My take on it

Posted By: sm on 2006-02-26
In Reply to: 5-year marriage falling apart - newbie

You ask, "When do you know it is the right time to move on?"

If you find yourself asking this question, the time is NOW. There is never a perfect, convenient time to move on, but if you're not satisfied, don't waste any more valuable time.

People DO NOT change. Your husband will be the same person 20 years from now that he is today. That's just the way it is.

We are responsible for our own happiness, and for that of our children until they are adults. I say bail now while you're still a young woman and your life is still fixable.

After age 40 you're pretty much stuck with whatever crap you have made for yourself up to that point, but it you start fixing things now you have a chance at making your life a happy and satisfying one.

How do I know? I've been there.

Good luck, my friend.

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5-year marriage falling apart - newbie
- Please seek the advice of a counselor, not your mom. - been there, done that
- SEEK MARRIAGE COUNSELING NOW! - BEEN THERE DONE THAT
- My take on it - sm
- put on your track shoes, baby! :) - Alice
- marriage crisis - newbie
- My advice... - M
  - Reclaim your life - CMT-me
- Please, go get counseling before you give up --- - mtgal
- Does husband know how unhappy you are? SM - No Kname
- This sounds similar to my 2nd marriage. - please see message
  - Good point. If she left then she is taking the - sm
    - Who says she HAS to find another man? - M
      - Okay, I have to say something. - Patsy Ann
        Right on Patsy! (nm) - Rita
        And mom isn't doing such a hot job of picking husbands, either. THAT should be addressed. nm - K
        In her defense, there are far too many men out there that really should come with warning labels. nm - M
        Yup, just like transcription companies, right? - QA
        Not you, M, but rather K above you! nm - QA
        Unless it was an arranged marriage, yes, she gets the "blame" for the husband she chose to mar - K
        this is my first husband. - newbie
        HoooRah! - Patsy Ann is nodding
        She's asking for advice, not someone to assign blame... - M
        thank you! - newbie
        Hunny, I'm not judging... - Patsy Ann
- I am so sorry. I feel so badly for you and your son, - Me2LongAgo
- Been there, done that. - Anon
  - Me too. Been there, done that, got the divorce. - Much happier single.
- counseling is a must. - Sarah
- I'm not in the position to offer advice - just because

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