My child got in trouble at school.

I need some opinions from other moms.  My little 5-year old dd got in trouble at school and was put in time-out.  First, she was talking to her other friends during a movie that they were watching, then she was talking and playing during nap time.  She did not get to go skating or get ice cream like we usually do on Saturday nights.  We went to Lowes to get some things for the house and she found a book that she wanted, I told her no because she acted up in school.  That has been her punishment so far. I am thinking about having her go apologize to the teacher Monday for acting so ugly Friday or would that be too much?

She has been in daycare since 1 year of age and last September she went to Pre-K.  This is the first time anyone has mentioned having any problems with her.  The night before my 15 month old kept us up all night and I know with my 5 year old doesn’t get enough sleep she does act up and I feel that was the real problem, she was tired.

• My child got in trouble at school. - time-out
  • acting up verses disobeying - RAD MT
  • I'd say she has had enough punishments - sm -
  • My experience as a substitute teacher is that this is very normal - Dillybug
  • punishment - maam
    • golly, maybe we should hang her by her thumbs (sm) - respectfully disagree
      • apology - an
    • I agree. I think an apology is very appropriate. - Wannie
  • I think you punished her enough. - MT in MT
  • Agree with other posters, plus... - see message
  • Don't fret over such a - small incident....
  • Sounds like what you've done so far is sufficient - enough for this incident. SM
  • Let it go .... - she's 5! sm
    • I totally agree. Not to minimize your post, but there are far worse - problems than that.
      • Thanks. - time-out

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We moved here to Texas about 2 years ago and have never had any to deal with the kids and school behavioral issues before, but my 14-year-old daughter apparently just had her 5th tardy to a class (she's a talker and I can easily see how's she's distracted getting from locker to classroom) and was given a choice in school today of ISS (in-school-suspension) or take swats.

Swats?  I had no idea they still spanked kids at school.  Didn't that stop happening about 20 years ago?  I talked to one mom earlier and apparently in Texas it's still legal and she didn't think twice about it and said her own kids had been paddled in school and she thought it was just fine.

It's not that I'm trying to get my daughter out of her punishment, but apparently since I didn't sign a "paddling permission" slip, she has to choose the school suspension thing.  Though she brought the slip for me to sign tonight if I choose.   She apparently actually wants the swats because she says that's what all the other kids do and (quote) it doesn't hurt.  She says she doesn't want to miss class anyway and it's dumb to miss classes if she doesn't have to.

While I agree with her on the missing class part, I can't help but wonder what the point of a punishment of a paddling is IF it the kids say it doesn't hurt AND they choose it instead of in-school suspension.  It seems so barbaric.  Do they really think smacking the kids with a piece of wood is going to keep them in line?  I suppose it worked when we were kids but I thought our society was past that now.

So I'm just wondering what you all would do (need opinions).  As I said, I talked with one mom tonight that said just go ahead and let her be paddled, it's no biggy.  I asked my daughter if she thinks that will keep her from being so chit-chatty and not making it to class on time and she just shrugged her shoulders.  How can the kids be so calm about the whole thing? 

I hate parenting sometimes!  So do I sign the "no paddling" slip or not?  

If so, how did you go about figuring out how to teach them? 

Our daughter was in public school but we moved her to a private school at the first of the year because she was very behind in the public school and they refused to give her extra services.  Since moving her to the private school we have found out that she does have learning disabilities, which means that she would need to return to the public school since the private school doesn't have special education services available.  She has learned a lot while in the private school because of the small class size and a teacher that spends a lot of time with her and we know that she has learned much more than she would have if she had stayed in the public school.

Now the public school is wanting her to repeat the grade when she returns there in the fall.  Yes, the very same public school that refused to help us before and actually blew off my questioning if she had learning disabilities now only has a "repeat the grade" attitude.  The problem I have with that is that she has proven on testing done at Sylvan learning center that she is academically half way into her current grade, so if she repeats the grade she will be bored for half of the year because she knows that material.

Therefore we're considering home schooling but don't know how effective this might be with her learning disabilities.  Does anyone else do this?  How did you find out about the techniques you needed to teach your child so that they could learn?  We know that she has an average IQ so that's not a problem - it's just getting her brain to process the information correctly.

Thank you.

First, the facts.  My child has retinitis pigmentosa.  His vision is 20/200 without glasses and his best corrected vision is 20/70.  I have taken him to the specialists at the University of Michigan and the prognosis is not promising.  He is only 8 years old and I don't feel he needs to know the true extent of what his future might hold.  He inherited this through me, as my parents were both blind, and this is a congenital defect. 

He came home from school yesterday and informed me they were all tested by the Health Department with an eye exam, which, of course, he failed miserably.  He informed the technician that he could not see the chart, so she told him "just guess."  Then he was asked if his glasses were old, that he might need new ones, and he informed me that she would be sending me a letter stating he needs an official eye exam and new glasses.   

So, before I blew my top, I went to the school office this morning.  I asked to see my child's emergency contact sheet, which includes a section regarding existing medical conditions.  There it was, plain as day, stating all of his ophthamologic conditions.  I feel this information should have been checked by their staff before they administered and unnecessary test on my child.  I informed the principal that I did not want him subjected to any more visual testing (which they plan to repeat in two years).  They didn't seem to understand why I would not want this free testing.  I asked them if they would perform a hearing test on a child with a hearing aid -- then they finally got my point.  I think permission slips before testing might be appropriate. 

That I think they believe her that they cannot do anything without her.  I think she just loves to bully.  It gives her some sort of power or something.  I think that is why she kept insisting she look after my kids while I work.  Normally I am a submissive type that is a target for bullys but when it comes to my precious girls, I draw the line. I have become better and taking up for myself and especially my babies.   She had some ugly things to say about me too from what I understand when I told her no that the girls and I were happy with the child care they were receiving at the daycare.

I have been wondering, if I called the CPS if they would make the parents put the children in a regular daycare or something better then what they are getting.  She still feeds that 2 year-old and insists that the DIL still feed that 2 yo baby food because Aunt does not want and is not going to cook.  DH told me that when I left the room that she told the little boy that he was going to get a dose of Tylenol because she needed to get some sleep.  It is a shame that she treats him like he is a burden. 

It seems like over the last several years the hair on my forearms has gotten darker and darker. I'm so self-conscious about it, I feel like it makes me nice and mannish looking :(

Here's my question: would it help to put hydrogen peroxide on my arm hair everyday? Bleaching is such a hassle for a large area like that, and I don't have the money now for laser removal. I think hydrogen peroxide lightens hair, but would it make a noticeable difference on my arms?

I wish you, your daughter, and your family well. I mean that sincerely. You need advice from an attorney -- not from a lot of us speculating on a web site. I worked in child abuse for many years before MT work. It is doubtful (my opinion only) that you will be successful in bringing charges against this young man because of the age of consent of your daughter. She was not raped; she had sexual relations with him willingly. IF you are successful - please be prepared for the price you are going to make your daughter pay. She will have to testify at his trial and the defense attorney will make her look like the worst XXX in the world. It will be horrible for her - at best. Please think long and hard about what you are about to do to your daughter.  

I would keep the lines of communication open and drop it. You will be so sad if you put your daughter through this only to find that -at most- the boyfriend will receive probation. Remember my words, "Being a winner does NOT mean you win." Sometimes the cost is very, very high Mom.

Been There As A Prosecution Witness 1,000,000 Times  and now an MT because of it.

Lilly

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And Dina adds that had the photos been inappropriate, Lindsay's sister Ali would not have visited the set. "Trust me," Dina tells PEOPLE, "I wouldn't have sent my 14-year-old to the set [if the shoot was in bad taste]. And obviously Lindsay wouldn't do anything with her sister there, that was risqué."

What a joke! I don't care what icon - I would never encourage or be okay with my daughters ever doing that!!

IMHO, many people have blinders on. Still buy like crazy, charge everything, drive brand new cars with big monthly payments, have all the toys, new everything and then only pay minimums on their CC payments or miss a house payment or two and think everyone lives that way. People need to learn how to save money, plain and simple. DH and I both work, make just over six figures, have only the house payment, cars paid for (not new ones but don't care to impress anyone with our cars), no CC debt, gas prices aren't hurting us too much and we can still take nice vacations 2-3 times a year. Most people these days live like there is no tomorrow, don't bother to save for retirement, try to keep up with the Jones' and are miserable. We make a nice living, live well within our means and are content. Do we want new things...sure, but we pay cash for what we want. Nothing irks me more than when someone charged to the hilt on credit cards complains that the debt collectors are calling them because they are behind in payments. Most people whould be able to ride out a recession if they had some money in the bank.  

And please, no one comment on how THEIR daughter is so good and would never do anything wrong, how you have to trust kids and give them their space, or state that this is a different time than when we were young. 90% of 16 year olds are ridiculously immature. Oh, and even good girls get pregnant, drink and take drugs, even if they are on the honor roll, have a part time job and help around the house. Be a good mother and say no...you don't have to justify your decision..you are the mother.

Sounds like the girl is crying for help, but mom is shacked up with her boyfriend and doesn't want her daughter to mess up her meal ticket. How sad.

I took it for 1.5 days and started getting odd, painful muscle spasms in the back of one thigh.  I looked it up and saw that was not only a side effect but apparently a serious side effect, so called the doc to get something else.  He had never heard of that reaction!!  I still refused to take it and got something else.  Then had to go to a specialist for different problem.  I asked him about that side effect with Cipro, and he had never heard of it.  I know they think I'm nuts, but I know that's what it was.  The spasm frequency slowed one day after stopping Cipro, but it didn't quit entirely for several days.  I won't ever take it again.