it doesn't make sense
feel free to e-mail if this is something you are interested in.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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You ead my response wrong, terribly wrong
I am trying to ask what does she think it will help, not being nasty- tell me and I will try this. I would stand on my head and gargle peanut butter if I thought it would help - I wanted to know why a letter? They are thumbing their noses at the courts - commanded to appear- I was there and they werent.
At that rate, I could make in a week what I make
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I personally only used it twice, I think.
I HATED sitting in that line. I would rather just save the money myself and go buy it.
I don't know why they are closing it though???
personally,
i believe you might ought to go to the ER. They can help the immediate situation and/or refer you to the proper followup. You poor thing. I certainly sympathize. Some husbands just don't know how to be there when you need them most. There's surely also hotline numbers that could help, but i don't know them -- maybe in your phone book? You could also try a church counselor. But i really think the ER is your best bet, for comprehensive care. God bless you.
I did not mean that you personally were --sm
hiding your head in the sand, but that some people do and really are not aware of what is going on around them. The world is just not the place that it was intended to be or what it used to be 50 years ago, but this is all predestined, if you believe in what the Bible says. Nothing is going to change evil. It is here to stay and strengthen until the end. But I do believe that we have to be vigilent in order to protect ourselves from it.
as far as the media goes, well, I think they tend to over exaggerate other peoples misfortunes just to get ratings, and that is not going to change either, but as far as them giving this guy his 15 minutes of fame..he was already dead, so what does he care? too little too late. It did not make him feel any better now and hopefully he is already toasting his little toes, right where he should be. Just my opinion though and I do appreciate the fact that some people are tired of this stuff and care not to watch it on TV. You shouldn't have to.
Well I personally would not want that either
Was this your daughter's first wedding? And all you did was buy a dress and show up? Wow. My mom was there for all the planning, advice, etc., and she paid for it.
personally, I don't see how anyone has --sm
time to watch this stuff. I have to WORK for a living. I rarely even turn TV on much before eight at night, but for those of you with the time, glad you find them entertaining. Wish I could be in your shoes.
Not personally but my
My sister was visiting in Boston a couple years back and, on a lark, she and a friend went to see a psychic.
The woman was 100% on the spot. She recorded the session for my sister so she could bring it home and it was really interesting. Pegged our mother for being domineering and manipulative. Got the kids right, both my sisters kids and MY kids.. I was nowhere near there.
Told her a bunch of stuff about me too. Said I was the "fixer" and would be a loyal sister and friend for life.
Then she also mentioned our brother and said that he is much like our mother, though he refuses to believe it, and he puts on "airs" to try to make others around him feel like he is everything and they are nothing.
I would LOVE to go see this woman myself! hehe
I personally think
you can place the crystal and china any way you please - it's your home, your style. Decorate the way you like.
I personally think it went very well. sm
This is only the third time I have taught this class. I just fill in when needed. What made it so good was that there was so much discussion. Every person (10 of us)of course had pretty much the same idea about what heaven would be like as in no tears, no pain, etc., but they also had differing opinions about what we might see or discover. Most of us tend to think heaven will be a different experience for everyone. We won't all see the same things. Everyones heaven will be different. It was also very interesting sharing with everyone some of the posts from this site. No atheists in the class but they found some of the ideas of the ones here interesting so that lead to even more discussion. Several people told me after class what a good job I did. Honestly I didn't do much at all. It was just like on this board, I asked a question and it just snowballed from there. Actucally I was worried that I wouldn't have enough to fill up the entire class time but we almost ran out of time. Again thanks to everyone that responded.
I can't say that I personally see it...
in my day-to-day life (thank goodness!) but I do hear about it often from my husband. For example, 2 people he works with are currently having an extramarital affair...this will be the man's 2nd affair at this company. He got the other woman pregnant; they got caught; got fired; he got rehired! My parents and inlaws have been married forever also, as well as my sisters (but my brother is a different story...). I just know that cheating is all too common and it is a very, very painful experience for everyone involved. My DS just broke up with his GF of over 2 years because she cheated...broke my heart for him, but he's rebounding great...thankfully!
Not me personally
However, my best friend married a man 3 years younger than her oldest child. They are extremely happy and married 20+ years later. Some men in their 50s are like teens and some young 20-something men are extremely mature beyond their years.
I believe it is easier to date someone your own age (or approximately) and a better fit overall, but this would have to be an individual decision.
Lilly
I personally believe that there was some
sort of tragic accident and she panicked and tried to cover it up.
not personally, but
I have a male friend who lost 30 pounds using it. He liked the process, said it was easy, he didn't have to think about anything, maybe a little pricey but he lost the weight & has managed to keep it off.
I personally don't think that....... sm
it is not completely forgivable. If it were, then Jesus' death on the cross would not have been adequate to cover all sin (save blasphemy of the Holy Spirit) and we would all be in a pickle. I'd be interested to know what the OP bases her statement on...chapter and verse, please.
Personally, I think
these things are more interesting reading the a lot of what ends up on this board.
I'm too tired to come up with a list right now, but when I do, I will post. : )
Personally, I don't even consider
smoking pot (or eating, vaporizing, whatever) an attempt to escape anything. I don't do it anymore, and I feel physically horrible most days because of it. When I smoke pot, not only do I physically feel much, much better, I am not demotivated in the least. Because I am feeling good, I am able to get much more done than I otherwise would be able to do.
The only reasons I avoid it are A) I have underage children and I do not want them confiscated; and B)I learned that my state now has a zero tolerance drugged driving law (which simply means that one does not need to be impaired to be found guilty, but is based on any detectable level of the drug or its metabolites in the blood or urine). Notable to me is that some other states that also have the zero tolerance drugged driving law do exclude marijuana from it. I believe North Carolina is one of them. I also find it outrageous that there are people who are attempting to subject citizens to roadside drug testing, in the form of a roadblock similar to seatbelt/insurance roadblocks. No probable cause required, just testing everybody. Many of these people are those who make money off of drug testing and have, in the past, successfully lobbied for workplace testing. A very scary violation of citizens' rights, if you ask me.
well, I do not mean it personally, but
after all this was a competition and Gilles or Melissa deserved the crystal ball, not Shawn, sorry!
I personally like TracFone
I just bought a new one at Dollar General a few weeks ago after not having a cell for a few years. It was only $20 for this cute little Nokia with a built-in flashlight, and when I activated it online and registered with an email, I got 80 minutes free. I had a phone number in 10 minutes. You never lose your minutes but you do need to buy new minutes at least every 2 months to keep your phone number, which works out to $10/month. I've had TracFones on and off throughout the years and I've always had a good experience.
I personally don't consider this harassment
If he had actually made a comment about your breasts or some other part of your body, then yes, I would consider that sexual harassment. Since you stated he simply asked if you had found a piece of clothing that fit, I would not agree that this is considered sexual harassment. Honestly, it sounds like you're just being overly sensitive and taking his comment way out of line. I mean if he had made the same exact comment about a pair of shoes or something, would you have been offended?? I agree that it was none of his business, but not something he should be fired over.
Personally I'd have the surgery
I know it's a scary situation to be in and a big decision to make but I would do everything I could to take away the doubt that it might some day come back. Of course there are no guarantees but I'd put the odds in my favor.
I personally like the lizard better. nm
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did not mean you personally Hayseed..sm
I did not vote for 'em either, but unfortunately have to pay the price for ill made decisions in the present and the past. I know an awful lot of people who did vote for this regime though and are sure crying the blues now! Wish they had gotten smarter about 30 years ago! I know we have differing opinions on this subject. I do not agree with abortion one bit, but I do agree that there should be no government making our decisions for us...male or female. Unfortunately, I do think this country is too far gone to get it back to the true democracy is was meant to be.
I personally don't like Lakisha...sm
She has no personality at all! Does she ever smile? Yes, she can definitely sing, no doubt about it, but you do need more. My dh and I cringe when she's on. She's very robotic and unemotional. We like Blake and Jordin! We used to like Melinda until she started looking like she's 45 years old. She's in a league of her own, though, and will definitely go onto succeed, but not as a pop icon. She reminds me of Barbra Streisand with how professional she is.
CHOOSE not to take it so personally
The key word here is "elderly" - remember she is the one with the ailment - and she's not THINKING this might hurt Kimmie's feelings. She's frustrated with the problem and the fact that what you got didnot work for her - and she's probably being considerate in paying you.
Have you considered that you may be looking for reasons to be offended?
You can CHOOSE to see this whatever way you want. If you feel real hurt was intended then you deal with that directly: Aunt ___ I felt a bit hurt by your response to ____.
COMMUNICATION is a great thing when we do it - and it always takes at least two.
Good luck! P.S. what was the stuff you got her? I might be able to use it!! :)
Not personally myself, but a friend of
mine has used them and she says they work well. She has a cat who is older and having a problem with constantly scratching and hurting herself, so she uses them. Also, try putting catnip on the post or anywhere you want them to scratch. Maybe it will be help. Good luck.
Your welcome! I personally think Kambrya's a
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I didn't know him personally
But he was not that great looking back then and not that into the ladies - he mostly dated one girl throughout HS and is still married to her today. She was not that great, either. LOL!
Isn't it funny what money can do?
I also went to the salon where his dad worked as a hairdresser for many years.
LOL
Personally I did not use tampons until after I had -sm
sex (17 almost 18) and was in my first year of college. My roommate used tampons, I had never tried them. I got my period at 12. The thought totally freaked me out, as I am sure it is freaking her daughter out. It was uncalled for to discuss that in front of the whole class. The teacher should have spoken to her privately, and the girl should/could have explained why she was not able/want to use tampons (first period, etc.) The teacher should have a bit more sensitivity and should be called to the carpet for it.
Fascinating! I personally have not seen
anything (but wish I had) but I had recently been reading how various astronauts and pilots have reported seeing "things" in space. It's all been kept very hush hush by NASA. Hmmmmm . . .
Personally, I would never agree to this.
It will impact your relationship one way or another.
If it is truly temporary, hold out until May. If it is not temporary, move now.
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