Nope, don't necessarily need family support
Posted By: though it would be nice - SM on 2007-08-03
In Reply to: That is true, but you will need your family's support - and that may be literal.
I'm raising my grandchild. This has split my entire family apart - no support from mom, sisters, ex-hubby, other adult child, parents of GC... NO ONE, and I'm single and getting no child support. I am developing an outside network of friends to compensate, but it has taken 18 months to get there. I just found a babysitter I'm going to start using this week so I can actually go have a meal by myself or see a movie now and then.
Sometimes in family matters, the only one you can count on is yourself and you just do what you have to do in order to do the right thing.
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Don't worry. Hopefully, you have family support, so
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That is true, but you will need your family's support
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Nope, family are going to do what they want
He did right by letting it go. If he had wanted to take a stand on it, he could have sent his own flowers and signed them the way he wanted. His brother was being a bit of a jerk by not respecting him, but it wouldn't have been the right time for your friend to dig in and insist.
I think a lot of people feel, consciously or not, that you shouldn't change your own name, that it's somehow disrespecting your parents who gave you that name, and they just won't cooperate. I think all he can do is just keep signing with the name he wants to use and quit answering when they call him the wrong name in person.
nope not a gyn, family practice. gosh, i don't know why i am so nervous.......sm
maybe cuz i grew up very poor and just nervous about what to wear, how to act, where we are going, etc. and will i fit in. best part of the story is i was the one who posted about a month ago about getting out of a horrible relationship with an addict/abuser and wanting to stay single so i have had a hard life with a horrible man and this is my first date since single. yes, a little too soon i agree, but i can't pass the opportunity to go out with a doctor and he will IM me in between seeing pts and it is so funny and he is so sweet. he'll just pop up and say what kinda report you typing on now, you having a good day, etc. maybe at least it will make him think twice when he is dictating, LOL.
I'm not necessarily for
lowering the legal drinking age to 18, but if it's not then they should raise the legal age for killing in a war to 21! If an 18 year old isn't mature enough to handle a beer, I dare say he isn't prepared for what killing another person could do to him.
When he said the first, no not necessarily
that would have told me everything. Sure he is looking for someone. He gave all answers that say so, like none available (means he is looking) and havent found anyone risky. Lady, you have a problem. There would have been a lot of racket at my home.
Not necessarily
Doctors are generally proactive when there is any borderline blood sugars going on, but they usually say to watch the diet, do some exercise, etc., for prediabetes. I don't think it has to do with the low income status; a high blood sugar is a high blood sugar. If it is diabetes, it needs to be treated regardless of socioeconomic status.
Now, a sugar of about 300 is high, especially if she hadn't eaten in the hours prior to having the blood sugar taken. However, be sure to ask if she had washed her hand (or whatever part was tested) or used an alcohol swab before testing. When I worked the floor, I remember a nurse (not me!) who took a gentleman's blood sugar without cleaning it. It was in the 400s. She decided to do a retake with cleaning it properly, and it was below 100. He had residual food that we couldn't see on his hand from lunch, which showed up on the blood sugar. If your mom is eating candy or anything else and hadn't washed her hands, it very well could show up with a very elevated (albeit falsely) blood sugar.
When I saw you say morning headaches, I immediately thought of a sleep problem rather than diabetes. It's hard to say on the internet!
Medicines she takes could cause elevated blood sugars, too.
Let us know what happens! A true blood sugar of 300 needs followup.
Not necessarily disagreeing with you but
are we just ingrained to beleive that men make better leaders. I am no advocating Hil for prez, but I do believe that we do or will have in the future many women capable of running this country. I guess I am disagreeding wtih you, but JMO.
You wouldn't necessarily know but (sm)
First of all, it is very rare that is passed on to children from their mother before or during birth. Second, there are not really treatments for children - the treatments used for adults are so harsh that they feel children cannot handle them. I have it from a blood transfusion I got 27 years ago and have had no health problems from it, did not give it to my husband, have two children. Had my first child tested and that was negative. Have not had my second child tested at all. I will be happy to talk with you more about this if you would like to e-mail me.
they do not necessarily come from India
The emails may *look* like they come from India in the headers but know that spammers use proxies to camouflage their identity and camouflage their computers......
Open up the headers and forward the entire email with the headers showing to spam at uce dot gov. Only do this if these are in your personal or business email account. Not necessary to do it if you are using a generic email account such as hotmail or yahoo. That is the email for the govt to go after spammers.
Been getting these types of spam emails for 12 years now!! But I learned and I never give out my most personal email account except to the very chosen few....and as a result I never or very rarely get a spammed email in that particular account.
I can't necessarily say she should be released
but these people were basically brainwashed by Manson and definitely full of drugs.
Did she show compassion for Sharon Tate and her unborn child, no, but does that mean others can't show compassion. Is a lifetime or 37 years enough, not necessarily, but it is true that California is paying mega-bucks for her care. If she can't even set up what is her life going to be at home?
This is not an open and shut case. There are many ways to look at it, and I hope the judge making the ruling considers each and every avenue.
Well it doesn't necessarily have to be ...sm
northern folks. I have never been west of Texas so I don't know how people out there talk. I guess since you are from out there and you say you guys then it must be used out there to.
Now I can't see my accent being as interesting as an English accent.
I'm glad you like southern accents because not everyone does. I have been made fun of by someone from Alaska. It was very insulting.
I have a friend who lives in Las Vegas and she is originally from Texas. But she doesn't really have an accent. Anyways her dads friend's son was staying with them. He is from Alaska. Well I called and asked for my friend and he answered the phone. When he put the phone down to get her I heard him making fun of my accent and that has stuck with me and I have been self conscious now when I am anywhere else besides in the south. He had never experienced a southern accent before and I guess he just make fun of what was different.
While breastfeeding in public does not necessarily
offend me, I think some discretion is absolutely necessary and some things are better done in private. God also made our bodies for procreating, but we wouldn't want to see that done in public, either. JMO. 
I wasn't necessarily the money
He was a self-made millionare already due to either mining or construction. I live just across the state line from WV so he was in the news a lot, but you are right, his life is certainly worse then when it was before the lottery. I am still going to play though.
He is old-fashioned, and that isn't necessarily an excuse
I am a Pastor's wife. Well, that will probably tell you volumes in itself. He is right-wing Lutheran, and I come from a moderate Lutheran background. Well, needless to say I know what you are going through except I am supposed to set an example to the ladies at church that the man is the leader of the house and we are not to publicly or privately question his decision, because that is the Biblical way. Well, sinner or not, I think this leads to men thinking they are always right, we are not their equal, we have no say, and it becomes a control issue. So... my heart is with you. I have yet to figure out this patriarchal thing. Believe me, I have voiced many times that I am good at some things, he other things and in discipline with children, we are equal not one better than the other. I think men are supposed to act responsibly not controlling and this is where the confusion comes in. When they refuse our opinion or disrespect us, I feel they are not living up to their role as protector and are acting like babies. But then again, they say I am a Pastor's wife who needs to go to Pastor's wife school, because my opinions are for equality and I have zero tolerance for domestic abuse. I am sorry if this does not answer your question or help you, but I do want to say I sympathize and you are not incorrect. There is no reason for a man to be controlling or to be rude, senseless and overbearing. When I figure out the answer to my situation I'll let you know. All I can say is to this day publicly and at home I stick up for equality, and I do not accept abusive male behavior and I don't care who doesn't like it. Zero tolerance from me. Leads to a tense household, but it could be worse, dishonesty is absolutely worse. Sorry for the soap box. Please hang in there and keep yourself safe and happy. :)
If an employee not necessarily. MTSO will
take advantage until you burn out or quit. Take it from me. They would even let someone quit so they can get a newer person (more "willing") to do all that junk even with errors, than keep someone who they feel is unwilling to be a doormat. For the people who can do the ESLs, well they will be taken advantage of or let go for most of the MTSOs. Rare that a company won't take advantage that way, even some of the "best" around here. Only 1 that I know of (where I work) will they reward for good workers by giving other types of reports which are easier to balance it out. And I can't say where because that company gets teased way too much on here. Otherwise, be careful if you are really good. They will let you go if you are not a practicing doormat and willing to make 3.00 an ESL report per half hour. No joke.
That's what I thought too....not necessarily means yes (nm)
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I don't necessarily agree you should "wear them both out" SM
I am of the opinion that the 11-year-old should be punished as well because in my mind the 11yo probably was taunting or teasing or did something intentional to anger your 8yo and the 8yo responded. It's not fair to punish the 8yo because he chose to respond physically and not do anything to the 11yo who instigating the whole situation. The 8yo may view that as he's not allowed to defend himself or that you are playing favorites -- which I'm not saying you are -- I'm just saying both boys are behaving aggressively -- one is more PASSIVE aggressive than the other, but it's still aggression.
That's just my armchair psychology eval for ya! Good luck to you!
Not necessarily, many phone calls may have been made. (nm)
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I'm all for legalization (though not necessarily in favor of taxation), but (sm)
...at least if pot were the drug of choice, rather than alcohol, we'd have a lot fewer belligerent people out causing fights (though, perhaps, the shoplifting stats for cookies, chips and pop might rise ).
Fewer DUI deaths ... have you seen how slowly and carefully a pot smoker drives? LOL.
Family is great but I am never back in my hometown where family is... So I always have extended fami
You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
LOL. I love this show. I think Gene and Shannon and her sister are a riot! What characters. It really is amazing to me the kids seem so laid back and so normal. They seem like great kids.
Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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Thanks for the support.
I understand exactly where you are coming from. You don't see atheists walking around and knocking on other people's doors. I have friends who are Catholic, Methodist, Lutheran, Buddhist, Muslim, Jewish, Episcopalian, Atheist, Agnostic, and even Wiccan, so whose religion is "right?"
thanks, but what is HP support?
i've been kinda worried about this little error message...apprec the info.
what is HP Support
Sorry about the HP Support. It is Hewlett Packard. I was just having a moment and should have just said to email support at whatever brand of computer you owned.
I had this same problem with my Dell computer also and had no clue it was just an update I needed to do since adding security. I did this since grandchildren will be visiting and didn't want them getting into my files, uninstalling programs or anything else; won't have to sit and watch them 24/7 while playing games on one of my computers. Anyway, you're more than welcome.
Thanks . . . for your support
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SUPPORT
I barely weigh 110 pounds and that is with my clothes and shoes with something else in my pocket.....You have my support....
support
Whether I spoke or not has nothing to do with it.....when I was 16, I only weighed about 95 pounds..I am just thin, small, petite and have been so all of my life......I was just trying to give support to anyone who is trying to lose weight if they are determined to do....did not mean to offend anyone.....a person can accomplish anything they have their mind set on when they have a lot of support to do so.....THAT IS ALL I WAS TRYING TO SAY......
What do you mean she does not support herself
Is she on welfare? Does she freeload off her parents or other relatives? I think not.
I've read her other posts and yes she stated her husband has a good job. Does that mean she does not support herself. I think not. YOUR OPINION IS INAPPROPRIATE.
I have been married for many years. Some years I had a taxable income and other years I did not. I did, however, support my husband by cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, etc. I take offense to your insinuation that just because someone's spouse makes a good living that makes the other spouse's contributions insignificant. Thank goodness the IRS doesn't see it your way, hence, the filing jointly box.
Thanks for your support sm
The subject just hit a nerve and I think this girl has a legitimate complaint and her Mom needs help. I just hate my new situation, all brought on by switching churches and that's a shame! I love them so much and I think my DIL just needs to lighten up with her new church who are very anti-Catholic. I truly never talk about religion or any private matters, just get down on the floor and get busy playing. There is really no comparison to the OP situation, I wouldn't tolerate that either. Sounds like her mom is taking the Bible out of context - a lot of that going around these days!! God would be very upset with it all - family is so important, I can't stand that a church family has taken the place of the biological family. Nobody wins, everybody loses. The original poster has my heartfelt sympathy, that's no way to talk to kids, they are blank slates and we shouldn't fill them up with nonsense in their little brains. Sorry for the raw edges, sensitive lately.
My support also.........nm
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i need some emotional support
Not sure how much of DH yelling I can take. I work 2 jobs. Yesterday I had to put in 5 hours for one. DH is supposed to help with the kids. Well, his level of helping yesterday was just sitting in his chair and yelling at them to stop doing this or that. He said about 5 times that my 15-mo had a dirty diaper. I had the attitude like “well go change it, I am working.” He never changed it and I don’t know how long she stayed in that dirty diaper but by the time I got to changing her, she was red. Then I went to help my 5 year old with her Valentines. She did 20 Valentines and she insisted on doing them herself. It took her 2 hours but she did it all. I was proud of her and amazed. Dh kept hollering for us to get through because he wanted some Ice cream. I told him since he can drive he can go get it himself. He got mad and started yelling. My 15 MO kept bothering us. I got some toys to try to help distract her and it would work for a little bit but then she would pester us some more. I told dh to keep her distracted and he shouted “WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO.” WHY ARE YOU ACTING THIS WAY? WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU? I told dh that she acts like she is hungry, has she had anything to eat. “she has been eating popcorn all after noon” I knew better than to ask him anymore so I got up and started to go find her something to eat and he yelled “SIT DOWN” and gave me a look that could kill.
I told dh that I just don’t know how to deal with him anymore. I feel he is angry with me or resentful. When we first got married, his Mommy was practically sleeping in between us. She balanced our check book, she went through or mail to see what bills had to be paid, still does, she has to know everything about what we are doing. She and dh are best friends. MIL went on all the vacations with us and it was always where dh wanted to go and MIL always loved where dh wanted to go. When I had the kids, it had to be all about her. I told dh thiat if this sick business did not stop, I was leaving. It stopped. Poor MIL don’t get to see her DGK anymore. Boo hoo hoo, (coming from dh and MIL). I am so mean. This is all another story.
One minute dh says he loves me, then next he treats me like this. My family, unfortunately, loves dh. He doesn’t act like this around them. He is no niceeee and MIL is so niceeee.
I have to go. I got to get my kids up and ready for school.
Emotional support
Sounds like you are carrying the load yourself. It's amazing how men are so insensitive and wrapped up in themselves. You basically have to hit them over the head with a baseball bat to get any sense into them. Obviously, if you were working and you have little ones running around and needing care, how hard can it be for him to jump in there and do what needs to be done? Hang in there. Maybe you can try talking to him and spelling out for him what you expect from him when you are working, especially with the kids. Good luck!
Thanks for the support for those who gave it.
I don't feel I need to answer "Jessie" anymore.
No, they will support you in meeting your needs
Some kids just need to nurse longer than others. Sheesh.
The best thing to do is support him
If he says he is, then he is. Sit him down, ask him what he wants to do about it and help him in any way you can. Let him know that you are proud that he acknowledges the problem. In dealing with my own family members, they've told me that it really encouraged them when I acknowledged every little accomplishment. Just saying "congratulations - day 3 without (alcohol in this case)" made them feel good. But, you have to be prepared to be tough, too. If he says he wants to quit, get rid of all of the alcohol. I, too, recommend AA and Al-Anon. I wasn't all for it when I initially went to Al-Anon when I was a teenager, but it helped tremendously. Good luck, I wish you both the best.
For who? The taxpayers that have to support them?
Prison, these days, is no punishment. The prisoners have more rights than their victims ever did! Three hots and a cot for some heinous crime? Must be nice! I am torn on the death penalty, but I think something more severe than life in prison needs to be inflicted. Criminals just don't see prison as a pushishment any more.
child support
Mine owes over $76,000.
child support
I'm in southern Idaho and I was shocked one day to read in the paper that only 10% of people here who are supposed to pay child support are current on their payments. I knew it was a problem, but I didn't realize it was that bad. I generally think my ex is a selfish jerk, but I do give him credit that he has always paid his child support and it's no small amount ($1000 a month). Sometimes I think I'd rather have him out of our lives and give up the support payments, but then I realize that it's best for the kids to have a relationship with him (unless he was abusive, which he's not, just self-absorbed).
I would much rather support the U.S. at this time..
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Mr. Tech Support
Way too funny! You can bring your guns to my house any time. LOL
TS = Tech Support said in one of his
posts:
'Ignore them and they will go away.'
So, you see, Ella, this is not a brain child of 'Anudder'.
She was getting a lot of child support before and --
her exhusband just got out of the military and now refuses to give her any money. He is in another state and is not working anymore and says he does not have to.
I believe it is Hewlett Packard support. nm
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Yes. There is a reason. I am a little behind on child support. sm
So, I am scared that it will be used against me. I get my son anything he needs and he is very well taken care of by the both of us. Very well. I fell on some hard times last year and I am now behind.
So, if I take this to court that will be held against me and I may lose him forever.
I did NOT want to go into any detail with my post. I just wanted to say that i was having a very hard day and was sad about the entire situation. That's all. Thanks for your caring.
Not referring to a no-support agreement. If there
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You definitely need a strong support system sm
right now. If being closer to your family will help you trough this then that is what you should do. You will be a better mother to your children if you are able to handle this better. About the money, since your child will be in first grade that should cut down on the cost of preschool. I am sure there are wonderful other speech therapists out there. Listen to your heart and "Go Home" and be surrounded by people that love and care for you.
I could use some collective psychic support - sm
This morning I wrote a letter to my son, who I cut out of my life eight years ago at a time he was making two children with two different women. I got on my high horse and told him that until he straightened his life out I could not be part of his life. He was divorced from his wife, who was pregnant, and setting up housekeeping with his girlfriend, who was pregnant. Since then, he married his girlfriend, had another child, bought a house, but I had let it all slip away. I've never met his son and daughter, never met his present wife.
I wrote him today and asked for forgiveness and to be a part of his life again. I want to know my grandchildren.
Could you all send your positive thoughts my way, or pray for me, that he'll let me back in his life? I so want to rectify this horrible mistake. I've already missed the first eight years of my granddaughter's life. I don't want to miss the rest!
Thanks, everyone.
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