What do you mean she does not support herself

Is she on welfare?  Does she freeload off her parents or other relatives?  I think not.

I've read her other posts and yes she stated her husband has a good job.  Does that mean she does not support herself.  I think not.  YOUR OPINION IS INAPPROPRIATE. 

I have been married for many years.  Some years I had a taxable income and other years I did not.  I did, however, support my husband by cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, etc.  I take offense to your insinuation that just because someone's spouse makes a good living that makes the other spouse's contributions insignificant.  Thank goodness the IRS doesn't see it your way, hence, the filing jointly box.

• credit card debt relief - stressed
  • Before considering the CCCS or debt relief (sm) - Been there
  • i was under the impression.... - anon
    • after BR there are many Fresh Start programs. - NM
    • A lot has changed in 5 years -- - anon2
      • I agree with you. Too many people.. - phillychick
        • I knew it was a matter of time before Philly started spewing about sm - ?
          • So let me make sure I have this right... - phillychick
            • Not exactly... - mt
              • i can't believe you are falling for someone's story that probably isn't true - tweeter
                • What amazes me, though it probably shouldn't - anon2
              • Not judging honey, believe me, I speak... - phillychick
          • Right. She's just that simple. - that's why her hubby takes care of her financia
            • Better her hubby than us taxpayers! - anon2
        • your opinion is again inappropriate, as you do not support yourself. - NM
          • What do you mean she does not support herself - anon2
            • Thank you. I would venture to say.. - phillychick
          • not you again....we can all have opinions... - phillychick
            • it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt. - anon
              • Unfortunately, I don't think you followed - anon2
              • thank you, anon. And this, Philly, is why your posts are inappropriate. - to say the least. NM
                • What's inappropriate to some... - phillychick
                  • I just don't its right to generalize about people.sm - kittykitty
                    • I'm so fired up left off, "I don't THINK its right! nm - kittykitty
              • A shame this place is so catty. But that is freedom of speech for you. - Walk a mile in shoes
                • Well said, Well Said. BRAVA!! - anon
  • I agree with trying to negotiate with the CC companies - Backwards typist
  • Credit Card Debt Counseling - link inside
  • credit card - mnmt
    • try to negotiate for a lower APR before going to CCC & use the word "hardship" - mtstudent

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Not sure how much of DH yelling I can take.  I work 2 jobs.  Yesterday I had to put in 5 hours for one.  DH is supposed to help with the kids.  Well, his level of helping yesterday was just sitting in his chair and yelling at them to stop doing this or that.  He said about 5 times that my 15-mo had a dirty diaper.  I had the attitude like “well go change it, I am working.”  He never changed it and I don’t know how long she stayed in that dirty diaper but by the time I got to changing her, she was red.  Then I went to help my 5 year old with her Valentines.  She did 20 Valentines and she insisted on doing them herself. It took her 2 hours but she did it all.   I was proud of her and amazed.  Dh kept hollering for us to get through because he wanted some Ice cream.  I told him since he can drive he can go get it himself.  He got mad and started yelling.  My 15 MO kept bothering us.  I got some toys to try to help distract her and it would work for a little bit but then she would pester us some more.  I told dh to keep her distracted and he shouted “WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO.”  WHY ARE YOU ACTING THIS WAY?  WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU?   I told dh that she acts like she is hungry, has she had anything to eat.  “she has been eating popcorn all after noon”  I knew better than to ask him anymore so I got up and started to go find her something to eat and he yelled “SIT DOWN”  and gave me a look that could kill. 

I told dh that I just don’t know how to deal with him anymore.  I feel he is angry with me or resentful.  When we first got married, his Mommy was practically sleeping in between us. She balanced our check book, she went through or mail to see what bills had to be paid, still does, she has to know everything about what we are doing.  She and dh are best friends.  MIL went on all the vacations with us and it was always where dh wanted to go and MIL always loved where dh wanted to go.   When I had the kids, it had to be all about her.  I told dh thiat if this sick business did not stop, I was leaving.  It stopped.  Poor MIL don’t get to see her DGK anymore.  Boo hoo hoo, (coming from dh and MIL).  I am so mean.   This is all another story. 

One minute dh says he loves me, then next he treats me like this.  My family, unfortunately, loves dh.  He doesn’t act like this around them.  He is no niceeee and MIL is so niceeee.

I have to go.  I got to get my kids up and ready for school.

This morning I wrote a letter to my son, who I cut out of my life eight years ago at a time he was making two children with two different women.  I got on my high horse and told him that until he straightened his life out I could not be part of his life.  He was divorced from his wife, who was pregnant, and setting up housekeeping with his girlfriend, who was pregnant.  Since then, he married his girlfriend, had another child, bought a house, but I had let it all slip away.  I've never met his son and daughter, never met his present wife.

I wrote him today and asked for forgiveness and to be a part of his life again.  I want to know my grandchildren. 

Could you all send your positive thoughts my way, or pray for me, that he'll let me back in his life?  I so want to rectify this horrible mistake.  I've already missed the first eight years of my granddaughter's life.  I don't want to miss the rest!

Thanks, everyone. 

I hope I'm on the right board here.  :D  I have 2 kids and have been divorced 4-1/2 years.  I have had a child support order in effect since around 3 years ago, which included back pay for the whole 4-1/2 years.  This was for (don't laugh) $125 a month.  I FINALLY just started getting this support about a month ago.  First, it was $25-something a week and the past couple weeks, it has dropped down to $9.65.  I believe this is automatically coming out of his paycheck (this is the first job he's had in forever).  He tells me he has a very good job in trucking and so, what my question is, if I go back to court to modify that order, to get more, since he now has a job, will I need an attorney, or can I do that on my own?  I'm really thinking it won't even be worth the time and money with a lawyer, but I would like to have it modified, since he has an income.  To add to that, I am paying $250 for the kids' insurance, and I wasn't when the original order was made.  He also tells me he just bought a house (which is likely baloney, anyway), but if he can afford a house, surely he can afford more than $36 a month in child support.

PS:  Per the handy-dandy canculator on the state website, figuring both our incomes in (what he claims to be getting, anyway), he should be owing between $1500 and $1800.

Thanks, y'all!

that "allows" and supports 2 people who are not married dance and become SO intimate in a setting, especially if the person is married. How sad! I hated to see Helio's long-time girlfriend give the ring back and say "I'm not going to marry you." I'd dump my fiance too after a LONG kiss to his fellow "dance partner" and then goes on the radio saying, "yes, it was a long kiss, and I liked it!" Just terrible.

I'm sure a lot of relationships have been broken up because of this show. No man when tempted with a gorgeous, voluptuous woman, can resistant feeling attractive, pressing up against her body for the sake of "dancing" and then say he did nothing wrong. Vice versa if you are a woman in a relationship.

It's just morally wrong. I think people should be single if they are going to dance or dance with their partners, spouses, fiances, etc. I just can't tell you how wrong it is. It's not just dancing. It's deep intimacy and cheating, all covered and hidened under "entertainment and dancing." Give me a fricken break.

mine is currently in arrears in the amount of $23,775 --- he inherited MILLIONS when his father died -- he refuses to work, he's never paid me a dime.... my case worker is attempting to put a lien on his $1/2-million home in Vegas..  Blessed with this child, but sure would like some support, maybe not have to work two jobs...

I'm so glad you're all here for ranting.... thanks, friends.

school yesterday afternoon and went with him to his last three classes of the day which happen to the ones he's doing the worst in.  He was mortified, mad, and I thought his head would pop off.  I think I made my point.  After school, I went with him to his English class because she asked that he stay after so she could help him catch up on his assignments.  So I sat in the back of the class while my son and his teacher worked.  And while I sat there I decided to write out some rules.

Last night my son and I sat down and talked and he said he'd do anything I asked him to do if I would please never come to his school again.  I simply said that depends on you and we left it at that.  I grounded him indefinitely - until I get some good reports back from his teachers.  No TV, no video games, no friends over, or telephone.

I don't know what will happen, but I have to say I feel pretty good just by taking control of the situation and going to his school.  A couple of weeks ago I was saying "what am I supposed to do, go to school and follow him around??!?"  And now I know that answer is yes, if that's what I have to do.  I feel less stressed. 

Thanks to everyone!

Well, I managed to make it to family court yesterday and back home while flying low :)  My son-in-law walked out 5 months in arrears and next payment due 3/1, already in debt for about 2 grand, plus he has to pay for the DNA test (99.999% - ha, didn't need Maury after all!)  My daughter is $1500 in arrears with another payment due 3/1, and her order has been moved over into the category to take any Federal Income Tax refunds she gets in the future to be applied to the order.  So now, finally, I should have no further court appearances unless the two want to TPR (terminpate parental rights) and let me adopt.  The next step for my daughter is jail if she doesn't pay in March, so she is already making noises she might let me adopt.  The dud has wanted to me to adopt her all along to avoid CS.

I went to municipal court and had the arrest warrant removed and was given another 2 months to pay the s-t-u-p-i-d ticket.  I asked whether the judge would accept that I corrected the tag problem the next day and was told no.  If it was expired at the time the ticket was written, then they do not make exceptions.  I checked our local newspaper and the city hired 11 new officers in 2006 for the specific purpose of enforcing vehicle/driving codes in the city.  They have increased the number of traffic-related tickets issued to almost 18,000 in 2006, up from less than 8,000 in 2004.  Now I just have to remember to pay it, but did buy a new day planner today and have written 3 reminders to myself to pay it on time  

On another note, as I have no health insurance and need certain maintenance medications (almost $1000) a month, I found needymeds.com.  I have already received a 3-month supply of one drug and will be receiving another each month shipped to my doctor's office.  The manufacturers help people who fall between the cracks by providing free medications. 

I feel a lot better about things.