So nice to find one that is polite about it. Could have been lewd like most guys:(
Posted By: He needs to give lessons! on 2007-09-12
In Reply to: Good way to put it :-) I say nice guy! - Lisa
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I find they tend to be polite and reserved.
It makes me feel like the rest of us must seem loud, nosy and obnoxious to them, but then again I tend to be paranoid when people are too quiet, LOL.
I just like a nice-smelling, sexy guys' shampoo myself.
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Yeah but did you say to the guys, "Hey *handsome*....did you find the right size?" lol
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Same here - I can always find something nice to say if I try.
My mom always said if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. I can usually find something nice to say like "Oh, that is so soft!" or colorful, or unique...lol My MIL is notorious for thinking she knows me when she has no clue...even my husband will tell her I won't like something but she will still give it to me. If she mentions where she got it I will return it. If I can't return it I will re-gift it or use it as a tax deductible donation or regift. I try not to regift though because it usually means I'm going to give someone else a gift that isn't perfect for them. The way I look at it is this. If I gave someone a gift they didn't like I would want them to think of it as a nice gesture and thought of them BUT I would WANT them to get something else or give it to someone they know would use it. I wouldn't want them to feel obligated to use it or to hide it except when I come over, etc....so I follow suit with gifts that I am given.
Yep. Nice to know that trolls can even find this board. NM
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great idea!! Hope you find a nice peaceful place
He gave you those children, much to be thankful for......I had similar experience only he's still around (living)...good marriage until it went bad, drugs involved, and I divorced him....but children have a relationship with both of us....this is fine....so sorry for your loss too....
Loved your comment above about the MJ fields, the place you think he'd be happiest!! *lol* 
Since I'm not average sized, it's hard for me to find really nice fitting clothes.
But I do know how to sew, just haven't done it for a long time. I have stacks of really lovely fabrics, from wools to silks in my attic. Lots of it is inherited stuff that is now vintage. I have a serger and a good machine, and lots of beautiful classic patterns. I did make a nice wrap dress for the holidays, so I've been inspired to do more. What I'd like to do is find a really good used dress form somewhere... maybe ebay. It's so much easier to tailor the fit if I can stand next to a dress form, exactly my size, and adjust the pattern and seam lines. You can't do that while you are wearing an incomplete garment with pins in it! It's like trying to cut the back of your hair for yourself.
Well, I was trying to be polite (sm)
He had some mannerisms that were the opposite of attractive to me.
But I am really happy for you! What a great story!
Is it polite to drop in on somebody
unexpectedly without calling? Our church is going through something right now, and we haven't been attending. So a couple dropped by our house one evening without calling. I was NOT ready for company. I'd been working all day and I don't have kids and I never get visitors. They barely know us. I was dying of embarrassment as they had their little visit, trying to get us to go back. DH had no choice since they were looking right in the window of the door that time. Well really it's my husband they think is great. I don't think they like me at all, despite the fact that I'm the one who was going every Sunday. I don't think they think I was involved enough, but there was one thing I was doing faithfully. DH was just going to please me and my mother, He actually has discouraged me from signing up to do things in case I embarrass him by being late or something. But it's him they call on the phone, trying to get us back.
It's not my fault when the big wigs in the church break some rules and cause trouble and make people look for another church. It's a free country. But just now while we were watching a movie somebody rang our bell. We were sitting just out of their sight, and we didn't get up. Do you know we have been assigned a Deacon who we have never even seen at church? He has sent us a couple of cards in the mail, but never introduced himself. We were told he sits in the balcony. A deacon in the balcony? Is he hiding? I chose this church because it is one DH is comfortable at, but then again they aren't exactly bringing me up to speed on what I need to know to get involved. It just seems like they are set up for people who have grown up in that kind of church and know what to do already. There are lots of other churches that have more structured new member plans where I think I won't feel so lost. But what to do about these unannounced visitors?
I think the polite thing to do...sm
Whether you're interested in him romantically or not (which I guess you are?  ), would be to acknowledge his lovely, handwritten note by calling him or mailing him a note to thank him for it.
Then the reason you're calling him is to thank him, and you don't have to "make up" a reason to talk to him. Just call and ask to speak to him. When one of his assists answers, you don't have to say you're a patient or say *why* you're calling. If he's not available right then, you don't have to leave a message (with your name and phone number, identifying yourself to the staff) just ask when would be a good time to call back.
It just seems to me that he's put the ball in your court, by sending you the note. Maybe he's trying to see if you're interested, without being unprofessional. If you wait until your next appointment in six weeks, well... that's a long time. He might think you're giving him the cold shoulder or just aren't interested.
So I say call him and see how the conversation goes - professional, or more casual...? Or mail him a little note to thank him, and include your phone number and a casual mention that he can call if he'd like to chat.
Just my thoughts. Good luck to you!
Nor did I profess to be polite
Duh!
i don't think polite will sink in with an alcoholic.
First be a friend and tell her she really needs help. Encourage AA. Offer to take her there. Then set the boundaries, that she either gets help or needs to find another place to live by such-and-such a date.
crating is just a polite word for caging.
Hopefully the Buddhists are right about reincarnation. Anybody who would put an animal in a cage (which is exactly what a crate is) deserves that same fate--to be at the mercy of the type of ''superior'' human being, lacking compassion, who can still get a good night's sleep after doing that to an animal. Yes, an overweight pet will probably have a shorter life--that's just how it goes. But it will certainly have a happier life than the poor unfortunate one whose oh-so-powerful owner ''runs the show'' at its expense and sticks it in a cage for her own convenience. Have a little compassion and try putting yourself in the place of the animal. ''Run your show'' in ways that don't involve breaking an animal's spirit and making its life miserable. In short, pick on something your own size (mentally and physically)--not an animal.
People are more polite in the deep south. There is a sense of decorum.
q!
Find a lawyer, find out where you would stand - sm
in the event of a divorce/separation, regarding custody, house, etc. Custody was my main concern as well since I lied on numerous occasions about the finances. Where I am I was told that would not factor in to the custody at all. I can prove that I am my kids caregiver 90% of the time, I ferry they around everywhere, help with homework, get ready for school, meet at busstop, etc. I could also point out my husband is an alcoholic, self treats his depression with alcohol instead of getting proper medical treatment, has threatend to kill himself (or me) numerous times (though he always says he was joking and did not mean it.....that is his standard answer to everything, or that he never said that). Now I do love him enough to deal with all that because deep down inside my DH is full of it, luckily for me, he has never followed through on anything he says he is going to do. But I thought my confession would be the straw that broke it all and send him over the edge. He still is angry with me, I am sure he will be for a long time, but is keeping it together pretty well, though he has said the stress was going to kill him, now he know how I felt I guess. I am sorry your husband is such a smuck. I feel like a dog sometimes with the sex demands, have to do it the night before he goes out of town....he will be traveling a lot for work for the next 3-4 months, which I am more than glad about, much calmer here then, though it gets tiring for me but as he is not really helping much right now it really won't be much of a change. As for yours going on 5 day weekends.....have you considered having him followed, sounds like there may be some infidelity afoot, and if so that would strengthen your case in the event of a divorce and custody I would think. Sounds a bit fishy going out until 1 a.m. and his frequent trips. My DH fishes too, but he goes 2 miles from here with one of our male neighbors, they shoot the breeze and he gets to unwind some which I encourage. Very rare weekends with a buddy of his, I am talking once every 2 years, which again is fine with me. Start keeping track of all you do, when he is home, where he supposedly goes, with whom, etc. He cannot show he will be a responsible dad if he is never there or never interacts with his own kids. My DH would probably suggest I take our older daughter and he the younger, spliting them up, he has the same perception, the oldest is mine, the youngest is his. Our younger daughter is much easier to deal with, our older daughter drives him nuts and she is only 10. My younger one (8) knows something has been going one though, and worries we will divorce, which she does not want. She is very perceptive for her years. I hope that if you do go the divorce route, which would actually probably be best in your situation, that it all works out for you and you get your fair share of assets, etc. Make sure before you do anything like that you have all your ducks in a row, so talk to divorce lawyer. I talked to one for 45 minutes, cost me $160 but was worth it to set my mind at ease. Good luck.
What a nice response by a nice mom
What a gracious, well-adjusted response to a rude, obviously maladjusted poster--Hard to imagine someone with such an empty life and such a petty spirit that they would take the time to post criticism about a kid's feet! (Some people really have major issues, LOL!)
I say that all the guys go and just keep the
ladies. I am so not liking the guys this time. Have watched it every single year and there is not a single solid 100% guy there this year. Hoping the girls will do better??? They have the guys beat every which away. There is really no competition here.
are you guys serious????
having a garage door open during the day on a nice day I would hardly call that out of the ordinary or stupid...once again, conversation taken out of context...
Thanks you guys
I only have Wal-Mart here and have not seen it there, but don't go often because they infuriate me. For Prell, I guess I'll suck it up and drive on over there and check. I miss cork too. I miss soda bottles that you returned to the store (when we were broke we just went to the garage and loaded them up and there we were, had enough cash to buy food until payday). Then we had more money and our son did the same so he had cash for things kids have to have, like popsicles and more soda, maybe a slingshot or a pack of beebees for his air gun. Now, it is sad there are only cans and bottles that are worth nothing in this state, we just leave them out to recycle. Big woop. Kids hardly ever have air guns anymore and you can't trust anyone so don't let your kids walk to the store to take back the bottles to buy popsicles. I can't wait to get some Prell! It is like insurance against color grab on the ends of your hair! All you do is shampoo it up on the ends and let it sit awhile and then rinse. Even color comes back most of the time. It smells like my mom too. Sigh. Have you noticed that there are 80 gazillion types of shampoo on the rack at the grocery store sometimes and none that you want? I still say to try that got2B brand shampoo called Squeaky Clean. It smells like heaven and makes your hair clean for two days and shiny too. I am really into that shampoo and magic erasers. They are two of the few things left that are really useful. It is sad to be so old that Magic Erasers sponges turn you on admission. I guess it beats the alternative to being old. Oh cute, I have the TV on the news and there is a pig named Broccoli who fell into a pool in Tracy, California and the firemen had to get him out. He is so cute! He is black and white and VERY BIG. Hayseed needs to see this. Broccoli's owner is petting him and he is so glad to be alive and saved from drowning! Maybe we need to get ourselves a pig. They look really friendly and smart. Maybe we could teach them how to type. My friend has an English bulldog who skateboards like the one on Youtube. His name is Meat. He is a sweetie, but ate a whole couch once when they went to the store. I guess I will stick to smaller dogs and check out the CC&Rs here in case I get a pig too.
Thank you guys
for such encouraging words. I sat in on the consult today with the doctor. They are going to keep my friend in the hospital for eight to ten days under observation, but they feel he will be fine.
Guys are just different than us
Some guys are just more aroused in the morning than at night. If I wanted sex (morning or evening) like you are saying you want, I would not mind either time. I know you are probably young and cannot understand this, but there are a lot of people who have absolutely no sex, and I am one of those- not by choice, but my husband has erectile dysfunction because of diabetes and high blood pressure. He has tried so many things he has read about, not like he does not want to- I am in his corner come hel. or high water because I love him so much. We have closeness and I cherish him beyond words. I probably would say not having been married a year, you or both of you need some kind of counseling in order to work through the problems that are coming through. Just being together a year, you should still be in the honeymoon period. Starving yourself, let me say this- a guy does not care if you are skinny or heavy in the bed, they only care about 1 thing and it is not a figure or lack of. I was married the first time, no organism and finally reached 1 with the 2nd marriage. People do not climax each and every time- some people do continuously, everyone different.
old guys
This is so funny. And yes it does sound like a Marine. I can just picture my step-dad saying these very words and he served in the Marines in Nam. Thanks for the smile!
Thanks guys!
Well you guys made me feel a little better. At least I know I am not the only one. Funny thing is we are both very young, he is 29 and I am 26 and we have been married for only a year. I thought we should still be super hot for each other right? Oh well, it is not me, it is him. The things women have to put up with.
ok,you guys, I had 3 of these and one
girl. I do remember people always saying girls matured earlier, and in some ways that is true. But there was a study with MRI's that definitely showed a lack of frontal lobe growth in boys until much later than girls. Don't worry, they will all be humanoid again in their 30's! LOL
Thanks guys
for all the helpful hints. I think you are right. The bottom of my thigh touches right at the chair edge. This is where I feel discomfort at times, and then my foot will fall asleep. I think I am going to try some of your ideas and see if it helps. It is just so darn uncomfortable and it totally drains me. I am exhausted at the end of my shift, more so than just transcribing. Thanks Again!
Thanks, you guys.
I appreciate all of your support, everyone. Do you sometimes feel like you're walking around with a big red D on your forehead? I do. My own church kicked me off the music team because "divorce is a sin, and God hates divorce." That has been harder on me than the divorce itself is. The ex still attends that church, and everybody feels "so sorry for him" because mean ol' me left him. They don't know the reasons I left, and I will never tell them....but believe me, they are Biblical reasons. It's gotten to where I hesitate to tell anyone at any church I visit that I'm divorced! Another thing, how do you cope with the fact that your long time friends (who are all still married) suddenly act like you have the plague? Maybe I'm being too sensitive. I'm sure you're right....it will get better with time.
Wow guys
wonderful responses and so quickly. I hope we can keep this thread going to help each other out. I wrote down these ideas and am going to start implementing many of them right away. Here are some of my ideas:
1. Utilities - We had 2 cell phones, got rid of one, which was mine, and I hardly ever used it. My husband has to have his because we run our own business. We had 2 house lines, one for our house phone and one for a fax machine. We got rid of one line, and kept the fax line, converting it to accept phone calls as well as faxes.
2. We heat our house with corn which in Northwest Indiana is a pretty cheap way to go. It will cost us approximatey $600.00 to heat our 2600 sq ft house for the winter. We would normally pay almost $450.00 a month with our heat and electric if we paid or electric company who has a monopoly in this area; no where else to go. :-(
3. I used to throw a load or two of laundry in every day, no matter how big the load (I have an energy efficient washer), to save time and so the laundry did not pile up. However, I realized that I was wasting soap, softner, and water even though I have an energy efficient washer. So, I am doing laundry only 2 days a week, maybe three if need be. Washing bigger loads at a time.
4. In regards to above, I use my dryer as a time management issue, because I run the office of our business during the day and transcribe at night. I think I will implement hanging my clothes out next summer, because I do not think it would be efficent in the winter right now - - would it?
5. I buy all snack foods at Aldi's. You save $1.00 to $1.50 an item. I shop at the most least expensive store in the area when possible, only shopping at the higher-priced stores if there is a sale.
6. Turn off lights, computer, etc., when not in use.
7. I buy my cleaning supplies and laundry supplies at our area dollar store. They carry name-brand items as well as generic-brand, but quite a bit cheaper.
I am brain dead now. I am sure there are many more.
Please keep them coming. There were many things that you guys mentioned that I never even thought of, and I am sure we can give each other good ideas to implement. I feel we are in a war here, and we need all the ammunition we can get as we carry out our role as our home managers :-)
Thank you guys so much for your
We really appreciate the support.
I wanted to share a picture of Chewy with you . . . I had wanted to get a picture of the five of them, all lined up getting treats from Daddy, heads turning in unison watching his every move . . . 
Where are you guys?...
I have a vacant house in Port Orchard and wonder if I need to be concerned.
Thanks you guys. I can't tell you how much I appreciate
this place and the ability to vent and have you guys listen unconditionally. And thank you for being so kind with your advice. I know what I did wasn't good and almost immediately regretted it. But you all are right, what's done is done, and I should just focus on my family and friends who do want to be part of our lives.
Just a followup, in case everyone was wondering about reaction to my email, I've received two responses. One from a daughter-in-law of my FIL's wife who offered her ear and her prayers and also told me that she has always wanted to say the same things. The other response I received was basically "shame on you for airing your dirty laundry" and told me I sounded like a bitter disturbed person which I guess I am.  For right now anyway.
Thanks again, you guys are the best!
I think guys like this should be PUT DOWN.
Come on, you guys....sm
Please review the annals of crime. You'll find plenty of horrendous crimes that have been committed by women.
This one thread has two very sexist remarks in it. One poster signed in "what is it with men, anyway", and this poster opines that women would not commit crimes like the subject of this thread. As a male on the board, I find such remarks objectionable, and rather odd considering that the news has been rife in recent years with the Anthony story, female teachers being arrested for raping their students, and women being arrested for cruelty to animals. Before that, we had the woman who ran a boarding house for older men and poisoned them for their Social Security checks.
Please! You wouldn't tolerate this if it ran the other way.
you guys! that is exactly what i say.
i sure do. when you say up north, what do you mean? LOL. out west we use it too :)
haven't picked up on the ya'll. and even if i say it, it does not come with your cute accent. haha
plenty of people love your accent like you love English accents though! :)
Thanks a lot guys!!!
still hurts like crap, but at least it is healing!!!
Have you guys seen the news...
about the alert and info on the 9-month-old? People just blow my mind with some of the things they pull these days!!!
You guys are killing me...LOL!!!!
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HEY, THAT'S BOB AND TOM!!! Great guys sm
We get them here 6 days a week from 6a to 10a. What a couple of nutcases they are! Funny as heck. Their website is www.bobandtom.com if you want to see what they really look like. Go check them out and no, I don't get referrals or anything like that for sending you to their site. They are just the funniest people I have ever heard. I mean, really, get paid to laugh on the job? That's all they do. They have the best jobs ever.
Were you guys close before this? I just
cannot believe this has escalated into this now. Even if she couldn't pay for it, she should have just admitted that they were at least partly responsible. To physically attack you though...I mean, this is your sister!
Good luck with everything and keep us updated.
I just think it is funny that you guys
call it "pop". We call it soda in our state! All that I can say is, drink water and exercise. Try to cut back on portions. Even when I did Weight Watchers, I halfed-it, and this allowed me that piece of cake, although I'm not big on sweets, but I loooovee potato chips! Even if you're not in a formal program of exercise, try doing some extra laps around the house. Put one dish away at a time and walk across your kitchen. I know it sounds silly, but I do this, and it seems to help. I only had trouble with my weight after giving birth to both of my children.
You guys are brave!
Those IUDs give me the heebie jeebies. They look like fishing lures. Oh my god, remember the ones from 30 years ago that looked like razor blades with teeth?! Not much grosses me out (I could watch surgical videos all day!), but those things make my stomach roll for some reason.
How do you guys get your backs
if you use it all over the body? I could never figure that one out.
Are you guys high?!
So I've got this thingy set up to "alert" me whenever my "handle" comes up or the name of the company I work for--and it shows this wacked thread!
I'd love to see a woman in the White House as well, but definitely not the one currently running. There's something about her that just rubs me. Oh yeah, the fact that she's still married to that dickhead for starters.
I'd vote for Ellen DeGeneres...female, gay (really frost the republicans behinds!)...and most important....A FRIGGIN RIOT! I'd love to believe that the world's problems could be solved with humor. It'd be fun to see her give it a shot though. Jon Stewart would make a great vice president.
If I were president, the White House would have a petting zoo, the rose garden would also have petunias in it, macaroni and cheese would occupy at least 1/4 of the food pyramid. Camp David would be open to the general public. All UFO information would be declassified. Political correctness would be outlawed and greenbud would be legal. Lastly, public schools would have classes on manners, school uniforms, and corporal punishment...but I guess that goes back to my pervy private fantasies again....
You guys did great...but there's more...
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Must be tough for you guys
Sorry for your troubles and losses...
Is it me or do the guys have it easier?!
How come a guy can waltz in and land the high-paying job without a degree, yet the woman has to have the proof of degree in hand, the multiple references (which with us are ALWAYS checked--men hardly ever), and the johnny-on-the-spot answers to such stupid-ass questions as, "If you were a tree, what kind of tree would you be?" ...all for a job (whether it's this field or whatever) with crappy benefits and crappy pay and even crappier treatment when you want time to also do the most noble thing of all and be a mother. 
Guys not hard to buy for...
If they're tech guys, get them Best Buy gift cards.
I can understand this well because some guys
just go crazy about any female paying them just attention. Question to you- is she younger than your mother? Basically lot of men carry on these little flirtations like this but very rare for a man to give up his family/home/life as he knows it. My father (after stepmom died) went bananas over a very young, married woman living down from him and spent over $100,000 on her buying her cars, giving her money, etc. etc so I know how it happens. You did not say age of your father- one thing I was going to do when I was finding things out was to take him to court. Found out from Family and Children Servies people cannot take advantage of an elderly person (as in taking their money) in devious ways.
Been there. I met 2 guys on line when I was
first divorced. The first one I went out with 3 times, he decided he wasn't interested because he "couldn't spend the night." The second one just totally creeped me out and so I just told him I wasn't interested. No need to let something like that drag on. It took me 2 years, but when I least expected it, I finally met the perfect guy and we have now been together 8+ years. Just keep looking, no need to tie yourself down to the first one you meet. Let him know you would like to remain friends.
I know about the teenager part. My mother who was 60 at the time told me I was acting like a teenager more after I divorced than I did when I was one. Just have fun and someone right for you will come along.
Like all four remaining guys . . .
Jason isn't the best singer, but I like his goofy charm.
Also like Carly. Really no stinkers this year. Would love to see the girls go one by one and have the guys battle it out.
you guys are so obnoxious
FYI, godly people pray because that is what God wants them to do (including before meals). It is not to impress you others. and if you don't want to see it -- its pretty simple -- don't look! There are many Christians getting quite tired of you others trying to force your ways (or lack thereof) upon us. You don't want to see someone pray, don't want a Bible on their desk. Is it also offensive to see someone wear a cross around their neck? I guess pretty soon, we'll have to be meeting secretly because it offends some of you to see cars in front of a church building huh?
Okay guys, thanks for the input -- sm
I felt 100% better after I vented that. I wish I would have stopped myself sooner, but I'm glad I stopped at least when I did. There were a lot of comments I would have liked to have made to that woman and didn't.
As for winning and losing, yes I was irritated and yes it was selfish of me to want my kids to win that one (I guess that means I'm human). But more than anything, I absolutely did not appreciate being talked to by her in that condescending manner.
I still do not like the woman and never will, but I will make sure the next game I will be as far away from her as possible and not to take it so seriously. You guys are right and I thank you for the reality check. My kids are still #1 to me and always will be no matter what the scoreboard says.
As an aside, I never put down any of the kids, on either team, but in retrospect, I think my behavior over the incident was a childish. Gotta work on that!
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