I would take his phone away or make him pay the bills for the phone
Posted By: JanSetzmt on 2007-10-19
In Reply to: HELP, son in first year of college... psm - frustrated
He can use the postal service to write her letters if he wants but there is no excuse. College is not highschool and if he's gonna make a go of it...be the parent and discipline....my opinion but take the phone away.
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ear phone help . . .
Any suggestions on what is the best? I am struggling, have gone through a couple of cheapier sets, would like to know what you guys think is best. TIA.
Trac Phone
I have a trac phone and get aritime cards every three months. I can get 120 minutes for I believe $29.99 and it's worked out very well for me.
Phone call of the day ....sm
ME: Hello?
CALLER: Hello, does anyone at your home speak English?
ME: What? Of course I speak English. I was born and raised in the US and speak no other language. Why do you ask?
CALLER: I'm so sorry ma'am. This is Jody with the Police Benevelance fund and we'd like to ask for a contribution for.....
ME (immediately cutting her off): Ma'am, how dare you have the audacity to call my home, ask me if I speak English and then want to ask me for a donation? Donkeys would fly before I'd give your organization a penny as you have now totally insulted me, a bona-fide English speaking American Citizen - one without an accent other than being Southern.
Can you believe it? My husband stood there shaking his head as I let into this lady. It's bad enough to call somewhere and hear "press 1 for English, 2 for Spanish...." but to have someone call you and ask if you speak English is absurd.
call your phone co and ask if they have....
I have privacy director from bellsouth and also am on the donotcall.gov list and phone#. However, I continually get a call with no one speaking from a SEBELL - I looked up SEBELL and it's a telecommunications company that once got into big trouble - with telemarketing - and now it *looks* as though they are back. The only thing I could do with that number was STAR (*) 60 which blocks only 6 telephone numbers via bellsouth.
Would it be possible to ask the phone company--sm
to come out and inspect your line? I don't see where a lawyer would be any good at this point, until something is either proven or disproven. Good luck.
I had it on my cell phone too! lol
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Depends on what phone you have but sometime
you can see where it send return message highlight that and hit okay type your message and it should say send somewhere on the screen and make sure to hit the quick key button for that.
How many of you use only a cell phone? sm
We're going totally wireless in our house next week after our alarm company converts our system to a radio one. The cell companies in our area have finally gotten the offers down to where it's cheaper to go cellular exclusively than pay a cell and regular phone bill. What about you?
cell phone
My family and I (husband and two teenagers) all have our own cell phones. In a dire emergency of no power, our car will accommodate an attachable adaptor for the cell phones to recharge. It made things simpler, and no extra added bill from a phone company. It has been this way for over three years now.
Fitst of all, cut out that phone
you are paying for. You should have already taken that away. He is misusing and you are paying. Nip that in the bud. You need to put a halt to any and all financial deals except the very ones that keep him in school. I think you are making trying to handle with kid gloves and he seems to be taking advantage of a good thing.
I can ask my mom who lives there (just got off the phone, actually). sm
I do know that in the summer, the highs are around 70s or so. Does not get much higher than that. A Big Mac and fries with drink in Alaska (Anchorage) will run you about 6.00 w/o tax.
My mom received an expensive gift card for the doc she works for - for Nordstrom Dept. Store. Instead of spending it in Alaska, she is coming to Texas next month and thinks she will get double for her money at the Nordstrom's here.
They just bought a 4 BR/2BA home in the town of Palmer, AK (about an hour from Anchorage?) and they paid 200,000 for it. BUT, they are now selling their home and moving BACK towards Anchorage as she realized she cannot drive in the winter that far to work! She makes 22.00 an hour running a doctor's office. My dad works for the prison system and they are doing VERY WELL. He is retired A.F. She NEVER complains about money - like how much things costs. If anything, she says, "boy it's nice not to have to worry about money!"
Every year residents get a "dividend" check for a couple thousand dollars from the oil companies, too, from what I understand.
If you are a woman, Alaska is a WONDERFUL place to live, from what I hear. My mom and dad are still young (in their late 40s - early 50s) and my mom says that dad brings home "friends from work" and the way she puts it, if I were single and visiting I wouldn't be single for very long! Plenty of good looking, hard-working men and not enough women...........My mom has a weird sense of humor, but she's not kidding!
Of course, you MUST love the outdoors if you live there. My dad is constantly shoveling snow and working on their vehicles - at least 7 months out of the year, preparing them for the cold. He just bought himself a new snowmobile and he is an avid hunter and salmon fisherman. My mom is outdoorsy too, so it works well for them. I have no plans on visiting any time soon. I enjoy not having to deal with snow where I am at.
I hope this helps you a little bit. The further you go from the city the cheaper the housing. My parents want to move back to Eagle River,AK, but don't think they could get a decent house for the price they are asking in that particular area.
I'll tell you this. If I were going to move there I certainly wouldn't go far from Anchorage unless you want to live in the middle of nowhere! At least in Anchorage (or near Anchorage), you have full access to the airport where you could get on a plane and get away if you need to which is what my mom does often. I see her "all the time" even though she lives there. She flies out a lot! And that is because no one in the family goes to visit them.......Hope this helps!
Following up on not answering the phone
I have read the posts. This is a forum for all to post any and everything. By myself mostly, I have raised 2 children, bought my own house, cars, taken nice vacations with the kids usually to Club Med and the like when they were younger and to say am I not that smart to have asked such a question, this is insulting for a person even to imply that. Others on here post about marital infidelities, problems with in-laws, kids and the like. I asked for suggestions- nothing was written in concrete I had to use. I started MTing long before we worked out of our homes- by the time I was able to work from home the kids were in their 30s and 20s, grown! I had to work to make a living so in the summers rather than having to go to daycare, they visited relatives. (Peope even asked when time for bingo- it was directly across my home from me- started 8:30 so yes in the summer I was able to go). My daughter (who by the way I am having dinner with tonight) told me about a month or so ago her childhood was "idyllic." I said really- she told me loved where we lived and she had a wonderful childhood. By the way, she has this rule and I am not allowed to call HER home before 12 on a weekend so she can sleep in. Again my asking her over and over to just ask me if I am upset should stand but this is something that continues with her. The person who said they listened to their father telling stories over and over again- when I do this, not aware that I am repeating, my daughter says - mama, you've told me that before. What works in 1 family does not necessarily work in another! I am soooo thankful working as much as I have in life- now I have found out next year when I start drawing my money at full retirement age from SS that it will be around 2,000 per month- by the way I am not planning on retiring- plan to continue working as long as I can because those are just my ethics and the way I have always been. I will always be their mother, true but they are not my entire life now- they are a portion like I am a portion of theirs. I think lots that post here are younger and true enough when the kids are young and such it is different than when they leave home and have their own lives. I don’t smoke, drink or do drugs, never brought strange guys home to stay the nights and did a darn good job with my kids. As far as my son, you only do so much and when your children are grown, not your responsibility how they decide to behave, good, bad or otherwise. Sure I would love to see him but when I said closing the bank back in 2000, the visits, telephone calls, etc. slowed down a lot. Think what you want- people do- but as for me, I have no regrets at all really about the entirety of my life, past and present.
phone covers
Have you seen the phone cover plates they make for phones? They have some adorable ones--tons to choose from. That would hide any scratches you have on your current phone. My husband has a Dodge cover on his and my son a Chevy one. They love them.
cell phone
I have 4 phones on my bill. We pay $9.00/month extra for unlimited texting for my son, otherwise our bill would probably be that high. Our bill with 4 phones and extra for the texting is $90.
The phone is yours, don't hand it in.
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Lucy, I would definitely be on the phone sm
with those people demanding an explanation!!. Especially since you live in an apartment -- there should be no reason why your bill would increase 6 times over, unless they hiked their rate ridiculously!!
Who talks on the phone after ....sm
husband comes home from work? I talk on the phone whether my husband is home from work or not. If someone calls I do not think that I am being rude if I talk to them. Now some people won't talk on the phone if their husband is at home. They say it is taking away time from them being with each other. Different strokes for different folks I guess. My husband feels the same way I do. He says why should we sit here and be so stuck up each others a$$ that we don't talk on the phone to a friend?
Does anyone else keep getting phone calls
from 877 numbers and 800 numbers but no identifying info, the phone will say unlisted number, and other times the phone will say 000-000-0000 as the telephone number, and other times it will say private name, private number, and when you pick up nobody is there.
I've been getting these calls 4 or 5 times a day. I let it go through to answering service and nothing. Surely after 3 months of this they would get tired and stop calling.
I really have to figure out how to have these numbers blocked but in the meantime it drives me buggy.
ask them for their home phone
I always ask them for their home phone, and tell them I will get back to them after I get the kids to bed.
However, I get the ones where there is nobody there too! Very annoying.
I like my charter.net and my phone sm
service too. As far as customer service, I think they are kind of hateful but they are no worse than AT&T. Everytime I called AT&T I got somebody in India. At least, so far, everyone at charter has been American! To me thats worth dealing with some hateful customer reps once in a while.
Jitterbug phone
Hello everyone,
I am considering getting my dad a Jitterbug phone for Father's Day. He is 82 years old and he needs something simple, no bells or whistles, and this appears to be perfect for him, but just wanted to know if anyone has one or knows someone with one and their experience with this particular phone before I purchase.
Thanks in advance!
Just ordered his phone!
My dad is the same with regards to modern technology. He does not even own a computer and I think he believes the "internet" is some entity that is not to be trusted LOL He still actually drives to his bank to take care of any business! Maybe your mom and my dad can hook up
A whistle kept by the phone always worked for me!
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Another phone related post....
Here is a neat site that gives suggestions for how to bypass prompts and reach a human at a number of US-based companies. It also lists the 800 phone numbers for companies like Amazon.com and Columbia House music club and others that are seemingly very difficult to find!
http://www.gethuman.com/us/
What is your cell phone co.? I'm shopping around sm
Our family uses TracFone. My daughter is trying to convince me to go to something different. I need to keep costs down, but would like any info on something that includes texting and some free anytime calls. What are your experiences and what does it cost you a month for a family plan? Thanks.
How much does it cost you for TV, Internet and Phone
I'm around $190.00 ;-(
No cell phones please...
Oh and who do we have.
Phone: Verizon
Internet: CableVision
TV: CableVision
You are being ripped off big time. Get on the phone
I've got those 3,but not from same companies, for under $100.00.
Cell phone arguments
I was in line behind a woman who was talking to her child on her cell phone. She said she would be home about 10 minutes, could she talk to Daddy? Daddy got on the phone and she proceeded to rip him a new one rather loudly in a matter of seconds. Really see no need to air that kind of thing in public.
phone call, email, when there's a will.....
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Do us a favor and hide the phone, please! : (
And can I ask why? Is it just because he is a "male" or what? Unbelievable.
Oh, & the phone one where the girl talks to mom
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Oh yeah - the phone rings
and he tells his shrink it's his mom ... "I'll put it on speaker."
HA!
Nuisance 800 phone calls
Does anybody have ideas on how to stop unwanted phone calls? There is an 866 number that calls literally a dozen times a day, obviously computer generated as I pick it up and no one is there. It's incredibly annoying, not scary or anything. Nobody ever leaves a message, and it has me running to look at the caller-ID an extra twelve or so times a day, just to see that it's them again. Has anybody (or everybody) else had this problem, and how did you deal with it? Thanks!
Does anyone use Suddenlink phone service? sm
I am just curious if anybody has any thoughts about this. TIA
SuddenLink phone service
Hey Becky,
I am considering it as my bill would be so much cheaper not to mention convenient/paying all one bill for cable/phone and internet. Where are you located? Alexandria Louisiana
ty...problem not the phone bill though...psm
We are fortunate that we have unlimited texts, so the problem isn't the phone bill. The problem is I feel he is running his life into a ditch. I know he has to make his own mistakes but we raised him better than to be rude, disrespectful, and lie. At least I thought we did :(
I know they say you have to let your kids make their own mistakes but it is so hard to do that when you know disaster is on its way.
The only real problem with taking is phone away is he will be 2 hours away and I won't have any way to contact him or him us at any time. They don't even put phones in the dorms these days.
I was at a football game last night and his girlfriend was there texting away to him. I heard her tell her friend "I am talking to him on AIM since we can't talk on the phone anymore." Which meant she can't text him (we set him a limit of 200 a day) so he is sitting in his room talking to her on the computer instead. I can't stop it. There is no way I can take away his computer. I just have to let him do what he's gonna do at this point I guess........thanks for the help! Any more advice would be greatly appreciated.
I really do appreciate any help!
Anyone ever tried Vonage the phone service? sm
I was looking into trying Vonage for a phone service. After reading about it, it seems like it would work fine. But I am still concerned about all of the connections and processes it has to go through just to get a phone call. I currently have cable modem so that would be okay. I was just wondering if it works as well as they say it does, what are the "hidden" startup costs, and please tell me everything you can. I hate anything with contracts and this is just something I don't really know anything about. Thanks!
Depending on the phone company, you can..sm
block all extras being charged on a child's phone. When my daughter was in high school, I turned off text messages and all media. Now my youngest son has text only because I now have a family package deal but he is blocked from downloading anything else.
Regarding digital phone messages
Can anyone here tell me how I can download messages from my digital phone answering machine to a disk, computer, Zune MP3 player, or other separate device, or if this is even possible with a digital phone that did not come with that capability?
The phone is a Siemens Gigaset 4015 and is about 8 years old. One of the messages I am wanting to download is a precious message that my son left about 3 years ago and I would really like to be able to make sure I do not lose it.
TIA! 
dsl is through phone line. cable..sm
in my opinion, is better and faster, and generally uses fiber optic lines. You can still have "outages" though, but not often. I much prefer cable. more bandwidth. have fun!
Are you sure it was him? Does someone else have access to the cell phone?
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Straight or gay phone sex line?
Just asking because you said he turns you down, maybe it was a gay chat line.
it is awfully peculiar that he used your cell phone..sm
No offense, but he either purposely wanted you to see this or is extremely moronic. I think you deserve better. That is not what someone does to their significant other if they truly love them.
Close down the cell phone
I bought a cell phone from Radio Shack. It's pay as you go. I'd play innocent to him and say...oh no, someone must have gotten a hold of our phone number because there is over $150 of charges to some phone sex place. Then tell him your going to the police to fill out a fraud report. If he then admits to it you should tell him that if he wants to do that (call sex places) fine, but he should respect you enough to tell you about it. Then I'd have a serious conversation about our future together and then tell him if he wants to continue to buy his own cell phone with pay as you go and he can work the extra hours to pay for the bill.
Should I just quit answering the phone at all?
My children are grown and out of the home. I was on my cellphone today talking long distance, my daughter calls on my land phone and I answered. I have caller ID but did not put on my specs so could not tell who it was, just answered. I don’t get that many calls, mostly people selling things. Anyway, noticed she seemed out of sorts, in a curt voice telling me to call her back. When I finished I called back and asked her what was her problem. She tells me I sounded like I was angry, upset or whatever. I have told her repeatedly- if you think I am upset- ask me and I will tell you- that does not happen- she just assumes that. I told her she and her brother will never know me, never as they both assumed the same (I am estranged from her brother) Her brother used to tell me to "calm down" and I again and again and again said not upset and then that would tick me off that he continued to say that. My children are in their 30s and 40s- I have been married to my present husband now for 8 years (although I have known him 25+) and he knows me much better than they ever did. Any suggestions? Should I just disconnect the phone? Should I let everything come on answering machine?? My pet peeve in life is to be accused wrongly and yet it continues with her. I guess could let answering machine pick it up for a few weeks and I guess that would worry the heck out of her then ----- or maybe not?
I have had my phone number for 6+ years.
When I first received it I kept receiving calls from agencies for a specific person. I told them this was not their number, etc., and had no idea who this person was. After a while, they stopped calling; but now after 6 years I am getting them again for new debts, so this person is using my number (which may have been their old one) still. I just tell them I have had this number xxx years and this person repeatedly uses it for their info and eventually they quit calling. I did have to speak with a manager once, and after that they stopped.
On phone call: Yes, this is her. ARGH! Should be: This is SHE sm
and I was taught (112 years ago in school) that it is she and her brother not her and her brother. I know it is not always her or she, but I am not clear which is which. I often default to my elementary school English lessons.
could be from online access from phone
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Trak phone users --
I'm thinking about getting my 11-yo son a trak phone for Christmas. He's been bugging me for a cell phone and I'm thinking this may be the way to go. He often earns money mowing grass, in addition to birthday/holiday money that he receives throughout the year. He's getting to the age where he likes to go to the ball field with his friends or just hang out at public places, and I'd like to be able to keep tabs on him without giving him my cell phone.
So, my question is, can you text with Trak phones? I don't plan on him doing a lot of texting, but I know sometimes on my cell phone, I can't get enough signal to call out but I can text. Do the minutes expire on Trak phones?
Dear idioot on the other end of the phone
who's called three times in the last ten minutes.
NO I do not know how long he will be on the other line...I'm psychotic, not psychic.
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