WOW . .

Posted By: anon on 2007-02-12
In Reply to: virtual hugs to you "exhausted" one...sm (long) - flybye

You have described my DH to a T. I am blown away. After 15 years of marriage, I now know what I have been dealing with. I am so blown away. I feel like laughing, crying and jumping for joy all at once just to know there is a name for it. I never really looked into passive/aggressive behavior before. We have been in counseling before and a counselor mentioned (quite briefly, I might add), but of course, we never go back to counseling after going once or twice . . . Sadly, I think it's too late for us, I don't think our marriage can take any more. But at least I know I am not out of my mind with this!! Or alone . . .

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i need some emotional support - Exhausted.
- I feel your pain - typingforpennies
- I always ask myself........ - Patti
  - yes . . . - anon
- Dont blast me people, but if you do I can take it. Exhausted, please do not have any - more children with this man, if you cant take care
- There is a fine line hear..... - Is this a cry for help?????
  - I said pestering, not pest. - Exhausted.
    - No need to explain yourself... - PAMT~MDM
  - I don't get this from her note, her DH was supposed -sm -
    - Kinda off topic here, but I hate it when a husband is suggested - by others to "babysit" his own kids. That ju
- What would Dr. Phil say? - missy
- Have you been on Dr. Phil? I swear I saw this on his show. - First thing U need is a back bone- and I mean that
- virtual hugs to you "exhausted" one...sm (long) - flybye
  - Excellent response! I hope she listens. nm - deb
  - Mine's a shorter version but very similar..... - sm
  - WOW . . - anon
  - This is an excellent post. - ER MT
  - Wow. You SO hit the nail on the head with this one--sm - nn
- i'd tell him it's marriage/family counseling - or the HIGHWAY...........good luck!!!...nm
- I have a suggestion. - Quit the second job.
  - I know someone, who knows someone.... - Hayseed
    - I love your posts Hayseed! Your answers are great! - Dizz
      - I just tries to keeps it light in this crazy world is all... - Hayseed
  - I have an even better suggestion - Minnie
    - There she goes again...geez. NM - TM
      - She's got a point though! - TYPER MOM
        It's not the fact that she maybe has a point - TM
        Both of my children were out of high school when I chose this - Wannie
        Thank you for that! :o) NM - TM
        You said about yourself what I have said before and yet - Minnie
        And another thing.... - TM
        OMG! Um..... - TM
        See posts on here describing how kids better with their family but.... - Minnie
- Emotional support - Dizzi
  - Been to counselling - Exhausted.
    - Having seen this whole thing go down up close and personal = - been there too
    - The fact you did not file for divorce after your husband sent the - sm
    - It seems highly unlikely to me sm - april
    - been to counseling, didn't work, does not..sm - if you lose your sanity....sm
    - Do you have any family or friends you can stay with? I do not - Kokopoo
    - more advice - you'll be no good to those kids if - if you lose your sanity....sm
      - options - anon
        been there--sm - nn
        only IF the passive aggressive wants help......... - nope - only if they want to change.....nm
    - I see myself in you. - kd
    - Of course they choose the most vulnerable--sm - nn

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