write him a letter and explain to him like you
Posted By: () on 2009-06-04
In Reply to: My husband is an alcoholic currently in rehab for his addiction. - LoriMT
explained it to us. Tell him how you really feel. Give him some days to 'digest' it, then give him a call.
If you have definitely made up your mind, you have to tell him before he gets out, otherwise I doubt that you will be able to tell him face to face and you will just give in.
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I would write a detailed letter - sm
to the teacher, school counselor, principal, and send a copy to the school board. No resolution, no satisfaction, no kids in your school!
That counselor was way out of line but the blame also falls to the principal and teacher for not following up and making sure you were able to get a meeting.
They have some nerve. They forget WHO pays their salaries.
Be thankful you have your wonderful mom to write that letter to..sm
It has been a little over a year since my mom passed away. I miss her so much. I would love to be able to write my mom or call her. I was fortuante enough to have spent many, many holidays in the kitchen helping my mom. I sure do miss it now. Give thanks that you have your mom in your life. I am also a married mother of 3 and am 36 y/o with no mom for the holidays. God Bless you, your family, and most of all your mom. I am so sad every day without mine.
1. Escalate the problem to a supervisor. 2. Write a letter.
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Write an anonymous letter. Type it up if you are that concerned, although I sm
am a big fan of minding my own business. You need to talk to her first instead of about her like this. Tell her your concerns. Be real and up front. Say, I don't respect you for this because you seem to be able to do such and such and I should turn you in. Don't be scared to do this. But if you are afraid, then write a letter since you say you know the insurance person and secretary.
I'd write on there....sm
Sorry for your loss. I know I cannot feel the pain that you feel. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
Whatever you say/write do NOT say...
Something along the lines of 'they're in a better place' or 'at least they aren't suffering'. Trust me, that isn't nice to hear when you lose a child because you really can't imagine a better place than in your loving arms.
Give your friend a big hug and just let her know you are here for her. Be there for her to talk about the baby to/with when she needs it. So many people are uncomfortable listening to a grieving mother talk about her lost baby, but that is something that really helps to process it all, at least it was very helpful for me.
So sorry another knows the pain. 
Lol.. I know. I was like.. did I write that, lol
Great minds think alike, right? :) I like Melinda, too. She's the only who I enjoy actually listening to week after week.
That should be write.......nm
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I would write an e-mail sm
and say "I love you anyway!"
That's it! Whatever happens, happens. You can not control how other people act or react, nor can you change people. So, you need to just love like you always do and move on from whatever is hurting you.
Best of luck to you and many blessings!
If people are able to write something
I would think many of them would be comments that since she hasn't been a good influence, he should at least let her be a terrible warning!
Ha!
call them - they might even write it off.....
I am never late paying my bills, but ONE time BOA (bank of america) Visa didn't get my bill when they should have - and they charged me $39 late fee - I called them, because I pay the bill in full every month and it's HIGH......I told them, since I always pay it in full, that I insist they reverse that charge because I sent it 10 days prior, and if they wouldn't (because at first they were hemming and hawing) - I would take my business elsewhere -
don't you know THEY IMMEDIATELY REVERSED THE LATE FEE.....
Give them a call, the worst they'll say is no, and you'll argue, and perhaps they'll then say yes.....we'll reverse it..........
How about the sentence I had to write
Actucally it was a paragraph and I still remember it. Guess I was in trouble a lot.
This year in the sixth grade I will practice self-control by being curtious and polite in the halls and on the playgound.
Each infraction was 25 times.
LOL - see what they 'right' - or write. And I do QA! nm
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I could write a book (sm)
But where do I start? I have an ex-husband and had 3 dogs, one of which was incredibly loyal to him even though he never lived in the house since her birth. All she had to hear was, Daddy's coming over tonight, and she would just stare out the window until he arrived.
Well, I moved and only could take 2 dogs, so I told him he had to take Clara (it was a lie, but I felt like they needed each other LOL).
He lives in an efficiency and when he went to work, she managed to do all kinds of crafty things when he was gone.... like taking a half-full can of Diet Coke, spilling in on the bed, and then covering it up with the blankets...
She can get into child-proof locks on the cabinets. He has to put the garbage in his car every day. She opens up the coffee container and just leaves it for him... like... okay... see what I can do?
She is the smartest dog I've seen in my life. When they visit, I swear, she understands what I'm saying.
But the most incredible thing is how she loves him.
He did some Internet searches for things to keep dogs with separation anxiety busy. Remember, she was here with her siblings and me all the time. You might want to check that out. One idea was stuffing an apple with peanut butter. He finally resorted to just leaving the jar open. The cage isn't really a bad idea either if it's a young pup.
One more story... He was walking her and an unleashed dog attacked her. He managed to separate them and get someone to get Clara back in the house, but the door didn't shut tightly. He was still holding the unleashed dog and she bounded out out to defend him. She ended up getting ripped up with over 40 stitches. He's convinced she only came back out for his sake.
Anyhow, sorry for going on, but if any suggestions below don't work (I didn't read them), do a search or email me and I'll give you his email so he might give you some tips.
I was just thinking today how my life revolves around my dogs. I really don't even like leaving the house because I know they hate it. If I miss one of their 'scheduled' walks, I feel guilty. I do have more of a life than my dogs, but... you know... ;-)
i write checks
only when I have to, but I have adorable checks. I know it takes a BIT longer, but now with the new "slide your own card, then type 100 keys just to say OK to the transaction" it's about the same time, if you really think about it.
The thing about people stopping in the middle of an aisle OMG why why WHY do they do that? GET OUT OF THE WAY, MOVE TO THE SIDE, BE CONSIDERATE!!! im with you on that one
So that's why they can't read and write!! Now I know
Instead of teaching them the fundamentals, it is more important for our schools to teach them to be tolerant, and to love. That will get them a good paycheck, What was I thinking! Guess I was dreaming when I heard about the separation of church and state.
I could write a book about this, but I'll
You can't control your ex. Period. You can only control what happens in your home. Your ex felt it appropriate for the GF to call your son and wish him happy birthday. Be thankful she didn't drop by or ask to come over for a visit. Trust me, if you try to put the kids in the middle of a struggle of what you think is appropriate for the kids, the kids lose. I don't know the age of your son, but you can certainly talk to him about how he felt about it. He most likely felt nothing considering he has only met her twice. Sort of like a peer who knows somebody who knows somebody who called to say happy birthday.
As far as the family not recognizing the kids' birthdays - either get used to it, or you call them and ask if they would like to speak with him. The dissolution of marriages cause supposed love ones to vanish like flies around a vinegar trap. It isn't your ex's job to have his family maintain a relationship with your kids. That responsibility falls to the extended family.
I would certainly encourage the kids to send greeting cards or make phone calls to the other side of the family to acknowledge their important dates. It might help them feel less awkward about how they should be behaving in the situation. They may simply just not know what involvement is wanted or expected and need some guidance -- but only if the child wants that contact.
I'm the grannie raising my granddaughter and I have watched every single person who claimed to love this child fall by the wayside if it weren't for my being proactive in trying to maintain the relationships she and I feel are important to her feeling connected to the family. That means my going to my ex in-laws who talked badly about me for over a decade...looking them in the face and watching the joy my granddaughter has in surrounding herself with family. They simply don't know how to handle the situation. My daughter had a new guy move in with her 2 weeks after she brought the little one to me. At 6 weeks, she wanted to introduce him to me and her. I told her straight up he had to make it to the year anniversary mark before I would allow the new guy to meet my granddaughter. I won't let her confuse her and play "who's your daddy" game.
I better stop now...like I said, I could write a book. I hope you find that sort through the negotiating thing of this for the best of the kids and try to put your personal feelings secondary to that goal (not that I think you aren't doing that, just saying).
Good luck. 
Yes - white boards that you write on
the very thinnest you can buy as they are lightweight so not hard for you to take up and down and not all that ugly really if you don't cover them!! We decided on white wall as when we first started shopping we were going to try and hang white boards that we had purchased at Staples/WalMart but realized so much cheaper to buy pieces of wood and cut ourselves - plus will hand down to kids/grandkids when we no longer need so they can draw on them!! I use a fan also in the summer as I have ADD and any interruption noise interrupts my concentration so totally understand the fan - just way too cold for me in the winter and son who works for power company noted they are not exactly energy efficient :( Good luck - let us know!! Thank you also because I never thought about actually covering with fabric until your original post - it would also protect the corners as concerned I might drop on my leather couch at some point and poke a hole in them - although they really are not that sharp - just being cautious I guess!! :))
As I write this, tears are in my eyes
because my furkids also gift from hubby and I know, really know the love we give these little ones. She had been through so much. You gave her a good home and I am sure did everything to make her life comfortable. I have 2 boys from my gift and 1 is a purrer and the other 1 not but again know I along with others share your sorrow.
I'm a NYC girl and always write TY notes
However, I now live in Florida and I must say JUST ABOUT NOBODY HERE sends a thank you note. Though, I did send a gift to Queens NY and never got a thank you note from the wife.....a shy passive Jackson Heights lady who married a friend of mine - I sent a lovely gift and never got thanked by her. And they live in Long Island.
So, I think it is not just NYers/northerners - I think this problem is rampant. Oh, and my Hispanic friends also don't send ty notes nor do their kids (Florida residents). Nor do in-law relatives from Europe.
I still don't get it....
Well, maybe, just like I think the mayor should never write a judge
telling what kind of role model Michael Vick was to the chldren in Atlanta? How much he gave to the community? The news paper printed her entire letter and I was shocked to know she met with Vick after he was charged and then wrote a dang letter to the judge. Whatever he accomplished so far he has blown it in his murderous ways as far as I am concerned. I guess she is just not into animals.
Get your doctor to write a Rx for GlycoLax
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Can you name a movie, and then write a quote or two from it?
Jerry Maguire..."show me the money" and "you had me at 'hello.'"
According to snopes.com, Andy did NOT write this.
http://www.snopes.com/politics/soapbox/rooney2.asp
You write that you had a uterus prolapse
why did they take your uterus out? As far as I know they lift it back into the right place.
That you lost so much blood
is really strange.
Go to the ER, it really amazes me that they send you home.
Let us know what happens!
You will probably just need a letter
from your vet. But if you have any of the packages from the bad food, keep them, whether they are empty or still full. If they are still full, at least you can show you had been buying them at the time. Just make sure nobody accidently uses them!
letter
I worked for a family practice physician who would send personal letters to the family of any of his patients who died. He also pulled me aside when my dad died and expressed his condolences and told me how much he had enjoyed being my dad's doctor. What a great guy.
Need help on what to write on sympathy card for baby SM
My friends just lost a baby to SIDS. The funeral is tomorrow. Unfortunately I can't make it, but I'm sending a sympathy plant/flowers. I'm at a total loss for words. What should I write on the card? Appreciate any input.
Anyone else get this letter in mail?
Got letter in mail -- inquiry about 'opportunity' for my service to hire on 50+ MTs including dictation platform - something about an MTSO losing 98% of its hospital business in November and wanting to place these MTs. ? I'm wondering if these poor MTs even know about it yet ??
That was the letter he was given by the teacher. nm
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I have already written them a letter that I will
I also suggested they take the "America" off their name as they don't represent America in any form.
Sad letter to granddaughter
My GD has started college now. This is son's child. I have posted here before but for years I was always put on the backburner, her maternal side of the family always came first. I tried, really tried, took the entire family on wonderful vacations, bought clothes, gave them this and that but hardly any visits (passed me by on the way to the other GMs home) - always calls though from DIL but I so wanted to speak with my own son some. Oh, I could see and talk with him when I paid to have work done around my home (although on the maternal's side, GM and great-GM always had yard cleaning, painting, whatever done as freebies.) It really hurt my feelings. My DIL's family have no outside friends, just family and thick as thieves so I was the outsider. I remarried about 7 or so years ago and have wonderful man for a husband, spoils me and we have, in our golden years, much to be thankful for, jobs, travel, wonderful relationship. After my son wanted to give me a tongue lashing about what he perceives me to get in money from my father's estate, I had enough and basically threw in the towel. Just too much to take any more abuse, verbal or otherwise. I get letter yesterday from my GD asking me why did I give up "blood" for my present husband? I could not believe what she said. She said saw her great-aunts more than she does me or even communicates with me- This went on from the time she was born and it was due to her mother basically taking the kids around her family more than me. I used to cry, I was sad but finally just gave up and I mean no visits, no calls, no nothing. I cannot tell her why- she probably would never believe me and why should she? She is her mother's daughter and extremely close to the maternal side. I wrote her back and told her unable to say why, would not be believed anyway- would only cause people to feel worse towards me (I never explained to anyone there why I stopped coming around- just stopped). I have been passed over all these years, just basically ignored when it came to the kids and now this?? I told her I would be the fall guy and to believe the ones she has heard for years, I would have nothing more to say. My father (prior to his death) had given the GD and her brother both $5,000.00 in their high school years to buy their clothing until they got out of HS- her mother spent that but does this daughter know? I kept that a secret- never said anything, would not be believed probably but yet this GD says I bailed when times got tough? My father also gave the GD and her brother (both my g-children) $20,000.00 several years ago for their college- I have no idea if any of that left in the bank as after father's death the parents of these children had access to the accounts- and yet I am to blame for bailing so to speak? I could write a book on this. My heart has been heavy for years but no way could I find to squeeze into their lives and now this. The no visiting and so forth started way before this marriage and now I have a DH who loves and adores me and yet I am catching flak for dropping out. My GD says the bad thing is that I seem to be content with things as they are- I have had to learn to live and accept things as they are if I could not change them and I am content now .Anyone else have a similar problem? Oh BTW, I moved to my new home in 2004- son who lives about 15 minutes away has never been to my new home nor even called.
I think that is really a touching letter. sm
I could send the exact same letter to my mom, unfortunately she is no longer here. Not trying to bring you down, but I am going to start paying more attention to my MIL cooking. She does the Thanksgiving dinner every year and I just make a couple of casseroles. Just may have to spend the day with her which is something I really enjoy doing, most of the time. LOL
What a lovely letter...sm
Thanks for sharing it.....My Mom's 1004 miles away.... I'm sure you've called her by now to get all the "how to's" for your first turkey and all the trimmings...She'll be delighted to give you all the secret family recipes....Have a great Thanksgiving! Cat
This is a letter I sent to the parents of a
I am writing to inform you that, after much discussion with other parents of children who are in direct contact with your son, Matthew, and daughter, Samantha, i.e. on the bus and in school, it has been the consensus that your children seem to be modeling quite a bit of inappropriate behavior, including bullying and inappropriate language, as well as not being able to keep their hands off of other children. As parents of children in this community, we are concerned about your children’s apparent complete lack of respect for not only the rules of the school and the bus, but also lack of empathy for the feelings of their classmates and fellow bus riders. Bullying is not only painful to the victim, but is also a reflection of the bully’s own ineptness at dealing with their own feelings of insecurity and perhaps a direct reflection of a dysfunctional home life. It also interferes with all of the children’s education and the feeling of safety and community in the school environment.
As the parents of these children, we would avail you to please work with your children to teach them appropriate behavior and to keep their hands to themselves in order to not be disruptive and stressors to the other well-adjusted children in the classroom setting.
Thank you in advance for your efforts to teach your children appropriate behavior and social skills.
anything positive come out of this letter?
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I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph. I would have left that section out. At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
Stimulus Letter
Even though I had my direct deposited, I actually got a letter two days after it was already deposited that it would be coming.
If its a business letter,
I wouldn't use Thanks. It's too informal for me. I use the old standby Sincerely most often.
he did send a thank you letter
the following day. See I don't know if the secretary gave the interviewer the message and he didn't call back or if he didn't get it. If he did get it I'm worried if he calls again he'll seem to pushy.
They should just make it a law that you have to tell them right after the interview!! LOL
Send them a letter . . .
stating that the debt is not valid. They will have to prove the debt is valid within 30 days before they can continue trying to collect. A lot of times, collection agencies buy up batches of bad debt for pennies on the dollar and do not have documentation to prove it is a valid debt. Many times, they give up after this, but will sell it to another collection agency. Also send a letter telling them to stop contacting you. It is a good idea to send these letters certified.
If they cannot prove it, dispute it if it is on your credit reports. Also check your state's statute of limitations for collecting debt. In my state it is 7 years. If they do not collect it by then, they are legally out of luck.
Lastly, if they prove it is a valid debt and it is within the legal time frame, you can negotiate a payoff with them. Don't pay more than the original debt because they only paid pennies on the dollar for it.
having said that, I would tell my husband about the letter...
He deserves to know what is being said about him.
That was not called for. She copied this from an internet site, she did not write it. nm
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C'mon, It's a mail forward, I didn't write it myself.
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to write 'more stupid' is 'stupider' than stupider.
From a dictionary:
stupider
A word so commonly used in place of "more stupid" that it should be its own slang word. And with the creation of this definition, it is.
The phrase 'more stupid' takes more time to write out and is much Stupider then just writing 'Stupider'."
PS: I didn't send the letter...Thanks! nm
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does pizza hut begin with the letter D?
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They guaranteed me a letter grade better
It is quite expensive though. But it was worth it in my household. Good luck!
Mine is letter carrier
and with mail volume going down, he is thankful for Netflix, and Amazon, and E-bay and people mailing oranges from Florida, and . . . .
To the poster that got the certified letter from the ER
Been thinking about you and hoping everything turned out okay.
I just read a letter I received from the SM
ASPCA thanking me for my membership and devotion. The letter describes a gift they will be sending in appreciation.
They indicate a gift from "Miss Bea" will be comiing. They tell the story of this darling little dog who was locked in a closet with atrophied muscles from no exercise, etc. This dog was living with pounds of matter fur and living in urine and feces.
The letter went on to say that every time they go into the field to rescue an aminal people like me are with them.
I just needed to share this with you, and to urge you to donate to either the ASPCA or your local animal shelter in behalf of these defneseless animals. The level of cruelty and ignorance is apauling.
I am reduced to tears with emotion at this story, and the fact that I am so appreciated. Thanks for listening.
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