Sounds like you are not yest interested
Posted By: see message on 2008-04-14
In Reply to: Can't seem to move on after divorce - sadMT
in another relationship. My kids were 3 and 8 when I was divorced, I felt funny about bringing any man around for a while, if I dated I only saw them the weeks I did not have the kids (my ex and I have joint with having them every other week). I have been divorced 12+ years and they only met 2 guys I went out with, the first I dated for 2 years, and the present BF I have been for 8 years.
If and when you are ready then you will get out there. But in the meantime, go out with friends, don't just sit at home. If you are in a church, go to all their social events, volunteer time at the local hospital or libraty, whatever. You never know when you must might meet someone to change your mind. One thing for sure, if you are staying home all the time you will never get a chance to meet anyone, they don't come knocking on the door.
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Here it is for those who are interested
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the land of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together, for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
I am very interested
in this. Where do I purchase the DVD? Thank you so much for this information. I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
Who is interested in this?....s/m
Did you lose all your teeth that you have to soak your bread in milk to make it mushy?
I do not think that your sex-life story belongs here, not even on the Gab board.
Tell us more about your sex life, then we will call it 'Porn Board'.
You are crazy!
I'm interested too. Is there anything less/about
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here's some info is anyone is interested sm
http://www.sweetpoison.com/aspartame-information.html
Why she might be interested in younger men . . .
It sounds like your mother was devastated when your father died. Wow! Nearly 50 years together! If they had a happy marriage, she probably misses that closeness and wants to experience that again. And, maybe she's looking for younger men, because someone much younger is not likely to die before her. That means, she wouldn't have to experience the pain of being widowed again.
My uncle died just recently. He had been married to his second wife for just two years. His first wife died of cancer five years ago. And his second wife was widowed seven years earlier. When I spoke to his wife after the funeral, she talked about how horrible it was to be widowed twice, and that she didn't want to go through that ever again. But, she also talked about how lucky she was to have experienced two wonderful marriages.
Maybe your mother is looking for the same.... she wants another wonderful love in her life, but she's afraid of being a widow again. That would be reasonable, I think. However, she definitely sounds gullible, and she's looking for love in the wrong place! Has she had any grief counseling? Maybe you can talk to her about what it is she's really looking for. People do things because they are trying to fulfill needs. They repeat behaviors because there's some sort of payoff for what they're doing. She's getting something like a "sugar rush" when she meets these men online. Briefly, her fantasy is fulfilled. But, when the truth is revealed, she's devastated again. I know I'm sounding like a Psych 101 graduate, but that's really what it sounds like to me. She keeps doing this, because she likes that sugar rush. There has to be a way to break that, and to really find a way for her to be comfortable with herself.
I'm so sorry for her pain. She must be so sad after having lost her husband.
For anyone interested in adopting a pet
Here is a link where you can search on breed of animal and state. It's where we found Jake. Many excellent animals there, some of them just given up because owners didn't have the time for them, etc. My DH is worried we're going to end up with a house full of animals, but I wouldn't do that, limited time and great just with the one right now, although you never know... I've always been a supporter of animal rescue and participated volunteering for a puppy mill raid one time years ago, of course ended up bringing a dog home, but my other one needed a friend .
Update on hysterectomy for anyone who is interested. sm
Hi everyone. Well I had the hysterectomy this Tuesday done laparoscopically assisted and robotix assisted, so less trauma to the surrounding tissue. Have 5 very small cuts on my abdomen and uterus, tubes and right ovary (the only one remaining) were removed. It all went well. Stayed overnight at the hospital and came home Wednesday morning. Feeling really well. Was sore for the first couple of days and only had to take Motrin. Feeling really good today with hardly any soreness. I have to take it easy for a few weeks without any exertion, but otherwise feeling well and am so relieved it is over. So far no symptoms of hot flashes or anything, but I'm still waiting for that to happen, so we will see. I am happy to say I am please with the outcome so far and now I feel I can move on without worrying about that issue any more. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice and words of wisdom.
Here is his info in case anyone is interested
Truly I do not have that good a heart. This Christmas will be hard for my family. My mother, his grandmother who helped to raise him, died October 31 from lung cancer and we are all still reeling. I want to help him but, from a selfish point of view, I'm hoping that maybe getting involved in doing something for him and his buds will help me with the loss of my mom.
Blake is 20. He is married. He is a "good ole Georgia country boy" type guy, by his own admission. Loves trucks and Nascar, football, fishing, magazines related to those sorts of things. I know that phone cards are always welcome (they're only allowed to use AT&T ones for soem reason). He loves sweets but not particularly just chocolate. He likes taking pics when he is not otherwise occupied and he uses myspace to post his pics and keep us up to date with what's going on with him. It's funny (funny weird not funny haha) that he has fairly easy access to the Internet and very limited access to phones.
He is a really down-to-earth kid with a great sense of humor. He amazes me. He lost a guy in his unit, a guy he had been with since basic at Ft. Stewart, and has had a close call or 2 himself, but he takes it all in stride and stays grateful for what he has. He had been home on leave right before my mom died so he got some time with her, thank God.
The idea for the single drink mixes was awesome - I would have never thought of that.
If you would like to send Blake or his unit something, please email me for the mailing address.
Male or female so I will know if I am interested. NM
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Pork roast...details below if anyone is interested
I do mine with tomatoes, basil and a clove of frash garlic and just a tad of oliver oil. I wrap that in foil and put it on the grill. I make this with red potatoes (slice partway open and put some butter inside, wrap in foil and grill also). I usually steam some green beans to go along with it, but this is a throw it on and forget about is for 45 minutes. Not great for those thighs but tastes heavenly!
you might be interested in this. I have a feeling we'll all be needing it.
99 Cent Store Cookbook
http://www.amazon.com/99-Cent-Only-Stores-Cookbook/dp/1598694693/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1208650285&sr=8-1
Description:
Tired of forking over hundreds of dollars for entertaining her friends and family, Christiane Jory made a decision. She challenged herself to create more than 100 gourmet recipes for appetizers, side dishes, main courses, and desserts-solely with items she found at 99¢ Only Stores! In this delightful, practical cookbook, Jory serves up delectable dishes, including:
Artichoke Spinach Bake on Homemade Pizza Bread
Green Beans Au Gratin
Chicken Tetrazinni
Pinot Noir Poached Pear Tart
This handy guide is filled with sample menus, a glossary of cooking terms, and space for creating recipes of your very own. Each recipe includes an estimated cost and helpful kitchen hints, such as uses for recycled milk cartons and how to freeze egg whites. Never again will finances be an excuse for not entertaining with pizzazz. With The 99¢ Only Stores Cookbook, feeding a family, playing host to five or six, or even simply cooking for one at home needn't cost a small fortune ever again!
Central WA - 4.09 a gallon. I'm selling my SUV! Anyone interested?
American Idol night! Anyone interested
in commenting/gabbing about the performances as they happen tonight & making predictions? I love when the competition starts getting tight like this.
I'd be interested...email me with site when it's ready!
I love accessories and all that that entails *sigh*
I don't think anyone would be interested in my boring hermit MT life.
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Anyone interested in ALW broadway plays or NFL football?
As far as NFL, I have been, and always will be, a Minnesota Vikings fan. They have broken my heart so many times but I've been a fan 35 years now. I grew up about 90 minutes south of Cleveland and have never even been to MN. But I loved the color purple, the Purple People Eaters, Frank Tarkenton, Matt Blair, Chuck Foreman, etc. It's my second longest relationship (my family being my first - LOL).
As for Andrew-Lloyd Webber plays, I know every word to every song from Evita, Jesus Christ Superstar, Cats, and Phantom. I also love A Chorus Line (not an ALW play). I've seen it twice live and cried both times. Most of the dancers' stories are just so sad. "At The Ballet" is my favorite. Here's a youtube link. Watch the third girl who comes in during the song (Maggie - played by Kay Cole) and watch her belt out a high E like you've never heard. (around 4:54 into the song).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cPBWzsQ5zo
As a side note, the first girl who sings (Sheila) is played by Kelly Bishop who is on the Gilmore Girls (never saw show, just heard she was on it).
These people are the original Broadway cast.
I've seen Evita live several times as well as JSC. I actually got to see JCS with the original Jesus and Judas from the movie made in 1973 (Ted Neeley and Carl Anderson) at a performance in CT (Foxwoods Casino). Unfortunately, we lost Carl Anderson (Judas) to leukemia a few years back. There will never be another Judas like him, AFAIC. Godspeed, Carl.
So, anyone else an NFL or ALW/Broadway play fan? Anyone have any different Broadway plays they really like?
(my daughter's) Lost coat update for those interested - sm
Believe it or not after 3 weeks it has surfaced! One of the 3 girls I had not been able to locate a phone number on told my daughter today at lunch that she had it. She had not been in dance last week (and they did not have dance the week before). It was in her dance bag. She had picked up the scarf and coat (supposedly) because she saw Jess had left them, and then had forgotten about it which I find a little hard to swallow as she sees my daughter every day in school (in the same class/home room all day together). But regardless of all that, she came forward today about it. So I don't know why it took so long, but I am glad my daughter got them both back. So if he taking it was not so innocent I hope she learned something, and my daughter has learned to be a bit more careful with her things. 
hmmm...pretty quickly went from you ever heard of to contact me if interested
Why not call him at home or mail a note to his house & let him know you're interested? Or see if
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You may be, from the sounds of your posts, sounds like an *illegal*
and that in itself is a crime. Nobody else would take 65.00 for an entire day slaving/laundry, heavy cleaning, etc. LOL. Nah, I don't think so. I'm just saying, what it sounds like to me. : )
He sounds wonderful...sounds like you two have a relationship (sm)
based on love and nothing superficial at all. I'm glad you appreciate him and are so grateful for him. Best wishes & continued happiness to you both :-)
Sounds like you are doing everything right...
Hang in there. It sounds to like you are doing everything right. I totally agree that kids are under too much pressure these days and that they certainly need to be given more time to just be kids. Being a single mom I try make sure that my children grow up to be responsible adults with good morals and values, but I also make sure that they have their space so they have a chance to make their own choices (when possible) and see the consequences of those choices. Being a parent is certainly not easy and doing it in today's society is stressful to say the least.
As for your neighbor, I think she could take some lessons from you. Good luck and keep your chin up!!!
Sounds to me like . . .
she has the attention she wanted, it's almost like you took her bait. She sent you nasty Emails and now you are begging her to forgive you. You know the the saying "Don't cast pearls before swine". Sounds like she can more easily respond to the negative rather than the positive. Anyway, what would you do if she forgave you? Be her friend again? Until she changes her heart, you're better off, keep your distance. She sees your goodness as weakness. It's probably fun for her to make you uncomfortable. Maybe deep down she is jealous of you. Don't hate her, be sad for her. Don't fall into her games.
sounds like a CC I used to have, which did--sm
pretty much the same thing. They said it was their *annual fee* and, like you, I just paid it to keep the peace and close the account. Personally I think it is a scam just to get a few more dollars out of you, but how do you prove it and who do you complain to??? I don't have credit cards any longer either. Learned my lesson too. what a rip!
Sounds like (sm)
your FIL has two abled bodies to care for him already. Why should you go back? It would probably be nice if you checked in once in a while and took your 2-year-old to visit, but moving back sounds like it would put a strain on things. Your husband may be feeling guilty and feels the need to "help". Explain to him that helping is taking some groceries once in a while or offering to pick-up meds, etc. You, your husband, and child would be probably a breath of fresh air once in a while if you were to just visit on occasion. Moving back seems a little like overkill, but it is tough because when it is family you want to give it your all! Also, there is one in every family that "freeloads". Let them figure it out for now. Hope your FIL is feeling better soon and hope you can find your way to be helpful without having to sacrifice your new home.... Take care and good luck...
sounds mean . . .sm
but when my daughter and husband were pulling that on me I told my daughter it was not safe that she could die very easily in the front seat or get hurt very badly. She quit asking, daddy quit doing it. Now she is 12-1/2 and no problem there, she is 5Ƌ" and weighs about 130 pounds. But I used to get SO FRUSTRATED!!! Daddy's little girl . . . .
Don't know that one, but it sounds sm
like a good time. if you are in for an evening away from the parks. I have friends who own Sleuth's dinner theater. Three theaters, dinner included, plus one is only for kids, I think. You enjoy a great dinner, and a murder mystery play, where you take part in solving the mystery. It is right on Universal Drive and I think the website is sleuths.com
sounds like your going to anyway.
but i would urge you to proceed with caution, go very very slowly. When it seems too perfect, too good to be true, it may be wrong. One of my first thoughts is that if he is the spiritual man you think, ie, Christian, he might not have had 2 divorces -- not always the case, but often times. you both need to know what your own faults are and be careful to not make the same mistakes. More than anything (outside of knowing each other very well, nonintimately) is have real committment on both sides, the determination to stay with the marriage. i married a man with 2 divorces too -- 25 yr later we're still married. But it was sheer determination to make it work on my part, lots of prayer and such. I did endure what one should not have to, to get to this point. Once i was into it, i certainly understood how come he had been divorced twice. Wishing you the best.
Sounds like now as of this a.m.
Apparently the so-called lawyer owns a business called Hot Lips Smoochy or something like that and has never tried any cases at all. He is apparently the executor of her estate. Now isn't that convenient? He tells the photographer Daddy that she lost the baby, but she winds up having a baby anyway 9 months later. The photographer breaks it off with her because she is drinking while pregnant. Oh my, the gossip. She looks like she's all drugged-up on any interviews I've seen, and I saw one last night from 3 days before her death. She is wearing dark glasses for the first part (inside), and they go outside, and she takes the glasses off. Makes no sense. I don't know, but what does Granny want with the baby now? That poor baby! So many Daddies?????? I have never seen men trying to prove they ARE the father in all of my life? Twists and turns this story has, which I'm sure has the producers in Hollywood salivating. There will be books and there will be moves. Life happens, I guess.
It sounds to me like you are not even willing --sm
to compromise on this and want everything YOUR way. What arrangement does HE want? Do you even know? You never said what HE would like. It is just my opinion, but it does not sound like you are even ready to get married, if you cannot find a way to compromise on even this small detail. Good luck to you.
Sounds to me like you were just being
very thoughtful, and I bet he appreciates you as much as you seem to appreciate him. What a wonderful thing!
She sounds like quite a gal . . .
especially the part about being a practicing Buddhist. She probably marched to the beat of a different drummer. The doctors might have saved her but who knows what quality of life she might have. My mom, dad, aunts all were healthy until their 80s. They end up in a nursing home. My aunt is 90, she's really been dying for a year, they keep on prolonging it. I think death at some point may be a blessing. You're going through a mourning process. Your tears are for you, you'll miss her, she'll be in a better place. You are going to have to brace up and take comfort in your faith.
Actually should be It sounds.....nm
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sounds like my SIL
We had a chow years ago. We raised him from a pup and he was very protective of all of us but especially the kids. ANY kids for that matter.
The kids in the yard, someone comes up the driveway, he was there. Would not let anyone get between him and those kids. Didn't matter if they were our kids or their friends. He never bit anyone but he wasn't going to let anyone take "his" kids either.
Never did that to the parents of the kids either, just total strangers that he didn't know. For Chow's, he had an exceptional personality and never saw him so much as growl at anyone. He would bark but would back away as he was barking.
My SIL's chow is a rescue so who knows how he was raised.
She just sounds like someone who has --sm
to pick and pick until she starts an arguement. Try to ignore her. If you don't give her what she wants, she will go away. just my opinion.
sounds like it to me . . .
I've seen two physicians recently, one who specializes in anxiety, and they think the crude policy under my current company of having to "make up" any time I take off is burning me out, promotes physical and mental self-neglect and is fueling an anxiety disorder. "That's sick," is actually what one said, and put me on a mild anxiolytic temporarily and told me to find a way out. The company says "everyone else does it" like I'm some kind of freak or bad MT, but in talking to other MTs there I'm finding the majority saying no they're not or they are frying themselves out doing it and have also complained about it. Having to always "make up" a day off is not a day off and does not promote rest. I'm having to learn to take the doctors' advice I'm typing for, letting go and taking care of myself. :-) The consequences of not doing so are much more dire. It kills me they have an EAP program. Seems to me investing in just letting people have a life would be more efficient. Recently bought out, the new company acted like it was a plus to keep this crappy policy. Yeah, right.
I'm really, really close to singing "Take this job and shove it . . . " Shame, because it's an otherwise decent company, um, unless you want a life.
Watching all my family enjoy this weekend as a 3-day weekend while I type. Sometimes I wake up and cry before starting work because I feel like I can't get a break from this job without consequences.
WORDS OF WISDOM: When applying for an MT job, ASK CAREFULLY about the EXACT way "time off" is calculated and quiz their MTs, not the administrative people who have never done MT. What looks good on paper . . .
Sounds like they don’t have a pot to
pi..s… in. These sound like grown folks and I do not consider myself a bank, therefore do not loan money out even to my grown KIDS. Only could a child move in with me if they were sick and unable to take care of their own self. Sounds like they have no responsibility about financial business. Sorry they would just have to do things on their own. Loaning money (or giving it away, whatever the case is) only makes relationships strained. I do not sign as collateral for anyone, do not take stray folks in, do not run a banking business.
sounds
That sounds very pretty. You can also do just a border around the top of the wall with the sponge paint effect. That way it keeps it from being too much green!
Sounds to me like
although getting paid, maybe not the right 1 to be trying to watch the kids. I am a grandmother myself. This sounds like she is irritated by their actions and maybe they did kick her more than you OR maybe with her older legs it just hurts her more. My legs now are a lot different from when I had children as far as the aches and pains, even bruises and sometimes cuts just show up without your knowing where they exactly came from. Yes, she is offended they said something about her legs (even though on the 7 year old I would know probably too young to really understand what the veins were) but she is getting back at them now and trying to get her point across - even if they arent understanding she is trying to make them understand. I don’t see this as a really workable situation. It has been 2 weeks and already everyone at everyone else. Not a good situation. Pretty soon grandmom and kids just doing tit for TAT at each other. Maybe a good sit down and talk it over or else grandmom goes back home and you get someone who is a little younger and able to corral the kids better?
Sounds like you are doing everything right to me - sm
I lived at home for years as it was too expensive to get your own place where my parents were unless you had a really, really good income, which I did not have unfortunately. I did not have a firm curfew once I went to college but it was understood they prefered I be home by 1 a.m. which I ususally abided by, if I knew I was going to be out later I told them, or if I was not coming home at all, I told them. They always knew who I was out with too, and the general plan for the evening. I never really resented it, yeah it was a drag sometimes but at least they cared enough to ask and try and keep me out of trouble (they don't know half of the stupid stuff I did do and never got in trouble for; i.e. going out with stranger met in a parking lot, that sort of stuff, nothing criminal). One thing that will stop her from staying out really late is make her get a summer job, that is one thing that kept me from staying out all hours, sleep was necessary to get up at 6:45 and be at work at 8:00 (til 5pm). My parents paid my tuition but I paid for all the supplies, books, etc., and I also worked 2 jobs at school. Sounds like she needs something to keep her busy and grow up some. If she does not shape up, pull the car privileges unless it is to go to work, and have her pay her own car insurance and cell phone, that may wise her up to life.
Sounds like when I got...sm
a Christmas card from a friend AFTER Christmas. I still don't know what was up with that.
BTW~ My friends threw me a surprise birthday brunch today for my 40th birthday and I have already started writing my thank you notes!
Sounds like her first kid and she has never
been around others to me.
Wow - that sounds so much like him (sm)
He left me alone after my c-section, he left me alone when I got devastating medical news, etc. Once I had a car accident a mile away and he would not come and help me after I called him all shaken up. When I mention these things he just accuses me of bringing up the past. But they are real examples of how I have been treated for years.
Sounds like me and my cat - (sm)
I went through something similar as you are going through with yours. I kept saying I'd know when it was time and really watching to make sure I wasn't being selfish. She went on about her business, albeit different from before, just made herself new routines, and did what she was able. When she couldn't jump on my lap anymore, I picked her up, and things like that. If she didn't like one can of food, I'd open another. This went on for months. I feel like I had the opportunity to let her have a good life, and show her how much I loved her, right up until the end - she decided when it was time. I know what you are feeling. Just love her and enjoy the time you have.
Thanks - really sounds like just what I need (nm)
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Sounds to me like you have
approval addiction. I have it as well and know how you feel. If you don't do everything perfect for everybody you feel guilty. I suggest either reading or buying the audio of the book Approval Addiction by Joyce Meyers. It is wonderful!!
Wow - that sounds like one of
those high-energy dogs. Thank goodness for me that Cedric is pretty laid back, especially since we think he's young.
Sure...why not...sounds
really delicious with the rice...How much rice are you going to add? Don't want it to be too dry as the rice soaks up liquid.
It sounds like they are like
they said...BORED....so if that is all it is...maybe you can coax them into going...if they spend the night there once or twice a year, they get to pick some sort of game or craft to bring with to make with Grandma or maybe they could bring a friend along...something to break up the boredom.
Boy sounds just like my MIL except we have never - sm
allowed the kids to stay over there unless one of us is there too. Maybe if you do want to let them, stay too, you might hate (as I do but I am trying to make my in-laws happy) but the kids will be happier. I would not force them to go though. If my in-laws lived closer there would be issues but they live ~100 miles away so that makes it easier though lately they have been very creative in their arguments/requests for having the kids stay over. Maybe if they didn't see our kids as trophys I'd feel differently but they also want to take them around and show them off, and as they have no common sense we don't allow it, period. Hate to see what they will be like when their brains get mushy! They are 73 and 77 now and still pretty sharp, forgetful of course but certainly have most of their wits (just no sense). We are going there for Thanksgiving, my DH might not even go as he caught my cold and I am on day 11 with it and it is still hanging on with a vengence, so I am less than thrilled to be going especially if by myself (and the kids of course). Very boring there, we will basically sit around all day and watch TV for 8 hours (getting there at 11 and leaving about 7); kids might go to a playground nearby with their uncle but as it is supposed to rain here I doubt they will get to do that. So we will be couped up all day in their dark, cold house (they have 2 sets of curtains on every window). The kids love to see their grandparents but there is just nothing for them to do there, but they do try and usually buy them some sort of crafty thing for them to do, but that only last so long. We may take our Wii as my DH wants to show it to his dad, so that may bring some excitement to the day for a change....guess I will find out on Thursday. -----so on that note, again if you want to make you MIL happy tell the kids 2 x a year you stay 1 night and you go too or your DH (its his mom) so they feel a bit better and maybe you can act as a go-between and get MIL to be a bit less bossy and maybe start asking the kids, hey do you want to help me make cookies/cake, or go for a walk, or go shopping? They are old enough to express an opinion on what they might like to do. Have fun, I know I will (LOL).
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