My viewpoint
Posted By: MQMT1m on 2008-10-10
In Reply to: Thoughts - a stepmom
I appreciate your telling me how you felt about your Mom, but my children have never, ever interfered in my personal life, and have always welcomed someone that I had a relationship with into our home and they were kind, non-judgmental and always non-critical. They told me that it was not up to them to criticize me, and trusted me enough to know I had good judgment and were secure in the fact that they knew I would never, ever not love them or be involved in their lives. I guess I did a good job of raising them, as I was a single parent of 4 children, and did my best to give them security and raise them to be individuals with strength of character. We all worked hard to be respectful to one another, and to know they could come to me with their concerns, and I would always listen to them. If they did have anything they did not like about a person I was dating they were welcome to tell me, and I did listen, but they were never, ever disrespectful.
You need to give your mother the same leeway and trust her to make adult decisions in her life, after all it is her life, and really you are now grown and have a longer life ahead of you than she does. Wouldn't you want your mother to be happy again? I am sure your father would. To be without companionship as you grow older is hard, and let's face it, life does not end when you get older or lose a spouse. Sure, she may have friends and activities, but that does not always replace being with someone special. I am sure she will always love your Dad and misses him greatly. It is a healthy thing to look ahead to the future and possibly find someone to share her life with. I say these things will all respect to you...think about it.
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