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Update on hysterectomy for anyone who is interested. sm

Posted By: Just me on 2007-03-03
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Hi everyone. Well I had the hysterectomy this Tuesday done laparoscopically assisted and robotix assisted, so less trauma to the surrounding tissue. Have 5 very small cuts on my abdomen and uterus, tubes and right ovary (the only one remaining) were removed. It all went well. Stayed overnight at the hospital and came home Wednesday morning. Feeling really well. Was sore for the first couple of days and only had to take Motrin. Feeling really good today with hardly any soreness. I have to take it easy for a few weeks without any exertion, but otherwise feeling well and am so relieved it is over. So far no symptoms of hot flashes or anything, but I'm still waiting for that to happen, so we will see. I am happy to say I am please with the outcome so far and now I feel I can move on without worrying about that issue any more. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice and words of wisdom.


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Believe it or not after 3 weeks it has surfaced!  One of the 3 girls I had not been able to locate a phone number on told my daughter today at lunch that she had it.  She had not been in dance last week (and they did not have dance the week before). It was in her dance bag.  She had picked up the scarf and coat (supposedly) because she saw Jess had left them, and then had forgotten about it which I find a little hard to swallow as she sees my daughter every day in school (in the same class/home room all day together). But regardless of all that, she came forward today about it.  So I don't know why it took so long, but I am glad my daughter got them both back.  So if he taking it was not so innocent I hope she learned something, and my daughter has learned to be a bit more careful with her things. 
hysterectomy
Can't speak for everyone, but my hysterectomy was the BEST thing I ever did!  I had it almost 4 years ago due to severe abdominal pain after spending a few years in and out of surgery for D&C's, uterine ablation, etc.  I had a vaginal hysterectomy and was home within 36 hours -- no pain!  I don't regret it for a moment.  I still have my ovaries (my choice and doc's recommendation), so I still go every year for my annual physical.  I had some adhesions from my appendectomy, but it didn't seem to be a problem.  My advice - git 'er done!
hysterectomy
I just had a hysterectomy done a couple months ago - and for me personally it was one of the best decisions I have made. I have tons more energy now, no pain, and even have more of a sex drive (which of course my husband loves!). In saying that, every individual is different. There is a website called HysterSisters dot com - check it out - very helpful with information and answers to questions you may have. Good luck to you whatever you decide.
Here it is for those who are interested

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.


You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.


Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.


But let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.


Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.


Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.


Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.


Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.


Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.


For only the land of Life can contain your hearts.


And stand together, yet not too near together, for the pillars of the temple stand apart, and the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.


I am very interested
in this.  Where do I purchase the DVD?  Thank you so much for this information.  I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
Who is interested in this?....s/m
Did you lose all your teeth that you have to soak your bread in milk to make it mushy?
I do not think that your sex-life story belongs here, not even on the Gab board.
Tell us more about your sex life, then we will call it 'Porn Board'.
You are crazy!
I'm interested too. Is there anything less/about
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Hysterectomy, my story sm
I had to have a TAH-BSO. My fibroid was the size of a soccer ball, so that was the only way it could come out. My doctor recommended, since I was over the age of 45, to remove the tubes and ovaries to prevent future possibility of ovarian cancer. I was on estrogen for a little while (first estradiol patch - didn't like it, then Cenestin), but I didn't notice any hot flashes or anything really different, so I stopped taking the estrogen. It was so nice not bleeding so much any more. I was out of work for 6 weeks, though. Also, if you have stress incontinence or any other problems in the area, they can fix that all at the same time, so it really was worth it. I had umbilical hernia surgery in the past so don't know about the adhesions, but I was fine. Also, won't need yearly Pap smears any more, just once every 5 years or so (according to my doctor). Good Luck
Your upcoming hysterectomy
I agree with the other posters. Best thing I ever did and I, too, was 42. Actually had gallbladder out in April 1998 and hysterectomy in July 1998:( I had everything removed so did not have to worry. I had the vaginal surgery, almost had to have abdominal because of size of uterus. Thank God it went well vaginally. I agree with Janet, I could have gone to work the next day. Felt absolutely GREAT!! What is more, I was working in-house for a clinic and had sick time built up and my doctor was gracious enough to give me 8 weeks off, during the summer have you and.........I was paid for doing it. Good luck!
Please help. Had a hysterectomy last year
and ever since I am drying up like a prune. My sinuses are always clogged and the top of my eyelids are so dry I can hardly put eyeshadow on because it just flakes off. Has anyone else had this problem after a hysterectomy or while going through menopause? Is there a miracle cream out there for my dry skin? I've tried a few but so far nothing works.
Had my hysterectomy 13 years ago, and
although they are not as bad as they used to be. And no, I am not ERT.
Hysterectomy question
Hope you do not have to. You are way too young. I had one 10 years ago, had cervical cancer, so abdominal with bikini cut. I had a long recovery, 5 days in hospital, 8 weeks out of work. I was very sore and tired for about the first 2 weeks. It was very tiring just to blow dry my hair. Then 3 years ago had to have ovaries out through a vertical midline incision. That recovery was much better. My sister-in-law also just had a hysterectomy, vertical midline and she recovered very quickly. Was out of the hospital in 2 days and really felt great a few weeks later but had to be out of work for 4-6. I all depends on your tolerance and I think the incision if abdominal.

Good luck and take care of yourself. Definitely get a second or even third opinon since you are so young.
MT with the hysterectomy - are you back among us yet?
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If you are referring to me, I had the hysterectomy. sm
I posted here and got a lot of great advice from everyone. I am the one who had the left ovary removed first and then found out I was borderline cancer and the doctors recommended a complete hysterectomy. Well, I did have the hysterectomy and thankfully, all went well. Nothing had spread anywhere and all turned out fine. I am doing very well. Had my procedure laparoscopically and robotix assisted so less invasive. I spent one night in the hospital and actually was back at my computer the next day....on a limited basis of course...but I must say I have been lucky so far. Only hot flashes here and there, but other than that I have felt pretty good. Thanks for asking, if you were referring to me.
Had a hysterectomy 20 years ago
Still have my ovaries, though, and am going through menopause. That sure doesn't help matters!
The 50 pounds after the hysterectomy? (sm)
I have gained a lot in the last 6 months and wonder if it is related to my hormonal issues. Did you lose weight after your hysterectomy?
I just had a supracervical hysterectomy last
However, I felt pretty good after a week.  I was back typing right away, pretty much, but not an 8-hour shift.  I'm an IC, so I can kind of type when I want.  Hubby had to do deliveries, but he worked it into his lunchtime.  I am just glad I did it because I was tired of suffering.  D&C didn't work either.  Birth control didn't work.  I had adenomyosis though confirmed after surgery, so I guess that was my biggest problem.  There was something wrong and it was causing problems for me.  So, I'm glad to have it done with.
here's some info is anyone is interested sm

http://www.sweetpoison.com/aspartame-information.html


Why she might be interested in younger men . . .
It sounds like your mother was devastated when your father died. Wow! Nearly 50 years together! If they had a happy marriage, she probably misses that closeness and wants to experience that again. And, maybe she's looking for younger men, because someone much younger is not likely to die before her. That means, she wouldn't have to experience the pain of being widowed again.
My uncle died just recently. He had been married to his second wife for just two years. His first wife died of cancer five years ago. And his second wife was widowed seven years earlier. When I spoke to his wife after the funeral, she talked about how horrible it was to be widowed twice, and that she didn't want to go through that ever again. But, she also talked about how lucky she was to have experienced two wonderful marriages.
Maybe your mother is looking for the same.... she wants another wonderful love in her life, but she's afraid of being a widow again. That would be reasonable, I think. However, she definitely sounds gullible, and she's looking for love in the wrong place! Has she had any grief counseling? Maybe you can talk to her about what it is she's really looking for. People do things because they are trying to fulfill needs. They repeat behaviors because there's some sort of payoff for what they're doing. She's getting something like a "sugar rush" when she meets these men online. Briefly, her fantasy is fulfilled. But, when the truth is revealed, she's devastated again. I know I'm sounding like a Psych 101 graduate, but that's really what it sounds like to me. She keeps doing this, because she likes that sugar rush. There has to be a way to break that, and to really find a way for her to be comfortable with herself.
I'm so sorry for her pain. She must be so sad after having lost her husband.
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The reason it is called a hysterectomy is sm
in Victorian days, doctors, of course were male.  They thought women were hysterical, in the psycho sense.  They freely did "hysterectomies", removing reproductive organs, and even a woman's clitoris, hoping it would calm them down.  (probably make them more like men). 
Had a hysterectomy 6-1/2 years ago, not for cancer, but
by far, one of the best decisions I ever made. I did get to keep my ovaries, but knowing what I know now I still would have it done even if it meant both ovaries being taken out, too. I know it's a tough decision and my prayers are with you. I'm  glad the cancer was contained to the one ovary.
Still trying to decide whether to have a hysterectomy. See message
I posted last week about my dilema about whether to have a hysterectomy or not after my left ovarian cyst (which was removed along with ovary) came back with a pathology report stating papillary serous tumor, borderline. Doctor says I should have hysterectomy for "insurance" and preventative measures. However, according to their group discussion, my tumor was borderline, but "more on the benign side". I am so confused. I'm 42 and I don't want to have a hysterectomy, but yet, I don't want to have a problem with cancer either. I have the option to follow every six months. Is this safe? Am I better off getting a hysterectomy? I just don't know what to do!!!!
Had hysterectomy years ago and not dried up per se but
my face was doing exactly as yours, the flaking of the eyelids. My surgery was in 1984 so it was not that. My dermatologist told me to never ever again put regular soap or those good smelling products on my face and told me to use Cetaphil soap (get at your drug store, Wal-Mart, etc) and I was not believing her but it works. The dry flaky eyelids went away as well as the other dry parts on my face. I tried a lot of the other things the people mentioned on MTs to me but finally found the answer. Try it, I do not think you will be sorry. Hey, by the way, my eyebrows even had dandruff (none on head) in them and that was terrible. Good luck!
Had ablation 3 years ago, having hysterectomy
I first asked my GYN about a hysty when I was 38. I was very irregular and never knew when I would start, except that I figured out that the days I stood in the shower and cried my heart out was always the day prior to starting. He said I was too young.

Fast forward to age 43. GYN recommended lap supracervical hysty but agreed to trying Novasure ablation to buy some time. For the past 3 years, I had only light spotting for half a day and my emotions were better, but still I felt I was overly emotional than what I expected from the surgery.

In January I had to take a Medrol Dosepak for something. On the same day as my last dose, I had a full-blown period. I have now had 3 in 40 days. They are worse than ever. I'm scheduled for a hysterectomy on Monday.

If you do consider an ablation, my advice is to stay away from steroids! It did buy some time for me, but combined with another health problem I have had (IBS/celiac sprue), I have been miserable for a year and I'm eager for this surgery!
Here is his info in case anyone is interested

Truly I do not have that good a heart. This Christmas will be hard for my family. My mother, his grandmother who helped to raise him, died October 31 from lung cancer and we are all still reeling. I want to help him but, from a selfish point of view, I'm hoping that maybe getting involved in doing something for him and his buds will help me with the loss of my mom.

Blake is 20. He is married. He is a "good ole Georgia country boy" type guy, by his own admission.  Loves trucks and Nascar, football, fishing, magazines related to those sorts of things. I know that phone cards are always welcome (they're only allowed to use AT&T ones for soem reason). He loves sweets but not particularly just chocolate.  He likes taking pics when he is not otherwise occupied and he uses myspace to post his pics and keep us up to date with what's going on with him. It's funny (funny weird not funny haha) that he has fairly easy access to the Internet and very limited access to phones.


He is a really down-to-earth kid with a great sense of humor. He amazes me. He lost a guy in his unit, a guy he had been with since basic at Ft. Stewart, and has had a close call or 2 himself, but he takes it all in stride and stays grateful for what he has. He had been home on leave right before my mom died so he got some time with her, thank God.


The idea for the single drink mixes was awesome - I would have never thought of that.


If you would like to send Blake or his unit something, please email me for the mailing address.


Sounds like you are not yest interested
in another relationship. My kids were 3 and 8 when I was divorced, I felt funny about bringing any man around for a while, if I dated I only saw them the weeks I did not have the kids (my ex and I have joint with having them every other week). I have been divorced 12+ years and they only met 2 guys I went out with, the first I dated for 2 years, and the present BF I have been for 8 years.

If and when you are ready then you will get out there. But in the meantime, go out with friends, don't just sit at home. If you are in a church, go to all their social events, volunteer time at the local hospital or libraty, whatever. You never know when you must might meet someone to change your mind. One thing for sure, if you are staying home all the time you will never get a chance to meet anyone, they don't come knocking on the door.
Male or female so I will know if I am interested. NM
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My physician never brought up about hysterectomy, I told him
I wanted to see about this but this situation different. I had ongoing bleding that could not be controlled and then another person in medical field told me how their friend almost hemorrhaged and not being able to stop the bleeding in the nighttime. I immediately called my physician and asked for a hysterectomy. So glad I did. This was in 1986 and loads of typing then on AIDS patients and how blood could be responsible. I did not want a transfusion at that particular time. My view only. No problem with the surgery at all. Now there are other means of controlling but past childbearing, saw no reason to just have the periods.
Pork roast...details below if anyone is interested
I do mine with tomatoes, basil and a clove of frash garlic and just a tad of oliver oil. I wrap that in foil and put it on the grill. I make this with red potatoes (slice partway open and put some butter inside, wrap in foil and grill also). I usually steam some green beans to go along with it, but this is a throw it on and forget about is for 45 minutes. Not great for those thighs but tastes heavenly!
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Green Beans Au Gratin
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Central WA - 4.09 a gallon. I'm selling my SUV! Anyone interested?

American Idol night! Anyone interested
in commenting/gabbing about the performances as they happen tonight & making predictions?  I love when the competition starts getting tight like this. 
I'd be interested...email me with site when it's ready!
I love accessories and all that that entails *sigh*
I don't think anyone would be interested in my boring hermit MT life.
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Anyone interested in ALW broadway plays or NFL football?

As far as NFL, I have been, and always will be, a Minnesota Vikings fan.  They have broken my heart so many times but I've been a fan 35 years now.  I grew up about 90 minutes south of Cleveland and have never even been to MN.  But I loved the color purple, the Purple People Eaters, Frank Tarkenton, Matt Blair, Chuck Foreman, etc.  It's my second longest relationship (my family being my first - LOL).


As for Andrew-Lloyd Webber plays, I know every word to every song from Evita, Jesus Christ Superstar, Cats, and Phantom.  I also love A Chorus Line (not an ALW play).  I've seen it twice live and cried both times.  Most of the dancers' stories are just so sad. "At The Ballet" is my favorite.  Here's a youtube link.  Watch the third girl who comes in during the song (Maggie - played by Kay Cole) and watch her belt out a high E like you've never heard.  (around 4:54 into the song). 


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cPBWzsQ5zo


As a side note, the first girl who sings (Sheila) is played by Kelly Bishop who is on the Gilmore Girls (never saw show, just heard she was on it).


These people are the original Broadway cast. 


I've seen Evita live several times as well as JSC.  I actually got to see JCS with the original Jesus and Judas from the movie made in 1973 (Ted Neeley and Carl Anderson) at a performance in CT (Foxwoods Casino).  Unfortunately, we lost Carl Anderson (Judas) to leukemia a few years back.  There will never be another Judas like him, AFAIC.  Godspeed, Carl.


So, anyone else an NFL or ALW/Broadway play fan?  Anyone have any different Broadway plays they really like?


Hysterectomy. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and opinions. I have decided to go ahead with t
After obtaining the opinions of different physicians, the concensus is that my safest bet to avoid developing cancer given my borderline ovarian tumor is to proceed with a total hysterectomy. After pondering and fretting, although I am not thrilled with having a hysterectomy at age 42, I also don't want to be faced with developing cancer in the future, as they tell me I have a 20% probability of developing problems in the other ovary with my history. So full speed ahead....hysterectomy it is. If anyone of you has had a complete hysterectomy, I would love to hear from you regarding how you fared after the whole thing, if you required hormones, felt good, felt bad, etc. Thanks in advance.
hmmm...pretty quickly went from you ever heard of to contact me if interested

 


Why not call him at home or mail a note to his house & let him know you're interested? Or see if
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Thanks for the update. I'm sorry about
your brother and his family. What a shame. I'm glad Sasha had a good day. It must be really hard for you, because you probably want to pour your heart out to your brother about Misha, but you probably don't feel comfortable doing that with his loss, too. Well, I'll be thinking about you and sending up prayers, now for your whole family. I hope tomorrow is a better day, and so on, and so on.
Thanks for the update
Hi Stephanie. Glad to hear that your trip to the doctor was helpful. I know I really need to
get into the exercise too. Never was that big on exercise before, but now with the pain and fatigue, it is really hard to get motivated. I will just have to force myself. Yuck!!!

Update
I should add that I already get weekly massages and have for the last 4 years. My therapist has been advising me to try chiro for about 3 of those years. Of course, I waited until I really hurt before I went! I asked a friend of mine where she was going and she said that she really trusted him, so I decided to try where she goes. He took a detailed history and 2 x-rays. He also gave me a little adjustment, which has helped a little. It was just gentle pressure. I go back tomorrow to see about a treatment plan.

Thank you very much to everyone who offered suggestions of what to look for. Your back is really nothing to mess around with!
Update on dog from below sm
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Update on my vet job
So I started out just cleaning nights and giving the animals fluids/meds on the weekends and cleaning more.  One of the day girls fell down some stairs so the vet asked me to fill in for her.  I got a crash course in doing anesthesia!  I really like it but have had a couple animals stop breathing a few times and one his heart actually stopped.  I almost peed my pants when that happened.  I also got to do x-rays and an EKG on a dog Monday.  If only this job paid better than transcription 
Update......

Well, I just checked my account again and the $2420 is back in the account due to non-sufficient funds.  There is, however, a $34 non-sufficient funds fee that will be refunded back to me after the dispute is over.  I know that in the big picture of things this does not sound like a lot of money, but it's my money I worked for and intend to get back.  I also called the bank back and made sure that PayPal could not try to take out the money again since it was reversed due to NSF.  After the dispute and we know more information, I can totally freeze PayPal from ever taking any money out of my account again.  Right now it can only be done for the exact amount they tried to take out yesterday.  I also told PayPal to take every bit of information they had on me out of their system, that I would never be needing their services again. 


The scammers just didn't count on me being a poor working girl with little money left at the end of the month.  Maybe they should give working a try instead of trying to steal other people's hard-earned money. 


Thank you all for your replies.  This just makes me all the more aware of what I am doing on-line.  I have bought many items on-line, and this is the first time anything like this has happened to me.  If they hadn't been so greedy, I probably would have had to wait out the whole ten days. 


 


 


 


Thank you for the update sm
I started to ask yesterday but didn't send my post through because I thought it might be to painful. Please know that many here are thinking about you. Prayers.
Thanks for the update. That was
enjoyable to read.

Sounds like the birds appreciate each other already.

Yesterday I had a great time watching several cardinals bathing in my sprinkler. It is so hot that they stayed in the water for hours. My impatiens appreciated the extra-long shower they received because the cardinals were so cute. It's not my day to water today, but the cardinals show up now and then, hoping.

They ignore the shallow birdbath.
Thank you for the update

At least the police know about the situation. Maybe they can have a talk with the owners when they return.


If you know anyone who doesn't live in your neighborhood who would like to have a sheltie - you know, if it were me, I would give it to them. The neighbors have been gone so long, if the dog disappears one night, who is to say what happened, right? They don't deserve to have a dog if they are going to treat it this way.


JMHO


thanks for update

Hi Trose,


Glad you called your brother and went to your doc today....ERs on the wknd are rough.  Hope you get feeling better soon.   Keep us all updated.   Cat  


Update...
First of all, thanks to everyone for their thoughts.

I went to the hospital myself and began asking questions of the charge nurse. She was very helpful and reviewed the chart and also got on the phone to the various doctors to answer my questions.

The problem is not what I thought it was. He WAS evaluated by a doctor and even had a CT scan in the first 30 minutes after he was admitted. None of the family knew this as no one had made it to the hospital at this point. Apparently, FIL just did not remember this. I guess the moral to this is do not let a patient out of your sight even for a short period of time.

He is being kept n.p.o. due to the head injury and in case they needed to operate (which by the way they are doing tomorrow to relieve compression on the spinal cord.) He was not given dextrose through his IV because of its potential to cause swelling, which is not a desired effect in a patient with a head injury. He did get food trays today, but will not receive anything else until after his surgery first thing in the morning.

Thanks again for everyone's recommendations.
An update...

Well, I had a heart to heart with my daughter yesterday.  I broke down in tears and just told her how disappointed I was in her decision to become sexually active and how my heart was broken for her.  She cried and said she didn't want to do it again, so I hope she was being honest with me.  I found out more disturbing information on her loser boyfriend having to do with some legal trouble he's been in.  We are giving her a chance to break up with him (she doesn't know that we know about the probation, arrests, etc.), but if she doesn't, we may press charges against him, just to get rid of the loser. 


Backtracking a bit, our son works for the sheriff's department, along with a lot of his buddies, who did some checking on this guy, and dug up a laundry list of trouble he's been in.  Our son is talking to our daughter today, telling her what he knows, and giving her til tonight to break it off completely with this guy, or he's telling her he'll file charges himself against this boy.  He's already checked it all out and there are things we can get him on, but we really, REALLY don't want to go this route.  It would be so hard on our daughter.  I just want the boyfriend to disappear, go away, and leave her alone.  So now, it's not so much about s-e-x anymore, but about her getting herself into some legal trouble by association with this idiot. 


AND...his mother told my DD's best friend and my DD that she would LIE TO US about the whole situation if need be.  How can a mother allow a girl to hang out with her loser, ex-con son??? It is beyond me...if it were my son, I'd tell the girl to run, not walk, away from him, he's nothing but trouble. 


Anyway, thanks y'all so much for the support and advice.  I think I handled it ok.  I think she was shocked and surprised at how upset I was.  I just admitted to her that I didn't expect this so soon, that I really didn't know how to handle it, and that I was disappointed in her actions, BUT that her father and I both love her very, very much and we will always be here for her, no matter what happens. 


It was really emotional, but good I think for the both of us.  Her 2 best friends came in in the middle of it all, and they too spilled their guts to her, so that helped also. We all cried and laughed, and talked.  BTW, I don't mention her father much, but he's here...we're married and living together...all 3 of my kids have the same father.  We've been married over 20 years now.  He's mad, upset, disappointed, and just chomping at the bit to get his hands around this kid's throat, of course...that's how men handle things, right? But overall, he's been great. 


Thanks again, y'all!