I think you are making a mistake and son will eventually resent you for that (sm)
Posted By: Carolina on 2008-04-04
In Reply to: As poster of daughter who misused college help - SM
He should at least get a chance and not be held accountable for something someone else did. It is definitely very unfair to him.
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Hate making a mistake on my checking account!
I typically write only 1 check a month (for my rent/water) and everything else is paid online or with my ATM/Visa card. I checked my balance this morning and thought, yeh! I can go get a latte! So off I went, spent $3.57 on a coffee and on the way home remembered something -- I wrote a check last week to the DMV for this year's registration/tag and I wasn't sure if it had cleared my bank. Got home, checked my balance and guess what? The outstanding check has NOT cleared and now the balance in my checking account is 1 penny short of clearing that check! Too late to go put in a couple of dollars for it to be posted tonight in case the check comes through 
Y'all keep your fingers crossed with me that the check won't come through tonight, or if it does my bank will be forgiving and not charge me $35 to cover that extra penny I'm short on  That would be some expensive latte!!!
How dare you say I resent my children
I do spend every night reading to my children. I also tuck them in and rub their backs every night. I get up every morning to prepare them a warm breakfast before driving them to school so they don't have to ride a cold school bus in the morning. My kids are all on the high honor roll because my husband and I help them with their homework. I volunteer at their school once a week. My husband and I attends every sporting event with them, be it practice or a match, to make sure no harm comes to them. I make sure they have a hot meal on the table when they come home from school. I worked extra all summer to afford a trumpet for my son who wanted to join the elementary band. I don't resent my children. I love them very much.
But I do resent others critiquing my parenting abilities. I'm sure OP's DS and DD do a lot more than OP is giving them credit for. It's terrible for the kids to have fish sticks and yogurt, but it's okay for GP to spank them? She's complaining because DD and DS don't hit them, they just yell at them? Where are your scruples? It's obvious these parents love their children, they just need a little help, not criticism. Why is that so hard to understand? Do parents not deserve a break?
So many GPs have the mentality, "you made 'em, you raise 'em" and that's fine. No one said GPs should be raising their GKs, but is it that wrong to think that GPs could give the parents a break even just once a year? Maybe they'd be better parents if they weren't as stressed all the time. 
They resent anybody on aid, especially food stamps, and have no clue what it takes to get them.
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You are wrong. They don't resent "anybody on aid." Only the people who abuse the system, li
lady driving the Cadillac Escalade. You are still missing the point!
It does eventually.
Sometimes it seems like the updates take a step backward but as long as the people editing are consistent, the system will get better. I've been using it for 3 years now.
it's sickening, I know and eventually we....sm
I am certain eventually in Florida (south) - we will have the same - I already know that Home Depot here has self-checking out/cashiering ongoing......I knew 10-15 years ago that cashiers were going to be slowly faded out in this country......and that we will check our own things out from stores
BUT....CUSTOMER SERVICE IS ALREADY DOWN THE TOILET in S. Florida by the way.....sorely lacking here for 25-30 years.....
this just adds to more lousy customer service....2 words which I think MANY PEOPLE (in the field) just don't get.....CUSTOMER SERVICE - think about it....we are the bread and butter on these people's tables - and they ACT like they are doing US a favor....OH I HATE WAL-MART!!!
That may be true eventually...
but so far, I have not found it to be the case. My second is only 3 months old, though, and so far, two have been far more work than just the one. The youngest is really not old enough to play yet, so I spend a lot of time keeping my 2-year-old from trying to "play" with the baby.
He might eventually be more but for the time being
his estate will have to pay off any and all debts, not his family, not kids, but his estate then afterwards, $40 million to have to pay off is nothing to sneeze at. Sure in the long run could possibly have more money in the till but right now he died broke. Even the place where he was living was paid for by the company backing his comeback, thousands a month for that.
No he won't know you in particular viewed him. But eventually you'll probably want him to add
to send messages, pix, etc. He won't know how many times you look at his profile. That way you can see who all his My Space friends are, too! Sometimes I will be in my office typing and I will send a My Space message to my son in the next room telling him to come here rather than yelling for him.
Eventually, those girls will have their day of reckoning - sm
and it will be their turn to die and cross the *Rainbow Bridge*. As the story goes, before you're allowed to cross that bridge into Heaven (or whatever you perceive the afterlife to be), you are greeted by ALL of the animals you've ever known in the world, and they get to speak for or against you. I'm sure that kitten, and probably lots of other animals before it, will have a lot to say, and those girls will be spending THEIR afterlives in the Other Place.
Just about everything ends up on YouTube eventually.
The news is important. I recall I did not have a T.V. signal during 9/11 and it was 9:50 AM PST by the time I realized what had happened. I felt I had been sailing through the day when I should have been feeling dispair, and that was strange.
During a break, on 9/11, I opened up AOL and two a pic of the Twin Towers with smoke pouring out of their sides, just a small pic and I nearly did not read it.
Try increasing your exercise time...eventually
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My thoughts are that things will eventually settle down, but --
I agree that when he graduates if he has his own family now then he should be on his own and supporting himself and the family that he is making. I would not support him anymore.
I am sorry that you are having these problems. I had war with my first mother-in-law for 20 years (not my doing) and it makes everyone miserable - I understand. Just give it some time and she will settle down. She is just seeing how far she can take things now and if your son gives in to her, that is the way it will be for life.
I had a dog missing for about 2-3 weeks and someone took him in. Eventually called me from big poste
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MISTAKE
I posted my reply to this in the wrong place and to the wrong person and I apologized to that person, who does not seem to want to accept my apology. I am also sorry from leading off the topic. The person who posted the message obviously wanted some feedback on her question and it has gone into something else. I have no reason to hide my name because I have not said anything that I am ashamed of or want to hide from. Sorry for not knowing the culture. On to the next topic...
Regina
I think it would be a mistake.
My MIL did same thing and think she regrets it now. Moved out of this 3 bedroom 2 bath paid for brick home into a trailer with payments. Made absolutely no sense. She never liked the neighborhood for the 35 years she lived here. The minute hubby died she moved. He worked for house not her. Said it was too noisy. It is not. Children playing and riding bikes, which you should hear. No cussing and running around all hours. So funny, real reason is she is Jeh. Wit. and house was located in Santa Claus! Hated it for the name. You are going to have repairs in any home naturally and I know it's like...when it rains it pours (or leaks). But a trailer depreciates in value so quickly. If you rent/buy a place and rent yours out you are still doing repairs. Get a trailer and you still have to have a lot to put it on and utilities for it. Plus you have no control over what type neighbors you have unless you get an adults only lot. I would consider selling and getting an apartment or another house one. That or get motivated and start some home improvement projects! Subtle changes can do wonders for your outlook and the house, should you sell.
Our mistake
for gabbing on a gab board.
They think anybody who is on aid is abusing the system. They resent the system and the people sm
who receive any aid at all. that is very clear.
A genetic mistake?!?!
I'm sorry that is laughable.
Ever seen an Arabian? A really well bred, not dressed for show, Arabian? THAT is where the Thoroughbred gets a lot of it's build. That is also where they get a lot of their speed. The Thoroughbred breed infact can be traced back to 3 ARABIAN sires. They are far from a genetic mistake. They look beautiful in my eyes and I am an avid horse person, have been all my life, with a strong background with the Arabian horse.
If you are used to looking at the blockier, heavier Quarter horse, then yes, a Thoroughbred may very well look too dainty for it's undertaking. I assure you they aren't.
I made such a big mistake
I got in touch with someone I went out with once, just to say hello. Now he won't leave me alone. I've told him I don't want to see him, that I was just saying hi, and he won't believe me. He acts like we're going to have a relationship and live happily ever after. He called me like 4 times before I ever got home from work, even though I told him what time I would be home. These were weird calls. One of them sounded like somebody else, not him at all.
He's not a whacked out kid, or on drugs (at least not that I know of), he's in his 40's and is a seemingly responsible single parent.
He's called a couple of times, ranting at me about me not answering the phone. He's called a couple of times and hung up. He just won't stop. I had to take my phone off the hook.
I wrote him an email telling him to leave me alone. Maybe he hasn't checked his email tonight, I don't know.
Anyway, this guy is seriously obsessive. He wasn't like this when I knew him before, although he did react rather badly when I broke it off.
I think I'm dealing with a psycho here! I never really knew him very well before, and now I'm hoping I can get out of it without having to get the police involved.
Made a mistake x2
This is the second time that I tried to make a vacation around a big track and field event that DH runs in each year. We left last Friday for St. John New Brunswick. It's not a hot spot place, let me tell ya! We did manage a whale watch which was cool, and a day in Nova Scotia which included a flat tire in the middle of nowhere. Then, we moved down to Maine for another 5 days, and we're in the only dull spot in Maine -- Orono. Went to Bangor and spent the day in Acadia today, but I'm actually working from the hotel room now while DH runs in the meet. I don't know why I did this again. I must have been insane. So what am I doing this weekend? Working in a hotel room, and then driving 9 hours for home on Monday. sigh
I don't want to bail them out of their mistake!
ARMs are stupid. If you think about it for 2 seconds you'd know that. Too many people wanted to be Jones's and took the attitude that they'd figure it out in a few years, or sell the house for a profit. Nobody was forced to choose an ARM nor were they forced to buy three times the house they could afford. Now those of us who did not over extend ourselves are supposed to pay for all these "bad investments". What a CROCK!
I had 2 people mistake me for my
mother last Thanksgiving. Unfortunately, they misidentified me from behind. I was quite depressed about that because I always thought my moms backside was a lot larger than mine. I guess not anymore.
There is really no need to be rude. I made a mistake.
I misread the post. I try to be polite when posting and not get upset with other posters who are not, but your post just really hit me hard. So what if I made a mistake and so what if I use canned chicken. I was trying to be helpful, but apparently that counts for nothing these days. Once again, I apologize for having misread the post. Merry Christmas!
My mistake, I didn't state that I first took sm
him in to the vet and then called him later. I had one cocker and she died 2 years ago and never had seizures. This is the first time I have experienced anything like this on an ongoing basis. My dog when I was younger was deathly ill and that's why she had a seizure then. I've been told by several people that purebreds and small dogs are prone to them, though. Not sure if that is true or not. I am going to get a second look, though, just to be sure. I guess my dogs are like my kids, I worry about them as much as I do the kids.
You know what's sad? A lot of people won't even notice the mistake!
I see that one all the time. And my other pet peeve is 's added to make a noun plural.
Here's one that glared at me when my kids were little and attended a Catholic school. The children were in a big procession walking behind their school banner when I noticed it. The name of the school was Our Lady Help of Christians School.
Yep! The banner was printed as Our Lady Help of Christian's.
Back in the days when nuns were teaching in the schools, someone would have gotten a good whack on the knuckles for that one!
It's not a mistake if you plan on letting him
do that every night. Believe me I know. We've had several dogs over the years and every single time we've given in and let them on the furniture or bed just one time - they take it as a sign that they are welcome there all the time. Now we have 3 LARGE dogs who think they need to sleep in our bed every night. :)
oops, I repeated that last part by mistake..xx
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In my opinion - your first mistake is letting your son live with her sm
and you having "no say about it". Huh! You are his mother aren't you?
Not trying to be rude, I most certainly would not have any of my kids living with an "ex- anything" and only living with me. 15 and the teens for that matter are very tender ages and need their parents guidance in all aspects of their lives.
I have a 15 year old and 17 year old, both very athletic, and neither would live with a family member or ex-family member just for a sport.
Believe it or not - sports are not everything, but academic achieves are. We are in the hunt for colleges as my 17 y/o is a senior in high school. Guess what, they don't care if they play sports - they want their GPA, rigor of their courses and their grades, as well as SAT scores. Even if a scholarship is offered, in my case, football, they still need to meet requirements.
So, I would re-think the teen's living arrangements if I were his mother.
Sorry, I wasn't posting to you. Excuse the mistake.
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I'm with you - we made the mistake of become friends with neighbors
but after a short while, when i'd get home from my day job, I'd call across the street and invite her (her husband works a LOT) and her kids over to swim with us before I'd fix dinner and then log in for MQ. We'd wait and wait and then she'd never show up. I'd call back over and she'd say the boys were asleep (it was 5:00 in the evening and the boys were 5 at the time - don't think they were asleep). The straw that broke the camel's back for us was the time they invited us all over for dinner. I tried calling her the morning of to see what we needed to bring so I could run to the store. I got no answer so I went across the street and rang the doorbell -no answer. The time came for dinner (the time that SHE designated) so we went across the street and rang the doorbell. I could hear the kids inside but they never came to the door. I was SOOOO mad - and then had to cook dinner for my family at the last minute. Several months later, I was in my front yard gardening and she came across the street with a half-hearted apology after saying that her husband told her to come over there. She admitted they were home and that they just didn't feel like company that night. BURNED me up!! They are welcome to come over swimming or whatever but we no longer invite them - for anything and no longer accept any of their invitations. It's kind of sad actually because our kids are in the same class together this year - weird!!!
You mistake the visible appearance for the inner reality. sm
The old "ball of cells" theory doesn't wash unless you would care to start at 9 months and work your way backward day by day and tell me on what day the line of demarcation is crossed and how you arrive at that conclusion. The process of development is continuous, unbroken, and has only one fate - a human fate. There is no point that you can identify at which the developing embryo becomes "a person".
grammar mistake above, typing while angry again!
Gotta learn to count to 10.
Right, I posted in my 1st comment that the biggest mistake
a cheated-on person can make is to go out and do the same, tit for tat.
Then one loses everything.
Yes, Diana should not have cheated, this made, as you also stated, her position weaker and Charles' stronger and this was the beginning of the end.
Giving up and bringing him to your bed was your biggest mistake -
You are teaching him that you are going to give in to him if he whines a bit. If you will just consistently hold out and not go to him, he will stop it in a few days. I just went through this with my new pekingese. She took about 2 weeks of crate training before she quit whining. I never gave in to her for whatever reason and even if it was time to take her out, I never got her out until she was completely quiet. Now, all I do is tap the box when it is time to go in and she usually goes in completely on her own and she never cries anymore.
I made a terrible mistake with a man I thought I loved SM
and his marriage truly was rocky, but to make a long story short, I got my guts literally ripped out of me waiting for him, and actually years later long after we broke up she threw him out. She was tired of his running around and just was tied of the marriage. To my surprise, he was in terrible emotional pain and said he thought they could just GO ON AS ALWAYS. I have asked forgiveness more times than I can tell you, because I worked directly with this man and refused any times alone with him, but like you I became so emotionally attached that we took it to a physical relationship. I pray you will do what is right for you, and that is to back off NOW. I was in a triangle and I stood the greatest chance of losing my heart, which I did. Found out later that my wonderful gentleman who made me feel beautiful and truly loved was cheating with another girl who worked for our hospital, only on the second shift. This actually makes me nevous for you because you are totally emotionally invested in this man, and the only thing I see for you is hurt. I am not judging, but I have been there and don't want you to pay the high price that I have paid, both in a broken heart and my reputation with a lot of people.
spanking builds fear that you mistake as respect
A child who has been abandoned by both parents has no trust in anyone. Why do you think spanking is the right way to build trust? We just need to agree to disagree on this issue. I trust the counselor's recommendations more than yours as hers have proven to work. Spanking does not _make_ ALL kids do good. Sigh.
I wrote a $10 check to Wal-Mart and turned in to a $40 mistake so far.
Here is what happened. When you write a check at this Wal-Mart here, they have you sign something and give the check back. I stuck it back in my purse. They are supposed to void. I was cleaning at my purse that day and paying bills at the same time. I wrote a $250 to pay a loan. I really don't know how it happened but I must have torn that one up and sent the $10 voided check to the loan. A week later, i was looking at my acct online. I notice that that $10 I had written to Wal-Mart went through twice. I called the bank and asked why. They said, "oh, it looks like Wal-Mart double dipped." so I was refunded the money. I don't know who refunded the money, was it the bank, Wal-mart, I don't know. Anyway, I became concerned about why that 250 check didn't come in so I called that loan company. They said $10 was credit to my acct. I did not connect the 2 at the time. I thought, 10, I don't write $10 to this acct. The man told me he would look into it incase there was a mistake. He called back the day later and said that was a $10 originally written to Wal-Mart and we cashed it. So I called the bank and told them. They then had me go to wal-mart because they said I owed them $10 back. I go to wal-mart and they say no it is the Telecheck, company they use for this service and they thanked me for trying to clear it up and said Telecheck will be contacting me. So I get a letter in the mail saying I owe $40 plus I am not allowed to write checks anywhere that uses their service until I pay that $40 back.
What scares me is that that check said VOID on it and that other bunch was still able to cash it and get their money, which I think was dishonest of them...also my bank let it go through. Now what if I were to loose a bunch of those type checks and someone cashes it AGAIN. Man I would be out a lot. Do you think any of this is right? TIA.
I think you are making way too much of it.
My BF of 9 years calls me that all the time when, in fact, it just the opposite--he is my "sugar daddy." If he is worth it, just let it go. People are way too sensitive these days about things.
It is almost making me cry as well now.
 as time approaches. I loved that little Tux cat. I am going to have to get mama cat fixed. I think this is too hard.
If you are not making the $$$ you need
then you double up on jobs, and jobs that will pay, not sitting around waiting on work to come thru. I up until 2004 worked 2 jobs for years and years, for a safety net and both of those would qualify for full time, weekends included. I have now done MT longer than you so I guess I might know jack squat about what I am saying. I never got evicted, never did without food, kept a car, home and everything by myself because I did work so much. Why in the world are you making peanuts working 10-12 hours per day? I know the pay was more years ago, I understand that but if the job is not taking care of your needs, then a person needs to do something else.
Thank you for not making me feel so alone.
Glad your son has quit.
I will have mine read articles and will find pictures on line to show him. I do not think he has a clue as to what can happen to him if he continues this. Like I said he is only 18 and to think about many many years of this is very scary.
He says he wants to quit. I hope he means it and I will help him as much as I can.
I also was surprised by this since he has been so athletic. He always made statements about how he hated the smell of smoke and would never smoke cigarettes. I guess he thinks this is okay and won't do him any harm.
He started over the summer, so I hope it will be easier to quit than to have this go on for years. I will speak to his doctor and dentist also. May be they can help.
Thanks again for your concern. It it good to talk to someone who has been through this. Enjoy the Holidays.
Making candles
I had heard that you can save up the scrap wax from candles in glass jars, melt all of them down and put them back in the containers, adding a wick and scent such as cinnamon. So, I've been saving my containers with the bits of leftover candles. Anyone know how one goes about doing this? Is it possible to do this?
THANKS!
Any parents here making a
to only have one child..? We're seriously considering not having any more..One is PLENTY OF WORK AND LOVE!!
Thanks for making me giggle! nm
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Thanks for making me laugh!
Cute post! Yes, it is yucky, but you made me laugh this morning. Thanks!
Thanks, for making me laugh.
This is so terribly hurtful. I guess you guessed it is my sister. We have had a history of ups and downs our whole life. I am the one to just let the hurt and hard feelings go to try to have peace. I will try to grin and bear it . . showing some teeth at times. Hope I can do it.
Thank you all for making me feel
a little better about this. I would NEVER get rid of my cats. Once an animal comes into my home, it's for life. I would probably send my husband packing before the cats :)
Mine is just making me sad
When I first got my little boy he and his brother could not stay out all night. They wanted to come into my bedroom and jump on me so I gave them their own bedroom. I made sure they had all the catty things little guys need and tucked them in each night with food, litter box, their treats, whatever. They are past that stage and now know how to behave and I leave them to have the house when I turn in for the night. My little boy now sits right outside his old bedroom and meows. He looks under the door - I keep that closed off now after cleaning up after them - but he knows that is where he stayed when just a small guy and he cries. So pitiful!
Thank you so much! You're making me cry!
I have learned that this is the true meaning of Christmas - giving. There's no greater feeling than watching a child open a present or an older person whose family has forgotten them. That's what Christmas is about for me. God bless you, too! Have a very merry Christmas!
MAKING??? Isn't he a grown man? (nm)
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