Me too--
Posted By: Lucy on 2009-01-23
In Reply to: My father died when I was 21. - Lllls
My daddy died in a car accident when I was 19. I was the only child. I had to make funeral arrangements, receive visitors, accept food (this is the South), deal with the insurance company, hospital, lawyer (because he died without a will), etc. because my mother was in shock, locked her bedroom door, and would not even see people other than her sister and brother, and someone had to do it. It was an awful time.
The one thing I remember is many of my friends and co-workers, who were all about my age, did not call, send flowers or a card, or come to the funeral. They later told me, "I wanted to call you, but I didn't know what to say; didn't go to the funeral because I didn't know how to act." I've never forgotten those who DID contact me. Some were people I knew only slightly and just said, "I'm so sorry." You do feel so alone and appreciate just an acknowledgement of your loss and a simple "I'm sorry." I also learned early to deal with death, shock and loss.
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