did you not read my original post? sm
Posted By: MT 30+ on 2009-05-11
In Reply to: What's more important? Good grades or... - Just Me
I said if they were in school I would not charge them. The other poster had a girl in school who did pay rent and that is fine if that is what they want.
You need to learn how to read posts before you jump down my throat. You got the wrong person.
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I read my original post again and ---
I know I said I hate the dog, but that was a figure of speech - I hate the things he does to my house!
I brought him home at 10 ounces and have put up with his doings for 4-1/2 years - he's not going anywhere!
Did you read the original post at all?
She lives in an assocation. Anything to start flaming. Ridiculous. I am too old to be shock by dog poop or anything idio.. say on this board
did you not read my original post? sm
I said if they were in school I would not charge them. The other poster had a girl in school who did pay rent and that is fine if that is what they want.
You need to learn how to read posts before you jump down my throat. You got the wrong person.
I didn't read anything in the original post
about expecting gushing or groveling. One of the things she did say was that she usually got gifts that the receiver picked out and then was just discarded or sold. I agree with the other posts, give gift cards.
Like I said before, Kendra, READ THE ORIGINAL POST.
Sheesh.....!
Right now 120 people have read your original post in this thread
So that's 120 people that do not mind versus the few that complained. Keep writing. I get a kick out the stories of your little dog. It is better than the fighting and name calling that goes on other boards. Even my kids stopped doing that in middle school.
That is not what you indicated in your original post and is why you
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sorry. I did not see your original post..sm
I never said it was impossible to find an honorable man and good relationship, and I do not believe any body else did either, that I recall. As I said, I wish her all the best, and if this person is the right one for her, that is wonderful! But it also seemed that a lot of others were pushing her to rush into a relationship simply to *feel the spark of a new love*. Although that *spark* is a wonderful thing sometimes, it can also blind one to some smaller signs of impending doom, and the six years down the road, they are back on the message board asking what happened and wondering why they did not see it coming. I know that bad things do not always happen, but you have to admit that in today's society, more bad has been happening recently than good. Just expressing caution, and nothing more. JMO. Oh, by the way, I am happy for your relationship too. You are very lucky and one of few, these days.
Like I said in the original post, to say anything
would not be believed by anyone in DIL's family, my son, the g-children, aunts, her mother so I should say? To say to my son, your wife stole $20.00 from me" would be met with denials, to say she helped to put a ding on my credit for 7 years would be what her mother told me - she wouldn't do something like that. You can say what you said about speaking out but you do not know how these people are. It is like a cult- when you would get together 1 child that belonged to 1 family belonged to all. An aunt might chastise or discipline her niece/nephew like she would her own. Most of us with children just see after our children, not all other children that might be in our family-we leave that to their parents. These are my only 2 g-children, doubt if I will have others but I kept quiet and do now because my word would never be believed, then nor now. I remember 1 time a cousin of DILs had gotten broken leg. I took the DIL to the hospital. Every member of the family was there- the great-gparents, the g-parents, aunts, uncles, parents, the immediate cousins and the 2nd cousins -the hospital had so many people they had to ask them to leave! Another time the great-gparent died- the children all wanted to spend the night at the funeral home. The home started running vacuum, switching light off and on and they did not get the idea to leave! They HAD to be asked to please leave for the night! They wanted to stay the night with the deceased....You just do not know the close-knit (cult) family these folks have.
according to the original post
They took in their son's best friend, not a stranger. I agree with the other posters, your house your rules. I think you are doing the right thing by doing whatever you can to keep them apart. If they really want to be together they will be together outside of your home.
All I did was replace the original post.
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The original post seems to have gone missing
so the answer now is to another posting, BTW.
In her original post (page 3)
she says that they did try to tell her at the time and she "chose to believe him" so actually it sounds like she has questioned him about this before.
I was actually responding to pc, the poster just below your original post.
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Thanks for your input. I shoulda put in my original post .. sm
the components of chittlins and mauls.
Hey I know,
Thanks for clearing the way out there....Been down here so long that when my kids (grown men) and hubby ask for certain things, and a deer leg lands on my doorstep, I just can't waste anything.  Cat
I remember your original post and found the
Flylady. I have her marked for favorites but I really haven't had time to absorb her information and get into it. It sounds like it really worked for you so this week i'll see about really getting into it and signing up for her newsletters also!
Your post did not change my original thoughts
I read it and understood very well. This person on a break ran into 2 strangers who said they had walked from some distance, asking about catching a ride somewhere, asking her about a ride and she responds with asking a bunch of people she does not basically know about whether she did the right thing, they might have been angels in disguise. What is there not to understand about this? Sounds like a young girl asking for acceptance. A grown woman, with common sense, would not even second guess and then to return and make out a report at a shopping mall about someone asking for a ride was just a laugh. As in my original, she needs a guardian if she knows no better than this.
Gosh, I went back to the original post
to see what she looked like previously. The woman looks like a crackhead and looks like she has been on the streets for a long time, rugged, drugged out, really bad looking for a woman only 55. My 89-year-old dad looks younger than that.
I left a couple of things off my original post...sm
1. I will wear this bracelet because of the thought of the time she took finding it and the parts for it. Usually she gets me things I do enjoy for gifts.
2. We do have a great relationship. Her mom died when she was small and we're close. I know I'm lucky that we have a good relationship.
For those who slammed me and thought I was ungrateful - I'm sure you've all over time received gifts that you weren't wild about (hence all of the returns/exchanges at stores after Christmas). As I said, my other gifts were great ones and things that are of the caliber I like.
Excuse me? The original post said absolutely nothing about her mother being SM
ill. I knew nothing about anyone's mother suffering because of dog barking. Dogs and pets need to be owned by responsible people and there would be no such problem in any event.
Sorry, I was upset at the time I wrote the original post
Basically, I sent a voided Wal-Mart check to a creditor by mistake and they cashed it and the bank let it go through both times. I called them on it. I was thinking that someone must have found that check and cashed it again. At the time, I did not realize my mistake. They then cancelled the payment to Wal-Mart, don't know why, and now Wal-Mart is treating it like I wrote a hot check. They added $30 to the original amount.
The original Halloween, the original Exorcist and the first Phantasm...
today's are too computer generated and phony. Not enough scare factor for me!
Again, if you re-read my post about how she is very
"scatterbrained" to the maximum, I find it very, very difficult to believe that there is absolutely nothing she can do about this because there is and she chooses not to. You seem to be taking the "Oh, she can't help it approach," and this is where we strongly disagree.
End of story. No more from me.
Why not read the post before going off on someone! SM
There is some great information inside. Give this woman a break!
As I read your post
I looked over at my cat napping. I am so sorry. I truely hope you can maybe go to a shelter and save another kitten and maybe it will also bring some joy into your life. Please don't think I am saying you kitten is just replaceable, but when my family dog died, the best thing for all of us was to get another dog that we knew needed a loving home that we could provide.
If you will read my post....
I am not defending abstinence only programs. I said if parents taught their kids about sex and condoms and STDs there would not be a need for a program PERIOD. In my opinion, as I said, that needs to be taught by parents, NOT by schools. And as far as standards, I don't know how much lower you can get than adultery in the White House, covering it up, committing felony perjury while in office, and the coup DE grace of those hail Mary pardons and stealing stuff on the way OUT of the White House. Oh yeah...there's a REAL standard to ascribe to. One of these days we will know the WHOLE Sandy Burglar story too. If he lives long enough and does not go the way of Vince Foster.
You did not read my post right
The law is completely behind me. They go with me, have the police there as I load up a truck, have appeared in court, spoken with the person who tells me how this works. Good gosh, would never take it upon myself just to pull up and start loading.
Read the post again
I did not ask what should I do- I asked what would others do.
When I read the post below
It looks like only 2 people voiced an objection. Ignore them. Who cares if they object. Some people do nothing but complain and attack on all of these boards. I can only hope some of these people do not behave like this in person but are embolden by their anonymity of the internet.
Read my post again and you will see
I said asked if I MIGHT have costochondritis because of the ribs that are still hurting so bad you cannot touch- this after my seeing him 2 weeks ago and it started before then. That is different from going in and stating I have that diagnosis and for some reason I have found as the years have gone on she is getting much more angry, it seems, in response to anything I say medical wise. Now I would never say anything medical but SHE brings up all the time because she is having this pain or that, going to various doctors, taking this and that and it is her talk more than mine. I said very innocently 1 day I was eating yogart because it was good for you. Talk about starting WWIII!. She asked who told you that and then started on how she had ate such and such all her life and she was ok. She had a much loved sister who was a nurse and I would be more than willing to say she would never say such barbed things to her. If I had just found out about fibro and just now seeking an answer or assistance it would be different but we are talking YEARS and I hurt severely. I told her I would rather know it was costochondritis than say other things it could be such as melanoma or bone cancer which are 2 other things I also read about and researched in trying to find anything I could do to help my own self as not getting it from the physicians I have gone to since, ah, say 2004. Maybe the best thing to do next time she starts about how do I feel, her having this ache or pain, taking such and such medicine, just say really off limits for me to talk about and just let it go at that?
Maybe you should read your own post because
you said murder- that was not mentioned before. You must be a very angry person with all that screaming going on.
If you will read my post above sm
You will see that I said exactly that - talk with the teacher and get the facts straight. I am perfectly aware of how emotional 13yo girls can be and how they can blow things out of proportion.
I still think this is a very inappropriate way for the teacher to have handled the situation. Regardless of how "worldly" kids are these days, the teacher could have discussed the situation on a one-to-one basis or with the female students only.
You should read your post
I'm sorry, but Christians don't tell people to go to "you know where." Christians don't say, not looking for advice - in other words, you don't want anyone to contradict you or criticize you - believe that is called pride.
How likely is it that all 3 sisters hate you for no reason? Have you thought about actually talkng to his sister, the one who hates you so much, about how you can make peace with each other? Doesn't mean you have to love her, but 2 adults should be able to be civil to each other.
As a Christian mother, you should set an example of love and peace for your boys - do you think you are doing that when you are ready to leave your husband over his family's feelings towards you?
If they hate you, that is on them, but if you hate them back, they have drawn you into their circle of negativity. Do not let that happen. If peace making efforts don't work out, then accept the fact that you do not get on with his family, let your sons and your husband maintain a relationship with them, and enjoy your time alone when they are with the family.
Love your children more than you hate your in-laws and do not draw your children into an eternal family squabble. You are pitting your ego against the ego of the sister and the mother - and putting your husband in an impossible situation.
did you not read my post?
"Please don't write and say a boy shouldn't be allowed to have his ears pierced"
and you are right i was asking about an AGE.
But you are 53, so that says it all, you were from a different generation and thusly I understand why you would be against it.
Read OP's post...........
That marriage is beyond repair:
1. She does not love him.
2. She wants out of the marriage.
3. She is unhappy.
4. Her children are not fond of their father.
Tell me what the pleasures are of going to bed and waking up to a person you feel nothing for.
What are the incentives because these are not hard times - this is THE END OF THE MARRIAGE.
No offense, but you need to put your bible away too.
I read the OPs post and nowhere
does she say it is irreparable. She says she does not love him. Well, at times, I don't "love" my husband either, sometimes I just want him to go fishing for a few days to leave me alone. Sometimes I am unhappy, so what? Happiness comes from within, not without. No one on God's green earth, (oh yeah, you don't like religious talk, too bad), is here to make YOU or anyone else HAPPY!! That doesn't mean this marriage cannot or will not be saved. I've been on this earth long enough to know that seasons change, feelings change, everything changes, but if this OP is looking for an excuse because she thinks there is someone out there who is going to fulfill all her needs, there IS NOT, no one can! If she is telling her children things so that they dislike their father, that is emotional abuse. All this OP has said is she is not happy, she doesn't love him. Applies to most of the population at times, and not enough reason to get divorced and hurt the kids.
Sorry, just read post above. I did not
watch until the 3rd season, so did not know they had done wildcards in the past.
I got chills when I read your post...
I have had a few similar events to yours, but nothing to that great extent. Next time it happens, just say hi. 
Try to read the post correctly, it says
the school was sent out a notice. Do you think only 1 child involved? Why would this be an across the board notice? Oh my, 1 kid and the whole school sent off for punishment. I have no sympathy for people who aren't able to read between the lines and think 1 poor kid is being picked on.
Did you read the content of my post?
?
Read the post correctly, it says
alcohol, whatever- that means which ever category one fits into, be it alcoholic, drugs, having children you cannot afford and wanting others to take care of, just not up for that. I had 2 children, never had assistance and worked hard to make sure I did have the money it took to raise them. I have said before and say again, I am most interested in helping people or animals out that are in some misfortune, get this now- that is NOT due to their own doings. You can not take drugs, you can not drink alcohol, you can not have a child by taking birth control. All of these are folks own doings and I do not want to pay for other peoples mess-ups. Understand??
Puhleez re-read my post and see....
that I said Denver is mid-west TO ME - in terrain, being like Nebraska which MOST DEFINITELY IS mid-west in terrain and in culture.
I said Denver is NOT geographically the mid-west. I know US geography and I know Denver is considered west. I am not geographically challenged.
Nuff said.
Just read your post and you and I in same situation
my husband also younger than me. I never ever knew something like this existed, the part about not knowing at retirement age which I get there 10 years before him as to what mine would be. Right now my income if both retired right now would be more; however he has an extremely good job now making twice what I do in my job at the present time so who knows? Next year I start drawing over $500 per month from a retirement fund but the way I look at it right now, that will pay my independete contractor (with maybe some more added) for the month so you cannot win for losing.
I did not read the post yesterday and sorry
because I had puppies who got sick with mucus, bloody discharge from the anus, weight loss and I lost them. This is very lethal and had I read her post would have immediately told her to not wait for appointment to see veterinarian because this onset does not let someone take that long before young puppies can die. I had in my back yard and never could let young puppies be there ever. I hope hers is ok and she was able to get some assistance with the pup.
I had to smile when I read your post. sm
Every time she complains of the itching I ask her about her breathing or if her tongue feels swollen. All mothers tend to think alike, well most of the time, maybe not Lindsay L. mom.
please read my post below to mtmomof3...n/m
 
Just read your post and my aunt the other day
was saying exactly what you were saying, was there not a good place that I could go to for a diagnosis on what my problems are. I do not know of a place like this at all. I can self-refer myself to a physician and usually do as I know about as much as the people I run into in the offices. After all my years of typing on all kinds of diseases, treatments and such, I do not need a person say 30 or more years younger than me to explain a diagnosis to me. I am sure I could tell them more than they could tell me. Just went to an urgent care place today for 1 of my problems and refused to weigh- the person taking history said I would have to because they would have to know my weight in order to give medication. I told them most medicines I know come in say 10, 15, 20 mg and I never weigh at any office and I see nephrologist, general, endocrinologist, etc. I refused to weigh, still got to see the physician and guess what, nothing prescribed! I probably have been in the medical field longer than this person on earth. on well, enough venting for the night.
I just read your post- wondering if
you thought this was me posting above (was not) because I wrote about bellpeppers below and just being silly inserted the burp thing. I know nothing about horses, names for males versus females, mothers versus fathers.
I am laughing as I read your post
you are saying Tina with her ole self is better than the younger Beyonce. Oh, now I am splitting my sides, he, he, he, he, he.....Tina used to break it down but she has got too much age on her now- she should have stayed retired and the way we remembered her.
Then dont read my post below yet!
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O Dear! I just re-read my post - LOL
Meant "watching" Animal Planet not washing LOL
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