sounds like you're doing good
Posted By: jlynn on 2007-12-07
In Reply to: Culture shock?...sm - cat
If you can make jam cake and cornbread, you are a Kentucky gal now! I live in Northeasten KY in a small town - though not as small as yours - I lived here my entire life and when I married, we moved to Shreveportm, Louisiana for a couple of years - so that was culture shock for me!
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Sounds like you're doing great! We're also making out...sm
daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
Sounds like you're the "jerk"
That isn't fair to your husband. You are having an affair.
you're right, she sounds like she wants to pounce.
nm
Sounds like you're an exemplary neighbor
I love the way you point out how you have good neighbors because you can speak to them when YOU want to speak to them without having them at your home 24/7.
I'm getting a certain vibe from your posts that tells me NONE of these people would WANT to be at your home 24/7, cuz you sure don't sound very hospitable to me.
And yeah, if you're leaving your doors open and unlocked in this day and age, you're obviously one of 'those people' that think having a bit of money makes you omnipotent.
You've proven yourself to be more than a tad pretentious and I'm done responding to you. Suffice to say, I'm very thankful you (or someone like you) is not MY neighbor.
Call me cynical, but it sounds like you're not as selfless as you want everyone to think. SM
In your initial post, you state how you mostly give cards and little gifts "anonymously" and that you go up and down your street putting cards in your neighbors mail boxes signed simply "your neighbor." Then you say that your neighbors never acknowledge your acts of kindness. And then you post a quite lengthly post here telling us what a good egg you are and how boringly nice you are, chronicling all the charitable deeds you do.
So which is it, do you do these anonymously out of the kindness or your heart or do you expect some sort of acknowledgement or thank you?
It sounds as though you want people to know these wonderful things you do and you need to be acknowledged and patted on the back and told what a wonderful person you are for doing these things.
First of all, I hate to state the obvious, but if you truly sign cards with "your neighbor" and anomyously send gifts, then how would anyone know to give you the accolades you so desperately crave? Secondly, a selfless giver derives satisfaction from the simple act of giving, not any sort of acknowledgement that comes as a result.
"Be careful not to do your 'acts of righteousness' before men, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. 3But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." Matthew 6:1-4
You're right , a GOOD dad could help me (sm)
Number 1, I have no intention of allowing my son to be put on medication of any kind - ever. So that assumption is wrong.
Number 2, his dad beat me up and cheated and was never home, but he is an engineer so any court would have given him more custody if he wanted it.
Number 3, "Dad" has not called a single time since the separation to talk to the kids even though he has an open invitation to do so at any time AND has been told he can see the kids any time he choses - yet has never asked for an extra minute.
Number 4, If I had a choice between a good marriage and divorce, of course I would have chose the good marriage.
You should not assume because you know what that makes out of u and me
They're really good, but
I'd recommend using a bucket with a hole drilled in the bottom. Much cheaper and more durable than the ones you've "seen on TV." I plant my tomatoes upside down and then put herbs in the top of the buckets.
sounds good
I think we need everyone to give their favorite sandwich recipe so we can try them all.
my own favorite is radishes, avacado, sweet onion and provolone cheese on whole wheat toast....
i'm getting hungry
Sounds too good!
Bare minerals are very nice, however, I did not like the installment plan deal. Be careful what you get into. We work like slaves by the line, so I am very careful where my money goes. Look beautiful!
That sounds so good...sm
Now pair it with a triple layer hummas (found at super Walmart) and wheat pita bread/flatbread for dipping. It's very light fare, nutritious and super yummy.... Cat
Yum, that sounds good
My parents are from out of town and they stay overnight, so in the morning after the kids open their presents we make pancakes, eggs, and bacon or sausage.
Sounds good
but I do not think that would work with the two people in my household. I was laid up for 3 months following a major foot surgery (total non-weightbearing). I had to sleep in the recliner to be comfortable etc for 3 months. Even to get someone to help me to get up and down to utilize the walker to get to my wheelchair was a chore. I told them next time I am going to a nursing home, at least I could get my hair washed. They did absolutely nothing while I was laid up. I am still trying to dig out.
Sounds good! . . . sm
I think most boxed puddings have a recipe for pudding and a different one for pie filling. I think I would use the one for pie filling because it is thicker. My MIL makes something like this and I love it! Good luck!
that sounds GOOD
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Sounds good
Thanks for the input. I really don't want to mess with batteries either, so I'll see what I can find in the passive version. :)
thank you it sounds good nm
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Thanks - sounds good, and so does the one below:-) nm
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Sounds really good. (nm)
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That sounds so good.
Is it diabetic? lol. Thanks, I'll give it a try.
I would think 15 is good if you're giving her something else with it.
However, $90 for cut and color is inexpensive? I live in a pretty expensive area and basic color generally runs around $35 to $40 and cuts are not always $50+. I'd say she is expensive but if she is good probably worth it.
Tell them the truth, you're still looking for a man that's good enough ; )
That ought to shut them up. LOL. It is rude. I'm over 40 and often get the "do you have kids" question and I do not. If they ask why not I say *I guess I've been blessed*. LOL
You're a good mommy!
He's going to feel much better with your plan I think.
That sounds like a good plan...
but I would be exhausted! I have a very large family to shop for!!!
here's an old adage: If it sounds too good to be..NM
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sounds like you have a good time together
that is so funny!! I love stories like that
Sounds good, then just be patient....sm
and please let us know when you are 6-8 weeks into using it....I so hope it works for you, it worked for me and 2 of my friends (they had lost their hair to chemo), one of whom finished chemo in November and has nearly 2" of growth all over her head now and thick!! (post-Fermodyl)....
This sounds soooo good - sm
do you get this out or you make it yourself? If you make it yourself, how?
Sounds like one of those good ole boys
sitting around with a can of beer, got a cigarette behind his ear, wearing that wife beater T-shirt, either trying to go to the race track or watching his fav, Dale, Jr. You have it going on, don't you?
Sounds like a good plan then!
Now you won't feel the need to modify it.
That sounds like a good idea. Thanks.
mexican sounds good.
I love guacamole. I slice them in my salads and top them on turkey burgers too.
Great - Sounds good to me
My accountant will be filing ours within the next few weeks.
Sounds like a good plan. . sm
When I was going through something similar, I had to have see it with my own eyes. No matter how suspicious I was, he would always dismiss everything. Again, I really hope there isn't really anything going on!
sounds like a good idea to me! nm
nm
Sounds almost as good as my sweet
and sour baked beans I posted a while back. Yeh would like recipe for this dish.
That sounds like a good book.
I just finished Obama's biography and have started his "Audacity of Hope"
Sounds like you have a good marriage....
and have not had the chance to experience being alone. I also would never get married again as I love living alone, comfortable in my own skin and do not need anyone to make my life "whole".
I also think it is older women who feel this way. I think when you hit your 40's, you find yourself and realize your wants and needs that make you happy. You are not constantly making other people happy and ignoring yourself.
As for me, I could not imagine living with someone again. It would be an intrusion on my life - a life I love.
You really have no right to say "how sad". You are happily married and I congratulate you. I am happily single as are many other people who do not have to depend on a man or anyone for that matter for their happiness. Happiness comes from within.
Sounds good. I've been looking at them again.
The coal stove heats our whole house except the bedroom when the door is closed at night and the fan DH put through the wall is so noisy, you can't sleep for about a week until you get used to it. 
Thanks for the info! I'll let ya know if we get one. Have to do some cajoling now. 
That sounds so good. Thanks for the recipe. NM
Here I've lived in Texas most of my life and never made homemade chili pie. This sounds delicious, and I will definitely write down that recipe! Thanks again for sharing!
Sounds good, email me too!
and/or post a link on here. :)
You should brag. You're a good momma.
And a big congratulations to her. Job well done!
What type of nursing job is she going to get? My SIL is in labor & delivery and just loves it.
good post Misha!!! And to OP, know you're a better
My mother's floors you could eat off of back then - and we all were scared (terrified) of her.....my house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy...*S* .....I think Misha's post said it all and by all means, she posted it for you to utilize when you decide to confront hubby on these issues....
Best of luck.....from an equalist who, when my ex did a white glove test, I got so mad, I handed him the dust cloth and product(s) and told him, if he wasn't happy to do it himself..........'nuff said....*lol*... and him being the passive-aggressive a** that he was - I ended up divorcing him after nearly 14 years and thinking I should have been sainted for staying THAT long....never regretted one minute away from that either........been nearly 16 yrs....
Sounds like the good 'ol nolovirus or whatever - sm
it is called. I had a similar experience just a couple days ago -- stomach felt horrible, went in bathroom, sat down to go, felt a huge buzzing in my ears/head. I ended up just laying down on the floor for a while until I did not feel as faint, then went back to my business feeling a bit better after my lay down. Luckily this time I did not throw up (had this once already a month ago, threw up 8 times on and off the toilet-- fun stuff). The few times I get dizzy in these circumstances I just lay on the floor until I feel better, usually only takes a few minutes. I hope you are feeling better.
I'm hungry and that sounds pretty good right now...
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Ok, sounds good, but what about the warm drinks? nm
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Well it sounds good but a true caring
and giving person that gives from the heart and not merely to impress would also probably not have thrown a post like that in the middle of ones where people are obviously having great financial difficulties. LOL. Sometimes ya just gotta laugh.
Bless you all that are having money problems and I hope things get better for you soon. And, remember, this too shall pass.
make it thick - sounds good
nm
What's a sherbet bunny? Sounds good
nn
Sounds like you found a good therapist sm
we went through a horrible spell last year - daughter 17 wanted to get married a month before she turned 18, my husband supported this idea - she just graduated in May, no job, no license, no means of support and husband to be was just graduating, etc. They are good kids but very young. Husband supported her all the way and I was the bad guy for making her think things through hoping she would slow down a bit, etc. Therapist made her dad get more involved but they did marry and now she rarely if ever speaks to me - she looks at me as nonsupportive. Does not matter I busted my butt to see she had the wedding she wanted,etc. I'm just numb at this point with her - she'll come around some day. In the mean time the ocnflicts between me and DH have stopped but his nonsupport will hurt for a logn time also. I believe parents should always be a team.
Good for you! To read your posts, it really sounds - (sm)
like something has happened with her, since this is a change of character for her. You said she was an awesome friend for many years, and she probably was. But something happened to change that. It could be any one of many reasons, too: Drug habit, early dementia/Alzheimer's, schizophrenia, even a brain tumor. The latter sounds very possible. I wonder what her husband thinks about all this. He seems like a pretty decent guy. Depending on how you view his friendship, you may or may not want to discuss the problem with him. Maybe he needs to get her to a doctor.
I think you were lucky when he offered to do the work on your house for a low price, and DIDN'T screw it up. So many times, you hear horror stories about such things. So the fact that he did the work, and it turned out well, sounds like you have an asset in his continued friendship. BUT, you of course want nothing more to do with the wife.
The easiest thing would probably be to just cut all ties with them both, but I still have this feeling the husband is a good guy. He could be caught in the middle of all this. Or in denial that the lady has a serious mental problem going on. It would also be interesting to know WHY she lost her job. The mental issue could very likely be the reason.
Anyway, I think you were very wise to change the locks! ;D
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