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Women, you don’t have to put up with this

Posted By: Loved lady on 2008-02-26
In Reply to: Caught husband looking at wfm ads (sm) - Carolina MT

My husband just told me a few minutes ago I was his best friend (as he is mine) and he was so glad he had married me, how others do not seem to get along, fighting all the time, yelling, upset- this is definitely not our life. Ladies, there are good guys out there- please look, don’t settle for more than you deserve.


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Why do women always seem...
to be the guinea pigs for pharmaceutical companies? There is no way would I want my granddaughters subjected to this.
But you and I both know, women
have always and as far as I can see will continue to carry the burden. If we did not take birth control and it was left to a man to tell us they had taken a pill, would you want to chance that? I don't think so. If a woman has a child a lot of men can and do turn their backs and who is responsible then? It is the woman again. I take the responsibility for my own health- I would never want to leave up to a husband/partner to assure me he had taken his medicine for STD??/used his birth control??/infertile???/etc., etc. This is the reason you see lots of females left holding the bag because they do want to put trust in their man.
I think 90% of women...
Find their husbands repulsive and repugnant. You are not alone. Just close your eyes and go to your happy place.

Have you ever seen what those women look like?
Kids that age just want to fit in, not look like their mom or the lady at the Macy's counter. I let my daughter wear what she wanted even I thought it looked pretty bad at times. She is now 18 and wears appropriate make up for an 18yo.
I know these women are old but
Tina Turner and also Cher both have the ole folks spread now. I guess some of these so called actresses in Hollywood that are size 0 minus only have to wait some years and there you go.
well, of course the women
would win!  We have about four different versions of it. 
that's what I mean. For women like you
whose husband is better looking than themselves, this story is especially insulting and hurtful. A very bitter joke (?)
I look far better than my husband, but I am not going to look for a 22-year-old, never came into my female mind.

A really good joke should NEVER insult anybody!
Excellent!!! More women should do this....
              
Women's work

I agree with the OP concerning professionalism.  I believe it comes from anything that jobs that (primarily) women perform having the perception of not being serious work.  If she is working at home, that perception is doubled.  I also agree with having a schedule and sticking to it; plus if you have help to do your primary work, do it and don't feel guilty.  Generally doing many things at once means you cannot do anything well in my opinion.  But I do have to admit what works for one person doesn't work for others. 


We know we have historically multi-tasked.  I remember my daddy telling about my grandmother helping my grandfather with plowing at times, guiding the mule's head and leaving her baby under a shade tree, with a brick holding down the child's gown and the family dog keeping watch. She wasn't thought of as neglectful--just doing what had to be done.   Unfortunately, women have to work harder and be smarter than men to be competitive and we just have to know in our hearts we contribute significantly to society.  What's that old joke--luckily that's not too hard!  


why is it that women SEEM to be desperate in....

If things were so good with the OP with her current marriage, do ya think she'd be online reconnecting with anybody?!?!?!?!


So many women appear desperate to me in their 50s...and I don't know why because I'm in my late 50s and am never desperate sounding, appearing, etc......I just don't get it.  And no, I have chosen not to be married any longer for the past 16 years......


you know that old sayin?  want a man in my life, not in my house full time?!?!??!! 



Good for you, but I'm just saying some women don't need or want a man....
thank you very much ;)
Women who shop with their
What is the deal with st**pid women who think they are special enough to take their dogs to the malls, grocery stores and other places these dogs shouldn't be? I was at Macy's today and a little dog in a woman's purse barked at people passing by. I made some rude comments to the woman but why do stores allow these people to continue to shop?

Unfortunately most men say that to women who are overweight.
Pay more attention to who he is checking out/drooling over on TV - bet it isn't Roseann Barr or Camryn Manheim! lol
I will never understand some women

It's a beautiful day today, and a co-worker was saying she'd love to go home and take her dog for a walk. But her husband is home sick and he won't let her go without him.


She does stuff like that all the time. I think the only place she's allowed to go by herself is work. She can't go to the grocery or get gas or to the drugstore without him. She has no friends other than their joint friends.


Drives me nuts. What kind of a life is that? I guess it's OK for her, but I would hate to always have to be chaperoned by my husband.


Women, what are you thinking?
You are staying with a guy because he is too big?? You are staying because of the kids?? This is not the dark ages. You are probably not slaves (although I did read the other day about some foreign folks being held slaves in another state somewhere). You have no idea how fast life goes by on you. I so wish I had done differently than to stay with a guy who did not treat me right- but having said that, years ago when I called the police to get away from my husband- and this was years ago- told they could not intervene being as we were married. Now, dear, times have changed. You can leave, can get assistance and can be in charge of your own lives. I wish a thousand times or more I had met this present husband and lead such a delicious life like now. You will wake up 1 day, believe me when i tell you this, and wonder what you have done with your life, where did it go, just like a flash you are in your 50s or 60s- don’t still be miserable when you reach the age where I am now. Life can be really good and beautiful. I have been down the same streets.
Some women go only with married men
I am totally not surprised at what you said. I have an ex-coworker and she goes with a married man, does not care and would not have it otherwise. She cares nothing about marrying him so this is not uncommon for women not to care-and the other way as well. Unlike the other posts above, this man is saying he no longer loves her. I probably would think, other woman, in a case like this. If I knew no one around, I would probably want to be closer to my family. A cheating man never ever changes- they might lie low for awhile but yours has not changed and gosh darn, I would never want to be with someone who caught a disease- he might bring something home that a shot just doesn’t work for! There are really good guys out there that will love and treat a woman right, don’t have to settle for someone who professes not to love you. Why beat a dead horse and stay because of kids. Not this lady.
sad to say-women will never be able to run Africa.

Women will never run Africa (who is Oprah kidding?!) as long as Arab terrorists known as Janjaweed are still controlling at least 80% of Africa.........


Women running Africa - Don't I wish!!!  But it's more backwards there than here - and we know how most feel about having a woman run THIS country............. and for Africa it certainly isn't going to happen in our time or Oprah's time either........unfortunately.


Yup, there are skinny women
who have 2 teeth and a moustache who can't seem to climb up the evolutionary rung so I would say that statement was false. If I understood the odd statement...LOL
I don't know how women in the past did that - sm
I mean for me it hurt like the dickens (unfortunately did "it" twice that fateful evening) and I couldn't walk without incredible pain for days afterwards. Who would want to deal with that on their honeymoon? Certain would kill the urge.... Now maybe that is not the norm, but I swear childbirth was easier.
Women of Faith
Hi, Country MT - I love WOF.  Have been to 2.  Really can't pick a favorite; they are all great!  Sounds like you are a Christian also - oh, no - will I get in trouble for using that word?  By your name, I'm assuming you live in middle of nowhere; I do too.  Tiny, tiny town in IL, 400 people max.  I love this board.  Gives me an outlet when bored.  I really should be on working toward the bonus, but it is Saturday, will get to it sometime today. 
Bright women
We started to "bud" in our blouses at 9 or 10 years old only to find that anything that came in contact with those tender, blooming buds hurt so bad it brought us to tears. So came the ridiculously uncomfortable training bra contraption that the boys in school would snap until we had calluses on our backs.
Next, we get our periods in our early to mid-teens (or sooner). Along with those budding boobs, we bloated, we cramped, we got the hormone crankies, had to wear little mattresses between our legs or insert tubular, packed cotton rods in places we didn't even know we had.

Our next little rite of passage was having sex for the first time which was about as much fun as having a ramrod push your uterus through your nostrils (IF he did it right and didn't end up with his little cart before his horse), leaving us to wonder what all the fuss was about. 
Then it was off to Motherhood where we learned to live on dry crackers and water for a few months so we didn't spend the entire day leaning over Brother John . Of course, amazing creatures that we are (and we are), we learned to live with the growing little angels inside us steadily kicking our innards night and day making us wonder if we were preparing to have Rosemary's Baby.
Our once flat bellies looked like we swallowed a whole watermelon and we pee'd our pants every time we sneezed. When the big moment arrived, the dam in our blessed Nether Regions invariably burst right in the middle of the mall and we had to waddle, with our big cartoon feet, moaning in pain all the way to the ER.
Then it was huff and puff and beg to die while theOB says, "Please stop screaming, Mrs. Hearmeroar . Calm down and push. "Just one more good push" (more like 10), warranting a strong, well-deserved impulse to punch the %$#*@*#!* hubby and doctor square in the nose for making us cram a wiggling, mushroom-headed 10 pound bowling ball through a keyhole.
After that, it was time to raise those angels only to find that when all that "cute" wears off, the beautiful little darlings morphed into walking, jabbering, wet, gooey, snot-blowing, life-sucking little poop machines.
Then come their "Teen Years." Need I say more?

When the kids are almost grown, we women hit our voracious sexual prime in our early 40's - while hubby had his somewhere around his 18th birthday.
So we progress into the grand finale: "The Menopause," the Grandmother of all womanhood. It's either take HRT and chance cancer in those now seasoned "buds" or the aforementioned Nether Regions, or, sweat like a hog in July, wash your sheets and pillowcases daily and bite the head off anything that moves.
Now, you ask WHY women seem to be more spiteful than men, when men get off so easy, INCLUDING the icing on life's cake: Being able to pee in the woods without soaking their socks...


I think this pretty much covers the issue.

So, while I love being a woman, "Womanhood" would make the Great Gandhi a tad crabby. You think women are the "weaker sex?" Yeah right. Bite me.


Ever wonder why pregnant women don't

WASHINGTON (AP) -- Scientists think they have figured out why pregnant women don't lose their balance and topple over despite ever-growing weight up front.
 
Slight differences in the spine allow women to carry the growing load of pregnancy without toppling over.


Evolution provided slight differences from men in women's lower backs and hip joints, allowing them to adjust their center of gravity, new research shows.


This elegant engineering is seen only in female humans and our immediate ancestors who walked on two feet, but not in chimps and apes, according to a study published in Thursday's journal Nature.


"That's a big load that's pulling you forward," said Liza Shapiro, an anthropology professor at the University of Texas and the only one of the study's three authors who has actually been pregnant. "You experience discomfort. Maybe it would be a lot worse if (the design changes) were not there."


Harvard anthropology researcher Katherine Whitcomb found two physical differences in male and female backs that until now had gone unnoticed: One lower lumbar vertebra is wedged-shaped in women and more square in men; and a key hip joint is 14 percent larger in women than men when body size is taken into account.


The researchers did engineering tests that show how those slight changes allow women to carry the additional and growing load without toppling over -- and typically without disabling back pain.


"When you think about it, women make it look so very easy," Whitcomb said. "They are experiencing a pretty impressive challenge. Evolution has tinkered ... to the point where they can deal with the challenge.
"It's absolutely beautiful," she said. "A little bit of tinkering can have a profound effect."


Walking on two feet separates humans from most other animals. And while anthropologists still debate the evolutionary benefit of walking on two feet, there are notable costs, such as pain for pregnant females. Animals on all fours can better handle the extra belly weight.


The back changes appear to have evolved to overcome the cost of walking on two feet, said Harvard anthropology professor Daniel Lieberman.


When the researchers looked back at fossil records of human ancestors, including the oldest spines that go back 2 million years to our predecessor, Australopithecus, they found a male without the lower-back changes and a female with them.


But what about men with stomachs the size of babies or bigger? What keeps them from toppling over?


Their back muscles are used to compensate, but that probably means more back pain, theorized Shapiro, who added: "It would be a fun study to do to look at men with beer bellies to see if they shift their loads."


women beat themselves up - it NEVER - sm
has anything to do with you, male, female or animal.  It is his behavior.  You cannot change that.   You can get really miserable trying to - been there, done that.
But why women seeking men?
Okay, what am I missing. Wouldn't it be men seeking men or men seeking women? I'm not saying you shouldn't be concered, I'm just confused. If a man wants to be sought by a woman, I think a man looking for a man would have no luck with him, right?

Having said that (I'm single), I used to browse the Yahoo men seeking women ads just to see what the competition was (never entered my profile, though, -- I'm a happy 'aloner'). It was funny because I found one of my daughter's teachers there!!

At any rate, I wish you luck and happiness.


I presume he is looking at the ads that women - sm
are putting out looking for men.....and he wants to be the man they seek. Guess he is looking at their ads to see if he meets their specs, and if they sound interesting to him as well. That would be my take on it.
Because women smarter than that. 1 is enough to
dr
Some women are too smart
They're brainwashed, and may never wise up.  Nowhere in the Bible does it condone this type of lifestyle.  Some lecherous man declared himself a prophet and wrote his own book - and that's what they base their religion on, not the Bible.
What is your opinion on these women getting
dfs
Only Women Bleed
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I'm not judging you but with there being so many women who do (sm)
have terrible guilt and remorse after ABs it would seem that there should be more involved to get one, at least a visit with an unbiased psychiatrist who tells the full story of how one might feel later. I had someone say to me, "Now this is your decision right? Later on you don't get to blame anyone else, not your boyfriend, not your friends, no one else." I said I wouldn't and that was the extent of my counseling. This was in the mid-90s. I think you should have to go apply for one, be given a counseling session, wait a week or two, and see if that is still what you want to do. I think women should be given extensive information on all of their options and possible emotional repercussions so that at least when they make their own personal "choice" at least it is a well-informed choice. For me it is not so much guilt toward God as it is to the child I allowed to be killed. It is not a religious thing at all.
Good will toward men (and women) sm
Sounds corny but we need a time to start "anew" and this represents a new beginning to me. We do gifts, tree, etc., but I really appreciate that people are trying with smiles, holding doors, etc. in this time of turmoil. Whether it's Hannukah, Christmas, solstice, etc., I just think of it as "good will toward men." Hopefully there is no hope for men, women and children. It gives kids something to look forward to. As for those who are suffering, my thoughts and prayers are with them. Donating to charity makes me feel better. I do it more for "me" than "them" as it makes me feel like I'm here for a reason other than my own selfish needs. New birth - that's always a happy time, don't have to be religious if you don't care to. Your decision and your personal moral beliefs are your business and your moral compass.
I feel there are a lot of women here
Who are bored and hitting a midlife crisis, and looking for justification in wanting to leave their spouses.

I've never seen such a myriad of complaints over such trivial nonsense in my life.

I'd love to see the other side of the coin, and what the spouses might have to say about the women to whom they are married.


Wonder what a group of men would be saying about women?
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women are supposed to have
babies, not litters.
Dear 40+ women...

Please quit dressing like a teenager if you aren't in shape. You now have muffin top and flabby arms.


From Someone who works out


 


Men and Women- Relationships

I have heard people call their husbands or wives stupid. I am just curious. Do you believe there is really a dialogue between the genders. Do you respect your mate and vice versa.


I was watching Mad Men and the whole relationship between men & women in the 1950ies was very different. Men treated women as if they were children. They were petted and coddled, but these woman had no power, no sense of responsibility.


My husband is my partner. We make decisions that effect us jointly, together. I have my own bank acct. and he does too. We try not to have secrets. Most importantly- I am an individual in this marriage and so is he. If I didn't feel that way, I'd walk.


Sorry, women do bad things like this also
I love animals and hate to hear things like this but not only the other sex, have read about us also.
Nine Words Women Use
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2)
Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3)
Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4)
Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5)
Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but a non-verbal statement is often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idio*t and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer k to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6)
That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7)
Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question it, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome'.  That will bring on a 'whatever').

(8)
Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F^&! YOU!

(9)
Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man
to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to above !! 


I dunno. Why are women so....sm
Aha! See there? You opened this message all primed and ready to take up arms at some offensive characterization of the entire female gender, didn't you? Admit it! I wouldn't have gotten away with something like that for a minute, would I?

"Men" aren't selfish, sex-crazed, messy, insensitive, or irresponsible...some men (and some women) are. "Women" aren't bitchy, whiney, frigid, clucking, nitpicking, oversensitive, or insecure...some women (and some men) are.

So knock off the male-bashing. It's as ugly, offensive and, frankly, as ignorant as racial or any other form of prejudice and I'm frankly surprised that the rest of you tolerate it.
I definitely would not defend him..... women are too
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I am using SlimQuick, made for women
I like it.
Right from the mouths of women scorn
Too bad for the child that they have to put up with their parents being so selfish.  JMO.  The kid probably was excited the girlfriend thought of the little fella' or gal.  A child has no concept of what Daddy did to Mommy to cause the problem or for that matter what Mommy did to Daddy.  It is such a shame.  Life is way too short.  Again JMO.
not just women - black men were used in 1950s-60s..
in the 1950s or 1960s a large number of black men were used to test syphilis and associated drugs.........they gave them syphilis.........or some such thing - you can Google this and I think it happened in the deep south....(but of course in the 50s, early 60s, wouldn't have happened in NY for example)....and maybe some of you readers may know what I'm trying to convey, the story......so it's not *just* women...but it is disgusting no matter WHO it is..........and no, I wouldn't subject my potential future granddaughters with this - I'd send 'em to private school if that's the case.
What I see on this board is the fact women
really do not accept the fact if you have a hubby who doesn't cheat, google, stray, look at other gorgeous women, or mistreat you - they just do not believe you can have a husband who takes the cake. I have seen it time and time again. I think a lot of women are so miserable in their lives with their husbands and think they have to put up with mistreatment they don't believe it when another has a hubby who is all that! If I hadn't approached my hubby about marriage, I probably would still be a widow. His family thought confirmed batchelor at 49 and he, like I, value each and every day we have together. Raised on a farm, good work ethics, painfully shy and wants to just blend into the woodwork and hardly makes eye contact with someone other than me, very difficult in social places for him but so thankful for this gem. I just wish people on here, if they have hubbys who stray, mistreat them, Google others, whatever know some men just not that way and it has nothing to do with their sexuality...
Men just are not the emotional creatures that women are--sm
like another poster stated, if he was not like this before marriage, he never will be. However, you should still talk to him. He cannot do on his own what he does not know you want from him. He will never do it *on his own* because he does not know that is what you expect. He is not a mind reader. If you don't talk to him about this, you are going to end up resentful of him and your relationship will not last. You sound like you want him to treat you like a baby instead of a wife. Maybe you should reevaluate what your expectations are from a marriage.
This is exactly why women are the ones who have babies. Most men are such "WIMPS" it isn't
even funny!!!!! They can't handle it. That is the ONLY reason a man won't take care of his health - because they are afraid of what the doc might say. I say, be a man, toughen up, and take care of yourself! It doesn't do anyone any good if you're good and dead! Trust me on this one. It took me YEARS to get my husband to go to the doc. He finally did it and now is better than me when it comes to appointments! hahahaha
The women are gentle pickers.
Men just grab and bruise, women pick.
If you are in S.E. GA here is a site for , Tattnall Farms..U-pick farms. This site gives a listing and directions to farms as well as what items they sell and when they are in season.
Most women who kill their husbands SM
get life in prison without parole, whether they deserve it or not.

I usually take the woman's side in this, since I too was an abused wife, but her getting a lenient sentence due to her husband supposedly making her dress up in sexy outfits?

Outcome is debatable. I do always think if all abused wives murdered their husbands and I imagine many deserve it, the streets would be littered with dead husbands.

PS
After my divorce found wonderful man that I thank God for every day.
Not every women carries a child
I had a miscarriage also but I know the reason behind these and that is because a child cannot make it on the outside and is nature's way of terminating an unsurvivable pregnancy. I did not fret when I had mine, never worried about getting pregnant again and lots say that when you stop worrying that is usually the time you do conceive. Apparently companies now not worrying about the lining buildup because touting BCPs where you have 4 periods a year instead of monthly. This is really old news to me because when taking BCPs years ago I ran them for several months and knew this little trick already.
Do you remember when they threw a fit because the women said
they wanted their faces covered on a driver's license?  Don't get me started. If they don't like the way it's done here, move back to where they came from. I just can't understand why we have to adapt the culture of everyone else while denying our own.
Embarassing, but since mostly women here - recurrent BV
Have had this recurring for about a year...have taken Flagyl and used metro.  Keeps coming back.