My hubby has no boxer boundaries. He will go down the street if he wants!
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I got my dog Walter at a boxer rescue and he looked like a boxer pup but I quickly discovered (sm)
He was either a mutant boxer or not even part of the litter I picked him from. He had the jowly muzzle all the pups had, but he was huge. He seemed to be the same age as the rest of the litter, you could tell by the eyes and the teeth, but he was kind of like the big clutz of the group. But oh so cute. He turned out to be huge and like a lab/great dane mix. He has the short fur of a boxer and the big chest, and I now think he either was an orphan puppy who got put in with the litter or mom had another mate. Either way, I am so happy he is the one I chose, he is such an interesting character and a really stunning and majestic dog. Still a clutz though, he falls down over himself on the beach and stairs. And he is so tall he prefers to sit on top of the stairs on the deck with his front paws a couple steps down. But I've always had rescue dogs and they are so special.
Walter, I posted below. I am thinking now they either put him in with the litter
I'm with you--there should be boundaries...
I love my mom, but she would not have me act this way, nor would I put up with it from her.
Mine Has No SweatPant Boundaries
He would even wear them to church if he hadn't been shamed regularly by our style-conscious oldest child, LOL!
I disagree - there absolutely should be boundaries
Especially in a case like this, as not only is Mom crashing her vacation plans, it sounds like Mom wants her to foot the bill. That's uncool in any family relationship. My mom was my rock as well and I miss her desperately since she died last year, but if she had pulled a stunt like this, I'm not sure what I would have done.
OP's in a tough situation. If you tell your mom no she can't come, like it seems we all think you should do, you're in for hurt feelings and possibly a period of not talking to your mom for a while. That may or may not be a bad thing.
If you are uncomfortable being straightforward with your mom about this, how about going to Dad and telling him the situation. Would that work?
You're going to need to buck up and tell her though. You're either going to have your mom po'd at you, or your going to have your husband po'd at you if she ends up going. Personally, I'd rather have Mom po'd than Hubby.
extended family, boundaries, and etiquette...sm
to me it sounds like your mom violated your boundaries (perhaps without realizing it). you need to reestablish your healthy boundaries. you tried subtle and subtle didn't work. now you need to be direct; kind but direct. use the "i feel|when you|i want" technique. how did you FEEL when your parents invited themselves along on your hard-earned vacation? if you can figure out the FEELING, then you can tell her, "Mom, Dad, I love you and want to spend time with you. But I felt *_?__* when you invited yourselves on my family vacation. I want to spend this week with just my husband and my kids. It's really important to me and not negotiable. If you want to plan an extended-family vacation, then I'm willing to save more time off and more money to do that because I would love to go on a vacation with you; but not right now. Not this trip." How do you think your mom/dad would respond to this? Accepting? Dysfunctional? Deaf? =)
I have a Boxer
and they are a whole lot of work, but they are wonderful! As puppies especially, they can be quite a handful, but they are the most loving dogs I have every seen. I'm sure the people just want to make sure that you can handle taking care of a big/active dog. Thank you for rescuing one!!!
We have a 10-week-old boxer now...
have had a lab/mix in the past...
Is your pit mixed with boxer?
He looks like my boxer a bit
My very first boxer as an adult had kennel
cough. I rescued her from a pet shop under similar circumstances. She had been there with her brother and her brother died. I refused to let her die in a pet store so brought her home took her to the vet and got her started on medication. The first month was rough, there were nights I just sat in bed and held her, she felt so miserable. She finally got through it and after that rocky start she lived to the age of 13.5 with not another medical problem the rest of her life.
My boxer pup just loves the snow as
well; he is the first boxer I have had that I actually have to make come in the house. He runs and slides he buries his head in it, eats it, just has a gay old time. My golden who just died about 8-9 weeks ago loved snow as well, he would dive in and make doggie snow angels. :-)
Dempsey is a purebred boxer and Boo
we think is shepherd/greyhound mix. She has the shepherd ears but the body of a greyhound or Pharoh hound (good guess Misha). The person I got her from told me she was a shep/dane mix that weighed 100 lbs, so I was suprised to see this 60-pound smaller dog. She is sweet and is slowly getting used to her new home.
This is our 5-month-old boxer, Bettis
nm
He is adorable...he just has a boxer face to me...
not pointy like some pits are...
Funny--everyone is afraid of my boxer...
and he wouldn't hurt a fly, but the old lady (13 years old) would not allow anyone in the house and will bite! She knocked over the meter reader once (when he came in the yard alone, after I told his company to schedule, so I could put her away--he thought he could give her a milk bone and she would be okay. Really, she just ate the milk bone and then attacked him) He said he laid in the yard for three hours because she wouldn't let him get up until I got home. She did not bite him, though, which is lucky because that was in California and I am sure they would have put her down.
my boxer chews up blinds....
Before we started crating him when we leave, he chewed up at least 8 window blinds.
Love my boxer, too!!! He is WONDERFUL...
with the toddler!
Down the street
After my place supposedly okay, left and went down the interstate and wondered why the traffic so slow. Found out. Less that 2 miles away huge pine trees toppled and crews cleaning them off the side of roads and the highway. This county is sorta like tornado alley but still just try to have the TV on so can monitor in case I have to get in the room with my cats.
300 Oak Street
K-Mart, Cincinnati, Ohio - Rain Man - it was the only place to buy underwear. .
Street hockey
My nephew plays street hockey (ice hockey rules but played on rollerblades). Much cheaper than learning to ice skate or trying to get time at the rink. Not sure if it is through church, school or the Y, but despite the name, he is not playing in traffic.
The people across the street from
have pumpkins sitting on their front porch as well as their outdoor Chirstmas lights up. They don't turn them on, but they are defenitiely up.
On the street corner.
The whole gang used to hang out at this one street corner and wait until the guys came by in the cars so we could go for rides. My DH came with 2 friends one night in a 53 Studebaker his friend owned. He offered to take me and my best friend out to see his 53 Ford Crown Vic that he was rebuilding himself. We went to his place and he started working on it while we were there. I jumped right in since he couldn't reach some parts of the engine, crawled up on the engine (in my white jeans no less), and helped tighten some bolts and whatever else had to be done.
I would suggest going to safe social dances, picnics, sport activities (if you're into that), etc. Don't hang out with a bunch (no more than 3) women. That might scare a guy off.
The man who lived across the street.
We lived in cul-de-sac of 10 homes. The whole neighborhood knew each other. This man thought he was the boss of everyone, told everyone how to raise their kids, keep their yards, take care of their pets. He was physically and verbally abusive to his wife and kids. He was absolutely awful.
Someone called me one day to say that man had liver cancer and had less than 6 months to live. I thought couldn't have happened to a nicer person. He died on New Year's Day 2004 and as we watched the ambulance leave his house with his body in it, everyone (including his family) gave a sigh of relief. Only 6 people attended the funeral. Isn't it horrible to think that way about someone? He was only 52.
The people that used to live across the street
from my parents one Yard Of The Month from a local garden club one time. My father snuck over there one night and stole it from their yard to put in ours. Thank heavens they had a good sense of humor.
A husky used to live up the street from me
and when he and his father would come by I lots of times would go out to ooh and ahh. Absolutely beautiful dogs. What town in Tenn is this (ole Tenn girl myself). These babies are just too acute, arent they?
no letter p was allowed on this street
When my dd was first learning her alphabet we were driving down the street
one day and she asks me why no letter p was allowed on this street. It took me a minute to realize she was talking about a no parking sign.
Google can now see via street view INTO HOMES
Google Zooms In Too Close for Some
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Mary Kalin-Casey and her cat, Monty, at home in Oakland, Calif. A Google map service can zoom in so closely on buildings that it has caused Ms. Kalin-Casey and others to complain to the company and on blogs.
Published: June 1, 2007
OAKLAND, Calif., May 31 — For Mary Kalin-Casey, it was never about her cat.
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Monty the cat was visible in a photo showing a street in Oakland.
Ms. Kalin-Casey, who manages an apartment building here with her husband, John Casey, was a bit shaken when she tried a new feature in Google’s map service called Street View. She typed in her address and the screen showed a street-level view of her building. As she zoomed in, she could see Monty, her cat, sitting on a perch in the living room window of her second-floor apartment.
“The issue that I have ultimately is about where you draw the line between taking public photos and zooming in on people’s lives,” Ms. Kalin-Casey said in an interview Thursday on the front steps of the building. “The next step might be seeing books on my shelf. If the government was doing this, people would be outraged.”
Her husband quickly added, “It’s like peeping.”
Ms. Kalin-Casey first shared her concerns about the service in an e-mail message to the blog Boing Boing on Wednesday. Since then, the Web has been buzzing about the privacy implications of Street View — with varying degrees of seriousness. Several sites have been asking users to submit interesting images captured by the Google service, which offers panoramic views of miles of streets around San Francisco, New York, Las Vegas, Miami and Denver.
On a Wired magazine blog, for instance, readers can vote on the “Best Urban Images” that others find in Street View. On Thursday afternoon, a picture of two young women sunbathing in their bikinis on the Stanford campus in Palo Alto, Calif., ranked near the top. Another showed a man scaling the front gate of an apartment building in San Francisco. The caption read, “Is he breaking in or has he just locked himself out?”
Google said in a statement that it takes privacy seriously and considered the privacy implications of its service before it was introduced on Tuesday. “Street View only features imagery taken on public property,” the company said. “This imagery is no different from what any person can readily capture or see walking down the street.”
Google said that it had consulted with public service organizations and considered their feedback in developing the service, which allows users to request that a photo be removed for privacy reasons. A Google spokeswoman said the company had received few such requests.
For instance, Google worked with the Safety Net Project at the National Network to End Domestic Violence, which represents shelters for victims of domestic violence nationwide, to remove pictures of those shelters. “They reached out in advance to us so we could reach out to our network,” said Cindy Southworth, founder and director of the organization.
Not everyone believes the service raises serious privacy concerns.
“You don’t have a right to ‘privacy’ over what can be seen while driving the speed limit past your house,” wrote a Boing Boing reader, identified as Rich Gibson, in response to Ms. Kalin-Casey’s complaint. Others dismissed her as a crazy cat lady.
Edward A. Jurkevics, a principal at Chesapeake Analytics, a consulting firm specializing in mapping and imagery, said that courts have consistently ruled that people in public spaces can be photographed. “In terms of privacy, I doubt if there is much of a problem,” Mr. Jurkevics said.
Still, the issues raised by the service, thorny or merely funny, were perfect blog fodder. The hunt was on for quirky or potentially embarrassing images that could be found by wandering the virtual streets of the service.
There was the picture of a clearly identifiable man standing in front of an establishment offering lap dances and other entertainment in San Francisco. The site LaudonTech.com showed an image of a man entering a pornographic bookstore in Oakland, but his face was not visible.
Others pointed to pictures of cars whose license plates were clearly readable. One pointed to images captured inside the Brooklyn Battery Tunnel, a controversial location for photography in this high-security era. On Lombard Street in San Francisco, various tourists who had come to photograph the famously curvy street were photographed themselves.
Google said that the images had been captured by vehicles equipped with special cameras. The company took some of the photographs itself and purchased others from Immersive Media, a data provider.
“I think that this product illustrates a tension between our First Amendment right to document public spaces around us, and the privacy interests people have as they go about their day,” said Kevin Bankston, a staff lawyer at the Electronic Frontier Foundation, a digital rights group. Mr. Bankston said Google could have avoided privacy concerns by blurring people’s faces.
Back at her apartment, Ms. Kalin-Casey acknowledged that plenty of information about her — that she manages an apartment complex, that she was an Editor at the film site Reel.com — is already easily accessible through Google and other search engines.
“People’s jobs are pretty public,” she said. “But that doesn’t mean they want a shot of their sofa on Google.” She has asked Google to remove the image of her building, which was still online as of Thursday evening.
When a reporter first arrived to interview her, Monty the cat was visible in the window.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/06/01/technology/01private.html?em&ex=1180843200&en=83156047690c5c2c&ei=5087%0A
S. Street Seaport is on the East River
Something terrible happened today. I hit a dog in the street sm
about a quarter-mile from my house. The owners just leave it in the yard while they go to work - no security fence, nothing. You have to pass a lot of houses until you get to the main street to leave the neighborhood and you also have to go up a big hill. Well, I went up the hill and he was lying in the road taking a nap and I ran him over! it was horrible! I didn't see him - just heard a loud thump. Total and complete accident!
No one was home at the time. He actually got up but I didn't want to go near him. It's a big black lab-looking mix. I know that dogs can get hit and seem okay, but then later die.
I'm not sure what to do! Would you go and tell them? Check on him? Leave him? I'm confused, upset, and still in shock.
Friends across the street put thiers up yesterday. nm
!
I think that's the teenaged neighbor girl across the street.
but I must see if her a$$ crack is hanging out to be sure...
Even though I live on a small, narrow street in a - sm
small town, Google shows not only my front yard and street, it even shows my car parked on the street! Amazing! What I'd like to know is how they take all those photos? When my car is home, so am I (working, as usual), and looking out my window. So I'd like to know how they got the photo without me seeing them do it. (I'm not talking about the aerial satellite pictures, but the street-level views.)
It DOES come in handy! If I'm going to store I haven't been to before, I can scope it out on Google so I know what it looks like and I don't drive past it. I also sometimes use it to look for new bike paths in different towns. (Usually near parks and rivers).
There sure are a lot of fun ways to waste your time on the internet, aren't there?
I know - I've been there recently but I was still dodging panhandlers on the street. nm
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And don't forget the huge hot pretzels and hot dogs at the street carts! :)
x
Google now has a feature where you can see live street scenes. Cool! A PS..don't carry an
s
My ex-hubby had it done.
He wasn't too keen on the idea either. He confided later that it was goofy stuff that bothered him--like what happens if there's an earthquake while he's on the table?
Anyway, he was tender for a day or two, but some Tylenol took care of it.
Actually I ended up having a tubal ligation done after we split up. That was pretty easy, too. They did it with a laparoscope, and used silicone squeeze clips on the tubes rather than cutting them. Easy peasy.
My hubby had one at about 46.
DH had anterior cervical laminectomy 2-3 years ago.
It was scary for me, and it was the only time they kept him overnight. They sent him home after rotator cuff and (of course) knee arthroscopy. The bad thing about Friday surgery is that the office isn't open if you have a question that doesn't seem like enough of an emergency to call about. They made DH a hard cervical collar ahead of time. Be sure they give you 2 sets of the cushion inserts for the collar, because you will want to be able to wash and air-dry one, but not have her without one. Do ask about whether she is to sleep with the collar on. Because DH had a plate put in, after the fact we were told that supposedly the collar was just to remind him to be careful, but he was sleeping with it on for about a week, I guess. Getting up and down out of bed was scary, especially because he wanted to sleep on his side. Very scary to get into that position, but once he was in it he could finally sleep. I was appalled how apneic he sounded at night. He always has a little problem, but with the collar on he was having pretty long pauses. He is a big guy and at risk for that anyway. The scariest thing for me when DH had this and the shoulder surgery is that he is 6 foot 2 inches and big. Me? 5 foot 6 inches and average weight. Thank goodness his mom was there for the shoulder surgery, but I think we did it alone for the neck surgery AFTER he stayed one night in the hospital. Oh, and because of the anterior approach, swallowing was hard for quite a while. Speech also was affected, maybe it was with hoarseness? Can't remember. Due to swelling, his throat was not totally normal again for 6 months after surgery.
You might rather be fat but my hubby
cooked some brown rice yesterday with garlic, red and green peppers, Kokoman sauce and other ingredients he just throws together. This was along with some turkey wings with a sauce that I spooned on the rice and cabbage with peppercorns. I cannot find a restaurant that can come close to his cooking. He never tastes and always hopes that I like it. I am 1 lucky girl. He is very mindful of eating healthy and we very seldom have red meat, once in a great while but his lemon chickens, marinated meats and other things make me really disappointed to eat out and then have inferior food. He says I can do the same. No thanks..... I will not shame myself. When he is gone from home (he drives and away) he fixes salads with his own dressings and OMG, I am just sitting here with a smile on my face. I am sure no one can compare with his foods!!
Hubby
I wonder if he is not looking. One of my daughter’s friends is having a birthday party Sunday. His mother drove by our house to drop off an invitation. We both talked for a while. She is a really an attractive lady. She looks like she could probably model swimsuits. Anyway, she had invited me to go jogging with her because I mentioned I was interested in getting into an exercise program. I am 60 pounds overweight. I also mentioned job burnout and told her I had been thinking about getting out of MT and the medical profession totally and going into something else. She told me that there maybe some job openings at the company she works at because they are expanding. She is also the supervisor of the collections/credit department there and told me of all the wonder benefits the company offers and told me that if I decided I wanted a change, she would put in a good word for me. Later I told H that she was nice. DH said, “I think she wants me (him)” I told him he was full of himself. Bad part is, 8 years ago I would have been jealous but now if he did run off with someone else, I think the sweetest revenge for me would be to let the woman keep him and give her full custody of MIL.
hubby
May be you 2 need to spice things up again. Like go out on dates, etc... It sounds like alot of your gyn issues could be effecting the way you look at sex. I would definitely talk to someone about it. May be there is a pill you can take!! :)
My hubby had 1 and did not like
He is a really neat guy and took so much time just cleaning after 1 use. I know some just use time and time again without cleaning but that is just not him, wants his spic and span each and every time.
I have used, my hubby believe it or not
was able to pull off an entire hair 1 time like that. It is really good for sparse hair and it does cover, comes in all colors and different sizes. He was going to a hatless place (because of his hair loss, he wears his hat all the time) but used that day and no one knew. Great stuff!
What would I do without hubby.
I feel guilty, but I didn't think I'd still be working at this age. My mom was a housewife, even though she had a college degree.
ex-hubby
That's funny - I did the same thing, although my son had NO contact with his father from the time he was 3. When he was getting married, (at 26), I asked him if he wanted me to contact his father. He said his "real" father would be there (my now husband who raised him) and that he didn't want some guy who with one squirt was labeled his "father" to be part of his life.
Afterwards, when he called and wanted to contact my son, I got his phone # and told him I'd have my son contact him if he wanted to. My son wouldn't even let me give him the phone #. Another bunch of time went by and he called again - how he keeps getting my phone number is behond me - first he found me in Connecticut, then Colorado and then Texas (he's in NY). This time he accused me of not giving his phone # to my son and I said I tried, but he didn't want it. He didn't believe me, of course, but I then got rid of my regular phone and got Vonage and I haven't heard from him since. But Ive never been sorry that it worked out this way. Serves him right for being a lousy father.
hubby
ONe thing i have learned is men ALWAYS think it is greener on the other side and come crying back because its not. So what if you have gained weight I am sure he has to. Do you believe he is being faithful to you? Maybe this is his way of feeling guilty for something he did while traveling. Try counseling. It worked for us. We all need to leave our hubbys for a week with the kids and ALL our jobs and let them see how tuff it really is. They feel since we work at home we have the freedom to do everything with time left over!! COME ON! I wish you lots of luck. I would tell him if you really loved me you would deal with me the way that I am. Yes I can try to change but is that really the root of the problem here. Sounds like an excuse! Sorry, but being organized and gaining weight should have nothing to do with if he still loves you or not. Tell him didn't he take the same vows as you did "Till death do us part"
My hubby is
incredibly wonderful. We will be married 20 years in October. We renewed our vows at 10 years (Just the 2 of us at a small chapel, well of corse a minister) and for 20 years the children want to be with us. There is a running joke in my family....My parents say that if we ever divorce, he can come "home".
hubby
ago and demanded my husband see his doctor. He went on Prozac and things were oh, so much better for a long, long time. Now he is off the Prozac, as he was tired of the side effects. We are back to the same crap as before, and I am so weary of it. I don't know what to do. I'm praying for wisdom. He just seems like he hates us all, that we are nothing but a pain in the a$$, and we all tread lightly because of his garbage. Unfair. Hugs to you.
That's where I'm from too, and hubby
was born in WV, but his dad moved them to Indiana when my hubby was very little. DH's dad was the first one in the family not to be a coal miner.
Hubby is a big packer fan, which sure makes my dad happy. The Packers are the only team I'll watch. Brett is adorable. I'm glad he has a super wife (since I can't have him :o>).
your hubby
I feel for you... and the signs seem pretty classic from here suggesting that he most likely has another lady. Cell phones may not work "out there" but somewhere along the way he eats, drinks, sleeps, etc and there are pay phones if nothing else. Your acceptance of his excuses give him the room to do as he pleases and his beating you down keeps you from thinking straight/catching him in his own game. Sounds like you need to dry those eyes and open them to take a good look at reality - then deal. It hurts and bites, but until you deal, nothing changes. If you really want to teach your kids about better relationships, show them the strength to stand for what is true and right.
How old is your hubby?
Mine's in his mid 50s. We had the same problem. Doc took a blood test and found very, very low testosterone, put him on replacement, and a month later he's got energy again! not just for sex, either, but work, yard work, repairs. Wonderful stuff, that, if it's used right!
My hubby and I...
still have long, passionate kisses...our kids complain all the time about it...*Geez Mom, Dad...that's sooo gross* We are always touching when we are together, whether it's holding hands, arms around each other, or just my/his hand on his/my leg...you have to keep the fire going or it will most certainly fade!
your hubby/his son
Just wondering what kind of "help" you were asking for from your FIL?
I know you were frustrated but just because he had not yet gotten hold of you doesn't mean he wasn't working something out to be able to help his son.
I remember once my aunt wrote a letter to my grandpa about how she thought he showed a preference for her brother and how upset she was about it. (She had seen her brother at my grandparents' house on a holiday and was so resentful that she had not also been invited.) My grandpa was so hurt by the letter. My aunt had assumed something happened that did not (the brother had just dropped by for an impromptu visit). She let her emotions carry her away, and really hurt her father.
It sounds like part of you might be blaming your FIL for your husband's behavior. That's not good. Your husband has to take full responsibility for his actions and you need to stop making excuses. I have a bipolar brother. He has been battling his problem for 15 years. Sometimes he tries to take his medications and make progress in his life and sometimes he sits and whines about how bad off things are and wants everybody to cater to him. Guess when he gets the best response from his family? Even though your husband has a mental illness, he is still responsible for getting treatment and not making the lives of everyone around him miserable.
If your FIL wants to help his other son, whether or not you think the guy should be hung from the highest tree or not, that is your FIL's decision.
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