My MIL...

Posted By: tinkerbell on 2007-11-20
In Reply to: Again, boy sounds just like my MIL -- once we -sm -

after much begging and pleading with me to allow her to have my son over for the day when he was an infant (yes I was overprotective as a young mom)...I reluctantly agreed to a full day visit. I got all of his bottles ready for the day, everything else that she would need, etc...Went over the instructions with her that he was only to have formula and not juice...Well...at the end of the visit I noted that 2 of the bottles were untouched and that he had apparently missed 2 feedings...She said "Oh no...I gave him Mountain Dew and some mashed potatoes and boy did he love it." I nearly had a heart attack but kept my feelings contained and stressed to her that he should NEVER have Mountain Dew in his bottle and he was not to have adult foods yet either. She just laughed and said I was too protective. A few months later when I decided to give her a shot again at babysitting..my son was teething...She told me he was no problem for her because she had rubbed whiskey on his gums. AAAHHHHHH.... I remained respectful to this woman over the years, tried to re-educate her gently as to the way things are done now, etc...but she would continue to laugh it off and do whatever she pleased. Looking back now...may be this is why she treats my daughter differently, because I didn't allow her to babysit her until she was old enough to tell me what was going on. I lived and learned with my son and didn't want to go through it again with my daughter. In any case, my only regret was giving this woman unsupervised visits with my son....I also found out when my son was 6 that he and his step-grandfather (her husband) would sit and watch "boobie movies" but "it was okay because he covered one eye!" AHHHHHH

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Should I make the kids sleep over at Grandma & Grandpa's? (sm) - Anon - definitely anon!! :-)
- I have been reading all these posts sm - trose
- No I wouldn't make them. - Mel
  - thank you. nm - marilyn
- Ladies - I know this strikes a nerve with some of you (sm) - OP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  - I know how you feel, my MIL I know has wished - sm -
- grandma's house - marilyn
- Why do they cry and beg to not go? - Maybe a compromise?
- Would break my heart if my grandkids didn't want to come over. (sm) - SM
  - I am sure in would break my MILs heart too but - sm -
  - I'm so glad you have that type of relationship! That's how it should be. (sm) - OP
    - You don�t have to say it but your posts - Hmmm
      - I disagree...I think you are looking too far into this... - MtMom30
- Boy sounds just like my MIL except we have never - sm -
- As a side note, when son was 3 WEEKS old, she asked if he could sleep over! (sm) - OP
  - I hear you - marilyn
    - For a child to be allowed to call a g'mother a ..itch - Let me see
      - Yeah, well once in a while there are people who really are itches LOL (nm) - He's an adult silly
        adult boy - marilyn
      - He is 33 years old - marilyn
        No matter his age, he is your child, right? - Let me see
        Oh for Pete's sakes...the kid is a grown man now...he can state his opinion.. - MtMom30
        of course he is my child - marilyn
  - Again, boy sounds just like my MIL -- once we -sm -
    - My MIL... - tinkerbell
      - You married her son, right? - Wondering?
        No...actually he was pretty neglected... - tinkerbell
        Well people do forget - even though my kids are young (sm) - We're human
        I have no young kids but could guarantee - Unbelievable
        You THINK you remember until it comes down to it (sm) - OP
        smart comments - marilyn
        Yes, I do...what were you rambling about? (nm) - OP
- I don't think I would make them (sm) - elaine
- If they are active in their community, then why - Hmmm
  - It would be different is the mother was asking the MIL to watch the kids... - MtMom30
    - It seems like she is trying to plan - Hmmm
      - No its not unreasonable and I do want them to spend time with her (sm) - OP
        sounds like the children may have - tinkerbell
        They do have some of that..but (sm) - OP
        It sounds like they are like - tinkerbell
        This is 100% correct and like I stated earlier - Hmmm
        Well...I try. I go to every family function she invites me to (sm) - OP
        Been there, done that. Sounds like a whole lot of miscommunication on sm - Hey
        It's not really a fair comparison - that may be what she said to you (sm) - OP
        I am not disputing that I should take them there (sm) - OP
        Do they spend time with your parents - Hmmm
        An example for you....(sm) - OP
        Those of you criticizing me, did you read this? (sm) - OP
        My mom is 8 hours away - but they happily stay with her (sm) - OP
        The writing is on the wall, so to speak - Hmmm
        Well, if I am it is unintentional - I know they won't live forever (sm) - OP
        don't beat yourself up about this.... - tinkerbell
        Oh I so disagree with you - What I did
        See, my own mother probably feels like you (sm) - OP
        But now doesn�t happen anymore - What I did
        So I probably need to make even more effort to see my own (sm) - OP
- Have to add...kinda funny to me (sm) - Anon - definitely anon!! :-)
- I wouldn't make them go... - MtMom30
  - Yes, it is hard to talk to them sometimes! (sm) - Anon - definitely anon!! :-)
- Im a grammy - zzoemonkeyz
  - Thanks for not telling me I'm a bad person!! (sm) - Anon - definitely anon!! :-)
    - My grandchildren bypassed me in earlier years - What I did
      - Be glad she offers sm - anonalso
        Your story is mine exactly- - What I did
        You're right (sm) - OP

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