No, but I do have a new pair of shoes I've been wearing a lot (sm)
Posted By: Carolina MT on 2008-03-28
In Reply to: Changing shoes helped me. - Z
I was kind of wondering if they might have caused it. I think I will just stop wearing them and see what happens.
Thank you
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Um, with the economy in shambles, I kinda have a problem with her wearing a pair of $500 shoes!
Her hubbie talks about Americans become financially responsible and she's walking around in a pair of sneakers that would cover my rent!
O talks about our government being fiscally responsible and his wife is wearing $500 designer shoes.
It's not "her money to spend as she pleases." It's my money, your money, his money, her money. O better put up or shut up and that means his family too. No more big talk about the deficit, fiscal responsbility, and redistribution of wealth when when his wife is walking around in designer duds. Am I the only person that sees hypocrisy in that?
I've been in your shoes too - sm
Warning bells went off when you said he's gone 6 nights out of 7 (drinking, "sleeping it off") and that you believe his excuses. I did too but turned out he cheated on me for several years and finally gave me an STD (one of the "minor" ones at least).
Get out now. He's emotionally unavailable. Google "better than nothing relationships".
I've been in the OPs shoes. Conversations over the phone with the ex'es were always no and it
was a good thing I did it because my ex had 7 ex girlfriends over the years and as my children grew up, it was bad enough that they had to endure visits with Dad and him introducing the next new girlfriend off to the children. My children knew that they wouldn't have to be subjected to phone calls or visits from Dad's girlfriends where they primarily lived, with me, and that was comforting to them. Now that they are grown, they talk to their Dad, but it's not an incredibly close relationship. But, Dad was the one who brought all that on. He could have been more of a father than prancing around with one woman after the next and not spending more time with his own children.
Shoes! Love shoes. Thin soles work best.
Don't be mad, but foot size might have something to do with it. I'm a 7 1/2 shoe size, and I suspect a foot much bigger than that might be a bit wide to easily hit the right pedal every time. Remove the shoe and your foot is narrower and you can feel the controls and not hit the wrong one. Just a guess because I've heard guys have the worst time with the pedal.
My friend had a pair and LOVED them!
They were like her children, as all pets can become. They did have a smell, but I don't think it was any worse than say rabbits or even hampsters...just different. Kinda skunky but kinda not. Both did sadly die fairly young, however, of kidney disease, which I guess is pretty common among them as a species. This lady was absolutely heartbroken, but she was right back out there looking for a new pair last time I saw her.
They had a massive cage with these hammock things and were always snoozing when I saw them, but I guess they spent a good deal of time outside the cage, running around the house, doing whatever it is they did.
If they make you happy, go for it! 
I broke down and got a pair of dedicated....
single-vision computer glasses. HUGE difference. They definitely aren't pretty because I wanted to keep the cost as low as I could, but my headaches are all but gone now thanks to them.
My other pair of glasses are bifocals, which I can use for work in a pinch like if I lost my computer glasses, but what happens is I wind up tilting my head too much to use the teeny bifocal part to see the monitor, which in turn causes headaches from muscle strain.
To save a TON off glasses, take your prescription and get them at a wholesale place like Sam's Club.
Good luck!
Bungalow. (you say what you like, then give another pair).
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Bath/shower gel? Pair of earrings?
Nightgown/pajamas? Gloves/ scarf? Candle? CD or DVD? Purse? Movie tickets?
A beautiful pair of diamond earrings and a
gift card from Coach to buy a toally frivoulous handbag of my choice! My husband is the best!
Maybe with a pair of plyers and a pick-up truck?
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Earth Shoes....heel lowered in Earth Shoes
red tailed hawk and a pair of blue herons..sm
were the most facinating to me, very majestic...the wingspan on the herons is gigatic! We also have seen a family of wild turkeys recently and always cardinals here in KY. When I lived on the south shore of Long Island in NY there sandpipers, terns and egrets and one winter there was a snowy white owl (like on the old cigar boxes). The seagulls get a little loud though. The birds are a real pleasure...
Can't wait till spring!  Cat
PJ wearing
How many of us stay in our PJs all day?
Ive been at home now for about 5 or 6 years - I cannot seem to break this bad habit of mine!! I think it is beginning to wear on me. I miss "having to" buy new clothes and looking nice everyday...now, I cannot seem to find a "good" reason to get fixed up for the day home by myself!!!
Anyone else go through this!!!
PJ Wearing!
Almost every day unless I have an appointment of some type! No makeup and hair in a ponytail! It does feel good, though, I have to admit to "fix up" every once in a while and sometimes I do miss it but not enough to put forth the energy most days.
I have been wearing them for years and
was told by orthopedic guy to wear those or Clarks and I have worn and love them. These last ones I got have killed my feet though and I have a problem on the outer side of the foot hurting. I looked up the Crocs someone suggested and those looked pretty comfortable, might try those. Might have touch of peripheral neuropathy, never know when the feet are going or not. Thanks
Has anyone heard of a 5 yo, nearly 6 yo wearing a bra
bra. She wants a bra. She has been asking me for one for weeks and she won't let up. There were bras hanging in the kid clothes section at Wal-Mart and she begged and begged for one then but I said no. She is not developing at all but she claims some of her fellow kindergarteners are wearing them. What are other mother's doing. Is this a new trend? I don't know. When I was 5 I never heard of a bra.
Wearing Bras
Yes, I just for the first time this year bought bras for my daughter. She seemed okay with it, but she's slightly overweight, so I felt this would be easier than buying T-shirts that are not long enough to tuck in. So, we went with the Sport Type kind that she seemed to like at first, and now I've noticed she's not wearing them. So, I asked her why, and she says she just forgets, which is highly possible, since it's only been since school started. I just feel better knowing she's wearing something, but of course, she was wearing T-shirts. So, what is one to do? I really do not see any harm in the bra. I am totally against having little girls dress beyond their age, but we're talking underclothes here, so if the child is comfortable, then just try one to see how she likes it. My daughter was kind of embarassed as it was actually my idea since I felt she needed something under her regular shirts, since they tend to be thin and unforgiving in her situation. Good luck to you, but I in no way, shape, or form believe that bra at 5 means thing at 10 and even if it does, so be it. I think a person has a right to a certain degree to wear the underclothes of their choice if any at all! 
I just think there could be worse things that she is asking for at 5.
They may wonder what you're wearing!!!
 or what we're drinking  , but who cares! AHHH, the luxury of working from home! I can wear or NOT WEAR whatever I want. That's all part of the biz!!! On the norm, I have to go out and pick-up tapes, so I'm with the post above. Shower mid morning after getting hubby and kids off to school so I can do it in peace, and then if not going out, maybe sweats and if going out, then jeans/shirt. Boy, do I save a lot on WORK CLOTHES!!! To poster above, I am taken very seriously!! I make loadz of money!!! They take me very seriously when I'm making my deposits at the bank. 
Today I'm wearing
Obsession for Women.
I like a mixture, keeps me from wearing out. NM
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And I see nothing wrong with a guy wearing a bro.
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Yep. Sweating while wearing
something that has nickel in it...it is a chemical reaction.
It sucks big time. I had a BF years ago who gave me this really pretty bracelet that was gold plated. I wore it and it put a welt on my wrist. It was painful even.
I cannot even handle the button on my jeans. I have to make sure I have undies that go that high or tuck my shirt in, it is that bad. Once I had a pair of sandals and I was allergic to the buckle. That was awful too.
I am wearing white socks
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Wearing panties sure does not make
my feeling of security. Under PJs?? You don’t sleep with a teddy bear still, do you?
Have you tried wearing Crocs? I love them! nm
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Yeah my DD just turned 9 and has been wearing 5s - sm
now for a few months. I wear a 7 and can actually squeeze into her a a pair of her open-ended sandels. She has always been in the 95th percentile for height and weight, but is slowing down some, now at about 88%.
If they are wearing bras at 5, it will be thongs at 10
makeup at 12, and birth control pills at 14. How about these unbelievable salon parties some of these mothers are doing for their 8 and 10 year old girls; taking all the girls to the salon to have the hair and makeup and nails done. Today, just about everyone is a ''wannabe''. I want to be rich; I want to be beautiful; I want to be famous; I want to have big boobs; I want perfect teeth. I want a nose job. I want to be thin. I want a designer handbag. I want a cell phone, an IPOD and a blackberry! Why, because everyone that matters is or does! Everyone they look up to. Everyone on TV! That is all they know.
Ask a group of very young girls today what they want to be when they grow up and see how many say, a singer, an actress, a movie star or just plain rich and famous in any way possible! It's terribly sad what this world has turned into. And some parents are just as bad because they want this for their children, also.
TV and media magazines should be banned; it's not only destroying the kids but adults also. How many of you feel your self-esteem lowering more and more by seeing all of this stuff? How many of you have contemplated plastic surgery, veneers, teeth whitening, losing weight, especially in the last ten years? How many of you suddenly are feeling bad or envious of others because you don't have that big gorgeous home or that expensive great car?
It's a horrible world we now live in and that's why I am not having children.
And don't tell me I don't know about children because I have two nieces and a nephew that I practically raised.
Good day ;)
I gave up wearing my rings sm
I've had them resized twice already, once up a size and another down a size. I don't think they will resize them a third time. I, too, have arthritis and prednisone swells my finger something fierce. I have a beutiful mother's ring that I can't wear again since it is too small now.
Is anybody wearing green today?
I forgot, but when my kid tried to pinch me (oh brother), we realized I had a green coffee cup and some green lines in my shirt. HA. So, do you care about this green stuff? Frankly I care about the green in my wallet, so I am typing more than thinking about green beer today. LOL. Happy St. Patty's Day! (green face icon)
About the same time he starts wearing a bra . . . NM
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wearing your heart on your sleeve
I too have spent too much time thinking about this. From your post, your description of your daughter's intelligence and your own dismay at the rudeness of these people, I can only come to one conclusion.....You are hanging around people less intelligent than you are. Not figuratively, but IQ. You are sensitive, they are obtuse.
However, I have also discovered that the people who use a simple "hello" as currency to give or take away, are broke. The worst snobs in my neighborhood are broke and don't want anyone to know. They try to hide their financial status, but you don't so you are scary.
I have been treated the worst by the mean and stupid. Think about what a breath of fresh air your daughter is to that little boy. I am glad you went to the party.
You wearing a bra ? What kind of underwear and color ?
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Ok then, is it just me or did y'all see that girdle thing she was wearing?
Like a long-leg body shaper or something.
And guests have been wearing colors, etc. for too long
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Problem wearing wedding band..sm
I was recently dx with RA, and have been having some issues wearing my wedding band. Two main problems - my fingers get puffy and wearing the band makes my hand itch (even though they are solid gold). I was thinking about getting a tattoo'd ring on my ring finger, but I was wondering if you all could come up with some ideas that are creative but perhaps not as painful...I don't mind the permanancy, as I am married with the intention of staying that way for life.
Thanks in advance, y'all.
HC
Been wearing Tova for 15 years and LOVE it!
I receive lots of compliments that I simply *smell good, * not *what perfume are you wearing?* Works for me!
It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
Afternoon or evening ceremony? What is the other mom wearing? What looks good on you?
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I don't know about you, but if I could look like Tina Turner at her age, wearing the silver suit,
I would not complain. Yeah, she is a little bit slower, but her legs still look great and she can still strut her stuff in what looked like 4-inch heels.
My 7-year-old girl is now wearing a size 6 ladies shoe...sm
I'm afraid to try to guess how much that foot is going to grow before she gets to high school! She's also 2 heads taller than the kids in her class.
i know it is wearing on you but the recommend amount of timeout is 1 minute for each year of age.
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shoes
I wore silver shoes with a purple bridesmaid dress. We also had silver/grey shaws to go with. This was in November.
In your shoes
Your story sounds exactly like mine. However, mine told me that if I did not lose weight he was going to leave me. He had an affair and blamed it on the fact that I was overweight. He said, "If you were not so fat, I wouldn't have gone there." Whatever!
Don't let him win - just MHO - same shoes here (sm)
I'm sorry for you - I know how it feels. People like that are best ignored, but would not want my kids exposed. My stepdad is just like that.
Put yourself in her shoes SM
If you had gone through a whole pregnancy and hoped for the "perfect" baby and things weren't perfect? The clubbed feet are correctible, yes, but seeing as she asked you not to say anything to anyone she is obviously having trouble coming to terms with the problem. She is a new mom, there is a problem she obviously is troubled about, hormones all over the place. I think backing WAY off is in order here. Respect her wishes and let her call you when she is ready. Being a new mother is overwhelming no matter how many times you've done it and she needs time.
at least ur not in my shoes
I would love for my husband to make advances towards me like that!!! I'm the one having to hug him and beg him. I agree with a below poster...don't push him away...enjoy what you've got. at least he wants to touch you.
Wish I was in your shoes.
I would do it in a heartbeat. Don't be afraid. Like another poster said, you can always move back. I now have a husband and kids and my family lives about 8 hours away. I miss my niece and nephew dearly but see them as often as I can. I stayed a month when each was born and then traveled every other weekend for several years. They are getting to be school age now so they know me well and I send things often. It has just become too expensive to travel that much.
I would just keep in mind with your BIL being in the military they may not be where they are longterm so that could pose a sticky situation if you get involved with someone special. Might want to talk to your sister. I know mine knows me better than anyone and always has great advice.
I have been in your shoes (sm)
I was in an abusive marriage and had children. I stayed way too long out of fear, I should have left years before I did. Just make sure you have tried everything to make your marriage work before leaving or you may have regrets. If it is something you feel you must do, you will be fine. It's not easy, but you'll make it. You'll have to work more and do without sometimes but you also should get child support to help.
My mom was in your shoes
Married Bob, our step-dad. He came on to all three of her daughters, sometimes right in front of her. She made excuses for him and downplayed what he did. She was blinded by his money. And of course he denied whatever, pretending it was all in friendliness.
He fooled around with my little sister, I had her move in with me and threatened to call the law. Mom cried and begged - oh, what will happen to the rest of the family? How will they live without Bob's money? Oh, the poor man is threatening to kill himself vs go to jail. Please, keep my mouth shut. He's sorry and won't do it again. Oh, and little sister was probably asking for it and to blame as well (yes, mom would rather blame her own child than precious Bob)!!!!
He went on to seduce a cousin, then her young daughter, and mom even caught him red handed molesting his own DOG!!!!! She stayed with him though, for the sake of his money and supposedly her family, although by then, most of us would not set foot in their house. My brother, who was growing up under his influence, also now has a thing for underage girls that are his relatives. Nice, eh?
He spent them into the poor house, and by the time he died, all his money was gone. My sisters and I refuse to even be buried in the same graveyard as that creep. Mom dug him up and moved him to his own family plot about 10 years later, but the damage is done to her relationships with her daughters.
So if you want to end up like my mom, deny, shift the blame, and believe him. Sacrifice your whole family and stand by your man. You'll get what mom got - shame and blame and many years alone to play should've/could've/would've.
Been in your shoes
I am sorry to hear of your troubles. I know exactly how you feel, because my son was addicted to drugs with meth and binge drinking being his poisons of choice. Of course, he'd take anything--and I do mean anything--if he thought he could get a buzz from it. Every time I heard an ambulance wail in the distance, I'd wonder if today was going to be the day he overdoses to the point of being unsaveable. Every time somebody knocked at the door or if a police car would slow down in front of the house, I'd wonder if today was the day I was going to get notified that he finally died from his addictions. My heart bleeds for you...it really does. I know the heavy heart you have, and I know all about the soul-searching about what could I have done to prevent or maybe I even caused it.
Well, nothing you did caused it, and you definitely can't control its outcome since he is an adult, and he makes the decisions as to what he wants to do or not do with his life. I know that's hard to accept, because I went over and over in my mind with the "what ifs."
The best you can do right now is to not enable his habit. That means not giving money for rent (my son spent all his rent money on meth and booze and marijuana and other noxious chemicles), not bailing him out of jail, not giving money for groceries or even giving him groceries for that matter. That was hard for me. However, if he needed a meal, he was always free to come to the house >sober< and not under the influence of drugs and enjoy a meal. I think he came only once.
I lost track of him for 8 years or so, and then I learned he was living behind a dumpster in Boston during the coldest spell of the last century. I managed to get him out of that environment, and he did okay for a while. He had to go back to Massachusetts to serve a 60-day jail term, but he did that and cleaned up.
He was doing okay for a while and then he ran with "the crowd" and ended up back on meth and other drugs. He was again hooked, and this time it was a 4-year hiatus into that misery for him. I put him out of the house about 4 years ago, and the last time I saw him, I burst out crying because my baby was down to skin and bones, and he definitely looked like he was dying. So, for the past few years, I've been dreading the wail of sirens and knocks at the doors.
Well, about 3 days ago, I get a call out of the blue, and it was my son, wanting to come over. I was suspicious, of course. (In my mind, I thought about what else he was going to steal, etc.)
When I saw him for the first time in 2 years a few days ago,I truly did not recognize him. He had put on 65 pounds (not fat either), looks reasonably healthy, and he has "the sparkle" back in his eyes. Before, they were soul-less black orbs. Now, they shine. I found out that he has been drug-free and alcohol-free for almost 2 years now but that he was hesitant to make contact because Narcotics Anon. suggests only coming back and apologizing when able to make full restitution money-wise. Well, he didn't have the money, but he did apologize.
So, I really do know how you feel and all the pain, sorrow, and worrying you are going through and just how much greater those feelings will get for you. It will be a whole lot more intense as time goes on.
You need to get somebody to talk to for yourself. I tried the local Narcs Anon and a few of the other addiction groups as well as a couple of private counseling sessions.
Remember this: You didn't cause it, and you can't control it. Just don't enable him with money or gifts (he'll just trade or pawn whatever you give him for drugs...my son did.
If you need somebody to talk to about this, feel free to email me. I feel for you. I won't lie. It's going to get really, really rough...but no matter what he says/does, you didn't cause it.
Kathleen
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