Accounting for time doesn't cover the bases
Posted By: anon on 2008-01-31
In Reply to: Can you account for most of his time - Joannie
Trust me on this one. I just found out last spring (May 07) that my husband had been cheating on me. We were gone to our lake cabin and when we arrived home I checked the caller ID (as I always do). I seen a name on there and casually said, "who is this?" thinking it was one of the kid's friends. My husband proceeded to go out to his shop but I knew something was off. He called MD over to the shop to tell me that this was the same lady that had called his boss and tried to cause problems with them. "Anyway, when would I have time to have an affair. I am never late to come home and I never go to work early, etc." So, I believed him. Mind you, I had caught him talking to a lady on the cell phone a year prior and he told me they were just work-related "friends." He says he stopped that right after I found out.
Well, come to find out that evening (when we got home from our cabin) he did have an affair with this woman. He admitted it to me that night because he couldn't take the guilt any longer. He was screwing around with her over their noon hours and on the occasional nights he didn't come home right after work. He wasn't all the late though and he always fed me a line of something and I believed him so him coming home 15-20 minutes late once in a blue moon was no big deal to me.
Now, before you all jump down my throat on my stupidity for staying with him. I have invested 15 years of my life with this many and we are still together. Probably not such a great move but we are making it work. Our life is actually better than it has been in 15 years because we are way more open about things.
I have no advice for the sex line calls. I just wanted to expres the fact that accounting for their time doesn't mean jack!
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Just to cover all bases, could she be
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A "fee" to cover their time.
It's a fee for the time they took calling the police and looking at video tapes. The probation officer said that stores rarely do it but that they can. I guess we're just extra special.
We go before a special youth council next week....and revisit with his doctor about the Respirdal and the hair pulling, etc...
time is overdue....for them to quietly disappear...under cover of darkness.
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Maybe they just want to do something different w/o you this time and she doesn't want to hurt you
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Doesn't sound like it is time yet.
As long as she is not starving herself and the fact that she is purring seems to show she is not ready yet. Still sending prayers.
I get emails like this all the time, but it doesn't mean it's true!
I checked snopes.com and they are "researching it" to find out if this email is even true. There are urban legends about this stuff all the time, but most of them turn out to be proven false.
About accounting ... you're required to have
Just so you know.
He sat for the exam within 1 semester of graduating with Bachelor of Accounting. sm
He did not have to have any type of approval, other than of course to pay the money to take the exam and schedule it for the next date it was available.
accounting is awesome and nurses have to touch sick people -nm
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Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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if you cover it, it will be much less dry!! *S*
HOmeowners may not cover
Sometimes if it is a motorized vehicle it will not be covered under homeowners insurance since you are supposed to have insurance on those independently. Most of the time boats, motorcycles, scooters, cars are not covered but each policy is different but don't be surprisied if they are not. Usually it is the home and contents. Again, I feel for you but if you did not want them stored at your home then your husband should have followed your BIL home to take them off the trailer and see that they are stored in a safe place. Especially since you know them and describe them as such and they have already had a loss. But I guess this is a situation in which everyone learns a question, an expensive lesson but a lesson. Am not sure if you would even win in a court of law as it was not an intentional act and you did not carry insurance on it.. Also with regards to their home owners it might not be covered as it is not theirs. When my niece was borrowing a computer from me and they had water damage because the computer was mine and not theirs it was not covered. Good luck but to me this looks like a no win situation for anyone.
I believe the tip goes to the franchise to cover --sm
the amount of gas prices, etc. I would continue tipping the driver the same amount, if I were you, and no, I would not tip any higher amount on Superbowl Sunday...it is not a holiday. lol.
If it is like my bank they will cover you up to $500 -sm
and you have 3 days to payback the bank, which you already did. You did not have anything bounce, so no one will have notices saying not to accept your checks. The bank will be charging you though for their service of covering for you, so you may need to put in another $100 or so to cover that before Friday, check with the bank. You can probably manage your account on-line, check into it, great way to make sure you don't over draw yourself. I try to keep $1000 in the savings account for such emergencies, also with my bank they will automatically transfer the money in from savings to checking if I do overdraft for no charge since I have the money there.
An IPOD cover. nm
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I cover mine at 350 and put
a teaspoon of olive oil on the bottom of the pan first. I happen to use a clear glass or ceramic dish with a tight cover. It seems they turn out more moist with that type of dish. I know you don't want to add anything, but I like to sprinkle a dash of salt and pepper on mine and put some finely sliced garlic (not much, a small clove) in the olive oil. That way the flavor from the garlic circulates around the dish and adds a hint of flavor, but doesn't overwhelm it. I can't tell you how long to cook it, but I can always tell mine is done just by the way it looks. It does shrink a good bit.
Did insurance cover this or how much?
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Keyboard cover?
Does anybody use a cover on their keyboard (while working). I dumped tea all over mine the other day, and had to buy a new one. I always wear the letters off the keys within weeks, and thought maybe a cover would help. TIA
Implants they do not cover any of the
cost as it is considered cosmetic. The denture they will pay a portion but not much sorry to say!!
I doubt homeowners would cover this, but
to do? How would the carpet store fix this? Just wondering....
She's using her tail to cover the delicate
parts, hehehe. That's more than my dogs do, course they have a lot more fur-clothing on.
he needs to be taken out, quietly, under cover of darkness
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You can never judge a book by its cover, can you? sm
Simply amazing. Gave me goose bumps. Her voice is pure joy. Love it every time I hear it!!!
Obviously didn't cover many details in a post.
I am not emotionally selfish. Heavens. And I am a Believer, while they are not. I am an animal lover, not above humans. But when I have gotten together with my family in the past, they have chosen those visits to ridicule my family and our love of animals - family get-togethers were nothing more than lets bash the youngest over her love for her animals. Its a bigger picture than I am comfortable to explain here - basically even covers the hunting versus anti-hunting personalities, etc. I have never ever pushed my philosophy on them - its always been vice versa. As an animal lover, I can sense disdain when I am around others who are not as close as family, but who believe animals are worthless - the old dog belongs outside in a dog house philosophy, or the only good cat is a dead one. We can discern these types and I would certainly rather not spend my time in their presence. While you are feeling the need to explain that you don't disapprove of your mother and her choices, your whole theme has honestly been one of disapproval of her and her choices. You don't need to speak those words to her. She can discern your real feelings, but perhaps you are not discerning your mother's. Just a thought from one Biblical Christian to another.
Dr. Phil DID cover this very topic a few months ago...
and there was a guy who supposedly went to Africa and needed all this money to eat, get out of prison, get home to see this woman he was chatting with and told he loved so much. She fell for the whole thing until Dr. Phil exposed the whole story on his show and had other women there who had also fallen for this guy and sent him money. I don't know if you can get a DVD of the show or not, but it might be worth it to try.
Did insurance cover prophylactic mastectomies? (NM)
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no, nobody knows but the bank, they will cover checks you wrote
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I bought Cover Girl's and I love it too
In time I'm sure all the cosmetic companies will have this type of make up.
they always request more to cover what others don't send - plus what their budget won't buy -
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Toilet seat cover on an airplane...sm
My mom and I were flying back from Las Vegas. We were completely "rummy" tired and absolutely everything was hilarious to us. I think this would have been funny anyway though:
There was an older gentleman on the plane and he was one of those who was always getting up and down and up and down (overactive bladder?). Well, when he walked onto the plane, we were all getting our bags put into the overhead storage and getting settled in our seats. He turned around to put his bag away and my mom and I noticed that he had a toilet seat cover hanging out of the back of his pants. He had his wife with him who was elderly also, but she didn't say anything to him. She had to have seen it because of all the getting up and down that he did. Neither my mom or I had the guts to tell him and I guess that we had a pretty spineless group of people on the flight because NOBODY told him. After we landed he walked through the terminal to get his bags with the flippin toilet seat cover STILL hanging out of the back of his drawers!!! I can only imagine his reaction when he figured out that he had had this thing stuck to the back of him for like four hours (or more) and didn't know it!!! Too funny. My mom and I still roll with laughter every time we talk about it.
Whatever fluids you use, keep basting during baking, then cover with foil out of the
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I use Revlon Lash Tint and have used Cover Girl.
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But most have a little pull-down cover over that section to keep the temp consistent when door opene
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Just a basic Cover Girl cream compact type foundation. nm
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I always carry hand sanitizer and I don't hesitate to cover my mouth / nose sm
if someone starts coughing. I don't care if anyone looks at me oddly - i don't like breathing in their germs. Also think about upping your vitamin intake, to support and boost your immunse system.
I loved the maya wraps. google them and see. wonderful for nursing cover ups as well so multifunct
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Despise that wide-open mouth yawn right in front of my face w/o a hand or arm up to cover it.
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No! That sounds too desperate. TIME. Just give it TIME. If it is real, then sm
something will definitely evolve. If you like him, flirt back! Don't act desperate because if he DOES like you, then the suspense will just make him want to get to know you more. Trust me on this.
I worked in the medical records department of a hospital when I was single and dated a few co-workers in my early 30s. It was fun. Nothing serious came about any of the relationships.
This sounds like fun - the beginning of maybe something to come....Keep us informed.
Totally agree, get these from time to time since teens...sm
It's a neuro condition, it does not mean there is anything at all wrong with you, it is actually related to narcolepsy, hypnagogic (sp? I just got up!) hallucinations, etc. And I HATE when I get these, it is always freaky, my siblings get this too, at times. I can "go away" for years and years before you get another episodes, so don't worry! I heard that when you are under a lot of stress or are very busy with things that this happens more??? Take care!!
It's time to stop when you or the kid(s) feel it is time, and no sooner. sm
My grandmother (who passed away at the young age of 107 back in the mid 1990s) was STILL celebrating every little holiday for all of her many kids and grandkids, and she would STILL give me a chocolate bunny every Easter, as she had since I was a toddler and even though I was 40ish at the time (and I still delighted in biting its head off in front of her, as I had also done since I was a toddler, which always met with mock disapproval from her).
Don't let anyone dampen your joy in celebrating your traditions.
The very 1st time he talked about killing you, was the time
The guy sounds like a psycho.
Rachael Ray has a segment from time to time
on using the bottom of the bottle receipes (i.e. bar-be-q sauce, peanut butter, maple syrup) and I have used many of her ideas and been amazed at how far you can stretch a dollar that way. Go to her website, it will give you many ideas.
Oh Amy, surely there was a man who "kept" you from time to time..
or you were at least married and had access to money!
It was a great time - I just hate the time we are in now
I liked your post. Thanks for replying It's nice to know other people were raised like me. We seem to appreciate the things we have. Oh I should've also said we didn't have A/C growing up. My parents idea of A/C was having my sister and I wave a piece of cardboard in front of them. HA HA HA.
I just couldn't stand the 90s and 2000s are even worse. I hate all the politics going on today, the world events, the bleak future. The degenerates running around, listening to kids talk back to their parents, girls gone wild, etc, etc. I'm grateful my grandparents and mom are not alive anymore to have to go through this with us.
I love watching old movies and the music of the 40s/50s. If I was alive back then I would've been doing the jitterbug and all those other fun dances. Life seemed simpler and cleaner (even though I've got a mouth like a sailer - guess I got that from my Army days).
I wouldn't mind the turn of the century either. I love the clothing and the simple life. Those are the times when the husband took care of the wife. If I could be transported back to the 1800s I surely would in a second.
That actually doesn't look that bad!
I love pork especially at a pig roast...by the end of the day the meat just falls off the bones it is so tender. Doesn't look too terrifying!
Doesn't take much to get you going does it? nm
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If a dog doesn't have anything
to do, he will occupy himself. His thing is barking, which isn't fair to the neighbors. I had a neighbor who'd let his laborador bark for hours on end while I was trying to work. Almost drove me insane. To catch a break I'd occasionally take a rawhide, stuff all the cracks with peanut butter, and throw it over the fence. Ah, blessed peace for a while.
Cesar Millan has a website. I'm sure you can get lots of ideas there. It's all about exercise, discipline and then affection. You have to communicate your leadership and also use up his energy and teach him what it is you expect of him.
Why doesn't she get her own
It sounds to me like she wants you to pay her bills. She'll have to find a job and get a roommate like any one of us would. Why should you compromise what you have with your boyfriend when she'll be coming age very soon and can be out on her own? Let her know she's welcome to visit or whatever, but you'd rather see her pursue her own living quarters. 
That is my mom, she just doesn't get
it. She also thinks it is because of my husband. Nobody is good enough for me. Doesn't matter who it is. She has been telling everyone it is because she will not lend us money. My husband and I both work our butts off and have never borrowed money from anyone but the bank.
My brother and I have not been the closest and about two weeks ago, I called him. I now believe that a lot of reason why we are not close is due to my mother. He is four years younger and I was out of the house by the time he was 13. I always got my mother's point of view of what was going on with him and I should have known better. She told me he doesn't talk to her because she won't lend him money. He and I thought we didn't have a lot in common, so most of the communication was between him and my mom, then mom would "tell" me. He doesn't want her to see his son either, but being that he is divorced, his ex-wife allows her to see him. He said that she was always intervening in his life, no matter what it was. She kicked him out of her home when he was 15 and he has never looked back. He now has his PhD as a recent graduate and is very successful. We both believe it is a control issue with her.
That leads to this, I have researched grandparents rights as well. In Michigan, as long as the parents are married and fit parents, grandparents have no rights. If you were never married, separated or divorced or worse yet, proved to be unfit, then they have rights to see the children. Something to think about.
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