I am so glad i do not have to keep maiden in addition
Posted By: Bette on 2007-04-26
In Reply to: It is very common in the south to keep your maiden name as your middle name. But, I sm - Just Me
to all these past names I have had, being on my 4th marriage now. Gosh, that would be 5 names in all, wouldn’t it?
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I worked for orthopaedic surgeons in North Carolina for about nine years. She still went by her maiden name in the practice and everywhere else.
Why is there any controversy about keeping a maiden name?
I've "kept" mine. I also added my husband's name. Anyone who knows me as my children's mother uses my husband's last name when they address me. It's not wrong, so I don't correct them. There's no need. But my driver's license has my first name, my maiden name, and then my husband's name, no hyphen. (Hyphenation is clumsy, IMO, and causes so many problems when people are trying to find your name on alpha lists.)
I loved my father very much, and I had a wonderful family growing up. I was named for my father and we were very close. It's part of who I am. I want to keep that name because he gave it to me, and a very special gift it was, too! I also love my husband very much, and we built a family together. That also is part of who I am. He offered me his name as a gift to me, as well. I was glad to accept it, as well. I proudly use both names.
Yet, I've run into quite a few people who get quite angry and upset over MY name. I have a friend who married a Texan. When he found out that I continue to use my maiden name, he turned to my husband and said, "And you let her do that?" My husband's reply: "She's my wife, not my child. It's not for me to give her a name. And if it's none of my business, then it's certainly none of YOUR business."
That's why I love him!
east Alabama. I cannot tell you one person who has kept her maiden name sm
here in my town. Not one.
It is very common in the south to keep your maiden name as your middle name. But, I sm
was talking about not taking your husband's name at all.
I'm a Gilmore girl (maiden name) and I have never watched the show...sm
but my sister has, she says it's pretty good.
People I went to high school with still call me by my maiden
name, and we graduated 30+ years ago, and I call them by their's when talking about them with someone. What is the big deal??????
In addition,
I have found relief with limited use of a tanning bed. Obviously, this is contraversial and has its own drawbacks and possible it may dry skin more, but my problem stems from seborrhea and UV therapy helps. I go about once a week.
New addition
Meet Boo!
Dempsey finally has a sister. She is a bit of a scaredy cat but she will come around with time.
One addition here
I know where you are going with your post. I know people think you are crazy but you aren't.
Don't people know how to make anything from scratch anymore? Geez.
In addition...
In addition to the point that all those women are somebody's mom, sister, daughter...
If the BF is involved in anything involving underage people, keep in mind that you shouldn't do anything on his computers, and it would probably also be wise to keep your finances completely separate (separate banks even, not just separate accounts).
Why?
Because in the case of anything involving children, EVERY PHOTO OR VIDEO IS ALSO EVIDENCE LEFT BEHIND FROM A CRIME SCENE! Any money he spends on the habit could be traced back to you if you share accounts.
From your most recent post, it seems like the BF doesn't know that you know. That's an interesting place in life. I never had the courage, bravery, stability, or self-esteem to not completely turn into a blubbering pathetic mess every time I stumbled on recent evidence. Mine always knew when I found stuff because I just couldn't handle it quietly. I never found any evidence of child-related stuff, though. I always told myself I could have found the courage to set the trap silently if I did. Thankfully I never needed to.
Sheila has it right and in addition...sm
You can encourage her to look at her bills and see what she can cut back on. For instance if she pays her own rent then she can do things like be sure to cut off lights, have the A/C set at 78 instead of colder, consolidate trips in the car to save on gas to help free up money for other things.
We give the kids a bonus in our household. For each month the utilities bill come in under the budget amount they get to have 1/2 the savings for entertainment. It sure helps give them an incentive to cut off lights when not in rooms, not stay in the shower until every drop of hot water is drained, etc.
With the increasing cost of gas when we leave home we try to consolidate errands as much as possible. Now instead of going say to Target for odds and ends and then Publix for groceries we go to the Super Wal-Mart where we can get everything at one stop. These little things add up and I'm finding myself now going about 2 days further between fill-ups than I used to.
In addition to the swats or the ISS, I would take away sm
something at home, i.e., TV, cell phone, Ipod, a previous engagement to do something fun. Being late is rude, lazy, and says "hey, look at me, it's all about me" so nip it in the bud right now. Kids today need to be taught to be on time, be polite, and have table manners, etc. Mine do.
In addition to considering the maturity,
I would also consider whether or not there is someone next door (maybe the bus driver you mentioned) that would be willing to "keep an eye" on him and that he could go to in case of emergencies.
I was a latchkey kid at about the age of 11 or 12; however, my older brother was 14 or 15 at the time and my grandma lived across the street from us.
My oldest son is now in fifth grade, 11 years old, and I have only been allowing him some "home alone" time in the last year. I really wasn't comfortable with doing that until he was 10, but each child is different.
I would also caution you to write down some ground rules and maybe just start out by leaving him alone for 1/2 hour here and there to see how he does. If you're not comfortable with him being home alone, you won't get much work done during that last hour of the day anyway. Good luck!
In addition to the media, I would also
contact an attorney if the school does nothing. I've seen a few movies "based on fact" where the school is legally bound to protect your child during school hours. If the school does nothing and the police do nothing, I would contact an attorney immediately.
I am keeping the journal going and in addition...sm
I bought a ceramic cross yesterday with 1 Samuel 1:27 on it which says "For This Child I prayed". I wrote the baby's nickname that my husband & I called it, the EDC and "went to heaven" dates on the front of the cross and it's hanging in our living room next to our family photo.
Congratulations on your new family addition.
Take your dog to the door every 30 to 40 minutes or so and the dog will get the idea that the outside is the place to do its thing. Could MAYBE give a treat when the dog actually goes outside and does not have an accident in the house. But, try to be careful on the treats, they will get accustomed to that really quick. Good luck.
I am personal trainer in addition to an MT
so I am at the gym working out almost every day, and when I am not at the gym, I am on my home treadmill. I like to keep in shape and always have. I find that working out always puts me in a good mood (the endorphin release). I was always active in sports as a kid and have always been very tone and fit. I am also only 25 (26 in September), so my metabolism is pretty fast anyway!
I'd say IN ADDITION to getting a generator as I mentioned above.
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After reading your 2 posts below in addition to this one...
You need to get OUT! In time the kids will know what is going on either way, married or divorced. If you husband has been physically aggressive with you before, who is to say he's not going to have enough of your turning him down one day and come home aggressive again?! I'm worried and I don't even know you. Listen to stories on the news about the women who trusted their husbands implicitly and then one day something snapped in him - don't let that happen to you. Besides, do you want your kids thinking his behavior is a healthy one. Consciously or not, many children model their future marriage skills after their parents. I think you should seek individual counseling and advice from a lawyer. Commonly the first visit does not cost you anything and they will tell you what type of retainer fee they need so you can be working on that. Also, when (hopefully) everything starts to get in motion, get your kids in counseling too. Early is better. Don't wait for problems or issues. A lot of kids are very good at hiding their feelings from their parents. Finally, I must say, as controlling as your husband sounds the only reason he wants you to stay around is financial. Men talk about these things, my husband had told me. You will make out just fine. He'll be the one writing the check - oh, and you can request that it go through the court so you don't have to see/talk to him about the money every month. Good luck to you. Go with your gut. Be sure to let family know what's going on too so they can keep their eyes open and help if needed.
That other board (in addition to not being free) is also
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Here's an addition to your question about layout - sm
that was unbelievable. I was at a Walmart one day to buy jeans. In the unlikely event I find the 'perfect' pair, I usually buy 2 of the same size, 'cause who knows when you'll ever find a perfect pair again, right?
So I'm in the dressing room trying them on, find the perfect pair, and go out to grab another identical pair before heading to the register. Only......
While I was in the dressing room (maybe 10 minutes, tops?), they had completely reconfigured the entire jeans section, and the whole display that had the jeans I wanted was GONE! I spent another half-hour looking for them, and never did find them, even when I asked an employee, who was of course clueless.
So, I guess Walmart is kind of like the weather in the mountains. If you don't like what you see, wait 10 minutes and it'll change!
In addition to the black oil sunflower seeds,
cardinals also love safflower seeds. Extra bonus -- squirrels will not eat safflower seeds. Cardinals also require a platform type feeder as opposed to a perch feeder.
We have had very few cardinals this year, which is quite unusual. Two winters ago I counted 19 all at once. It was after a heavy snow and it was quite a sight.
Love them birds! 
Important addition to MIL problem directly below this posting
Oh, by the way, 3 weeks ago my DH told my MIL that I was upset with her and why. She made light of it, explaining that she was just "joking" and "being funny" and of course she didn't mean anything by it.
If it were my son telling me that I had offended my DIL in some way I would call her immediately and talk it through. However, my phone has not rung yet, and I'm pretty sure it's not going to.
I can see her sitting over there coiled like a king cobra expecting me on Thanksgiving and I'm so uncomfortable just thinking about it.
My husband said that she was just joking and to suck it up (again), and just go over. I'm really stressed out about this. Any suggestions would be great.
Too many of these stories becoming familiar, in addition to inforcing the death penalty....sm
I have to ask myself why so much of society these days is behaving in this way, uncontrollable, ugly rage...is it the decay of family units, absentee fathers, is it the abundance of drugs, violence in media....I am old enough to remember a time when these atrocities seemed to be the RARE horror stories, why the abundance now? No God in their worlds?????
Addendum: In addition to have warp speed internet connection; just short of having my own server.
Glad everything is okay! nm
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Wow...Glad your not my mom!
Life is way to short. I had a stepmother like you. Once I lost my mittens and it was freezing outside and I had to walk. This wench actually got in her car, found me on my way to school in a snow storm and took the mismtached pair that I had found in a box. She was an awful woman and I never saw her again after I was 16 and left the house. I hope she has as miserable a life now as she deserves. Don't be a petty witch with your children. They will resent you in the end, may be even slash your perfect tires....
Glad to help!
I never really watched Frasier. I know, my loss from what I hear. Sounds very funny! Will have to start watching the reruns :)
glad i'm not you
Well aren't you just a ray of sunshine and full of compassion. It's not always about the almighty dollar. You get what you give in life and that includes taking care of ALL of God's creatures. You have no heart.
Glad I did it
I never went to the ER (I have to be almost dead before I go), so I suffered about 4 episodes before I went to the doctor. I didn't know what it was. Each attack got worse. After the last one, which was horribly painful, I went to the doctor,and didn't hesitate to get surgery done. I had a "rock garden", the tech called it. It was PACKED with stones! I had to wait almost 2 months. I was so afraid to eat I lost 12 pounds in 2 weeks! No exercise either! THAT was easy! Having never been in a hospital before as a patient, nor even having had any kind of procedure, the anticipation of the surgery was MUCH worse than the procedure. But I was a healthy person with no previous surgeries. I had almost no pain after, and took it easy. I went back to work after 3 days. I don't know what the risk would be with your recent surgery. It's something to talk out FULLY with your doctor.
You'll make the right decision.
I am soo glad it's
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I'm glad you did. (nm)
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Glad to see you came out okay!
Was your dad in the picture, by the way? You said it depends a lot on the parent, which is true, but it seems you did well for yourself on your own without much help from your mom. I have always believed that kids are born with their own set personality and demeanor, and that the parents can help foster good kids and teach them right from wrong along the way. Seems you were born a good seed.
thanks - so glad someone could help -
this is the only thing I miss about an office setting - someone always knew answers when I didn't. Home Depot, here I come! I was going to build chicken wire cages around them, but it is chipmunks that won't help either.
I had them done and am glad I did...sm
In high school I had allergy testing done which showed I was allergic to dust and mold, and we were able to control my symptoms by making changes around the house to cut down on these (i.e. plastic mattress and pillow covers).
A few years ago I developed other allergic symptoms and had food testing done which revealed that I have 3 allergies to chemicals in foods, and once I eliminated those food sources the problems went immediately away.
Good luck to you. Not everyone who has allergies needs allergy shots, but if you do they should help you. Even my dog had allergy shots and they helped her significantly!
So glad for you - sm
It's so hard for the families to not hear anything for such long periods of time.
I completely understand.
Prayers for your nephew as well as all of our servicemen and women.
Glad I Could Help
I was channeling my 4 year old. LOL.
Glad I could help a bit.
It is definitely going to be longer than 2 weeks though. Not sure on the recovery time for a vaginal so I would ask your doctor. Hopefully, your situation can be resolved without it. Again, good luck.
I'm so glad you took her
and the vet did the right tests. I'm sure you'll both be feeling much better now.
Oh, me too, so glad to see others. (nm)
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Glad to help :)
I joined one of those DVD clubs to start my collection. I mostly buy the movies I know I will watch over and over again.
There are only certain movies you can do that with and these are some of them for me.
Enjoy!
Glad you are doing well too! (sm)
I also have to remind myself I have it because I am fine. Sometimes I wish I didn't even know about it! I only got tested because I knew I was at risk. So you have had it about 8 years or so longer than me, and still doing great so that's really good!
I'm so glad she seems to be doing well
If she were in serious pain, she would let you know. You love her enough to do the right thing for her. So let her tell you when she is ready. Until then, treasure each moment with her.
Glad she's a little better
She'll definitely know when she's ready. I had posted before that I had lost my cat back in March. I'm still not over. Like one of the other posters, before she died, I think she had a stroke. She died at home. Just be there for her. On her last night I told her it was okay to go, and she must have listened because she died a few hours later.
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I am glad you had a nice heart-to-heart discussion with her. HOpefully, this opened the door to many more conversations and it sounds like may be her friends feel they can be honest to. I just hope you can get rid of this loser and hopefully she can stay away because my concern is if she wants no more will he except that. HOnestly, i hope she is not just saying that to make you happy and I don't know her very well so who am I to say. It sounds like she is being honest with you. This was her first time correct? If so, it sounds like she realized what a huge mistake it was. People, who are you to critize her for having this guy looked into. If you had the resources you would to! I know i definitley would. Well hopefully she will listen to her brother and I would stay out of it and act like you know nothing and see if she will come to you and talk to you about it. Hope it all works out for ya!
I'm glad you were seen right away!
Now maybe you can get some relief...at least temporarily until the root canal. Ugh, makes my stomach roll to even think about it! Hang in there!
Glad you are okay now
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but very glad to know this!!
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I'm glad some of the commments helped you. . It sounds like you have a good grip on things. . I hope everything works out for the two of you.
Glad you liked it! - sm
I watched it a bunch of times late last night. The French guy & his friend were visiting SF & did the filming, but I know a bunch of the SF downhillers. Too bad Lombard St. is paved with bricks, isn't it? I felt they did a little too much footage of the slalom skating in Fort Mason Park, but he IS amazingly agile.
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