Wow, can you come kick my husband in the booty, too? LOL
Posted By: Softy on 2007-07-10
In Reply to: Well, not actually shopping but tell you what I have done - Sandra
I'd like him to get busy around here; sounds like I need to be more like you!
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SIL foreign booty call.
My SIL is on a plane right now flying from Texas to France then to Cairo, Egypt to meet a man she met on second life. (A website/chat room/game). She and my bro always talk about how they cannot afford to get their car fixed, lawnmower fixed and 3 months ago brother told me that they cannot afford their house payment so they refinanced; but she managed to scrape up the money and do this....and worse my brother is standing by her because he does not believe in divorce. Another thing is they have 2 young children she left behind to go on her booty call.
Bro is trying to convince himself and me that she is merely on vacation. He said he cried when she left; and when I called him he said he had been sitting in front of his computer tracking down flights to see exactly where she is (there is evidently a website that does this). I said "I wonder how much time she is wasting wondering what you and the boys are doing." I cannot believe my SIL is that crazy. She is in her mid 30s. I can see a teenager wanting to do this. If she is not concerned about her H or kids, then she should be concerned about her own life. I thought Egypt was one of those countries were crimes against women were taken very lightly...I could be wrong. I thought human rights in general were taken lightly. I mentioned this to brother that I would be afraid that he might be luring her there and going to keep her as a slave. Brother said well, stuff like that happens here too. I said and this is why you travel in a group, not alone like she is. I don’t know if she is lodging with him or in a hotel/motel nearby. Knowing her stupidity now and her limited means, she is probably lodging with him.
She also runs around until 3 to 4 in the morning with a local/newly divorced man. I tried to convince my brother that we are there for him, he is not alone. He does not have to go through this emotional torture but he must be the co-dependent type and wants to hang on.
I am really the only one calling it a booty call
That is just what I make of it. She met this man on second life and he was her boyfriend on that site/game (whatever you call it). I took it that they bonded so much that she is willing to run up a bunch of charge cards, leave her H and 2 boys and fly overseas to be with him. She did call my bother and tell him she made it okay. She went to a museum already but wasn't allowed to take pictures. He got to talk to the fella online.
I don't care how they downplay this..I still don't believe it is a good idea and I still believe it to be a booty call.
Why would you want to kick someone
I'm not a Christian, either, but I think everyone has a right to their own beliefs, and if they find comfort in their religion, I say more power to them.
I don't think anybody is saying that money is going to rain down from the sky, or any such nonsense. But most of life is colored by our attitude - and if praying helps someone, if it gives them comfort and helps them to have a more positive attitude, then it is a good thing.
Live and let live. Don't condemn, embrace. As long as someone's belief doesn't hurt anyone else, then they can believe in little green men or a flat earth or fairies for all I care.
The one thing I do know is that this world would be a better place if we show love, kindness, and tolerance toward each other, not hate and bigotry.
I don't get it either. I would kick him out and take him for everything he had.
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Thanks!! I got a kick out of it :)
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My medicare will kick in before
hubbys, born in the 40s mine starts at age 67. He does not get Medicare when I do, only if he were retired and/or health issues were such that he was unable to work. If you go on dialysis no matter the age, you automatically are put on Medicare but just because a husband retires or vice versa does not benefit the other spouse.
I'd kick him out. I would not enable him to keep doing what he is doing
and getting by with it. Call Al-Anon to help yourself. Tell him to get help from a recovering alcoholic.
kick those deadbeats out
I say expel the kids who do that. Kick them out!
I'm tired of rude, obnoxious behaviors without consequence.
I purposely choose no tolerance for that kind of behavior.
When they get tossed out, they'll receive absolutely no help from me, either. None.
I think personally if you are expelled from school or do not graduate, you should never, EVER be allowed to live on any type of welfare. EVER.
I get a kick out of the "Easy button" ones (sm)
just saw one where electronic stuff is landing everywhere, a laptop on the holiday table, a GPS hitting a guy in the head while he's hanging lights outside, etc. and it turns out to be a baby just playing, smacking the Easy button over and over. Makes you stop and watch, and funny the first time, anyway!
Would you ever kick your kids out of your home?
Are your kids welcome to stay in your home for as long as they like?
My 15 year old asked if we'd ever kick him out or his older brother. I said they'd always have a home with us as long as they follow our rules.
First off, he CANNOT just kick you out of the house. It does not matter
if your name is on the deed or not, it is marital property, you both own it. So tell him to take a flying leap that you're not leaving. If he tries to physically remove you from the house, you call the police and tell them he assaulted you. You go to the county courthouse and swear out an ex parte emergency order of protection at which time they will issue a temporary restraining order for 15 days and schedule an adult abuse hearing. During the 15 days, he cannot come near you and HE will have to leave the house. At the adult abuse hearing, you will tell the judge if you want to proceed with the restraining order and if you do, they will schedule another hearing and extending the emergency order of protection until the next court date and so on. Eventually, the judge will hear the case and make the temporary order permanent.
In the meantime, you should contact legal aid for legal advice and an attorney. I would also do as the poster below suggested which is start to get together important paperwork, possessions, etc. and stash them at a friend's place. Do not get a storage facility or rent anything that will leave a paper trail back to you. I would also empty out any and all joint accounts and open an account in your name only at another bank, change your direct deposit through work if you have it going into a joint account.
I know everything above sounds very calculated and cold, but it's cover your butt time. Men can be cruel and you have to worry about you and your kids (if you have any). I've been through an ugly divorce and I functioned during my divorce with the full knowledge that every single move I made was to protect and provide for my kids and myself. Every move my ex made was for himself and himself only.
I wish you the best of luck. Be strong and be smart!
How can I kick him out? I have told him to leave many times (sm)
he won't go. He tells me to leave. I have children. If you know how to go about making him leave, I really would like info on how to do it and enforce it. Thanks
stop supporting the a-hole and kick him to the curb.
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I wish they'd kick Tatiana off and bring Rose back! NM
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I love him.What a character Cedric is already. My lab/dane mix is Walter - such a kick. Congrats! nm
*sings* Footloose, footloose-kick up UR Sunday...
Everyone is entitled to their opinion - just don't get it when someone says *i just don't like it* and we are talking about DANCING and HAVING FUN. Perhaps you don't like Latino dancing - it was all about the Rumba and Samba last night.....
*sings* Hot, Hot, Hot!! La Vida Loca (the crazy life)!! 
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My husband is the same way
Something about guys and their cars. I have no kids though and recently married so we still do some of our banking and bills separately by my choice. I thought he was being selfish too. So I got myself a 2nd part time job and I recently went out and bought a newer, bigger, fully loaded SUV and I don't let him use it! lol
My husband and I are doing it right now
and it is working, slowly but surely. After the first couple of things are paid off, its gets better and faster. We have a poster board with all our debt and we redo it every three months, and I must say that you see the debt going away. My hubbie cut all my credit cards up, and I was upset but in the scheme of things, it was the best. We only have one income and its working. Give it a try, I think you'll be surprised that it actually does work. My friend is also doing it, and their debt is disappearing also.
My husband and I did think of it. NM
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What is your husband's take on that? nm
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Go for it! I met my husband .....sm
2 months after his wife died from a 3 year bout with cancer and we're very happily married.
Good luck!!!
My husband always tries, although he just
doesn't necessarily have the same taste as me. It is a hit and miss with him, but he always tries. This year we did not exchange gifts (agreed upon ahead of time) because I got a new house and he got a new truck. We concentrated on the kids. The only gripe I really have is that he doesn't do much in the way of getting me gifts from the kids on Mother's Day, and he's not much of a card person, although I am.
He helped me clean all week though, did anything I asked pretty much, cleaned up all day today, etc.
Honestly though, I do not agree with the posts below about making a list. I think that a gift should come from the heart and that some thought should be put into it. Things that I just want, I go get them myself.
My husband and I have 2
roundtrip airfare tickets for anywhere in the US. I'm looking for an all-inclusive resort (room, meals, activities), but am having a hard time finding one. Can you help me out with this? Thanks!
My husband
used this for his leg pain due to fibromyalgia but had a very bad reaction to it so was not able to continue to use it. He found a natural supplement online that has helped. Best of luck!!
So, you would be okay with your husband
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This is what my husband (sm)
told me last night. I really hope that isn't what is going on. I am going to talk to her again about it again today. She has a cell phone (very near and dear to her heart!) I like for her to have it, so that I know she is okay when she isn't home, but since I now know that she is still smoking, I think I have very good reason to ground her. Hence, she won't be needing the cell phone.
Thanks for the input everyone.
My husband only uses
regular lotion, but he does like to take baths sometimes. He was glad when we moved and got a garden tub so he could soak. He doesn't go out of his way to use bubbles, but he will take one with me with bubbles.
Met my first husband when I was 5, LOL - sm
First crush was Greg. I met him when I was 5. We played together at church. We started "going together" when I was 13. We got married when I was 18. We got divorced when I was 32. Tried again several times. Finally called it quits when I was 37...sigh.
Then there was Stacy....we were together for two years.
Then there is Tommy, we have been together for three years - married for two years.
My husband was the one who
donated the sperm and had it washed, the doctor performed the IUI, and nature created twins. It was a WE effort in my case.
This is your husband
If there's one person in the world you should be honest with, it's your husband. Don't lie about this, this is BIG...just explain to him your feelings and if he loves you and you love him, you can work it out and make both of you happy. But lying WILL come back to bite you in the a$$...trust me, I know...good luck!
My husband was gay
We've been divorced for a while now, but it still hurts like crazy. I don't know anyone who has been through this. Is there anyone out there who's spouse came out to them?
My husband did!
He had to have surgery because otherwise the muscles would have atrophied. Because lifting was required for his job, he was out on disability for 4 months. However, soon afterward a radiologist I knew had it done, and he only took 1 day off and then was back at work, not complaining, and not taking strong pain killers. My hubby is a big guy, and it was hard on him, but he's able to work fine now. He has also had cervical spinal fusion, and the rotator cuff was worse for him, oddly enough.
Husband and I have dog and cat instead!
Kids...no thank you! Decided at around 12-13 or so that I didn't want any. I'm 30 now and haven't changed my mind and don't plan to.
I AM SO MAD AT HUSBAND
I am so mad with this man. Last night he made a comment that all I have to do on my job is sit on my A_ _ and stare at a computer screen. He thinks this job is cushy. I transcribe every foreign doctor known to man for 8-10 hours 5-6 days a week, achieve OVER my line counts and bring home more money than he does and I work from home. What in the world does he think gives him the right to talk down to me? Even though I love it, this is one of the most taxing jobs I have ever had in my life. The mental drain is incomprehensible at times. I was so mad when he came up with that, I would have thrown him out if he would have had anywhere else to go!
mad at husband
Do what I do..i put him in my chair with my own keyboard, a set of headphones and told him i would be back in 30 minutes. And I gave him one of my best enunciating docs to boot. Needless to say....no more sit on my a** comments any more. I put the son in the chair too. Good luck.
Which one, the husband or dog?
He, he!
What do you do when your husband says
He does not love you anymore after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids? He left once about 3 years ago, but came back saying he missed us and loved me and that he was just going through a tough time and he knew he was making a bad choice. I thought we were okay, not smart of me, then he started getting distant and grumpy all the time again, and he told me last night that he tried really hard these last 3 years, mostly for our kids sake and because he cares about me and does not want to leave me high and dry, but he does not love me and is not happy with me. He says we have nothing in common anymore, which we really didn't in the first place, but it was okay until recently.
I don't know what to do. All 3 kids are extremely close to their dad, and he loves them so much, but I feel I should move to where my parents are (next town 20 miles away) but it will be harder for him to see them and also rent is so much higher for housing there. I just feel like I want to be closer to my family because here, I have NO ONE. I moved here because it was his hometown and he was happy. I also have the kids in preschool here, again cheaper than in the town I want to go to. My son will be in first grade and needs speech therapy for developmental delay and I like the people who have been working with him as they know his history. Am I being selfish wanting to take them away from here? I am lost and don't know what to do. Thanks for listening. 
What do you do when husband...
Ditto totally trose. Permanently CLOSE his door except when dealing with/talking about children. Work hard at your job, totally concentrate on YOUR life and family. God is your refuge..will keep you safe and won't lead you wrong. You are strong (else you wouldn't be an mtmomof3) ... you can do this. Will remember you in my prayers.
husband
he sounds like a pig... i say move on
My husband will be right over! LOL!
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Is my husband
Because I think we are married to the same guy. Here's my rule: I don't tell him everything, but when asked, I tell the truth. Except when I buy my son an $80 pair of shoes, I shave a few bucks off. Other than that I tell the truth. I know how you feel though. When he comes home if I hear squealing tires on the driveway or the door slams just right, I think, "Uh-oh. What did I do now?"
Is there anyone who has a husband...
like mine...he is an adult and acts like one, he respects what I do for a living, thanks me for working as hard as I do, would never expect me to do everything around the house without him helping out, and is generally a fabulous guy. Sounds like a lot of women are married to self-centered whiners who think THEIR job is the important one. I truly am blessed!
My husband...
I was going to post something similar to this...reading these threads about jerk husbands makes me sooo very grateful for mine. He's handsome, sexy, funny...works doggone hard for us so I can work PT, and still helps around the house in the evenings after work. Guess that's why I've kept him for 20 years---today!!! 
Oh, did I mention he's the bestest dad ever (as our DS puts it)...I could go on and on, but I won't...I am sorry for those who are not blessed with a wonderful man, it truly is a gift!
why the MIL and not your husband?
You are going after the wrong person. Your husband should be beside you all the way 100%. It is his job to talk/deal with his family. If he doesn't or won't, you've got a bigger problem with him than with the outlaws.
Your husband should say something
You are to cleave to husband and wife. If the MIL is not going to handle the situation your husband should definately stand up for you and say if you dont show some respect to my wife stay away. I have a SIL that does not like me either because she married into the family first and thinks I stole some of her thunder, but thank goodness my husband stands up for me. The MIL probably wants to keep peace that is how mine is, so I would talk to your husband about getting the situation resolved. Some people can be so dumb to act that way. Good luck, hope things get better.
What did your husband say about it?
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ex-husband
Well, Pammy,
I think you would fit right in with me and my friends' "board." We meet once a week and "discuss things." We all share the blessing of an ex-husband except one. Maybe ex is just so blissfully happy he forgot to tell you, or maybe he is just TOO CHICKEN - you think. In any case, the "board" meets tomorrow night. I'll be thinking of you.
LOL! My husband said she was just doing her job. It was probably on sm
the paper! LOL
My husband became an RN at age 43.
He thought he was too old and not smart enough because he did poorly in school. Not true! He certainly wasn't the oldest in his classes. Go for it!
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