No way

Posted By: anon on 2006-07-01
In Reply to: I do. He is an at-home drinker. Doesn't - Wannie

Wannie, listen to me: He is NOT the same man you married 28 years ago. Think back: If his behavior were IDENTICAL THEN, as it is now, would you have married him? We both know the answer. Also, alcoholics do not change unless they get scared to death or something motivates them mightily. What is motivating your husband, if you just sit back and "love him," and let him continue to be a "sad man" ? Absolutely nothing. Ten years into the future he will be dead or your will be nursing him on his deathbed. Take some action, please: do it for both of you.

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Poll - Who lives with an alcoholic? nm
- I do. He is an at-home drinker. Doesn't - Wannie
  - Alcoholism is a progressive disease. Your man will never resurface. nm - Marion
  - Wake up and smell the roses and not - You are making excuses for him
    - No excuses need. He's an alcoholic, plain and - Wannie
      - Good for you, not apologizing for your - BTDT
        I should have said "I left him and TOOK the - BTDT
      - shoud be no excuses "needed." nm - Wannie
  - No way - anon
    - I said he is the same on the inside, meaning, - Wannie
- If you do, get thee to Al-Anon. Hubby-alcoholic - MarionJ
  - In response to Wannie - don't be a dreamer..sm - horses never change colors....sm
    - my story In response - to horses never change their colors
    - I'm not a dreamer. I'm simply a Christian - Wannie
      - Christian too; he will change perhaps...sm - horses never change colors....sm
        My eyes are wide open. Believe me, I know his - Wannie
        12 step programs, which above are - BTDT
        I never said to "leave God out of recovery" - sm - do U have a reading comprehension problem?
        I think you'd drive me to drink, too, - Wow!
        not OP but I see nothing wrong with the post... - huh?.......R U Ultrasensitive? *lol*...NM
        All religious topics go on the Religion board. (SM) - Goldbird (Moderator)
        My apologies to administrator. I did not - Wannie
        Should read apologies to "moderator." nm - Wannie
- I did live with an alchy and coke freak....sm - divorced him too over his habits...sm
- Alcoholics/drug addicts - No name
- I lived with a crackhead. nm - dazedandconfused
  - I feel for you too--sm - anon
    - Agree totally... - dazedandconfused
      - you're welcome. You made a wise choice--sm - anon
- It sucks - nm
- me. - nm
  - also forgot to mention that my first husband was --sm - nyob
    - That is sad. - sm
      - Mine was never awake long enough to try to help him. - I used to live with one
  - I don't live with her anymore, but my mother is--sm - noyb

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