You CAN ask for an episiotomy

Posted By: I did on 2009-06-14
In Reply to: You cannot 'ask' for an episiotomy, - ()

With my first child I had an episiotomy, second one I didn't have one and with the third child, I asked for one. I never had any problems from the stitches, but the burning pain with the passage of the baby's head without an episiotomy was the worst part of the whole birthing process. (All 3 were without anesthesia)

So, YES, you can ask for one!

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One more question.... - First timer
- Not much pain afterward. - babymama
- I believe the say - Layla
- Question.... - Tired
- With my daughter - See message
- mostly I would say soreness afterwards... - curious girl
- there is really no bed rest anymore - - Amanda
- A lot will depend on size of baby & how your body accommodates birthing sm - HappyFlaMT
- You cannot 'ask' for an episiotomy, - ()
  - You CAN ask for an episiotomy - I did
    - Do you want to say that the passing - ()
      - Yes. That's what I'm saying - I did
        Take iot from a midwife (posted lower under MWMT) - ()
        Perhaps I should add - I did
        If this was so, your 'asking ' was completely obsolete, - ()
        You sure you don't have an MD at the end of your name? sm - HappyFlaMT
        It is better to do an episiotomy than to apply - ()
        You might never have heard about it, but I can vouch personally for it sm - HappyFlaMT
        Perineal massages are done during delivery sm - MWMT
        here is a link also sm - HappyFlaMT
        addendum: - ()
        Excuse me? I think this is getting kind - ()
- You are sounding like a little girl saying - Grown ups here
- Think that depends on the size of the baby - sm - Laura E.
  - As for the episiotomy that is something - sm - Laura E.
- It probably varies from person to person (sm) - Not that bad

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As for the episiotomy that is something - sm
you need to discuss with your doctor. Obviously they will do it if they think you are going to tear or are tearing badly. They knew I did not want one and luckily my body accommodated my wish and I did not need one either time. You need a good rapport with your doctor and let them know want you do and do not want in your delivery.

You cannot 'ask' for an episiotomy,
the doctor decides at the time of your last contractions if this procedure is necessary. It depends if the vagina is widened enough so that the head of the baby can slide out. Also, a breech position asks usually for an episiotomy, in this case the doctor knows it beforehand per US, and also in case of an instrumental delivery.

I had an episiotomy with my 1st delivery, vagina too narrow and my pushing was too weak. They cut the perineum under local anesthesia and after my child was born they stitched it closed. They put me in a bed right to a faucet and every time I had the urge to pee, they let the water run down into the sink, full stream, that made me pee! I still remember that. On the 4th day I could go to the restroom, on the 5th I went home and the stitches dissolved on their own.

It is no big deal and it was not painful, after some days it was completely healed.

With my 2nd delivery I did not need an episiotomy, although it was an epidural.

After the baby is delivered, the pain is over and one feels sooooo good. I was hilarious and overwhelmed with the feeling

'I am a Mother!'

I think these were the happiest moments in my life,

EVER !

It is better to do an episiotomy than to apply
forceps to the head of the baby. Usually an instrumental delivery necessitates an episiotomy. I have never heard that a massage to the perineum is enough to substitute an episiotomy.

An instrumental delivery makes an episiotomy necessary..sm
Did you have to 'ask' for it?