Suggestion for you
Posted By: landroverlady on 2009-03-19
In Reply to: my son has anxiety and a little phobia around crowds sm - worried mom
I know a lot of you will think I am crazy for this but please believe me, it works!
My daughter is a high level gymnast (10) with a full scholarship next year for college in gymnastics. Despite being very good, obviously, she has a lot of mental issues with what she does that sometimes cause her to simply not allow herself go and the anxiety really affects her. The pure love for the sport is what keeps her going as most kids that get to this point just quit. We had tried all the herbal medicines, sports psychologists and on and on but it was still bad. Finally, I saw something about hypnosis and it has truly been a miracle. The hypnotist was able to delve into why she has these anxieties which stem from when she was about 8 years old and use positive reinforcement to quiet that part of her brain. The change in her has been dramatic. Her gymnastics is better than it has ever been. I would suggest you look into it for your son. The hypnotist can find out why or what caused this to be a problem and work through it. I know a lot of people will think this is nuts but many athletes use this form of therapy as I have come to find out. Just recently the 2009 Olympic gold medal pole vaulter also used hypnosis for him to overcome his fear of the pole vault and the results speak for themselves. Good luck and feel free to email with questions.
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another suggestion
Is that you could have her front teeth removed. It doesn't make any difference to their ability to eat most foods, and they can learn to eat without them, and be just fine. You can read more about it here: http://www.rabbit.org/journal/2-6/tusks.html
I have a suggestion.
Explain to DH that he needs to go and get a second job so that you can take of the children. It sounds as though he does not really want to help with the children, so maybe he should work the second job, and you just work one job, which will free you up to take care of your children. Your post makes me want to cry. I feel so sorry for your children. You have to find a way to take care of those children and not work that second job.
I have an even better suggestion
you are asking for support when it should not come from strangers but from your immediate family but having said that, why in the world do you not see about someone to keep the children so you can work? Your DH is not helping and apparently you need the second income. Just imaged you worked at Burger Kings and keep a daycare/baby sitter/family member to see after the kids. No wonder job looked at unprofessional these days, holding the baby in 1 arm and typing with the second.
My suggestion is...sm
Make sure it is a name the child can live with her entire life. I know the trend is to make up names or take established names and twist their spellings so they are unrecognizable, but I think it's a dumb trend and the kids suffer when they have to go through their whole lives either pronouncing or spelling their names. I often wonder where the parents' heads are.  JMHO.
Oh, and I love the name Kate.
Thanks, I appreciate the suggestion
The rug is already on its way....
If he were younger, or if it were only the one leg, I would try the puppy booties. But both his back legs are weakened from the patellar luxation, even though he had surgery for it. They are quite unsteady at times. Add the right shoulder chronic dislocation and it is really difficult for him to get up and down.
Thanks for the suggestion, though. I hope maybe it will help someone else.
Another suggestion
If you left out a very small amount of dry food at night (measured to make sure it is part of his daily total), would he eat all of it immediately or snack on it through the night? Maybe extra low calorie dry food?
My suggestion is
dont have kids friends over?
Here's my suggestion:
If the bride is very refined and proper, what the heck is she doing having a bridal shower for marriage #2 AND she's in her 50's? Tacky. VERY tacky.
I'd forgo the bra, get some good bubble gum that you can snap, put on some FM-heels, hit Frederick's of Hollywood and bring the most shocking gift(s) your budget allows - something to knock the knickers off her and those giving the shower.
Damn, I hate bridal showers. No, it's not my hormones. I'm like this every day, at least when it comes to something like this. Making people blow a weekend day to shower the middle-aged+ repeat bride with gifts.
By the way, Emily Post is dead and when she gets wind of this, I bet she'll be back.
Thank you for that suggestion sm
She just started a job (I know she is only 14) at my father's grocery store. This was totally her choice. She only works 2 evenings a week and will stop when school stops. I definitely think that is a possibility. Last night was her first time without a trainer. We keep a close eye on her for the next few days and see how it goes. Thanks to all.
My suggestion
My suggestion would be to try to find someone that you can talk to about this, a professional. I dealt with an alcoholic mother growing up who also liked to threaten suicide and guilt me into things - it's the nature of the addiction. Going to counseling myself and attending Al-Anon meetings were the best things I ever did for myself. I still was able to keep somewhat of a relationship with my mother, but the counselor taught me how to detach from her self-destructive behavior and made me realize that I should NOT feel guilty. In order to be of any assistance to your daughter, you need to help yourself first. There are people out there who can help you deal with these issues. I wish you the best.
((((hugs))))
Just a suggestion - sm
What if YOU offered to take the dog?
Dogs are wonderful companions to everyone, especially those suffering with depression.
That way, you know the dog is properly cared for and you have a companion to help you with your depression too.
Maybe they have just taken on more than they can handle with three dogs.
I agree with you that the neighbor is absolutely inconsiderate but they might be open to you adopting their poor pooch.
a suggestion --
For that age group and if they are interested in reading labels, etc. - visit a book store and find a few recipe books for kids - there are MANY on the market - and have them help plan a menu or give suggestions of what they think sounds good. Of course Mom has final say and budgeting factors in etc., but let them know you are not providing a buffet and that if they are going to be that picky they have to be responsible for their choices and make some decisions/choices instead of just whining about what they don't like - also that they must compromise with other family members' tastes. Let them help prepare meals (surprising what they'll eat if they are able to brag about "helping cook it" at the table!) and be more involved in their choices instead of just complaining - may be complaining just for the sake of driving mom nuts! and yes, I have 4 kids myself - I know how they can be :-)
This is best suggestion yet. Dog is just going to
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Another suggestion - sm
Sorry you are having this trouble but this may be worth asking about.
When you meet with your probation officer, ask about your son doing a few hours of supervised community service instead of the $100 fine.
A little labor may be what he needs to remind him not to do this in the future.
I have always told my kids they have one candybar in life (one time to get into trouble.) Once that's gone, its gone and they are on their own.
My son got a ticket for minor in possession when he was 16 and I made him pay the fines, pay for the classes he had to take, and any other costs that were incurred. Tough lesson for him but too bad.
He sure thought more than twice about losing all of his summer working money for one little mistake.
Good luck to you!
Okay, this is my suggestion...
I would let her take the swats, but ONLY this time. Maybe if she has ISS hanging over her head, that will deter her from being late again. That's what punishment is, right?
If she's okay with the corporal punishment, let her go for it. It's not like it's going to scar her for life. A bad grade could possibly have more of an ill effect, which is why you tell her NEXT time she gets the ISS.
Just my opinion.
just a suggestion...
I know that psoriasis and eczema are different things, but since Elocon works for your psoriasis and for my eczema, maybe what also works for my eczema will work for your psoriasis. Try Curel lotion original formula. It is the only lotion I can use. All others inflame my eczema.
just a suggestion
If it was my husband I would just say to him that seeing as he spends the majority of his time there and he obviously prefers to be with his friend than his wife and kids he should look at moving in with this guy. I would tell him I love him very much but I didn't marry him to be "second rate". It doesn't matter if he just wants to be with his friend. You are his wife. He should want to be with you more. There is always the weekend for his friend (and I mean only one day). So if it was me I would tell him that the deal is that he spends his evenings and off time and one whole weekend day with his wife and kids and he can see his friend on the other weekend day. Otherwise pack your bags and adioski. That might just wake him up.
suggestion
never tried it myself but have heard that you can role out gumdrops flat and then cut them. maybe you could find yellow ones and cut them into strips? also, regular frosting out of a can will work if you put yellow food coloring in it and have 5 days to let it air dry. just put it in a ziploc bag, cut off a small corner and pipe it out on wax paper.
possible suggestion for you
While communication is key, try out this website, www.flylady.net. This is a website that offers free advice on loving yourself, and how you can manage all the hectic spheres of your life. You can't control his reactions to what's going on, but you can control how you deal with his reactions. They have a few philosophies that everyone can relate to. The two important ones, in my view, are "you can do anything for 15 minutes" and "you are not behind, jump in where you are". It's not about beating yourself up because you're not perfect (that word is forbidden) - it's loving yourself for who you are and small things add up to the whole. Good luck.
just a suggestion
You could try to look online for a Legal Aid website for your state for specifics and (if necessary) an attorney that may help him (or advise him of his rights) for little or no cost.
Here's my suggestion ...
I would plan a lovely dinner and maybe a band for dancing entertainment. Get married privately beforehand and show up at the dinner to celebrate with family and friends.
A suggestion..
I would go back to the ophthalmologist to have ocular myasthenia ruled out, since you mentioned this has been going on for quite awhile. There are a lot of simple possibilities, but you may need to have it treated.
suggestion
As weird as it sounds, try Crazy Glue - this was suggested to my husband (a cabinetmaker) by his own doctor years ago - and he swears by it.
Good luck!
I have a suggestion for you
This mother who bred all this litter has a web site set up to get contributions. If you have such a bleeding heart, go there and give to her insanity. I hope the law steps in and sees this for what it is worth, a con job. Single mother, no income, living on welfare, cannot even take care of the first 6 she dropped. She needs to be spayed. Put your money where your mouth is. I am sure she would appreciate. Very few dum..folks out there wanting to contribute to such a side show.
suggestion sm
You could send him a card indicating you made a donation in his wife's name to St. Jude Hospital for Children or their church and then do it, send a check with a note explaining, giving her name and his address, etc. They will send a nice card. Older people love this, it is quite an honor to have their loved one remembered this way as he probably has all he needs right now.
Just a suggestion
I realize your intentions are good, and you sound like you have a heart of gold! I just wanted to mention that I do not usually respond to e-mails that come in from this site, mainly because I never did set up an e-mail address specifically for logging on here, and the other two addresses I have easily identify me to others I work with or have worked with. I have been able to identify at least three people on this site as folks I've worked with at on-line companies, so never met face-to-face. I think there are a lot of folks on here who just don't want themselves identified, and that may be the reason for no response. It could also be that they had not checked their e-mail at the time you posted this. Gosh, if they were not able to pay the rent/house note or whatever, I imagine things are pretty tough and who knows what else may have happened after they posted here last.
Again, I know you just wanted to help, but the tone of this e-mail does not really reflect that kindness, especially when someone is already downtrodden.
Here's my suggestion
Just ignore them. I've learned in my many years on this planet people like that are not worth the effort.
People who are snobs will not be reformed. I've got a few in my family. One we just stopped talking to altogether, another, my aunt raised me like I was her own daughter and I love her but she's a snob and everyone in town knows it.
So the best thing is to just ignore them. You wish them well, but by having less and less contact with them it won't bother you so much. I always feel bad for my aunt that she is like that because nobody, and I mean NOBODY in her family is like that (she married into money), but they all know what she's like and they ignore her too.
So, ignore her and think of how much better you are not to be a snob like that. I just always think to myself, boy are they going to have a heck of a time explaining themselves to "the higher powers" once they cross over.
Suggestion
I don't know how often the two of you go out, but try this and see what happens.
The next time you're discussing plans to get together and do something, drop the hint that you too are a bit cash-strapped and suggest instead he come over for a home-cooked meal (or even takeout) and a DVD instead of going out.
If he's happy to do that, then I don't think you have reason to worry.
There's role-reversal in my relationship, and while I bring home the bacon, he's the one who handles everything else, so the 'sugar mama' joke is a very long-running in our household, lol!
My suggestion . . .
tell her you cancelled because things were just becoming to be too much of a burden with how much everything was going to cost and with the economy still down, you decided to just stay home and get caught up on spring cleaning instead.
Suggestion
This will sound corny, but a suggestion I heard is to start reading romantic novels. They say men think about sex all the time where women don't. It might be enough to get you thinking along those lines.
In any case, it couldn't hurt. I hope you find something that helps.
One major suggestion
I would not be consulting juvenile authorities for a 6-year-old's behavior issues.
At this age, she needs to be seen by a child psychologist or psychiatrist who can diagnose the issue and outline a treatment plan.
This is not an unusual problem. She is a child and a conscious is something that is instilled by caretakers...it is not an automatic self development.
Please seek care for her behaviorally - not in the courts at this age.
a quick suggestion
when i was a kid, i got a thrill out of stealing dumb stuff, pens, markers, etc. When my mom found out, she made me take my stuff back to the store and hand it back to the owner, and apologize. I was quaking in my shoes at that point. Don't know if that would help in your situation or not...
An actual suggestion
Have you tried looking up some of the Cheerleading competition sites??
Otherwise I would suggest renting a couple of movies Bring it on , Bring it on II and try watching some of the moves and have her put her own twist on them. It worked for my daughter when she tried for dance team.
If nothing else they are good to get you in the right frame of mind.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!
Excellent suggestion
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One more suggestion - buy the books
second-hand and/or get the paperbacks for those out in paperback. No need to go broke.
the problem with your suggestion
is that foster families that will take multiple siblings with potential problems from pregnancy-exposed drug children is that they are almost nonexistent.
The reality is that all the children would be placed in a group home situation and unless the parents get their act(s) together, the state will terminate parental rights to the children and the children group up together in a group home until the age of majority. Rarely are there adoptive parents willing to take all the siblings, either, so the kids can still be split up and then NEVER see each other again.
I know only one person who is an aunt who took all 3 of her sisters damaged children and the stress she is under in trying to "fix" and take care of these children is tremendous. She happens to be a kinship and certified foster care provider as well. There is no such thing as a life of her own, which is why a foster home willing to take multiple siblings from an environment such as this one is almost nonexistent.
Poor kids...it isn't their fault. I would rather see them go to several relatives who can maintain close contact among the siblings than sentence them growing up in a group home.
I also thought you took her comments out of context and were less than understanding of the situation.
Clarifying my suggestion
Jut to clarify, I did not mean sympathy card. The suggestion of a card or letter was because she is not accepting phone calls right now. So, whatever you would have said in the way of encouragement and support on the phone could be put in a letter.
I did not even use the word sympathy in my post. I did use the word empathy which is different. Empathy means putting yourself in her place and trying to feel what she might be feeling right now. In the card or letter you could then express what you yourself would like to hear if you were in the same situation. That is all I meant. Sorry it came across as a pity party kind of suggestion. I didn't mean it that way in the least.
OTOH, you know your friend, and the empathy you feel may cause you to just wait it out a while and try again. You of course are thinking of what will benefit her because you care. Whatever you decide can work because it comes out of genuine concern for her welfare.
Okay understand now. Sorry. Then my suggestion
would be for you to not take her calls until you are ready to talk to her and you are in a bright and chipper mood. Call back and say -Hi!! Returning your call from the other day!! I would not let her get you down (if at all possible) and ignore all the drama. Again, if possible. You are happy, they are not. Don't let their drama run off on you. Sorry I misudnerstood -must have been tired when I wrote! Best of luck and hugs!
Suggestion on 2nd guitar
There is a rechargable battery pack that you can get for the black guitar but is NOT available for the white guitar. It's about $14-20 and well worth it! The wireless guitars eat batteries and even run them down when they are powered off and not running. We now remove them from the guitar whenever we aren't playing.
That's a good suggestion -
the karate class, especially if a relative could take him there when the 8 year old was supposed to be babysitting him.
a quilt would be my suggestion too.
My sister makes beautiful memory quilts, pillows, lap covers, etc, out of a someone's clothes. A huge part of her business is memory quilts. They can bring a lot of comfort to a family. She has made as many as 16 pieces for one family, quilts for children, pillows for the grandchildren. She always get a positive response.
RUNTCAR is my suggestion (sm)
You will catch looks with the cute car; the plate can punch in that final lasting impression. Honestly, I think the plates suggested in the original message are not very original, particularly for your stunning new car. (LUVN 40 is the best of them all, IMO.) You need something very unique and catchy to match that car of yours.
I have a personalized plate too, but it's really a goofy plate (with meaning) and on a minivan, which makes the plate I have even goofier. I love it--people ask me about it a lot. People see lots of vans around here, but they remember mine because of the license plate. Of course, you aren't driving a van, but you catch my drift.
One suggestion - don't name it "Stu" (stew)!
Did anyone see that awful episode of Trading Spouses? Do people actually live that way and kill their own pets for food - all those farm animals, pigs, chickens, goats?!?! they raise to me are no different than pets. How disgusting! I'm from the NY area myself so no clue how the country folk live. But I sure hope the majority don't live like that.
a suggestion that helped with mine--sm
I had been put on Synthroid as soon as it was discovered that I had hypothyroidism. After many years of taking it and feeling absolutely no better and still with fluctuating TSH levels, I wanted to try the more natural supplement, Armour, which has both T3 and T4, and not just the T4. I had to change doctors in order to have it prescribed, but eventually got what I wanted. It helped significantly with the hair loss, but if you try it, give it several months before you notice a difference.
I have also been hearing subtle speakings about T1 and T2, as well. So far, they say we don't need these, but in my mind, if the body makes them naturally, we need them for something, whether the *doctors* think we do or not. I am currently looking into where I can get those, as well.
Also, I found that chemically infested shampoos were a detrement to the hair, as well. Find a good organic shampoo with only natural ingredients, and that may help, as well. I use MOP organic shampoo.
Hope this helps a little bit.
Why be so ugly to her? it was a suggestion from another poster.
I realize you are upset but you ASKED for responses and then are nasty when someone responds? I do NOT understand posters like you.
Suggestion - save your money (sm)
Unless you need the Tylenol for pain, the only other ingredient in TPM is diphenhydramine for the sleep part. You can either use Benadryl or the generic - costs a lot less, same ingredient.
If you don't have a suggestion, don't bother replying.
As parents, we all have rights to name our child whatever we like. If we want to name them all starting with the same letter, that is their prerogative. When someone asks for something in particular, if you don't have any suggestions, don't respond at all. Why does there have to be someone like this for almost every post?
here's a suggestion - LEARN some Spanish
Sorry you had a bad experience at Jackson but Jackson Memorial Hospital is like #16 best hospital in the country. I have friends with cancer being treated there and believe it or not, they are getting good, consistent care.
I, for one, have 2 addresses, and I would use Hollywood Memorial Hospital FIRST...it, too, is a county hospital but for Broward. Used to be that Mount Sinai Medical Center on Miami Beach was my hospital of choice in the 1980s but today it's Memorial.......in Hollywood.
As for the Hispanic community, the Hispanics are the largest minority now in the USA - there are like 50 million of them here in the USA today. ALL our ancestors came from somewhere else, unless you are a true Native American, and so practicing TOLERANCE would be in your best interests.
Just my opinion....
Need gift suggestion for veterinarian..sm
She takes such good care of our pets, but has went above and beyond with our new puppy who has been so sick. She saw us on an emergency at 10 PM Saturday night and never charged me for it. I was just there again today for a recheck with the puppy and she only charged me a minimal OV and the meds. She is a remarkable vet and is truely in her field!! I would like to get her something for the holidays from our family as an extra thank you. I have already decided to send cookies and candies to the office for the girls who work there, but I need something for the vet. Do you think a gift certificate to a restaurant would be a good idea? Thanks.
Military wife with a suggestion
Beef jerky is a great gift and Jolly Ranchers. My husband is very popular at mail call time.
That would be my suggestion, too. Leave the diaper on just a bit.
but, of course, no so long that a rash develops! That's basically what helped when one of my kiddos having the same issue. Your daughter will have to be prepared to deal with her child voicing (probably very loud) displeasure!
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