My tax guy helped me with this info.
Posted By: nm on 2007-04-24
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Here is what we do and it has really helped us to
We avoid comments like "You did ,,,,,," and "You made me,,,,". We use "Ifelt like ,,,,,,", "I understand that,,,,,," "I hear you say,,,,,". Try to keep accussatory statements out of it. Say how you understand the event to have happened and how it made you feel. Reiterate what you heard the other person to say/do and give that person a chance to agree or disagree.
I helped with the first car s/m
My son is 19 1/2 and I helped him with his first car. When he was 16, I contributed $700 towards it and he saved the rest, which was $1,700. He did this by saving for years, getting lawn jobs, etc. He also had to maintain good grades, sports, etc. He also had to get a part time job. I didn't care if it was one day a week, but he had to get something. I paid for his insurance until just this month. He just bought a new car, trading in his old one. He is now in college full time and working part time. He decided on his own that it was time for him to start paying for it, which is fine with me.
things that have helped me -
I was going nuts - waking up 2-3 times a night - feeling horrible all day. Go back to basics -
Try to get a walk in - couple of hours at least before bed - 20-30 minutes if that is all you have.
Don't watch TV or be on the computer a couple of hours before bed - watching TV not as bad as computer.
Take magnesium 500-750 mg right as you lie down to go to sleep. Recommended by many MDs for women.
Watch your caffeine intake stop early afternoon if you have to for a while.
Hope this helps - I am sleeping much better now.
Thank you everyone for your replies. It has helped a lot to know that I am in...sm
the right here. I started to think for a second that maybe I was being selfish.
DH told me last night he will break the bad news to his sister after the holidays.
I told him I need a vacation, too and that it's not easy working full-time and overtime from home. I need out of this place. It's hard not to think about work when you're home especially when you know there's a backlog cloud looming over your head. I'm sure some of you know what I mean.
He's convinced now that the money should be spent on the entire family not just him, our youngest and his sister's family.
You guys have been a great help! Thanks again and happy holidays, I feel a little less stressed now.
Only that helped me was New Balance
I switched from wearing mostly Birkenstocks to New Balance after a visit to the podiatrist. It probably depends a lot on your foot type, because for some people it seems Birks are better, but they weren't for me. I have New Balance of all types now. It's almost all I wear and I haven't had a bad flare of PF for about 6 years now.
He helped me pick it out!
I tried it on in front of him, too.
Thanks - your post helped
I know if the shoe is on the other foot I never take offense at anything anyone says. You said exactly what my BIL said to me "it's a natural part of life". I felt better after posting and reading some of the responses and also talking to my DH. But like you say, in the future its going to be sympathetic responses. As for myself, I do have a very different outlook on life/death. I view death as a rebirth into a new life. Of course I would never do anything to bring mine on sooner than my expected time, but when my time comes I will be ready to move on.
I think you accidentally helped me
I will just avoid the mall.
BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
You're welcome!! Hope it helped some....sm
I am not expertised enough to use Turbo Tax myself. I do get everything really super ready for the CPA, and now I have MQ take an additional $50 every paycheck for additional taxes so that it covers some of what I have to pay privately for 4 private docs. 
a suggestion that helped with mine--sm
I had been put on Synthroid as soon as it was discovered that I had hypothyroidism. After many years of taking it and feeling absolutely no better and still with fluctuating TSH levels, I wanted to try the more natural supplement, Armour, which has both T3 and T4, and not just the T4. I had to change doctors in order to have it prescribed, but eventually got what I wanted. It helped significantly with the hair loss, but if you try it, give it several months before you notice a difference.
I have also been hearing subtle speakings about T1 and T2, as well. So far, they say we don't need these, but in my mind, if the body makes them naturally, we need them for something, whether the *doctors* think we do or not. I am currently looking into where I can get those, as well.
Also, I found that chemically infested shampoos were a detrement to the hair, as well. Find a good organic shampoo with only natural ingredients, and that may help, as well. I use MOP organic shampoo.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Back in the 80s my knowledge helped out some
I had all the symptoms that go with hypothyroidism, the intense itching, the never being able to get warm (with blankets over your head, etc.), went to my doctor and told him I wanted along with my physical exam to have test for thyroid as I thought had this. Went back, he forgot to order and so ordered that day, immediately referred to endo because my labs were off the chart, so to speak and lots of you know thyroid can lead to other problems, even death if left untreated. If I had not pushed this time, guess would be pushing up daisies now. For 2 family members I told others to ask for Megace (these people were skeletons and not eating) and because I knew it was appetite stimulant, I could tell them worth a try. Each gained their appetite and at least did not starve to death so after all these years I have learned a little!
Eat yogurt daily, helped me....nm
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Changing shoes helped me.
I had a touch of this years ago. I realized it was from one particular pair of shoes. It went away when I quit wearing them. Are you seeing a podiatrist?
Good. I really hope I helped.
It is not normal 6-year-old behavior, despite what others say. It is normal bratty, spoiled 6-year-old behavior, and it is not acceptable. Since your husband won't correct him, you are just going to have to let the kid know that you aren't his sibling and you don't compete for slushies and you are happy that they have a good time together. Try and stay in that mindset. Also, if you don't mind my commenting on something I think you said earlier about them cuddling and stuff and how you thought that was strange - it might seem strange if it is not something you have witnessed before, but that is an important part of bonding. Six years old is still pretty young and they should be doing a lot of cuddling. It will end soon enough so let your hubby give him that affection. The kid might not be getting it from his mom or others in his life.
I also don't understand why others are saying you are humiliating your husband in a public forum. That's silly. Now if you posted it on a billboard in his hometown, that would be different!
Thank you all for your replies, that reall helped (sm)
at the very least, I am going to rent at first and see how things go before buying.
Hold it, are you saying zinc helped your
insomnia? I have gone through some natural items my husband had and still waking usually every 2 hours during the night, drives me crazy and needless to say the next day feeling like a zombie. I also take biotin and have the longest eyelashes now, not so much help for the hair but my dermatologist told me to take that the rest of my life due to the severe hair loss. Talk about avoiding the scales, only my scales and I know the truth there, do not even weigh in the doctor's offices, just tell them take a guess.
Anyone ever helped their child with a weight problem? (sm)
I have read up on this and don't want to make the problem worse by making it an issue, but would like to help him. I have as many healthy foods on hand as possible and try to feed him healthy things but apparently he eats too much of it. I mean, I know basically how people lose weight, but I am dealing with a child. He is starting to be made fun of and it is really hard for him. He's 10.
Helped with son's Eagle project this weekend.
He only has some paperwork and a board of review to get done, and then he'll be an Eagle scout.
What has helped my pain are fruit and vegetable capsules. sm
I have been taking them for 8 years or so ever since my pain started to get so bad I couldn't sleep (I know you know what I mean). I was working for a certified nutritionalist/chiropractor at the time. They have helped me so much that I continue to take them after all these years because I'm afraid not to. I did stop for a little while and tried another product (10 months or so) but the pain came back. Email me if you want to know more info. I am not a distributor so I'm not trying to sell them or anything, it is just what has been working for me.
Flax oil and taurine supplements helped me tremendously (sm)
Mine is now pretty much gone but any time I feel bad I start back on the flax oil (oil not capsules) and it helps tremendously. I hope you feel better soon!
Omega fatty acid supplements helped my son a lot (sm)
I just by the gummy supplements brand name Little Critters at Target. After a couple of weeks on them, my son himself, at the age of 9, recognized the difference in how he felt and he now reminds me when we run out, that I need to get him some more.
I'm having a hard time too - Charlie Brown's Christmas music has helped some (sm)
It hasn't been very cold around here...parade yesterday we were sweating. One thing that has helped me is I got the music CD from Charlie Brown's Christmas and have been listening to that and watched the little cartoon. That has always been one of my favorites. But I'm just not feeling it much either this year! I think the fact that the stores put the Christmas stuff out right after Halloween and sometimes before just makes it all seem like another day! And for me these days it just seems like a time of year where I have to spend money. Anyway, you're not alone :-)
Thanks! That was enough info for
me to find the sheet music :)
Some info for you
http://www.ldonline.org/article/8023
LOL! I did not know that! Thanks for the info!! nm
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Thank you for the info.
I just registered and I appreciate your response. I'm sure my husband would love for me to have more of a sex drive. ;)
Gee. thanks for the info! I appreciate it! nm
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Needing this information depends on if you need to use both of your incomes. If not, i would not worry about getting this letter. All mortgage companies are different in what they require. I would just try to use your previous 1099. I am sure the company would not have a problem writing this letter though if needed. If you just explain to them what it is needed for. I am sure you would not be the first person to ask of this.
I don't own a TV but get info from the net
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Thanks for the info but not really getting that much
No matter what the cost of the property sold, the rate I am paying (as others would do) is less than $3,000.00! When you take into consider the previous realtor I had was charging 10% of the total amount, I am coming out smelling like a rose. I tried to tell my relative the earnest money was like down payment but apparently not being believed. Their son was selling some property without a realtor and they got up front and got to keep around $500.00 from a sale that did not go through but mine, I told her, was different. Thanks!
Thanks so much for the info!!
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Thanks so much for this info..
am sitting here wondering why did I not think of that! I think there is a new walk in really close to me, in fact. I have fibro, like I said and I am 1 big ache to start with with pain in the legs, arms, shoulders but this most excruciating pain right now is in the ribs, not more 1 side than the other, almost unbearable. I once again appreciate so much the helpful thought!
Thanks for the info!
nm
Thanks for the info..
Going to try it out.
more info
She's been on BCP for around a year now...not for contraception initially...for dysfunctional bleeding. Thankfully though, she's somewhat protected. But you know, pregnancy isn't what scares me the most, it's a deadly disease that she could contract...it's a disease that could leave her unable to have a child when she does meet the man she wants to marry. I just feel like crying, she's my little girl...
You don't need a cop to get that info. - sm
It can be found on the internet (for a price) if you know where (Florida) and how to look.
Hey, thanks for all the info
I especially like the part where you say, "I'll be firing AT&T for the phone service." . . . sounds REALLY good about now. Have had a few problems since "the change", and seems they always want to have me try to discuss the issues they are causing with their employees overseas. All I got ta say about dat is . . . taint gonna happen.
Huh? What was that? I need you to transfer me to someone in the United States! LOL!
Thanks again!
more info...
My son is 8, he's in 3rd grade.
He can concentrate for hours on videogames. We spend all of our time together, except for the hours he is in school. Of course, I'm a SAHM MT, so that makes for more time for us. He talks nonstop to everyone, everywhere, all the time. However, my dad and my DH's dad do the same thing, so that could be inherited!
I'm not sure if ADD is the right word here, but don't know how else to describe it. He's not behind by any means in school, however the thing is, it takes him twice as long to complete *jobs*, as his teacher puts it, than the other kids. I know from my experience with him and homework, and it's like pulling teeth sometimes to get one worksheet done. He's just extremely social, I guess. He can't sit still. He has a hard time focusing, I do know that much.
Medication is the last thing we want to do (yes, his father is VERY involved in his life...we are an intact family). I'm thinking about taking him to his ped's office just to talk about some things we can try. I don't want him labeled with anything unless we know for sure he has it. I'm just exploring options right now.
Thanks for the advice and responses y'all, keep 'em coming!
Thanks for the info.
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Thanks for the info!
I thought there would be more restrictions but I guess it is more or less common sense.
Thank you for this info!
We have been tangling with FAFSA since my daughter graduated high school in 2004 but the school that she goes to is less than helpful in giving out information. I have learned more from you than all of the financial "experts" we have spoken to. Thank you for posting!
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He's worked for this company for 11-12 years, however they just moved across town in July, so he's been driving since then. He absolutely hates the drive, comes home tired and cranky every night. And by apartment, I did mean one of those weekly hotel-thingies.
thanks for the info
Thanks a lot - I am kind of leaning toward the Monte Carlo but will do a lot more checking before deciding. . I do think it would be best to stay on the strip.
thanks for the info
Thanks guys. Glad to hear there are some happy people out there. I'm looking forward to knowing all there is to know and getting on with the every day stuff. Happy New Year.
Some info
http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/womenshealth/a/PMS.htm
Thanks for the info sm
I definitely need to lose the plastic hamster cage. It has metal slats on the sides and all of their bedding gets pushed out all over the floor. Who ever thought that was a good idea. I wish they would have warned me at the pet store.
BTW, three days after we got them, one of them chewed its tail off or one of the others possibly did it. Ever heard of that?
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The dinner is going to be at a 5-star resort in CA. Of course, he hasn't gotten me much info yet. He'll wait til the last minute, as usual. I don't know anyone else to call that may know for sure what this event is like, but it sounds maybe *swanky* but not black tie...thanks for your response though!
Thank you for the info...
Her mom called me again a little while ago. Just wanted to chat. I know she will come around on her own. I will respect her wishes to be left alone. It just baffles the heck out of me.
more egg info
I had a friend from England and she always stored her eggs in an egg basket on the kitchen counter! She said that's always been the way they did it in England. I was amazed she wasn't dead of some kind of horrible egg bacteria poisoning.
Thanks for the info!
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