No, it doesn't always end in "catastrophy!"
Posted By: ginger on 2009-03-02
In Reply to: No, I hope tht she is the norm and you are a the 'unusual'...sm - mar
Neener, neener, neener. See I can be the typo police, too.
No, I don't have kids. But, trust me, if you have teens who have gone to public school, they've had a beer, smoked pot or had a ciggy before the end of high school. Are their lives now full of catastrophe?
No? What's up with that?
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No, it doesn't always end in "catastrophy!"
Neener, neener, neener
No, I don't have kids. But, trust me, if you have teens and they go to public school, they've had a beer or smoked before the end of high school.
Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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That actually doesn't look that bad!
I love pork especially at a pig roast...by the end of the day the meat just falls off the bones it is so tender. Doesn't look too terrifying!
Doesn't take much to get you going does it? nm
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If a dog doesn't have anything
to do, he will occupy himself. His thing is barking, which isn't fair to the neighbors. I had a neighbor who'd let his laborador bark for hours on end while I was trying to work. Almost drove me insane. To catch a break I'd occasionally take a rawhide, stuff all the cracks with peanut butter, and throw it over the fence. Ah, blessed peace for a while.
Cesar Millan has a website. I'm sure you can get lots of ideas there. It's all about exercise, discipline and then affection. You have to communicate your leadership and also use up his energy and teach him what it is you expect of him.
Why doesn't she get her own
It sounds to me like she wants you to pay her bills. She'll have to find a job and get a roommate like any one of us would. Why should you compromise what you have with your boyfriend when she'll be coming age very soon and can be out on her own? Let her know she's welcome to visit or whatever, but you'd rather see her pursue her own living quarters. 
That is my mom, she just doesn't get
it. She also thinks it is because of my husband. Nobody is good enough for me. Doesn't matter who it is. She has been telling everyone it is because she will not lend us money. My husband and I both work our butts off and have never borrowed money from anyone but the bank.
My brother and I have not been the closest and about two weeks ago, I called him. I now believe that a lot of reason why we are not close is due to my mother. He is four years younger and I was out of the house by the time he was 13. I always got my mother's point of view of what was going on with him and I should have known better. She told me he doesn't talk to her because she won't lend him money. He and I thought we didn't have a lot in common, so most of the communication was between him and my mom, then mom would "tell" me. He doesn't want her to see his son either, but being that he is divorced, his ex-wife allows her to see him. He said that she was always intervening in his life, no matter what it was. She kicked him out of her home when he was 15 and he has never looked back. He now has his PhD as a recent graduate and is very successful. We both believe it is a control issue with her.
That leads to this, I have researched grandparents rights as well. In Michigan, as long as the parents are married and fit parents, grandparents have no rights. If you were never married, separated or divorced or worse yet, proved to be unfit, then they have rights to see the children. Something to think about.
He doesn't like going out...
im at a loss because I am a social butterfly and I want the man that I love with me all the time. Don't get me wrong i LOVE my girls nights out, but I want him there sometimes. I think this is one of the main issues holding me back from getting married. I do respect that he doesn't like to dance, or go to bars... but he doesn't even like to go to my friend's houses... He is a little on the shy side and I have been with him 6 years (and we have known each other since we were in 7th grade - about 15 years-, lived down the street from each other...) And I can't see myself without him but I know this is keeping me from marrying him because I want that socialization. Even when we have a family I almost am positive I am going to want to have friends over with their kids... bbq's in the summer... stuff like that and he just isn't like me at all in that way. How do I deal with this? Oh yea even if he is willing to compromise I feel like he hates it though and that is still really hard for me to deal with. If he is just sitting there not having fun that's almost worse than him not coming at all... :( we are at a crossroads right now and that is why i am asking. we either stay together or dont...
I think the same way - if the OP doesn't
like the smoke, then she'd best look elsewhere. It's not fair to say "smoke outside" when they are paying the rent, too. Some people just amaze me!
mine doesn't...
I make Paula Deen's southern cornbread dressing...go to Food Network's site and look up the recipe. It's yummy, has no meat whatsoever, and makes a ton of dressing...HAPPY HOLIDAYS...
My mother's doesn't either...
Made with Pepperidge farm stuffing mix, white wine, mushrooms, celery, onions, chopped walnuts, seasoning. Not sure what else but it's different and delicious, still the best I've ever had!
Doesn't sound right
under those circumstances. Then whenever someone wanted new wall-to-wall they could just crap it up themselves and submit a claim and get a new rug.
At any rate, even if this is somehow true, the insurance company will only jack up your rate or drop you all together, so you're going to pay either way. And then you'll have a claim history and no other company will want you either.
I agree, it's more than just pot. Pot doesn't do that. sm
I have heard that taking Niacin helps clear out of your system faster as well as trying to "sweat" it out like he is. He also needs plenty of sunshine and you to be there for him. Rather than turning against him, stuck together with him and help him through it. It will make your relationship so much better in the long run and he needs the love and support of you to help him get to that place. Admire him for trying to break his addiction. It is very addicting. His rollercoaster of sweating, can't sleep, and emotional issues sound more related to crack/crank or methampetamines to me. I'd tell him in order for you to be supportive and helpful to him right now, he needs to at least be honest with you.
I can't tell the difference when something has MSG and when it doesn't. nm
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I am not saying my hubby doesn't look
he just doesn't let me see him looking. Hey, I still look too.
He doesn't like the masks...
my DD has taken over the mask and my kids like to sleep with fans now too. I just turn them off before I go to bed.
She doesn't impress me though
Just something about her... She's like never smiling. Even when he gave her a rose last night, she just looks mad. Could just be the editing.. maybe there's something about her he does like. I think he might like Tessa... and Amber. I can't believe I let myself get into this show again.
With our experience, he doesn't need
We have bought several homes and I have been an IC MT the entire time. I have never had this ask of me. They just want to know what my income has been, as they know being self-employed can mean different amounts from paycheck to paycheck. Of course, if your husband is empoyed somewhere, they will put more thought into that
(they just don't say it). I had loan officers just start talking to my husband as if I'm not in the room just because they hear self-employed and know my husband is not....so they think he'll be the REAL one bringing in a paycheck. So, my husband brings them back in the game, as do I. We let them know both of our checks contribute to this mortgage, not just his. I've noticed the women loan officers are the worst with this, even though you would think they wouldn't be. We both have excellent credit scores and make sure this is the valid point we get across. Just make sure you are not overlooked as being an essential element in this deal. Generally, all the loan officer can go by is what you have made in the past few years, not what you may make in the future as an IC, because as an IC, you may not know what that paycheck will bring or if you'll even be with the same company 6 months from now. But again, I have never had this asked of me.
It all has to start somewhere doesn't it?
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But that doesn't apply to every
situation. In my case I got hit with something that was out of my control. I see where you are coming from because most times it is irresponsible spending and debt accruing that causes the problem but not always.
My mom doesn't like when mine rub against her, either
and she doesn't like that the neighbor cats in the development kill the birds at their feeders and also the baby rabbits. I don't especially like that aspect about them either (our 2 stay in the house 24/7) but it comes in handy in the house when we have a mouse. I know of people who go out of their way to hit a cat on the road and I think that is so disgusting. Makes me sad because of how much I love my cats.
What is funny though is that my male cat gravitates to my mother whenever she is here. He will just sit by her chair and stare at her with his big, golden, unblinking eyes. It really freaks her out!
He doesn't really look like he has aged all that much
in the last 10 years or so. I think he looks almost exactly the same as he did way back in his ER days!
Ugh, doesn't sound
too fun! Don't want to go to the hospital. That's why I figure it's past time to quit. My son is scared of me dying anyway. I told my husband no need in making his fear come true!
Why doesn't your son work? (sm)
I understand with all those children it may not even be worth it for the mom to work (child care would take all her earnings) but why doesn't your son work? Sounds like my sister. She has been living off of my parents for years.
It doesn't look sore, red or anything. Just
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How do you know he doesn’t like you/kids
You said he kept things under wrap. Your mother should not have to choose between you/your children and her husband. How old a person is he? Other things going on with him/them that you know of? Lot of people in older years PUT UP with children- that does not mean they want to be around them. I know you said you did not stay at the home with them. Do not ask your mother to choose, though. That is probably the reason she has not answered you. You as well as your siblings probably picked the ones you want and may not believe this but if left up to your mother and she had to choose, it might not be you and your family.
Thank goodness he doesn't eat
anything in front of the window, he just swoops, grabs and goes. He uses my front yard as sort of a "drive thru" I guess. He is a very pretty and majestic bird. I've tried to get pics of him, but my camera doesn't zoom far enough.
We also have Great Horned Owls that live in our pine trees out back. All through the summer I would hear them hooting. So I staked out the window one night so I could maybe get a peak at them and I actually saw one of them fly out of the tree, it was huge!
I just feel bad for my little feathered friends. I guess that's nature though.
Sorry for rambling, love to talk about my nature.
Doesn't bother me
For some women it takes more than soap and water. Not a biggie.
Doesn't bother me at all either
Some people need it. It's really no big deal.
Doesn't everybody use foil now?
I have never seen the other process done; just heard about it. I'm sure the foil is less physically stressful to the hair.
I bet the OP doesn't consider it "nothing."
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No, doesn't take masses...just 1.
I think you're thinking of the voting thing...I'm talking about the straight up report now button.
I think you are the one who doesn't "get it"
There are a lot of things wrong in this world, causing our kids to be messed up.
I think taking religion out of schools is really low on the list, and I can't believe you have convinced yourself that is THE reason. No, actually I can believe it. Religion causes people to be irrational. The middle east is proof of that.
If David A doesn't win, then there is something
definitely wrong. The young man has "perfect pitch" -- an accomplishment which only approximately an elite 1,000 people possess in the US and Europe. Definite childhood prodigy if I have ever heard one.
He doesn't respect your
mother, and doesn't believe she will be "mean" to him. Therefore she will end up having to do what he doesn't believe she will do IMO.
That doesn't surprise me.
It seems like companies try to nickle and dime you with every charge they can get and very often the description they give is not accurate. I used to work in the hotel industry and it was very common there but customers rarely questioned it.
It doesn't look good!
I sure wish our government could see how many factors they are responsible for, such as giving our jobs away.
It doesn't change
I married a man with 2 grown daughters, a grown son, and a stepdaughter from his deceased wife. We have been married for 7 years and they were 31,33,43 and 35 when we married. They are now 38,40,50 and 42, and things have not changed a bit. They told their father they did not want him to get married, and the next to the oldest told me that I should come to her for advice, as she ran the family and everyone came to her for advice, and the youngest one sat on her stepfather's lap and cried at our reception because she thought she was losing him. They insulted my children, who behaved very well and have always been kind to my husband, and actually treat him better than his own children. I have been insulted in my own home, one of them said in front of me and my husband that "they were daddy's princesses and they would always come first." The son lives in another state thank goodness, and he is what I call a freeloader when he visits. Expects me to wait on him. He takes his father's chair in the living room because his excuse is that he cannot see well and needs that chair closer to the TV, when I actually caught him not wearing his glasses, which is why he could not see!! He doesn't ask his father if he needs any help (my husband is 8 years older than me and he is 70), nor has he ever offered to take his father to dinner when he is at home, until I talked to him kindly and thought it would be a nice gesture. He takes over the TV when he visits, and will not pick up after himself, and this guy is 50 years old!! I have never, ever seen such spoiled adults in my life.
Whew, just needed to get that off my chest. What I mean is that this type of behavior does not stop as they get older, unless the father has a good talk with the children. At 9 though you have to have patience, but she knows how to manipulate her father and girls are good at that. She might just feel insecure and maybe your attention will change that, but I do feel for you. Good luck.
My brother has done the same as you and she doesn't get it at all (sm)
He has not been to see her in 5 years and has a one-year-old baby she has never even seen, plus older children she has not seen in 5 years. To this day she thinks it is because his wife has turned him against her. She still doesn't understand that she did anything wrong.
If he doesn't want an iPod, why are you getting it?
Is it your idea that he'd like one?
A few years ago when iPods had just come out, my husband bought me one for my birthday. I didn't want one, and I he knew nothing about them. It sat in it's box for about a month, and then I finally used it. Well, that was it. I became addicted! I now think that the iPod is the greatest invention known to mankind. Heck, as far as I'm concerned, NASA could have saved the trouble of going to the moon, because the iPod is better. LOL!
I'm just joking, but I really love my iPod. I eventually got a video iPod and I also have a shuffle. I like them both. I really enjoy podcasts, which are like radio shows produced on just about every subject you can imagine. I have enjoyed learning about new things and even taking Italian lessons on my iPod. I also download audio books along with music and travel videos.
I like my shuffle because it has no moving parts. I take it on hikes and runs and use it when I work out. They are now about $50. They're very simple. You simply load the audio and the machine plays it for you. You can't select songs or see any info. The video iPod has way more features, and you can even watch full-length movies on it. I've also loaded photos and can carry those with me. Of course, it has all the audio features of music. My son has an iPod touch which he seems to like. He's an engineer, and he likes gadgets. LOL. The nano is still available, and they are a nice step in between the video iPOD/touch and the shuffle.
He is saying he doesn't want it. That's the problem.
NM
mine doesn't have any. NM
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No he doesn't confess anything to me (sm)
I found out he opened credit cards in my name because the company called me wondering why I hadn't paid in two months and I had never opened a card with them. I found out about him cheating by calling someone he was supposed to be with for the weekend and the guy was home and did not know what I was talking about.
it doesn't do any good...?
except for maybe her seeing how she's acting! You say she cares about people... well then she should definitely care about her own father. Confronting on her behavior is your way of sticking up for him. You dont need to do it in a nasty or insulting way, you could ask her softly, do you know how you sound? or do you know how you are acting? Just something that MAYBE she will think about. If not then she is not as caring as you are hoping she is. Of course it's always easy to say those things when you're not the one involved. If it was either of my sisters acting this way, id point it out IMMEDIATELY, but that's just the way we are. I guess it depends on the kind of relationship you guys have, but she has no right to be acting as she does. She doesn't have to feel exactly as you do, but you know. You dont have to be sorry, I just was trying to get down to the bottom of it. i do the same thing out of frustration! :) good luck
Regardless, that doesn't take away his guilt sm
She didn't believe it then, but she does now. Better late than never. He is still guilty and people who are willing to do those types of things don't change. My point to Mrs. R is that we are not villifying men in general, this woman's husband is guilty of doing something very bad.
Doesn't anyone eat healthy? nm..
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No, it doesn't suit.
I agree. No matter what sex and age.
Just cuz of the price doesn't always mean it is
the best product. I have watched many segments on talk shows that prove the same ingredients are in expensive products as well as inexpensive products, and some of these products don't work at all. I'm not saying there aren't some really good products out there, but Suave does just as good a job on my hair as anything else on the market.
Sad she doesn't talk to you sm
Then don't say much to her either and maybe she'll get the hint. It will all blow over, don't let it bother you.I know it does but I go through the MIL-DIL thing all the time but I'm the MIL, so I can't say. I just know how I "used" to feel when I was the DIL. My MIL didn't like me either, but she's dead now and I realize I should have just overlooked her crazy behavior. If she were to come back for the day, I would be glad to see her for some silly reason. Although if she moved in with me, I'd have to move out! I don't understand this MIL-DIL stuff, too much negative stuff on TV about it, it seems to "sell" and they always portray them as not getting along. My MIL used to compare me with a soap opera character she watched and everytime this character did something wrong, she'd be mad at me, and here I was, working my butt off to keep a roof over her son's and grandkids heads. You can't win either way. Just pray about it if that's doable for you. Good luck with it, it's sad.
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