been there--sm

Posted By: nn on 2007-02-12
In Reply to: options - anon

It is just my opinion, but I have said it in other postings on this message too, is that no, there is really no hope. If you want to continue being aggressively emotionally and sometimes physically abused, then stay, but to maintain your own self-esteem, self-worth, your OWN sanity, and possibly your own life, the best option is to leave. I have known alot of passive/aggressive people in my lifetime and all of them have the same profiles...and none of them see themselves as the problem. It would take something REALLY REALLY REALLY drastic to make them see what they are doing, and most of them do not want to. It never gets any better, but it does get worse. Again, this is just my opinion....through lots of experience.

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i need some emotional support - Exhausted.
- I feel your pain - typingforpennies
- I always ask myself........ - Patti
  - yes . . . - anon
- Dont blast me people, but if you do I can take it. Exhausted, please do not have any - more children with this man, if you cant take care
- There is a fine line hear..... - Is this a cry for help?????
  - I said pestering, not pest. - Exhausted.
    - No need to explain yourself... - PAMT~MDM
  - I don't get this from her note, her DH was supposed -sm -
    - Kinda off topic here, but I hate it when a husband is suggested - by others to "babysit" his own kids. That ju
- What would Dr. Phil say? - missy
- Have you been on Dr. Phil? I swear I saw this on his show. - First thing U need is a back bone- and I mean that
- virtual hugs to you "exhausted" one...sm (long) - flybye
  - Excellent response! I hope she listens. nm - deb
  - Mine's a shorter version but very similar..... - sm
  - WOW . . - anon
  - This is an excellent post. - ER MT
  - Wow. You SO hit the nail on the head with this one--sm - nn
- i'd tell him it's marriage/family counseling - or the HIGHWAY...........good luck!!!...nm
- I have a suggestion. - Quit the second job.
  - I know someone, who knows someone.... - Hayseed
    - I love your posts Hayseed! Your answers are great! - Dizz
      - I just tries to keeps it light in this crazy world is all... - Hayseed
  - I have an even better suggestion - Minnie
    - There she goes again...geez. NM - TM
      - She's got a point though! - TYPER MOM
        It's not the fact that she maybe has a point - TM
        Both of my children were out of high school when I chose this - Wannie
        Thank you for that! :o) NM - TM
        You said about yourself what I have said before and yet - Minnie
        And another thing.... - TM
        OMG! Um..... - TM
        See posts on here describing how kids better with their family but.... - Minnie
- Emotional support - Dizzi
  - Been to counselling - Exhausted.
    - Having seen this whole thing go down up close and personal = - been there too
    - The fact you did not file for divorce after your husband sent the - sm
    - It seems highly unlikely to me sm - april
    - been to counseling, didn't work, does not..sm - if you lose your sanity....sm
    - Do you have any family or friends you can stay with? I do not - Kokopoo
    - more advice - you'll be no good to those kids if - if you lose your sanity....sm
      - options - anon
        been there--sm - nn
        only IF the passive aggressive wants help......... - nope - only if they want to change.....nm
    - I see myself in you. - kd
    - Of course they choose the most vulnerable--sm - nn

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