I think it's rude...if they ask okay, if not no way!!!
Posted By: MtMom30 on 2007-11-01
In Reply to: Is it rude to ask to stay at someone's house (sm) - Lisa
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you may not be bitter, angry, or uptight, but you are RUDE rude rude!
You talk about being attacked when you are the one calling names... yes someone called you Doctor to start with, which was pretty childish, but they were saying so because you acted so matter-of-factly about diagnosing someone saying they were just having vivid dreams, and then going off on a tangent about their Xanax use...
Xanax affects EVERYONE differently so just because your husband is a certain way does not mean that is the same for this person. I take Xanax to fly... guess what it is a LIFE SAVER! I never take it to sleep nor do I ever take it for anything else...
maybe you are being rude because you are reacting, but my guess is you will have a response to me pointing this out... and it might be rude. just a guess.
Rude people deserve a rude response-but an idea (sm)
I am very kind-hearted, and even a sucker at times but when someone is very rude and disgusting, I have no problem telling them to go away. If she doesn't want to completely cut this woman out of her life, she needs to say something like, "I have decided that I am only going to be able to have you come over on Wednesdays." She can make up an excuse like, "I am not getting enough time to myself" "I haven't had time for my other friends" or just act like she feels like she desperately needs a regular schedule, so "Wednesday is your day." See ya next week! If she shows up on a day that is not her day she can say, "Suzie Q, your day is Wednsday - I'm sorry, but I am really determined to stick to my schedule"
Truly don't mean to be rude, but... sm
You called him a sociopath, then asked "doesn't he have any remorse or guilt?" Well, no, not if he's a sociopath. (Which I also think he is, BTW.)
That's a big part of what makes someone a sociopath/physiopath (aka antisocial personality disorder) - not having a conscience or the ability to empathize about the feelings of others, among other things. There are, (unfortunately) a lot of people in our society who are sociopaths, to some degree or other. It's pretty scary.
He's a sickening man. I've always wondered what it must be like for his two kids, being raised by the father who murdered your mother. It always seemed insane to me that he was given custody of them.
Because they are rude.
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How rude!
So what if you misread . . . I thought the recipe you shared sounded really good, and easy to boot! I personally would probably "cook a chicken breast" rather than using canned, but then I always change recipes to suit my taste (doesn't mean I wouldn't eat the canned chicken). Anyway, I thank you for sharing.
rude
If it was me I would have stopped and said what did you say. I am sure they probably would have shut up. Then i would have asked where do you live, so I can talk to your parents. LOL! You people are telling her to consider the source but come on if it was you walking you would have been ticked off!
please don't be rude
I'm a physical therapy graduate (party working as an MT) and my wife's a nurse. These are just our initial income since we're just starting. I'm working on my state board as Physical Therapist. I would not think that you're just rude to me.
No. I think it is rude.
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You are so rude....That's all I can say to you. nm
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Once again you are rude
I don't understand why you don't think your replies are rude. She was replying to Ms. Done with what she has been through. I don't find that her case is all that different. I was reading all the posts below and actually got lost so I'll post here. I'll tell you what I have learned. When you are growing up and your parents are miserable together that is what children think a relationship is supposed to be like because they don't know any better. They think its okay to insult and belittle their spouse, they think its okay to fight all the time. It's not. I wrote in my post and I'll write it again. Children are a lot stronger than we believe. The children always come first before anything, but when you are in an abusive relationship you cannot honestly say to a person "hey, so what if your being abused the bruises are not visible, stay in, keep letting him treat you like this, because there is not a visible injury the kids don't care". You know what. The kids DO care. Kids want their parents to be happy. When the parents are happy they have so much more to give to the kids instead of having to hide the misery they are going through. Sure sometimes its hard in the beginning but kids are genuinely more happy when their parents are happy. And they will in turn learn to treat their spouses with respect. Of course someone should try counseling before just up and leaving, but if you have a spouse that writes you letters pointing out your errors and flaws and then feels they have done nothing wrong that is not healthy. If that spouse will not agree to counseling then there are another alternative and that is to leave. Do not stay in an abusive relationship and keep being abused by a spouse because you have to stay there for your kids. That was what people did in the 60s and 70s and probably before then. This is the year 2008. There are better ways to live.
would it be rude?
to just tell your family members you are making a christmas dinner and invite everyone over, no presents allowed? We just bought a house and are not in the best financial situation at the moment. I have tried hinting around at doing things like dirty santa or drawing names but no one likes that idea. So I want to scrap presents all together. I am working on Christmas day so that would be a good excuse not to visit anyone that day. We are also in a central location and that would make it easier to have everyone over to our house. What do you think?
How Rude!!!!
Good for you! The fact that she told you to "hold on" while she finished texting would have sent me right over the edge! Congrats to you for teaching her a lesson her parents obviously don't care to teach. I have 2 teenage girls and we have made that rule quite clear that they will lose ALL privileges if they even think of texting while driving or talking while driving. The phone must be turned off when they drive and we have "tested" them on it many times just to make sure they are following the rules.
How rude !
Why bother posting something so rude? Why not just ignore this thread and be on your way?
I am in no way trying to be rude,,,,,,but
what does your post have to do with this thread? I personally wanted to adopt children until I met my now husband and realzed that if I could give birth that is what I wanted to do. Feeling selfish, my brother would love to have a child but his wife does not. It is a very personal choice, and I honestly think when the time is ready you will know. If you don't feel it, don't do it. It is so okay to not want to have children. You are not doing anything wrong. I wish there were more people out there that don't want children and accidentally have them would have used protection. Do it only when you know in your heart that you are ready. Trust me, you will know when you are ready.
who is rude
Negative thoughts you are giving right back, you are no good obviously.
I didn't start it but I can always finish it, so get over yourself like you are the only one to have an opinion. people like you make me SICK
you just hate for no reason hate hate hate
you should be so proud!
They are not being rude!
You said " I think it's pretty rude of smokers to smoke inside when youre sharing with a nonsmoker anyway."
I think its really, really rude to move into a house where there are smokers and just expect them to stop smoking in the house. Because YOU don't like it. Well, maybe they don't want to leave their comfort zone, drop what they're doing and go out into whatever weather and deal with the bugs, etc. just so YOU can be all comfortable instead. Ever consider that?
And what's next - you inform them they can't eat meat in the house because YOU are a vegan, or some other fool thing?
There are few enough places left that smokers can do their thing in comfort. But you can bet every time they find one, sooner or later a nonsmoker will barge into that place and think they are entitled to punish and banish them for smoking. Save everyone some grief and wait until you find a nonsmoking house to live in!
YOU are rude
and actually they ARE desperate
did you even READ MY POST?
i NEVER ASKED THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE.
get it again?
I NEVER ASKED THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE.
They offered. I ASKED YOU PEOPLE IF IT WAS RUDE IF I ASKED THEM TO! EVEN AFTER THEY OFFERED.
what dont you get about that! and i said if they invite a nonsmoker to live with them, then i think it is rude. and by the way, they like me very much.
you talk about me getting over myself? you have no idea of the situation! MY QUESTION WAS HOW DO I GET THE SMOKE SMELL OUT OF MY ROOM, MY CLOTHES!
and i got jumped on for expecting them to smoke outside.
TELL ME WHERE I STATED "I EXPECT THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE NOW THAT I LIVE HERE".
YOU need to get over YOUrself you are obviously trying to be better than everyone and cut me down for something i never even did.
Not exactly sure why you think this is rude, though...
8 is a big litter for a dog and an average litter for a pig. How is this not a "litter" of babies?
They are not being rude, they just
want to tell you that you should not be lenient and give in every time to the despicable behaviour of your father.
It may be rude.
I think it is worse to be invited to a wedding for a person you have not seen in 20 years. What possible reason would they invite her except for a gift? Has she heard from the bride or groom during the whole engagement process, or did she get a call that said "hey I met a great person and they may be the one". I bet not. But when it comes time to get gifts, they send to everyone they have come in contact with since they were born.
I think the bride and groom(any bride and groom) need to think about how much cost is involved to their guests, bridal party, family, etc, when they plan a wedding and not be offended if people can't participate.
I said it was very sad, do you consider that rude?
It is a sad thing when you possibly have to leave a note, the possibility you will not be there for a child to let them know. What is not sad about that? What is rude about that? Are you sure you read the post correctly? I find it tremendously sad and stand by my first posting. As far as the person in high school you said became pregnant a second time, not trying. After having a first pregnancy she should have known the cause. Birth control usually works in cases like that, condoms, etc.
I think you are very rude. At least if you
cannot give good advice or encouragement in this case you shouldn't even comment. She is down and you trample on her. It is not true that people who cannot get a job in these times are lazy. My neighbor is a registered nurse and she is already loking 4 months for a job and did not get hired yet. She is 32 yrs old.
Regarding the eviction:
If she does not pay rent, the LL has the legal right to evict her. If he is 'nasty', a lot of them are, and he really wants her out, he can speed things up to get her out.
I would not be so harsh, maybe tomorrow it hits you.
New poster or not, you are rude. nm
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I don't think its rude per se - I'm in the same boat
I constantly have people ask me why I'm not married and why I don't have children. What I find odd is the men - they will ask me "can you not have children?" I will ask them "what kind of question is that??" And the response I get is "well, women tend to have babies at the drop of a hat," or "women just get pregnant without thinking twice about it." All kinds of responses. I've even been asked if I'm a lesbian (which I'm sure I'll get pounced on, but I find that extremely insulting).
I guess the bottom line is that in this day and age, if a woman does not have a child, is not shacking up with some guy after the second date, or has never been married, then there must be something wrong with her in the eyes of society. However, try asking the woman that has 4 kids by 4 different guys why she never married the daddies or why she doesn't use contraception, and boy oh boy, stand back or run for the hills.
My answer has always been - I never met the right one. Which usually gets a response of "maybe you're just too picky."
I could go on and on about this. But think about this - the women that ask you these questions are usually the same women that say one of the following: "Men are dogs, or men are pigs" and "oh god, I couldn't imagine being single and dating. I'll take what I've got at home over your life anytime."
Makes you laugh doesn't it!
Rude or not, we threw ourselves our
own housewarming party too.
We weren't expecting gifts. It was just a fun way to have everyone over, have fun and break the house in.
I didn't register, but a lot of people brought gifts that I happened to like a lot. If you register, I would only tell the people who ask if you are. I wouldn't pass out cards in invites. We also received a lot of gift cards as well. I just put those to use for buying school clothes though since we spent so much on the actual party.
It is rude but common.
I guess you can assume the non-responders will not be coming but it is not uncommon for people that do not respond to show up anyway. If that happens, embarrass them loudly when they arrive! :) I found that including an email address on the invite helps, some people are just weird about calling, especially if it is to tell you that they can't make it.
Agree, it's rude
I try to always RSVP, especially if I can't make it. I figure if someone is going to the trouble of inviting me, the least I can do is respond.
ya know if all Americans were rude like you, they
dense because you don't know how to get over your rude-sounding self
here, let me help............. 
and NOT all who came were legal - Ellis Island or no Ellis Island......sheesh - talk about dense......
Rude Husband
Your husband was rude. You need to discuss it with him in private. Is he under a lot of stress right now? What is going on to make him behave this way? Is this new? Ongoing? YOU are your child's advocate and role model. Children want and need friends. Their friends will often offend depending upon how they are raised, the manners they have been taught, etc. because they are children. Your husband should not have responded on a child's level if he felt the remark was offensive. Confront your husband and demand that he treat everyone with respect in your home. Do not settle for less.
Best wishes!
Didn't mean to be rude
I guess if I had read the previous thread it would have made more sense. It just seemed so random though.
I agree that was rude s/m
i'm a nonsmoker with a child that has multiple severe environmental allergies, takes shots and is on meds. He cannot dare go into a Waffle House because of the smoking. I detest that they allow smokers to smoke in places children frequent--we do not go bowling or dining at certain places because of this. Hubby is a musician and it chokes me whenever we go to his shows and i have to breathe in that smoke, but i know what i'm getting into when I go and don't complain.
BUT your situation however, was totally uncalled for by the rude person you encountered. You are minding your own business, smoking in a designated area. Last I checked this is a free country and you had the right to smoke 10 cigs at once if you wanted. People need to get off their high horses and realize we can't all be alike; that's what makes this country so great!
My gosh are you rude
Don't know if anyone has answered your post, but I thought brother are you rude. You know its not that he should help because he's marrying her daughter. He should help because he is supposed to be a responsible human being. How in the world could you treat your future wife/husband family like that. You must live in a "first come first serve and sc#w everyone else" world.
DH and I have moved about 40 times in 25 years. Everytime we've moved our family has been there for us. They said tell us what time to be there. Even my BIL wife to be's family helped out and her brothers had no idea who we were, but they said they were glad to help out. Where is the decency in people anymore. If he was busy on that day, the least he could have said was "I have a prior committment but if you could do it another day I'd love to help out". She didn't say she was his future boss or Queen of England (don't know where you pulled that ignor@nt comment out from) but its with attitudes like that that I'm ashamed of people like you.
Moving is a very stressful time - I know and I'm getting ready to do it again and at 48 and 49 years old it sure is not an easy task.
A little consideration from other humans, especially one who expects to be your family member is in order.
If I were you if your future SIL says anything about your move, just simply say to him "No I've got it covered", then in the future if he ever asks for anything I would also say no, I've got me to take care of and I wouldn't want to put myself out to do anything for you".
Your daughter really should have a talk with him!
Very rude and childish, MHO...nm
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it just seems rude to reject it
off of me!!! I have given them thousands out of my own pocket for my son's teeth. But you are right, to each her own.
that was rude and unnecessary.
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this is rude and inconsiderate. sm
She has RSVP'd for a dinner, which means they bride has paid for a dinner for her. To simply not go is making the bride pay for her place.
And assuming somebody else will just show up is also ridiculous. THIS IS WHY WE SEND OUT RSVP CARDS!!
I was not ever meaning to be rude, but if...
you think that he would become physically abusive if you brought this up, my guess is that porn is the least of your marital problems.
How rude and inconsiderate. How
do you know the circumstances of the pregnancy or anything else about her life for that matter???? I have a friend whose youngest was a senior in high school when she became pregnant again. She wasn't trying, it just happened. Sometimes things are out of your control.
How is feeding a baby rude?
I just don't get it. How is feeding a baby rude? Usually this is the reaction breastfeeding moms get from those who couldn't or wouldn't breast feed. I never got any negative response from feeding my baby.
I didn't take my shirt off and expose my breasts to the world. I was feeding a baby - grow up!
There is really no need to be rude. I made a mistake.
I misread the post. I try to be polite when posting and not get upset with other posters who are not, but your post just really hit me hard. So what if I made a mistake and so what if I use canned chicken. I was trying to be helpful, but apparently that counts for nothing these days. Once again, I apologize for having misread the post. Merry Christmas!
Rude Bears fans
Some of my friends went to the Saints/Bears game and were amazed and ashamed for the rudeness of the fans. He is a high school football coach so he has seen some team rivalries some severe, but never like this. Being booed, being followed and surrounded in the bathroom, etc. Terrible and shame on the people of Chicago
I don't think MB was being rude, I think it was a funny reference to
the true-life-drama "Texas Cheerleader . . . Mom" movie starring Holly Hunter a while back. No need to get upset.
Don't want to be rude, but I don't recall mentioning
makeup, fingernail polish or the like. He also takes a shower daily because he likes to smell nice. Don't know what kind of soap he likes and really don't care. I'm just very proud that I raised a man who takes pride in his appearance and wants to smell nice for his lady.
Very rude not to answer an RSVP
If you are attending or not, should show some form of manners. People go to the time and expense to plan for an event, surely have the decency to give an answer.
it IS MOST rude to ignore any RSVP....got it?
What would you say to these rude teenage boys??
Ok, I was out walking this morning and these 2 teenage (middle school) boys starting yelling things at me as I walked by!! At first, I couldn't tell what they were saying or who they were directing it to because I had my headphones on, but after a while I realized they were speaking to me!! One of the boys was saying MOOOO and I couldn't tell what the other one was saying. I just ignored them and kept walking, as I know they were being stupid boys (especially since I'm not overweight), but I would really like some advice or great comebacks to tell these losers the next time they try something like this. Obviously, I would love to just spray them with pepper spray or kick them where it hurts, but I don't want to go to jail :) I really wish all parents would teach their boys how to treat a woman, so things like this wouldn't happen!!!!
By the way, my husband is out of town for another month, so I can't send him over to the bus stop to have a "talk" with them!
That is rude, but most teenagers today are.
Nothing we can do about that unfortunately.
she used caps and 3 exclamations. of course it was rude
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Not rude, just realistic...you asked...
for opinions and advice. That's what you are getting.
I apologize for coming off rude
That was not my intention.
You just said you are just starting out - wait until you both are more established before jumping into something so final. When you both are making more money, then $2700 a month might be doable with all of the other expenses that everyone has.
Seriously, sit down with a piece of paper and a calculator and add it all up including whatever you spend on gas, groceries, car payments, credit cards. Then think about how much your utilities will be at this new house. Unless you have a TON of money saved up or you are getting help from an outside source such as family, there is no way that you can pay $2700 a month just for your house payment with the income you have right now.
You have plenty of time to get into the "perfect" house but do not ruin your finances/credit to do it too early.
You could always move to Georgia - you could afford an awesome house for half of that price here!!!!! And gas and everything else is cheaper! :-) Good luck with everything - just be smart about it, please!!!! Use your head not your heart when making these kind of decisions.
meant-if all americans were rude like you....
I know so many foreigners - some legal, some not legal - and NONE OF THEM - added all together - come off as rude as some posters here.........that's for sure.........and some of them work 5 jobs.......hence, why they're doing so well in this country.
Many American people won't *lower* themselves to do ANY menial type work - so all the illegals and some non-illegals will do anything to stay here...and no, they don't spend their time on bulletin boards online like some *white collar* workers seemingly always do.....
have a nice day/evening
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