Call me cynical, but it sounds like you're not as selfless as you want everyone to think. SM
Posted By: Tinks on 2006-12-27
In Reply to: So Sad this Christmas - SoBlue
In your initial post, you state how you mostly give cards and little gifts "anonymously" and that you go up and down your street putting cards in your neighbors mail boxes signed simply "your neighbor." Then you say that your neighbors never acknowledge your acts of kindness. And then you post a quite lengthly post here telling us what a good egg you are and how boringly nice you are, chronicling all the charitable deeds you do.
So which is it, do you do these anonymously out of the kindness or your heart or do you expect some sort of acknowledgement or thank you?
It sounds as though you want people to know these wonderful things you do and you need to be acknowledged and patted on the back and told what a wonderful person you are for doing these things.
First of all, I hate to state the obvious, but if you truly sign cards with "your neighbor" and anomyously send gifts, then how would anyone know to give you the accolades you so desperately crave? Secondly, a selfless giver derives satisfaction from the simple act of giving, not any sort of acknowledgement that comes as a result.
"Be careful not to do your 'acts of righteousness' before men, to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by men. I tell you the truth, they have received their reward in full. 3But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." Matthew 6:1-4
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daughter pay for gas and insurance when she starts driving. She hasn't started driving yet because she doesn't want to get a job to pay for that privilege. That's her choice. We're also making her pay 1/2 of the fees for the state required driver's education course.
You sound like your children OWE you something for rasising them. Motherhood is selfless. nm
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sounds like you better call or see someone STAT.
You shouldn't have that reaction, esp lasting like that. I've had some heartbeat irregularities and last time they refused to take my blood because of it. I kind of poo-poo'd same and the nurse explained how i could end up carried out on a stretcher and even worse...At least call somewhere and ask a competent (!!) nurse/doctor, please.
Why not call him at home or mail a note to his house & let him know you're interested? Or see if
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Sounds like you're the "jerk"
That isn't fair to your husband. You are having an affair.
you're right, she sounds like she wants to pounce.
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sounds like you're doing good
If you can make jam cake and cornbread, you are a Kentucky gal now! I live in Northeasten KY in a small town - though not as small as yours - I lived here my entire life and when I married, we moved to Shreveportm, Louisiana for a couple of years - so that was culture shock for me!
Sounds like you're an exemplary neighbor
I love the way you point out how you have good neighbors because you can speak to them when YOU want to speak to them without having them at your home 24/7.
I'm getting a certain vibe from your posts that tells me NONE of these people would WANT to be at your home 24/7, cuz you sure don't sound very hospitable to me.
And yeah, if you're leaving your doors open and unlocked in this day and age, you're obviously one of 'those people' that think having a bit of money makes you omnipotent.
You've proven yourself to be more than a tad pretentious and I'm done responding to you. Suffice to say, I'm very thankful you (or someone like you) is not MY neighbor.
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
At least you wait until they're cooked! LOL...we're raw dough
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You may be, from the sounds of your posts, sounds like an *illegal*
and that in itself is a crime. Nobody else would take 65.00 for an entire day slaving/laundry, heavy cleaning, etc. LOL. Nah, I don't think so. I'm just saying, what it sounds like to me. : )
He sounds wonderful...sounds like you two have a relationship (sm)
based on love and nothing superficial at all. I'm glad you appreciate him and are so grateful for him. Best wishes & continued happiness to you both :-)
You should call....sm
an attorney that deals with bankruptcies and ask them what you can do in this situation and they should be able to help you for a minimal cost.
In most states, if your husband's name is not on the credit card account they cannot go after his credit or try to force him to pay your bill... and vice versa.
For a reality check - the credit card company can seize your bank account and incoming deposits to one, force your employer/clients to turn over money designated for you to them for the debt. If you don't present some sort of offer to pay them a reasonable amount every month then they may choose to do the above things to you and legally can. However, if you can show the courts you can pay "x" a month and the judge thinks it's OK then they wouldn't be able to garnish any monies due to you.
Since you mentioned that you only work part-time, they'll probably suggest that you take on a full-time job to pay this debt.
Call them
Your best bet is to call and tell them what your situation is, that you want to work out a solution with them. Even if you have to refinance with them to get payments lower to a level you can afford, it will be worth it - don't default if you can help it. Nowadays, it can raise your car insurance rates, affect new employment opportunities, etc.
Besides, paying it back is the right thing to do. It will let you keep your self respect.
My dog does it too..but we call them
"kitty biscuits," LOL. Either way it's gross. He's been doing it forever, and we can't seem to break him of this habit. 
call
I would definitely call them as well. Had this happen and reversed as well. I know there is one cc company that refuses to do that and it happens to be Discover. Many other companies have reversed this for me. Please call and say you thought you paid it off so whats this!
call that b*tch!!
just kidding! :) This is such normal behavior for teenagers, I always told my girls that I coached that college is completely different than high school and there would be MANY changes, no matter how "in love" they thought they were... It is a sad reality, and unfortunately I am not a mom yet but know that when I am I will be dealing with this. I think the only thing you can tell him is the old saying "time heals all wounds" although it doesnot SEEM like he will EVER get over it by the way he is feeling right now, promise him he will. there are better things out there and everything happens for a reason!!! And you said they haven't officially "broken up" yet... you know what's coming obviously... and this is in no way a way to treat someone you love. She is just trying to get out of it easy. good luck, heartbreak is hard. I'm 27 and still go through it :)
Call the guy and ask nm
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Thanks .. will just call them and see
if I can remove some of the extra charges and go forward. I did not owe much of anything to anyone and then changed jobs and the fun began! I really don't have that much faith in a third party and I learned that from transcription!
sorry- not what I would call fun either
If I get the chance mine will have a fun time at my house!
Can I just call them?
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Just call me
 Simon!!
Call someone now.
I went through the same situation with my father for 8 years (bedridden, dementia, strokes, etc.) and grandfather during those same 8 years and 1 year after that. I got help from my doctor, general practitioner. She is a good listener and knew exactly the direction to guide me for help. I was neglecting my health while taking care of others. I remember one time taking my grandfather to a doctor appointment and asked them to check my blood pressure. It was extremely high and they did not want to let me leave the office. I had to sign a waiver stating that I knew the risks but I also promised to see my physician, which I did immediately. I am now on medications for hypertension, hypothyroidism, depression, and cholesterol. Please take care of yourself now.
I would call.
They might be waiting to see what applicants show a true interest in the job. Doesn't hurt to have your name out there to be noticed and remembered...better than being lost in the shuffle. I wouldn't call again after that though.
God says to call sin for what it is.
Please call someone!
Call your local suicide prevention hotline. Even if you are not suicidal at the moment, with all that is going on in your life, that could change at any moment. At the very least they will point you to some resources that will help you. The most difficult thing to do is ask for help, but you really need to. If you don't want to call the hotline, try your local United Way office, they have many solutions that could possibly help you through the emergency until you can get back on your feet. You are in my heart and in my prayers. Reach out and let someone help you... please....
And what do you call yourself in
a marriage where the love is gone, the happiness is gone and you want out? I call it loneliness. I do not need a man to make me happy or to take care of me. My life is very happy because I got out of a loveless marriage.
Your statement makes no sense to be but then again, I am very secure in myself.
and they call that...
insurance fraud. If ever found out that you have withheld information, they will cancel your policy anyway. They are like the IRS. They have ways of finding things out. They can check your prescription records and find that docs name if he prescribed something. Once they find out a doc's name, that's it. Sorry to keep contradicting you, but insurance companies are ruthless. They want your money, but they don't want to pay out. If they find just one thing that was concealed from them, that's it. It's all over.
ok, well whatever you want to call him...but I think sm
feeling up a 8 or 9 year old and a 12 or 13 year old is a form of molestation. My mother's stepfather didn't actually rape her until she was 15. But he felt her up from the time he married her mother, when she was 7. My stepfather never did anything like that to me at all. But my creepy neighbor did. He spent a lot of time helping me learn to walk on my hands when I was 11 or 12 - I realized later it was so he could look up my shorts and so when my shirt would flop up, he could see my barely growing boobies. He moved away. Five years later he showed up at my house acting like a crazy maniac, in love with me. they get obsessed with young girls. Call him a scumbag, a pervert, a molester, or whatever. It's wrong.
Call CPS. Everybody knows they
do a terrific job and always show good judgment. Wrong. Oftentimes they yank kids out of stable homes because the enlightened and politically correct think that spanking is barbaric, make a quick phone call, and loving parents who are trying to discipline their children get sent to jail. Beating is one thing and spanking is another. I very much doubt that if the kid pulls the kind of antics you have described that his father is beating him. Also, if the father was beating him, do you think he would have chosen "the stick" over losing hockey? You most probably don't know what you are talking about and you should just butt out. Different people parent differently. Some kids need spanked, some don't. Be thankful that your kid has a disposition such that it is not required. Mind your own business unless you know he is being ABUSED. The trouble you cause could be not easily undone.
Think a bit before you call CPS. You might want
to ask the kid exactly what the "stick" is before you jump to conclusions. He picked it, maybe he can handle it.
My daughter has some friends who have a son. The child, while very young, had a medical condition that was hard to diagnose, resulted in bruising of the body, some failure to thrive, etc. A neighbor thought the child was being abused, called the authorities and because at the time (10 years ago) the couple wasn't as responsible as they are now (some partying, not that great housekeeping) the child was taken away because of neglect. He and his wife were put in jail; once the other prisoners found out why he was in there they literally beat him to a pulp for supposed child abuse. He has plates in his head and face and is on permanent disability. Come to find out the child had some medical condition that was so very rare and caused the bruising and FTT. After about 6 months of a living h*ll, the authorities apologized to this guy and his wife and their child was given back to them.
Get as many facts as you can before making that call.
Call them
If your apartment is individually metered, it probably is something as simple as they read the meter wrong. I had that happen at a job one time and the meter was 1000 and they read it as 10,000. They corrected it quite quickly for me.
This should be something that is fairly easily corrected once you get them on the phone.
I don't think I would call it
So much as I would call it in love with one's spouse...
I do feel that if my husband and I divorced or were otherwise separated, I'd be completely lost, like I were missing a part of my body...a very important part. He is honestly my other half, I know no matter what happens, he will be there. It's wonderful to have someone that you know is coming home to you every day after work. To have someone to hash things out with, bounce ideas off of...and it's even better cause you're both on the same page, wanting the same things out of life.
It's funny cause my husband and I talked about the "what ifs" this weekend...what if we got divorced? what if one of us died? I couldn't imagine living my life without my husband. I love him and wouldn't want to go on without him...
What else would you call them
Making up cutesy little names for body parts is just silly. Especially since we don't do it for other parts of the body like the arms, legs, etc. Tell it like it is. So what if the girls goes up and says I have a vagina or I have a penis, their kids and their learning. Calling it anything else is almost like your hiding it and embarrassed that you have one. As MTs we should not be embarrassed when the word vagina or penis is mentioned.
call the
I would contact cesar milan from that show because he has a whole compound of pit bulls and likes to rescue them.
That 911 call
Umm.... I need some firefighters...
Dispatch: Why? What seems to be the problem?
Unlucky One: Umm.... My 'cat's' up his tree....
you need to call AA
If he is sick enough you could take him to ER and have him request treatment and they can handle it from there.
Al-Anon for your sister since she was raised by an alcoholic and married one, so she is going to need some help adjusting to everything also.
Keep the little kids away from the AA clubs. Really super duper nice people DO NOT attend AA. Don't be too trusting to the eager babysitters you will find there!
If he ever feels better again, healthy, or happy, it will be a miracle, and more than likely he will always be somewhat miserable on some level because of his illness. It can be incredibly difficult to live with someone recovering from addiction because as much as he was "away drinking" physically or emotionally, he will be "away recovering" physically or emotionally.
Her kids are her future and my advice would be to make sure that they have everything they need emotionally and physically and NOT to neglect them because Dad is sick. She should invest as as much as possible in her kids to terminate this cycle, so they grow up healthy and happy and not marry alcoholics or become alcoholics themselves.
Things you're afraid of vs. things you're not
I didn't used to be afraid of spiders, but I seem to have developed a fear of those little beasties. I also can't stand boats, water deeper than my hot tub and bridges. I'm also fairly convinced that UFOs, if not aliens (well, isn't anything driving those things?) are real, so that kinda scares me, yet it is strangely fascinating. I'm also afraid of El Chupacabra, though I'm very certain that's not real. It's one of those "hahahahaha" fears.
Things other people fear that I do not include snakes (awwww, they so cute! they look like they're smiling!), rats, gangbangers (except Mara Salvatrucha, move them up to my "scary" list), poverty, death, traveling at high rates of speed with almost anyone sober, bats (CUTE!!!!!), homeless people, Sasquatch, most of my male friends, bears, mountain lions.
Fear is such an odd thing, don't you think? So much of it is relative to our own experiences in life, yet at the same time some of them are downright irrational.
So, how 'bout you? What will send you running screaming in the other direction, and what things can you take care of when someone else goes running screaming in the other direction?
Call Waiting
Hi everyone...does anyone know the code to turn off call waiting before making a call? I forget...it's been a while. TIA!
Call me not intelligent
In September I cosigned on an apartment for my niece and her friend. At the time I had been to the ER three times with 102+ temp, then went in the hospital for about 2 weeks (know that is no excuse). I actually do not remember signing the lease and believe me if I had read it I never would have let her sign because it has so any restrictions.. To make a long story short, they have now moved out and the lease says in order to break it, they must pay 893 plus 2 months rent (another 1200 total). Well guess who the sucker is left holding the bill on this one? My niece says she has no money and won't even ask the other girl for her half. Just a warning do not ever cosign anything unless you want to pay in the long run - I either pay or it goes on my credit - anybody have any suggestions or any ideas if I can do anything else without going broke?
Thanks
Phone call of the day ....sm
ME: Hello?
CALLER: Hello, does anyone at your home speak English?
ME: What? Of course I speak English. I was born and raised in the US and speak no other language. Why do you ask?
CALLER: I'm so sorry ma'am. This is Jody with the Police Benevelance fund and we'd like to ask for a contribution for.....
ME (immediately cutting her off): Ma'am, how dare you have the audacity to call my home, ask me if I speak English and then want to ask me for a donation? Donkeys would fly before I'd give your organization a penny as you have now totally insulted me, a bona-fide English speaking American Citizen - one without an accent other than being Southern.
Can you believe it? My husband stood there shaking his head as I let into this lady. It's bad enough to call somewhere and hear "press 1 for English, 2 for Spanish...." but to have someone call you and ask if you speak English is absurd.
PEOPLE WHO CALL ME HON!!!!
That gets soooo under my skin and I realize that people don't mean a thing by it but one day (must have been pms'ing) I went to a convenience store and the gal working was all, "How are you today H O N ???"
Well it was just one too many hons and granted, it was not very tactful on my part either, but my response was, "My day would be a whole lot better if people would not call me hon".
She never did call me that again when I went in there but my guess is she probably had a few choice words for me when I left. :O
call your phone co and ask if they have....
I have privacy director from bellsouth and also am on the donotcall.gov list and phone#. However, I continually get a call with no one speaking from a SEBELL - I looked up SEBELL and it's a telecommunications company that once got into big trouble - with telemarketing - and now it *looks* as though they are back. The only thing I could do with that number was STAR (*) 60 which blocks only 6 telephone numbers via bellsouth.
They may call it the off season,
Was there mid Nov and it was really busy. All fast track tickets gone by noon, didn't get on hardly any rides, waits were 2+ hours for each ride. It was kind of a disappointment for the kids. Had a decent time, but could have been much better. Didn't expect the crowds in Nov.
Do not call list
 There is a national "Do Not Call List" that you can put not only your home land line on but also your cell phone number on. You sign up on-line via the Internet and you remain on the list for 5 years at which time you have to re-enroll your phone numbers. It is not enough to "ask" to be put on the "do not call list" you must go to the national website and sign yourself up. If you are called by a company after you have put your number on the national "do not call list" you can call the Attorney General and the company will be fined $1,500.00. Hope this helps! We have all our numbers on the list home phone/cell phones and our numbers are unlisted as well.
Do not call list
There is a national "Do Not Call List" that you can put not only your home land line on but also your cell phone number on. You sign up on-line via the Internet and you remain on the list for 5 years at which time you have to re-enroll your phone numbers. It is not enough to "ask" to be put on the "do not call list" you must go to the national website and sign yourself up. If you are called by a company after you have put your number on the national "do not call list" you can call the Attorney General and the company will be fined $1,500.00. Hope this helps! We have all our numbers on the list home phone/cell phones and our numbers are unlisted as well.
In the south we would call that
trailer folk trash- just not accepted
I am in hopes to call CPS
It is family and if they find out what I did there will be a big to do. I hate standing by watching kids and the handicapped get treated so shamefully and it has taken a tole on them over the years. The 12 yo and 9 yo definitelly has psychiatric problems. I hope it can be undone. I hope the 2 yo can get out of it before it grows up with so many problems. Bad part is, it is the parents that are paying for the crap that aunt has done. They even admitted that it was aunt that messed up the 12 year old.
Before you call the realtors...
Check at the link below and find out what similar houses in your area are going for. If there are houses in your area with "for sale" signs with the name of a realtor, look up that realtor's listings and see what they are asking.
That way, when you do contact the realtors and they come out and give you an estimate, you will know if they are being honest with you or not. Some realtors will give you a low-ball figure because they want a quick sale and a quick commission. Some will price property too high and when it doesn't sell, then they will hit you for the lower price for a quick sale.
That is not to say all realtors are dishonest - there are lots of good folks out there. But, like any other profession, there are a few bad apples, too.
We just sold our house last year, so I do have some recent experience in that area. Here is where I found my realtor: http://www.daveramsey.com/sa/realestate/ . You can also find some very good financial advice on that site.
Good luck!
definitely call a good vet!
Something that starts out minor can turn nasty pretty fast. Best of luck! :-)
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