hissy fit
Posted By: anon on 2007-10-09
In Reply to: I am having my hissy fit here only... - you ladies...sm
I think it is great that you posted rather than let her know you don't have it all together. It is hard raising kids and we all need help.
Now that being said, did I say you had to like him, heck no. But obviously you love your daughter and for some unknown reason she chose this guy for sex. Are you sure this is her first? And like I said, you do have to realize that she is not a baby anymore and she is going to have sex. If she is a senior and going to college next year, do you honestly think she is going to tell you everything that happens then? You sound similar to someone in my life who had no problem with their son going off and doing whatever but not their daughter. You need to get a grip on yourself before you talk to her and come to the realization that honey your baby ain't a baby any more and she sure as heck isn't going to let you treat her like one. Be glad at this point that your baby isn't having a baby or worse.
I think you may need to have a heart to heart with yourself and decide what kind of relationship you want to have with your daughter as a woman and not as a child. She is knocking on the door (in their minds) to freedom and do you want to be there or be left out? I received some very good advice a while ago and it was that at a certain age your children will no longer look to you for advice and guidance unless you have learned to master the art of communication with them as adults and to treat them as adults(yes, I know 17 is not an adult but she sure isn't a baby either). This person's children did not always make the choices that they had hoped but because they kept the lines of communicatin open and the doors to judgement closed, their children will come and bounce things off their parents to get a "wiser more experienced point of view"
I do hope for you and your daughter's sake that you do come out of denial and are there to help her with the choices that SHE has ahead of her no matter what they are, be it sexual or life.
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I am having my hissy fit here only...
Not to her. I haven't really had a chance to sit down and talk heart to heart with her about this since I found out. But I am not having a hissy fit around her, that's why I posted here. And yes, it's the fact that she's sexually active period, but the loser boyfriend isn't helping much. I'd be just as upset if it were anyone else, I think. So what do I do now, just sit back and watch what happens? How can I do that? Pretend that I like the loser, I cannot do that at all. I may be able to tolerate him, but to like him, notta chance in he11.
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