Sounds like you found a good therapist sm
Posted By: that's all I got. on 2008-07-28
In Reply to: update on 16 YO daughter. sm - Need help desperately.
we went through a horrible spell last year - daughter 17 wanted to get married a month before she turned 18, my husband supported this idea - she just graduated in May, no job, no license, no means of support and husband to be was just graduating, etc. They are good kids but very young. Husband supported her all the way and I was the bad guy for making her think things through hoping she would slow down a bit, etc. Therapist made her dad get more involved but they did marry and now she rarely if ever speaks to me - she looks at me as nonsupportive. Does not matter I busted my butt to see she had the wedding she wanted,etc. I'm just numb at this point with her - she'll come around some day. In the mean time the ocnflicts between me and DH have stopped but his nonsupport will hurt for a logn time also. I believe parents should always be a team.
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I found this one for a creamy version. never tried it, but it sounds good. sm
Creamy Macaroni and Cheese
Time: 1 hour 15 minutes
2 tablespoons butter
1 cup cottage cheese (not lowfat)
2 cups milk (not skim)
1 teaspoon dry mustard
Pinch cayenne
Pinch freshly grated nutmeg
½ teaspoon salt
¼ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
1 pound sharp or extra-sharp cheddar cheese, grated
½ pound elbow pasta, uncooked.
1. Heat oven to 375 degrees and position an oven rack in upper third of oven. Use 1 tablespoon butter to butter a 9-inch round or square baking pan.
2. In a blender, purée cottage cheese, milk, mustard, cayenne, nutmeg and salt and pepper together. Reserve ¼ cup grated cheese for topping. In a large bowl, combine remaining grated cheese, milk mixture and uncooked pasta. Pour into prepared pan, cover tightly with foil and bake 30 minutes.
3. Uncover pan, stir gently, sprinkle with reserved cheese and dot with remaining tablespoon butter. Bake, uncovered, 30 minutes more, until browned. Let cool at least 15 minutes bef
Found this - sounds like what you are looking for : )
http://southernfood.about.com/od/hashbrowns/r/bl80201e.htm
This one I found sounds excellent! May try it myself.
INGREDIENTS
1 (8 ounce) package elbow macaroni
5 tablespoons butter
5 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1 quart warm milk (110 degrees F/45 degrees C)
salt and pepper to taste
1 pinch cayenne pepper
1/4 pound cubed ham
5 ounces cubed Cheddar cheese
5 ounces mozzarella cheese, cubed
5 ounces Monterey Jack cheese, cubed
paprika to taste
DIRECTIONS
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease a 9 x 13 baking dish. Bring a large pot of lightly salted water to a boil. Add pasta and cook for 8 to 10 minutes or until AL dente; drain.
In medium saucepan, melt butter and stir in flour to make a roux. Cook 1 to 2 minutes, stirring constantly, then whisk in warm milk a little at a time to make a white sauce. Bring to a boil, then reduce heat and simmer. Mix in salt, pepper, and cayenne, and stir frequently until sauce thickens.
Remove pan from heat and stir in cheddar, mozzarella, jack and ham. Combine pasta with sauce and stir well. Pour into baking dish. Use paprika to make a decorative pattern on top. Bake 45 to 60 minutes, or until top is the desired crispiness. Let rest 20 minutes before serving.
I found this link for you. This should help get you something. Good luck. sm
http://www.vrbo.com/vacation-rentals/usa/tennessee#4405
What a good person you are and I'm glad Bones found you. He will be a great pet for somebody afte
nm
Anyone that has plantar fasciitis or heel spurs found a good conservative help for this pain. nm
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I loved my speech therapist.
I stuttered when I was a kid. I *loved* my speech therapist! Once I won a tiny stuffed penguin from an game in the grocery store. I just had to give it to her.
On my my last day of therapy she gave me a *huge* stuffed penguin! :)
In addition to a gift card or whatever you decide, have your son make a card for her. You could also write a letter to her supervisor about her work with your son.
I've been working with a therapist for over 6 months
about her tendency to sympathize or empathize with me the way a friend would - like rolling her eyes if I complain about something, or laughing about the same thing I'm saying is ridiculous.
I realize she's probably trying to create the 'therapeutic alliance' and a comfortable atmosphere. But I'm suddenly really troubled that I'm paying money I can barely afford for someone to act basically like a friend. Last week I said I worked in a horrible, tacky part of city and she said "That area really is awful."
Later I wondered, why didn't she remain neutral and maybe point out that I see all neighborhoods I have to work in as hideous, depriving landscapes? That maybe it isn't a rational perception?
Do you think I'm right to mistrust this approach?
I think that is an awesome idea for a speach therapist! NM
NM
Have you spoken with a counselor, therapist, or your minister?
It would probably help if you could express your feelings out loud and get some feedback from someone who is trained to deal with emotional dilemmas like you are experiencing. I would strongly encourage it, especially since you have had thoughts of suicide.
Sometimes it takes a little while to find the right "fit" in a therapist or counselor. If the first one doesn't seem to be helping, try someone else.
I had similar feelings when my son was finishing up high school and getting ready to go on to college. The so-called "empty nest syndrome," I guess. But there are a lot of components to it. It's like redefining yourself as a person, because for so long you have been meeting everyone else's needs, and now you are starting to realize that you have needs of your own.
So what you need to figure out is what fulfills you as a person. What do you want to do with the rest of your life? Literally. Five years from now, what would you like to be doing? When you figure that out, start figuring out how to make it happen.
The best of luck to you, and please feel free to email me if you like. I'm still working on some aspects of my "mid-life crisis," but I have worked through a lot of it. I would be happy to provide a sympathetic ear. 
I think you do have to go all out. A therapist and drug screen would be first priority nm
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sounds good
I think we need everyone to give their favorite sandwich recipe so we can try them all.
my own favorite is radishes, avacado, sweet onion and provolone cheese on whole wheat toast....
i'm getting hungry
Sounds too good!
Bare minerals are very nice, however, I did not like the installment plan deal. Be careful what you get into. We work like slaves by the line, so I am very careful where my money goes. Look beautiful!
That sounds so good...sm
Now pair it with a triple layer hummas (found at super Walmart) and wheat pita bread/flatbread for dipping. It's very light fare, nutritious and super yummy.... Cat
Yum, that sounds good
My parents are from out of town and they stay overnight, so in the morning after the kids open their presents we make pancakes, eggs, and bacon or sausage.
Sounds good
but I do not think that would work with the two people in my household. I was laid up for 3 months following a major foot surgery (total non-weightbearing). I had to sleep in the recliner to be comfortable etc for 3 months. Even to get someone to help me to get up and down to utilize the walker to get to my wheelchair was a chore. I told them next time I am going to a nursing home, at least I could get my hair washed. They did absolutely nothing while I was laid up. I am still trying to dig out.
Sounds good! . . . sm
I think most boxed puddings have a recipe for pudding and a different one for pie filling. I think I would use the one for pie filling because it is thicker. My MIL makes something like this and I love it! Good luck!
that sounds GOOD
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Sounds good
Thanks for the input. I really don't want to mess with batteries either, so I'll see what I can find in the passive version. :)
thank you it sounds good nm
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Thanks - sounds good, and so does the one below:-) nm
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Sounds really good. (nm)
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That sounds so good.
Is it diabetic? lol. Thanks, I'll give it a try.
Looking for gift ideas for massage therapist and hairdresser -
I see the massage therapist every week (my treat to myself!) and the hairdresser about every 6 weeks for a cut. I really want them to know how important they are to my well-being, especially my massage therapist. You all have the best ideas. Thank you so much! 
That sounds like a good plan...
but I would be exhausted! I have a very large family to shop for!!!
here's an old adage: If it sounds too good to be..NM
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sounds like you have a good time together
that is so funny!! I love stories like that
Sounds good, then just be patient....sm
and please let us know when you are 6-8 weeks into using it....I so hope it works for you, it worked for me and 2 of my friends (they had lost their hair to chemo), one of whom finished chemo in November and has nearly 2" of growth all over her head now and thick!! (post-Fermodyl)....
This sounds soooo good - sm
do you get this out or you make it yourself? If you make it yourself, how?
Sounds like one of those good ole boys
sitting around with a can of beer, got a cigarette behind his ear, wearing that wife beater T-shirt, either trying to go to the race track or watching his fav, Dale, Jr. You have it going on, don't you?
Sounds like a good plan then!
Now you won't feel the need to modify it.
That sounds like a good idea. Thanks.
mexican sounds good.
I love guacamole. I slice them in my salads and top them on turkey burgers too.
sounds like you're doing good
If you can make jam cake and cornbread, you are a Kentucky gal now! I live in Northeasten KY in a small town - though not as small as yours - I lived here my entire life and when I married, we moved to Shreveportm, Louisiana for a couple of years - so that was culture shock for me!
Great - Sounds good to me
My accountant will be filing ours within the next few weeks.
Sounds like a good plan. . sm
When I was going through something similar, I had to have see it with my own eyes. No matter how suspicious I was, he would always dismiss everything. Again, I really hope there isn't really anything going on!
sounds like a good idea to me! nm
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Sounds almost as good as my sweet
and sour baked beans I posted a while back. Yeh would like recipe for this dish.
That sounds like a good book.
I just finished Obama's biography and have started his "Audacity of Hope"
Sounds like you have a good marriage....
and have not had the chance to experience being alone. I also would never get married again as I love living alone, comfortable in my own skin and do not need anyone to make my life "whole".
I also think it is older women who feel this way. I think when you hit your 40's, you find yourself and realize your wants and needs that make you happy. You are not constantly making other people happy and ignoring yourself.
As for me, I could not imagine living with someone again. It would be an intrusion on my life - a life I love.
You really have no right to say "how sad". You are happily married and I congratulate you. I am happily single as are many other people who do not have to depend on a man or anyone for that matter for their happiness. Happiness comes from within.
Sounds good. I've been looking at them again.
The coal stove heats our whole house except the bedroom when the door is closed at night and the fan DH put through the wall is so noisy, you can't sleep for about a week until you get used to it. 
Thanks for the info! I'll let ya know if we get one. Have to do some cajoling now. 
That sounds so good. Thanks for the recipe. NM
Here I've lived in Texas most of my life and never made homemade chili pie. This sounds delicious, and I will definitely write down that recipe! Thanks again for sharing!
Sounds good, email me too!
and/or post a link on here. :)
Maybe joint counseling with his therapist for starters since his meds don't seem to be working. A
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Sounds like the good 'ol nolovirus or whatever - sm
it is called. I had a similar experience just a couple days ago -- stomach felt horrible, went in bathroom, sat down to go, felt a huge buzzing in my ears/head. I ended up just laying down on the floor for a while until I did not feel as faint, then went back to my business feeling a bit better after my lay down. Luckily this time I did not throw up (had this once already a month ago, threw up 8 times on and off the toilet-- fun stuff). The few times I get dizzy in these circumstances I just lay on the floor until I feel better, usually only takes a few minutes. I hope you are feeling better.
I'm hungry and that sounds pretty good right now...
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Ok, sounds good, but what about the warm drinks? nm
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Well it sounds good but a true caring
and giving person that gives from the heart and not merely to impress would also probably not have thrown a post like that in the middle of ones where people are obviously having great financial difficulties. LOL. Sometimes ya just gotta laugh.
Bless you all that are having money problems and I hope things get better for you soon. And, remember, this too shall pass.
make it thick - sounds good
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What's a sherbet bunny? Sounds good
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Good for you! To read your posts, it really sounds - (sm)
like something has happened with her, since this is a change of character for her. You said she was an awesome friend for many years, and she probably was. But something happened to change that. It could be any one of many reasons, too: Drug habit, early dementia/Alzheimer's, schizophrenia, even a brain tumor. The latter sounds very possible. I wonder what her husband thinks about all this. He seems like a pretty decent guy. Depending on how you view his friendship, you may or may not want to discuss the problem with him. Maybe he needs to get her to a doctor.
I think you were lucky when he offered to do the work on your house for a low price, and DIDN'T screw it up. So many times, you hear horror stories about such things. So the fact that he did the work, and it turned out well, sounds like you have an asset in his continued friendship. BUT, you of course want nothing more to do with the wife.
The easiest thing would probably be to just cut all ties with them both, but I still have this feeling the husband is a good guy. He could be caught in the middle of all this. Or in denial that the lady has a serious mental problem going on. It would also be interesting to know WHY she lost her job. The mental issue could very likely be the reason.
Anyway, I think you were very wise to change the locks! ;D
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