Wow. I hate to tell you this but I know of 2 specific cases sm
Posted By: Me on 2007-09-15
In Reply to: Tough Love advice. My 19-year-old daughter is making me nuts.. - Stressed out Mom..
just like yours where the girls ended up dead. Not enough love in the world could have saved them. Yes, their moms are devastated. It is a tragic, tragic thing. Here's what you need to know. Once you've done all that you could possibly do for this young woman, you need to take a step back and let the "eaglet fall out of its nest." She's homeless? Oh well - she can get a job. She totatled her car (which, by the way, is the way one of the girls died I told you about - was on meth and then crashed). You can't get her another weapon (in this case, another car).
These are just some of the things you can't do for her. What you can do for her is to pray, to get others to pray, to show her unconditional love but that unconditional love is not getting, buying, being manipulated. Do not, let me say this again, do not blame yourself for her mistakes. There are many, many responsible 19 year olds who didn't even have parents growing up. You can survive this. Do you attend a good, spirit-filled church? If not, you need one. You need to focus on something bigger than youself (God). You need to find a passion and a purpose for your life, both of which comes from a relationship with God.
In my own life I've suffered the loss of a son, a marriage, deaths of family members, betrayal of the worst kind, financial distaster, hatred, you name it, I've been through it. For most of this I didn't know God. Then later in life I found God. Thankfully. He's given me a peace in my situation about certain family members that can only come from Him. When I surround myself with other living Christians I find there is a reason to live - not to mention my other 2 kids and new husband.
You absolutely cannot live your life worried, stressed, blaming yourself for her problems. You just can't. Because if you do then that's 2 people suffering. Be strong. Walk away. Just walk away. One step at a time. Walk away.
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In too many cases, that would just perpetuate
My father felt that way about Jews. Thank goodness they taught us about the Holocaust in school, so I grew up knowing better than he did.
Yes - I saw one here who helps with police cases
and she was very accurate. I do believe some people have this gift. If you think about it, shows like Medium and Heroes are becoming more and more popular and I think people are opening up to the fact that this is real. I love John Edward too but he's booked for the next trillion years!
We have 6 'confirmed' cases, hundreds of
'unconfirmed' awaiting the actual CDC results apparently, in our small town and town next to us. VERY SCARY. Even if it's not as deadly as they thought, it's still a bad one & we don't want it! Awful...
Rare cases - pregnancy attached to outside
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There is free legal assistance for cases like this (sm)
Look up Legal Aid for your area - if I find a link I will post it for you. I think you need to report what your son has told you to someone!!! Who ordered the visitation? Get in touch with that office and start from there finding out who to report it to.
2 kids, 2 shots, 2 cases of mild chickenpox
It certainly didn't prevent it for my kids, but they both had very mild cases. My poor daughter had it on Christmas and had to spend the entire with her mom because she was contagious.
In most cases it's ruder to expose people to a squalling infant.
;p
Can you be more specific about
your vision? "Not too bad uncorrected" isn't your typical LASIK candidate. If you don't go to one of the best LASIK surgeons, you might not get optimal results. I went to one of the two best-trained and most experienced LASIK surgeons in my city, and my results were great. But it cost over $4000. There was a lot of testing to qualify. Your lens has to be thick enough that there is room to slice some off, and they will check more things about your eyes than you've ever heard of, things that are very specific to LASIK candidates. Since I have astimagmatism, I opted for a more refined procedure - Wavefront or something. My vision is 20/20 and I'm glad I did it, but it was a very freaky procedure that was so unsettling I was up all night, despite the so-called Valium they gave me. My vision was worse than 20/400. I think another way to say it was 3.75? Or was it 2.75? I can't remember. But I couldn't make out the top E on the eye chart.
That wasn't very specific.
You didn't say if it was noise, trash in yard, wild kids, or what.
If he uses it for only job-specific activity,
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See the HomeTalkCafe forums. There is one specific
See link below
This is not a specific section of the country
Born in the south, raised and living in the south and always told and taught how to send thank you notes, tried to teach my children, 1 does and 1 does not but they are grown now. I went to wedding in California, no thank you note per se but tacky printed generic note which I wish now I had not taken the time to shop for a gift I thought very nice. Happens everywhere....
You have to have 150 hours with specific courses
I know. My sister just sat for it.
If he wants IPOD, it is brand specific. sm
find out which one he wants and get him that one. They are the best, and especially if he wants an IPOD.
I can use bill pay to pay to a specific account #
at any bank. Its free, too.
I know you said that earlier; you however did not give specific instructions on how to use it. sm
I was just trying to be helpful -- not take the wind out of your sails!
I think its a great idea and should not be gender specific
I think more and more kids should have one. Usually when they start out they have nothing. I don't have kids, but if I did I would start one at an earlier age and just add each year with practical things. I'd also use a chest that can act as a coffee table or piece of furniture for them. I'd include the basic necessities they will need, pots, pans, silverware, coffee cups, etc. Maybe a quilt/blankets, and one gift my DHs grandmother gave me was some recipes of my DH's favorite meals he likes. If you stick it in the hopechest when he gets married or goes to live with someone they wouldn't be offended as though you are telling them they don't know how to cook or something silly like that. I'd keep all the good toys they liked when they were growing up and maybe some photos. Just kind of mix it up a bit. I wish I had one when I was growing up. DH and I started from scratch and it was hard.
The categories are as specific as terms like "violence" allow - sm
Admittedly, there could be some disagreement about "marginal" situations. Is a raised fist "violence"? Some would say yes, some no. Away from these margins, though, there wouldn't likely be much disagreement as to which category a movie belongs in.
And since all movies are fantasy (fiction), whether they contain this sort of thing or not, the question being addressed here is what sort of fantasy is doing better at the box office?
Allergies? Anything specific blooming this time of year? Anemia?
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and don't you just hate
all those passwords you have to memorize. Just when I get them down I have to change them again!!!! I just ain't equipped to live in a modern world!
I hate to say this, but
"home" is wherever I'm at with my family! If my husband and children are with me, I'm "home". I'm happy and full of peace and joy when they are with me and okay!
I hate when that happens!
I wonder why anybody even specializes in dermatology; those I have seen have not seemed very talented in the area of diagnosing either!
Hope it clears up soon.
OMG I hate those-
then when it finally comes out it's way too much all at once! Very irritating.
THAT'S what I hate . . .
being treated like some low-life scum and not being trusted becuase I have had a run of misfortune. It's very degrading.
I hate that too!
And in our Walmart, they say the announcements in English and then again in Spanish sometimes. Not all the time, but it drives me up the wall! It just encourages them not to bother learning the language.
I hate having to call Verizon when we have trouble with our DSL, because I always get an ESL. Some are better than others, but I can't stand that. 
I hate when that happens.
Okay, that never happens to me.
Wow - I hate this for you all so much!! (sm)
I hope everything gets under control there soon and that you don't have to evacuate. I just want to say I'm so sorry and that many people everywhere really are thinking of you and praying for you. I'm sorry you didn't hear back from your supervisors - I hope there is some logical explanation and that it is not just that they don't care. Either way - many other people do. I hope it all gets better for you soon!!
Hate it too
That is why I love Cape Cod. We get to enjoy all four seasons, but the warm ocean air usually keeps the snow away.
I truly hate that. sm
I was just discussing with my husband the other day how the Kennedy family is just cursed. They have had so many tragedies...I honestly think there has to be a curse there. So much has happened.
I wonder if he had been experiencing any other symptoms or if this just came out of nowhere. My aunt died from lung cancer that had spread to her brain, and she had many, many symptoms. Cancer by its very nature, though, is sneaky. A hard disease to fight.
HC
I hate ...
When I take out the recyclables, walk back in, and realize that I have to open another can, to feed the cat
When I leave the house, wearing my "around the house" glasses, even though my "going out" glasses are right next to my keys.
I hate it when ....
I have to beg my son and DIL to have time w/ my grandson.
I hate it when
I get a craving for chocolate and there isn't one morsel to be found in my cupboards! :(
I hate it when
people chew their gum like a cow chewing cud or suck on their teeth after they eat. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
I hate it when.......
People write checks period. But even more so when they are in the express lane and write a check.
Second, I hate it when people stop in the middle of the aisle to have a lengthy conversation and block the whole aisle!
I hate...
1. People that say "have a good one".
2. Doo rags.
3. Pants that hang below the butt.
4. Dogs with clothes on.
5. My neighbor that wears nothing but shoes outside in his yard. (he's old and it's not pretty)
I hate what they did
I was so sad that he died and I don't like the storyline at all.
I hate to tell you
but if you are prowling around on this board you are not Ms. High Society.
Learn to keep it real dear, no one likes a high maintenance heifer.
hate to tell you
you don't know what you are talking about
Hate to be a pessimist ...
but smokeless tobacco "just" causes cancer of the head and neck, not change in mental status like you are describing. I would suspect he has put something else in his "tin" or whatever his snuff comes in. Going away to college is when kids get to try all the stuff the couldn't get away with at home, so I'm sorry, but I think your son is about to flush college money away on a semester-long party. That's what I observed when I was in school.
Don't you just hate it when you are transcribing sm
concentrating real hard, and don't even realize they are there? To top it off, they speak your name and you jump out of your skin? I love my family to death but I swear I will have a heart attack some day. I have my desk situated to where all I have to do is look to my right side and can see whoever is at the door but I sometimes am concentrating so hard that I don't realize anyone is here. My youngest son (21) just did that to me-stood at the door and said "I found it". He had been looking for his college class schedule. I think I am stuck to the ceiling. Somebody peel me off.......and it is only Monday....... 
None, never wear a bra, hate it. nm
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I hate to brag, but yes...
I'm lucky also! Just today as I was working, my husband was doing the laundry and vacuuming. His job allows him to be home a lot of the time, and when he is, he definitely does his share! He understands that I work just as hard as he does. We inspire each other, I believe, to do more for our family and home life. I don't really say this too often to other women because most of the time it is the opposite for them. My husband is not perfect, he has his faults, but so do I and that's how I look at it. You either put your foot down and make changes or you live with it and be unhappy.
I hate those things!
I just know they're waiting to latch onto an eyeball and suck it dry.
They USED to be all over here. Husband asks if we REALLY have to have a few hundred chickens and ducks running around loose in spider detection mode? Yes, we do. So shut up.
Men hate cats?
Gosh, please don't tell the love of my life, my friend, lover, sunshine, everything that has meaning in life husband that- he adopted my 2 furries and brought them home for me. My husband is my passion- the furries come second.
I HATE Wal-Mart!!!
So, last weekend, 10/27, I ordered a large Nintendo Wii bundle (this includes a bunch of games and accessories) from Wal-Mart's website for my daughter for Christmas. On 10/30, I received an email stating that the Wii console was "not available" and they were canceling this part of my order. I tried to cancel the rest of my order, but WM does not allow you to cancel online orders once you place them. Obviously, I'm extremely mad as I now have a bunch of games and accessories for the Wii but no way to play/use them!! I really feel like I was tricked into buying this very expensive bundle when there's no guarantee that I will be able to get the Wii console before Christmas. I actually filed a complaint with the Better Business Bureau and sent a letter to Wal-Mart's corporate office. I received a response back from their customer service dept stating that they would call me to "resolve this issue" within one business day, but that was 2 days ago and nothing as of yet. The really crappy part on their behalf is that they are STILL selling this Wii bundle on their website and it states it's IN STOCK when they know very well that it's not!! So, I'm not the only one that is going to be tricked into paying hundreds of dollars for games and accessories and not getting the Wii console!
I really don't know if there is someone else that I can complain to - like the Attorney General or what??? I really feel like this is very unethical of them to do this. I know I can take all the games and accessories to the store to get a refund for that, but I'm still out the shipping charges which isn't right.
Please all you WM haters don't flame me for shopping there in the first place. I've never had a problem with them before and I'm not sure why they are treating me like this now. I really just wanted to get ideas or suggestions from anyone that knows whether this is illegal or just unethical and if there's anything I could do about it, besides complain on here and hope I keep someone else from shopping at this horrid place :)
Does anyone else HATE their sister like I do? nm
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I hate it too, even in my own city (sm)
I find that as I get older, it's not even a question of not seeing as well. It's almost more like disorientation,if it's an area I'm kind of familiar with, but not really. Like I will be not quite sure how much farther I have to go to the light and then when I get to the light, I'm not sure what cross street I'm at. Sound funky. Kind of hard to explain.
I hate snow too
I want to hibernate until the winter is over with. Even my dog hates it. We lived down south for a few years and now back up here. I am ready to go south again. I am actually getting nauseated over it. My plans are to go back.
Hate New Years Eve sm
Husband creamed in an accident by reckless driver on NY Eve, since then hate to leave the house. Ate in, nothing fancy, no alcohol, watched Kindergarten Cop, old SNL's and neither of us could stay awake until Midnight. No hangovers here either!!
I don't hate winter, but
enough is enough! Yeah, I know it's only February. We've been spoiled here in the Northeast. The last few winters have been so warm I'd started believing in global warming. Now I'm starting to think new ice age instead!
I have a new Hoover and hate it
I want my old one back. This one is hard to get the plate off to clean out the dog hair, it is hard plastic and takes several minuetes to get it back on correctly so it will seal and suck out the water. My old one that I had for 12 years was great and worked much better. But since I bought it I will use it. I have 2 cats and 1 dog and it works good just don't like cleaning it. But it has paid for itself. Like I said my other one lasted 12 years and so the $159 I paid for that one really did pay for itself. I used to use it about every 2-3 months as we live on the water and the carpets can get quite dirty. I am hoping to get hard wood floors here in the next month or so and so won't use it so much. But to me I love the convenience and it really kept my carpet in good shape.
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