At least you are trying
Posted By: AgingMT on 2008-01-28
In Reply to: I too believe ... - blondie
It sounds like you are doing the right things, i.e., the gifts, talking to her mom, inquiring of your friend's welfare, and respecting her wishes. It is hard when you are close to someone and they seem to be keeping you at arm's length.
I think you are on the right track if you keep doing what you are doing. (I thought one of the poster's ideas of asking to bring over dinner and just dropping it off without asking to see your friend was a really good one!)
Your friend may not be able to assimilate right now all the things you are still doing as a friend. Even though she is not responding right now, later on she will probably thank you for having been there, even in the background. This is one of those times you will look back on as having been there "through thick and thin" and have a stronger friendship later because of it.
All my opinion, of course, but I have seen it work over and over.
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