current and past choices
Posted By: Snow Bunny on 2008-07-25
In Reply to: What's your favorite TV show? - jss
Current: NCIS, Mad Men, Damages
Past: West Wing, Will & Grace, M*A*S*H, Shark, Golden Girls
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CHOICES
If you stay together what will it be like when the kids are gone? Will you be happy with him then? How old will you be then? Will there be a reason to stay with him then? Make two lists, one of all the reasons you should stay, one of all the reasons you should go. Make two more lists, one of all his good qualities, one of all his bad qualities. Put them in a drawer and get them out in a week and see if you feel the same about what you wrote. One other thing, did he have a girlfriend this time? Does he this time? Major cheater? If those last three are true then go home where there are people you can trust who are there for you no matter what. Work, take care of your children and enjoy them. Go to church, go to movies. Have a life. You could go to Marriage Encounter and I recommend it, but if he is a cheater and makes no solid committment to stopping then you need to consider this. What your children see you do now will stay with them and they will live their lives accordingly. I will pray for you. Save your money too because you never know when you may need to move your teepee to a new village.
You have a few choices -
Either learn to deal with it, meaning shut up or put up, or move. I think I would vote for the latter. There has got to be a better place to live than that drama factory. Life is too short!!!
Good choices
Some of the higher-paying career courses that may be available to many people in a 2-year or less course are:
Dental hygiene
Occupational therapist assistant
Physical therapist assistant
Surgical technologist
Lab tech
Coding (not the right choice for me, but for only about $4000 you could get job that pays very well and be in high demand).
Those tend to pay more than these below, and therefore a better investment than:
Medical assistant (may be a 9-month course or 2-year)
phlebotomist (but may be a 3-month course)
Your choices are to either be proactive and do something...
positive about your situation, which IMHO is to leave this mess or continue to live this sorry life and whine about it..in that case you are not a victim but an enabler and a contributor. Would you want your daughter to live like this? Would you want your son to treat his wife like this?
matter of choices
It's not just about protecting our children from being taught something that is wrong, something that goes against our moral fiber, something that this great country was founded on, our belief in God. It is also about standing up for our beliefs and not condoning something that is clearly sinful. You may not believe there is a God yet. That is your opinion. What makes you think that you were right in letting your child watch anything she wanted? So she turned out good. So did my children and they were raised to believe in God and his son Jesus Christ. The only difference is, when the time comes for Jesus to come back to this earth, your daughter will find that she has been cheated by being taught there is no God and perhaps will find herself in some serious trouble.
The kids may like those choices
but I don't think they're all that healthy. The salads and baked potatoes are good and probably the spaghetti, but everything else I would worry about. The Chic-Fila delivery is nice but probably should only be once a month. It's not just what these kids are eating in school; it's that most of them don't get a nutritional meal at home.
Fashion choices........ sm
My cousin and I were in a discussion this weekend and the topic came up about how so many younger people today are wearing their clothes way too tight and about 2-3 sizes too small. You know the tight tops, cut WAY too low, the too tight jeans, tops to short. On top of that, most of the offenders are way overweight!
Anyone have any comments about this? I see it all the time even in some in my own extended family. Jeans too tight, shirts too low, top nearly hanging out. They all look like clones. Not to mention the short tops wtih the "muffin top" hanging over the blue jeans! When did this get to be the fashion and the way to dress? It seems the style these days. I don't care what size a person is, big, little, in between, I think it looks terrible. Don't know how people breathe in these too tight clothes!
Any dialogue/comments out there?
Just adopt the dog or MOVE. Seriously. What other choices do you have!!?????
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Thanks for some good choices - I've seen some of these mentioned but
will definitely check out the others. Thank you!
Fair question. I have made choices in my life that sm
afford me to stay at home and work. When I say refuse, yes, I refuse to put my children in childcare because I can do so. I can choose to take them to a daycare provider, but i want to be their sole providers and protector always. I can do that. It is a luxury.
Now, do I look down upon moms and dads who use childcare? Absolutely not. My heart breaks for those moms who want to be at home with their children but for unforeseen circumstances they just can't. I understand that if I was in another situation where I couldn't work from home then they would be somewhere else, but then if that was the way it was I would not have had kids. My kids are 5 and 2. I've been doing MT for 9 years from home. So, you can do the math there.
We all have a free will and have to make choices every single day. Christian or not. sm
I am a devout Christian, believe in God 100%, but I must make good decisions every single day with regard to my health, family, finances, self, etc. You can't place blame on anyone (including God or others) when you continually make bad choices and bad things happen. It doesn't take a genius to figure that out. That rule works for non Christians too!
God is there to help us when we mess up. He's always there. An ever-present help in trouble. That's a comforting thought. God didn't want their water to be turned off. He doesn't wish for anything bad to happen to us, but just as if we have adult grown children we will allow them to go through certain things so that they might learn and grow. God does that with us, too!
You reap whatever you sow. I think most of the time it is our own choices and bad decisions that get us into hot water. Too many people cry foul when things go bad and not take responsibility. It's time for people to start growing up and taking responsibility for their lives and decisions. I was homeless at one time and have had a very hard life, so this isn't coming from someone who was given a silver spoon.
Well, with his current predicament, I'm not surprised
Is he careless or just stoopid? lol
Current hairstyles..to RetroMT
I don't think it will be an easy task to find any beauticians like we had in the old days. I am really exasperated in my "do" I have been attempting to grow from very short style with the aid of a very expensive guy who states the style is coming along nicely. This is third time I have went to him and he says the style he is trying to do is "coming along" nicely. It looks nice one day, then the rest of the days, I am back to wearing one of my hats and/or wigs. I don't think I will continue much longer, too expensive just for what??
But I do know what style you are talking about, hope you can find someone that thinks that way. I don't recall if I had many of those
sets"
My current husband is just the opposite...
In the 8 years we have been married he has paid over $97,000 in child support for his 2 children. His youngest daughter is getting married (and will be giving up the rest of her child support) and the child support will finally end. There are dads and moms out there who do pay their support. I hope you all get the back money owed to you. My ex owes my 2 daughters between 20-25 thousand. I never counted on it in the first place and when it sporadically came in I was happy, kind of like a bonus every now and then.
so with the current state of the economy
Banks aren't safe anymore...I think i would buy up lots of $100,000 homes and rent them out...since the forclosure rate is so high more people wil be renting. Then when the economy turns back around I can sell my property. Better than putting money in the bank!
okay, curious here -- what's the current temp outside
60 degrees inside, freezing fingers. headed for a steaming hot bubble bath, then back to work.
One more thing, the electrical current differnt, so
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Your current favorite shows to watch?
My #1 is biggest loser! I absolutely LOVE this show (watchin it now). it always makes me tear up so much! I love the inspiration of these people. oh i love it so much!!! At the end of the show I always feel like I know them and I'm so proud of them. haha
My other ones are My Sunday shows: Extreme Makeover Home Edition, Desperate Housewives and Brothers&Sisters
Monday The Bachelor
Tuesday Biggest Loser and Law&Order SVU
that's about it for the week!!
IMO a current PDR (Physicians Desk Reference), which runs about $200.00 (sm)
but WELL worth the expense.
Here is a great site that lists all current deals on CCs......
Use the drop down menu to search the different features. I have used it to find balance transfer deals, etc.
It just shows the current moral climate of our country...
you can advertise a site offeriing help to have an extramarital affairs but don't try to push anythig that has anything to do with morals or values such as church, God, taking personal responsibility, etc. Very troubling times indeed.
Unfortunately, if you don't change your eating habits, you will just maintain your current weight
To see real results, you are going to need to change your diet. You need protein, fiber, and good carbohydrates for energy. What you need to stay away from are the saturated fats, trans fats, and high-calorie/high-fat foods. Always be sure to eat a full breakfast since that will boost your metabolism and keep you from overeating the rest of the day. Also be sure to stop eating at least 2-3 hours before bedtime. Once you have been exercising for a while, your body will get used to it, and you will need to pick up the pace and start doing more than just treadmill workouts and giving your body more challenges. Hope this helps.
Electrical current through foot, the other hangs in walking midway through a step, anyone else?
have this problem? I have been to numerous physicians, have been told neuropathy. I am walking so gingerly this morning around the home because know if I step flat on 1 foot (left) it will have the electrical current as happened earlier this morning. Always when walking, never with lying, sitting, etc. You never know when it will happen. The other foot (pedal foot, right) will hang in mid air sometimes when I am taking a step which makes me hop so I will not fall. Gosh, I would love to look forward to my vacation this summer but sometimes the feet ok and then other times not so good. I know the electrical current is probably nerve related but have been told so many nerves in the foot would be like looking for needle in haystack to trace down. I mostly only wear bergies and put them on as soon as I get out of bed. This is not good!!
Anyone else going to Cancun for Spring Break and concerned about current safety concerns
We're all set to go to Cancun for Spring Break and then we hear all of this on the news about people being careful in Mexico because of the drug cartel activities and killings etc. Does this even involve Cancun or is it just the border places. The Spring Breakers are being warned about going so it makes me wonder if it is just the borders as most Spring Breakers do not go to the border towns. Does anyone have anymore information. I have a good friend who met her husband in Mexico, has crossed the borders etc and she said going to Mexico isnt worth risking your life because they hate Americans. Yikes.. I don't know whether to go or not or if I'm just being paranoid now.
It's a catchy tune, she has a unique voice, different sound blending 60s Motown and current lyric
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I never said anything about what I have done in my past
heavens, I had premarital sex, had several abortions, drank until in a drunken state, smoked like a house of fire, cursed, had lots of sexual partners in the past, rode a motorcycle without a helmet, ate fast food, indulged in Burger Kings especially, drove way over the speed limits, cheated on my first husband but...... that was in my past. I never said I was angel, never. I changed as I aged and hopefully gained some wisdom over the years. I obey most of the laws now although living in Atlanta I still speed. All the above things of the past. I am saying and will continue to say, rules are made by the people voted into office. If you don't like them, vote and change things. Oh, something else, after marrying this last husband I even stopped drinking Cokes. I did it because I wanted to, not because I had to. And answer to another post, they have stopped selling Cokes in a lot of the schools because the kids are becoming so obese and that is just another way for them to indulge in meaningless calories. All the things listed in my previous post stand as I told them. And by the way, chickee dee, never mentioned I did unsafe or unhealthy, just came to my senses and stopped a lot of stuff.
I have something in my past
That I haven't told my husband and I don't plan on it. No one but me and one other person knows about it and the other person is long gone. It was something medical, and no it wasn't an unwanted pregnancy or anything like that. There's no need for him to know since I didn't know my husband back then and it doesn't have any bearing on anything in our relationship now.
I think in the past...
it used to be that way, but not anymore. So many boys now are not circumcised, it's quite normal. As far as I know, it is not recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics, so it is not a routine procedure in most hospitals and parents need to specifically ask for it. I have heard that some hospitals do not even perform it in-house. Also, are insurance companies even paying for this procedure anymore? I think many do not cover it.
What I have experienced in that past -
I agree with the other poster. That money is really *good faith money.* The buyer puts that money up in order to show you they want the house and for you to hold it for them until closing. You will not see any money of any kind until closing. If the deal falls through you can often collect that money or a portion of it. You really need to keep in close contact with your real estate agent. After all, they are getting paid mighty well to sell your home! :-)
I don't know how women in the past did that - sm
I mean for me it hurt like the dickens (unfortunately did "it" twice that fateful evening) and I couldn't walk without incredible pain for days afterwards. Who would want to deal with that on their honeymoon? Certain would kill the urge.... Now maybe that is not the norm, but I swear childbirth was easier.
Past retirement age.
NM
She's graduated past the age
where you should feel an obligation of any kind.
You are her godparent, so she is supposed to give you a gift, right? Is she?
Sharing your past
I have an 18 yo son and a 16 yo daughter and this subject comes up occasionally. So far we haven't had to worry about their drinking or drugging, and it may have something to do with how both our pasts have been part of our teachings, age-appropriate, of course. We both come from alcoholic families though were blessed never to become alcoholic ourselves, but we've shared some of our expeirences from the standpoint of how they made our lives more complicated. We strive for simplicity in our family, and they can see how immoral behavior almost always makes for a more complicated life. At 18 and 16 they both just tasted wine for the first time (other than church) this Christmas and none of their friends drink, or even smoke. They know their grandmother died of emphysema.
They also know that my life changed drastically when their oldest brother was born 37 years ago when I was 18, and also that both their father and I have struggled hard all our lives because of not going to college. For every "but you came out okay" there's the answer that it could have been so much easier to get here had we made different choices, and making the right choices is what it's all about, isn't it?
No...but just can't get past this one - still ROFL!
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Way past childbearing age..
NM
Just how often has he abused you in the past.If you
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what is something you have bought in the past you will NEVER
Mine is Little Critters Omega-3 Gummy Fish. Cute concept but the berry, lemon and strawberry flavoried gummies somehow manage to taste like fruity flavored fish ![Shocked](http://www.thedailyplate.com/forum/images/smiles/icon_eek.gif") When I got them, my kids gagged with the first one and wouldn't even touch the second one for the recommended 2 a day. So guess who is choking down 2 of those suckers every day now?
We just got WII fit this past week
I'm waiting for school to start so I can do it with no one home!!! Glad to hear there is a password so you can hide your weight and BMI. ;)
We bought this WII for my son last Christmas and I can honestly say it was money well spent. They have a blast with it and they aren't constantly sitting. We don't have the Guitar Hero but maybe that will be next on the list.
A lot of us have things in our past........ sm
that we are not proud of, and while we do not deliberately try to hide them, sometimes it is just easier not to talk about them as it is painful and very often misunderstood by those around us, even our spouses.
It is not my business what this "secret" is that your husband has, but it sounds as if it is something that he has learned a lesson from and probably will not end up repeating in the future.
My own personal opinion is that if this is not something that is threatening your marriage or your children right now, I would let the past stay in the past. In other words, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas.
WOW! I will try this but sure hope I can get past
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If I could change the past
I would either change my parents to parents who wanted me and loved me like I do my children. Or I would have my mother put me up for adoption like she did one of my sisters....she was the lucky one. I envy her. A mother who does not love you will affect your whole life, but it made me want to be a loving mother.
Thanks everyone. I have had mono in the past so (sm)
that is why they did not think that is the problem now. I didn't try the pepper yet...kind of chicken I think. But I will try that and if I am not better in the next day or two I will go and ask about my thyroid. I have been borderline hypothyroid for a long time so it wouldn't be a big surprise.
Thanks again
Where were you the past 8 years? LOL. nm
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Anyone out there with a gothic kid present or in the past???sm
If your child was previously gothic, how long did it take for them to grow out of this phase? I'm tired of seeing our 15-year-old wear black all of the time. She refuses to wear anything else, and the black eyeshadow looks ridiculous. I told her the other day that if she isn't going to wear her other makeup that she wanted over the summer then give it to me as I'd give it to a kid that would wear it - especially since there is some that hasn't been opened yet. She isn't happy that we won't let her get those weird body piercings or tattoos... but oh well, we've told her that until she is on her own she has to live by our rules. Overall she's a good kid and doesn't socialize outside of school so at least we're not dealing with the "what's my kid doing with their friends at night" thing!
Watched all for the past 6 years now
but went to their show after year before last and really disappointed. I thought they would have more of the singers together, left before it was over but I love the show and wouldn’t miss for anything.
In the past, great vacation
I have been to several Club Meds, started out in Eluthra in the Bahamas, then Cancun about 3 times, Paradise Island in the Bahamas, Ixtapa in Mexico, Playa Blanca in Mexico and then the last trip my daughter and I took was to Turks and Caicos. You can see, I really loved Club Med at one time when children or just my daughter and I traveled together. I loved the fact that all you had to do was get your suitcase there and from then on your trip all paid for. Now having said that, I feel now Club Med is overpriced for the deals you can get now days. At one time the all inclusive was Club Med and now so many others have the same to offer at lower prices. The last time I was in Cancun I was very disappointed in the food, not like I had been all the other times. I had a wonderful time for those years I did go, though.
I guess that got past me but what does going to private
school have to do with this? Things that were in our past we have no control over. I live in the "deep south" and I am prejudiced, very much so, have always been, against thin women, healthy volumed hair ladies, people who do not like animals and my list goes on and on. I do think with all that happened in our deep south, you would not think we would have such an influx of blacks wanting to settle here and call it home, would you? Bad things can happen anywhere, anywhere.
My goodness, I am so past worrying
I have a mixed daughter who is 32 years of age. I lived in Atlanta proper for 29 years. I have NEVER had a problem with a mixed marriage. None. My daughter has told me she has the best of both worlds. She has all kinds of friends, white, black, Asian. I was sooooo kidding when I wrote that. I was first married in the early 70s to her father here in the DEEP south so if I were afraid, it would have been years ago. I was just getting a social lesson when the person referring to how things are in the south. Oh by the way, you know Florida is not really, for whatever reasons, considered a southern state. My BIL lives in Tampa and his daughter lives in a house that is outta sight. Folks do not have to just live in Atlanta (talking blacks) in order to have the better things in life.
I have done a lot of research on Anna in the past and of course now sm
since her death. Sorry, but none of your claims are true, according to my facts. No offense against you.
First, the son of the billionaire died on June 20 of last year after a short battle with an infection. So there goes the claims that the billionaire's did that.
Second. Anna is not married to Howard K. Stern, her attorney. They had a committment ceremony which both the Bahamas and the US do not recognize. UNLESS she has a will, which at this point we do not know, Howard isn't entitled to anything, BUT Daniel Lynn, her daughter, is. So, to me, I don't think he did it. I do, however, think he contributed to Daniel's death since there are reports that he immediately dumped pills down the toilet in her hospital room in the Bahamas once he realized Daniel was dead. Many reports on this one. He gave Daniel Vicodin (which is also what Anna was claimed to be addicted to), and Daniel was also on 2 other antidepressants he began taking a few months prior.
As far as Larry Birkhead, the previous boyfriend, according to his website dated Feb. 8, Anna was his soul mate. He was waiting for her to come back to him and leave Howard so they could raise their baby together. I know, weird. He just sent her a box with a photo album and clothes for the baby with a picture of both of them when they were together. It is said that he has been unconsolable since hearing of her death. I feel for him. That is his child, if you ask me. It is. Doesn't even look like Howard, who is Jewish. I am part Jewish. Very dark skin, dark hair. The baby is very, very fair skinned, almost red hair, light eyes. Most definitely not Howard's in my honest opinion.
Third, or fourth point. And I promise, I'll be done after this. Anna died of pure heartbreak, drug overdose, and a combination of the flu/pneumonia. Sources say she has never been the same since Sep. 10 when her son died. They said, she just lost her spark. I can't imagine. I definitely believe, after coming to my own conclusions, that Anna died of unintentional suicide.
Okay, I'm off my soapbox now! LOL
Agree.......in the past I was with a man with a child
and a good piece of advice I can give is... unless you don't mind always being #2 (which is actually the way it should be when someone has kids) then stay away. It's that simple. I left him and found someone without children because I wanted to be #1, or at least until we both had children together.
I worked that scale in the past too.
Some companies actually still do it. Seems like the Lanier programs are set for this.
Production counts can be based on characters, words, lines, or pages and the system supports difficulty factors by doctor and/or report type. More difficult production work would be weighted depending on transcription difficulty. Now I think they just give you so called "salary comensurate with experience". Yeah right.
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