Encourage him

Posted By: mt6547 on 2007-12-27
In Reply to: My 10 year old, non-sports-oriented son is so sad! (sm) - Worried mom

To try soccer - it's great exercise and even though it is a team sport, individual effort and talent count too. Maybe if he played on a team for a year, he would change his mind. He's only 10 years old - he's going to change his mind about a lot of things.

If he really is an individualist, he will have to find other things, like tennis, where the individual excels, or learn to play chess.

Otherwise, he'll just have to mope around - he'll find something to do - kids are creative if they are allowed to be. Just guide that creativity into something creative.

You sound like a great mom.

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My 10 year old, non-sports-oriented son is so sad! (sm) - Worried mom
- Update: We went ice skating yesterday pm and he had a great time (sm) - OP - Thanks all!
  - You're a good mommy! - Me
- Encourage him - mt6547
- Street hockey - Malki Reed
- Team sports are for 'sheep' - has he been to a local - skateboard park? Lotsa potential pals there!
  - PS: Skateboarding & skating ARE 'sports' - and can - San Francisco
    - I would not encourage him to resort to name calling. - trose
- Been there...sm - The Other Sunshine
  - Thanks - He actually wants guitar lessons (sm) - Worried Mom
- See if there is something he would - Z
  - Very good suggestions, thank you (nm) - Worried mom
- he is not a Minority; you don't use that word in front of him, right? Focus on his talents; tell - there are others who skateboard/rollerblade - n/m
  - I definitely do focus on his talents and of course I don't use that word with him (sm) - Worried mom
  - ....tell him you are proud of his talents - n/m
    - Believe me, I tell him - but he's a kid, he wants other kids to approve of him. (nm) - Worried mom
    - If there are fewer nonball players than players, then - he is minority of nonball players. nm
      - Right - he IS a minority in the group of kids he is around on a reg. basis (nm) - Worried mom
        and THAT makes him a nonconformist which is - A WONDERFUL THING.....support this!...n/m
        That is true - and I LOVE that about him - but also want him to be happy (sm) - OP
- Invite son's friend for day to they can "train" 1on1, - provide helthy lunch, make this fun for both. nm
- Ask older neighbor boy, etc to work with him? - Practice, even by himself, footwork etc. nm

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Good for you. I would encourage anyone to get out of this
You won't find yourself out-sourced.

I would not encourage him to resort to name calling.
That just brings him down to their level. My son loved tennis and was not very athletic in "team sports". His friends were really cool about this. They come to all his matches and cheer him on and he in turn goes to their soccer matches. Just depends on how they are raised I guess.

I agree, maybe seeing a familiar name as a donor will encourage others. NM
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