I disagree, more expensive does not always equal better
Posted By: non on 2009-02-27
In Reply to: 'Scuse me, I buy ALL of those brands... - Neither rich NOR snooty
quality. Especially when it comes to cosmetics.
Instead of buying expensive creams containing cucumber extract, just put a cucumber on your face! Works equally
and even better!
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We are all equal. You are no better than anyone else, and no one else is any better than you.
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Army does not always equal
Though I completely understand where you're coming from. Hear her out about the complete plan of what she wants to do. She could go as non-combat, right? Be proud of her for making such a mature decision.
Equal treatment
I wasn't allowed to get my ears pierced as a girl until I was 12. My mother's reason was that I was too young to take care of them. Since boys mature slower than girls, I think 13 is perfectly reasonable. Also I don't know your son's interests but make sure he understands that some sports will require him to take it out to play.
IQ does not equal happiness
I've known other brilliant people who indulged in self-destruction. There have been studies that suggest the smarter you are the less happy you are, and there may be some truth in it.
The first reason for this would be people with attitudes like yours, abc. They hold smart people to the highest standards. They don't allow a genius to be human, but they do have weaknesses. Imagine spending your whole life hearing "If you're so smart how could you, why haven't you....". There is enormous pressure put upon them by others to do something great, to perform mental tricks for the amusement of others, to "prove how smart they are". Some become as insecure about it as beauty queens do about their looks - I remember when I was married to my genius, we watched a show about a child prodigy who could play great compositions at the age of 4. This show upset my ex, I could see it made him jealous and insecure, and nervous that he was not as great as everyone assumed him to be. Just like there's always someone richer, thinner, and better looking, there's always someone smarter too.
Another reason would be lonliness. The smarter you are, the less you have in common with the majority of the population. The things that interest you most people can't even understand. I think one purpose Mensa was created was so that they could find people to talk to on their own level. The pitfall there is most of them are so specialized in their own areas of interest they still don't have anything in common - the gifted musician does not want to discuss quantum theories with the scientist, they can understand it, they just aren't interested in it.
In my ex's case, his substance abuse has three factors - First, he's physically handicapped, and his health has always been a problem. He self medicates with substances to escape the misery of being in his body. Second, he's a classic nerd who never had any friends or a social life. He started abusing substances to try to be one of the cool partying folk, to fit in. All of his current friends abuse substances, but he at least has some friends now, that's how he sees it. Third, the pressure to perform has caused him to give up. He was a computer guru before computers were cool. Once computers were mainstreamed to the general populace, and new software was coming out on a daily basis, he could no longer know "it all". When he reached that crossroads, he panicked, gave up and dove into the bottle to hide from his insecurities.
A high IQ is often just as much a curse as a blessing. I am assuming the reason to abuse substance is pretty universal - the desire to escape reality for a while, then it becomes a habit. If a person doesn't have the courage to deal with reality and change their life, they may choose to destroy it instead.
Well, any healthy relationship should be close to equal
My husband works FT and still helps out a lot around the house. I only work PT, so I usually do the cooking, helping our daughter with homework and most of the cleaning. My husband always cleans the kitchen after I cook (and vice versa) though and he cleans the bathrooms. We also alternate doing the laundry. So, I'd say everything evens out to be pretty close to 50/50 in our relationship. We are truly best friends and we treat each other as such, and I would never dream of "serving" my man - that's just a ridiculous statement! I even had that part taken out of our wedding vows! If it becomes a problem where you feel like you're being taken advantage of, then you need to sit down with your husband and let him know that he needs to pull his own weight or you won't be happy. Good luck!
I got it! Tell him 1 more kid will equal a lot more child support after the divorce : )
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To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
It won't be making any difference. I tried a couple of techniques for my adults and very soon I came to realize they found the antidotes for them. If there are 10 sites telling how to monitor your kids, there are 1000 more telling how to escape it. Down the road you will be pushing your kids to visit those sites (full of porn banners & adult materials) and nothing else.
As an equal partner in this marriage, why is it wrong for me to express my wants? (sm)
You seem to imply that because he wants to live here, I have to whether I like it or not. I have lived here for over 10 years. Why is it wrong for me to want what I want, but okay for him to impose his wants on me?
It seems it would probably be less expensive SM
to just buy fabric and cut it out yourself. There are some great fabric stores with home dec fabrics. Anyway, should be easy, since just straight sewing.
Can anyone tell me just how expensive it is
to get a hearing aid, including the evaluation and the price of the device? My husband is driving me crazy. He can't seem to hear very well anymore and he is such a grump. We have insurance but I was wondering what to expect. I really have no idea if it is $250 or $2000. Thanks if you can help me.
Why do that have to be expensive?? (nm)
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**they have to be expensive????? (nm)
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I think they are expensive. Would rather have
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Uniforms are NOT more expensive.
My kids have been in public school and in Catholic school. Buying uniforms is waaaay cheaper than buying back-to-school clothes. My boys are required to wear khaki pants and a polo shirt, and non-scuff type brown shoes. (I choose to buy Skechers.) Each started with two pairs of pants and three shirts, and I spent less than $300 the first year. The clothing lasted all years, and I found that one pair of Skechers per boy was a good investment. One pair made it through an entire school year. (Previously I bought cheap Pay Less shoes every couple of months.) As time goes on, the older son handed down uniforms to the younger brother. I replaced uniform shirts or pants as needed, and there was no big rush to go school shopping in the beginning of the year. Our school also offers uniform exchanges to keep costs down, and will provide uniforms for free through the Home and School Association to families with financial need.
As far as expressing their individuality through their clothing, they still have street clothes for life outside of school, and they can express their individuality then. Or, they can be individuals simply by being themselves, because that's how it's done. I think the "expressing individuality" issues is over-rated. What we need more of these days is people thinking about the team, about each other, and how their actions impact the entire community. We need less of it's-all-about-me attitude, in my opinion. If uniforms help in that regard, I'm very much for them!
Often several people will go in together to get a more expensive
jk,
Mine are not the expensive ones
like you probably had but at the same time offered 1 and then told I could sell myself for twice so just decided to keep and wear myself. The funny thing is to just look at those you would think just junky cheap plastic. I found at the antique place some old Jewell Tea dishes and such, my stepmom had plenty and they were selling for prices unbelievable to me being as I knew cheap years ago. I did find out that probably would have sold necklaces and bracelets for less than the dealer told me to sell for.
I thought they were expensive too
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San Diego got way too expensive
Rent was about a grand a month eight years ago when I was 36 and had my precious baby I left there when he was eight months old. I stayed with my two of my best friends (gay couple) in Atlanta for over a year in their mansion-like home. I then came back here to MI, where it surely is cheap to live and he and I could be near my family. I bought a house last year for $13,000 (that's not a typo) and the cost of living is very reasonable here.
No, 27 is certainly not old and you're not having a mid-life crisis -- just wild oats. I used to call it "world of hate" when I would be ready to leave a city: Sick of traffic, sick of the people at the grocery store, sick of my neighbors. Then, I would plot out a journey and move on. Now, though, with my sweet child of school age, we can only wander off and travel in the summer months. So, do it while you can, girl!!
I know they are expensive. A pedicure alone
I wanted to get my grandma one but i just can't afford that!!!
Why are funerals so expensive?
After finding funeral home service for my grand mother. I think that funeral home is so expensive.
You agree with me?
Thanks! Bras are EXPENSIVE!! nm
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Very very expensive and demanding blessings, yes.
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Children are an expensive responsibility.
It's not fair to bring people into this world who will clearly be at a disadvantage from the get-go. They have no choice in the matter, you do.
very expensive but value added to home...sm
Lumber Liquidators for the bamboo and we needed 1400 s.f. and then to pay 2 men to install that and the cork backing...it was V_E_R_Y expensive but added about $25-$30G value to the home I do believe (was done a few years ago); besides the fact it is absolutely gorgeous and not difficult to take care of...but it's shoes off!
I heard Requip is very expensive, do you know how much?
I have it day and night, sometimes in involves more than my legs, and it drives me crazy.
Eladil, though expensive, works for me.
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How do you figure leasing is less expensive?
I've tried doing the math on that several times when we were going in to buy a car, but I never see it as being a saving. If I plan to keep a car for as long as it's useful and relatively trouble-free, leasing makes no sense. If I pay off a car in 3 years, or even 5 years, I could drive it for another 10 years and not have any car payments. But if I continuously lease new cars, I'll always have a car payment. The years w/o payments are money straight in the bank for me. I could see it being cheaper if you plan to buy a new car every couple of years, but I plan to drive my cars until they sputter, cough and die.
Incidentally, I just looked at a camry hybrid today. time to replace a puffing 12 year old car with 189,000 miles on it. I like it. Not sure the gas savings will outweigh that sticker price, tho. wow!
I personally think they are expensive and you would be better off going through Ebay...
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Stop with the expensive gifts.
Do gift cards and such, but don't knock yourself out.
A feline is not that expensive and what I have heard is
the rodents, etc. leave even when they catch a smell of them. Have not seen 1 here but at my other house my older feline caught and killed 2, 1 big and 1 smaller. She was very proud of herself.
I hated to pay for expensive bras as well
but it really is worth it I promise you. I have a black and a nude bra from VS. I went in for an actucal fitting and these bras have been wonderful. I don't think I will ever wear anything else. I know that you don't have to go to VS to get a good bra, but I had a gift certificate, and while I don't think that is what DH was expecting my to buy, it was totally worth it. Right now I am in the second year of both bras, just wash in the sink and hang dry which definitely helps keep them in shape. I am 38D so I really need plenty of support. It is almost time for new bras, but since you can tighten the straps as well as around as you go, they have made all the difference in the world. Like I said, you can get good quality bras at major department stores without spending what you would spend at VS, but just check into it. I promise you it will be worth it.
what price range...I see they are very expensive
I need a great shampooer.
West coast is all expensive...
So you settled back at home, 13K! WOW I would never settle back in Cali... like you said it's way too expensive and the wages (at least what i make) definitely don't keep up with the cost of living. I have found in the South the living is sooooo much more affordable, but then I have to think of the pros and cons like the weather (never been in a hurricane, they kinda scare me)... but the people are absolutely wonderful! at least everyone I have encountered was so nice and polite, again nothing like the west coast. I just visited Atlanta when I was in NC two weeks ago and fell in LOVE with it. However, it's a bit big for me but I am curious to know more about it... just as an option. Do you mind if I email you directly? Thanks again for your insight!
Yes! Can you see 3 of them? And they are expensive, too. DH HATES it! haha nm
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Those places tend to be more expensive sm
Glad you found something that works for you, but that is not the case with everyone. QVC, Catherine's, etc, tend to be more expensive, which is okay for a special occasion outfit once in a great while, but I cannot afford to spend that kind of money on my everyday clothing. Also, if I can't try it on, I usually don't buy it. I have bought clothing from catalogs and feel for me that it is not worth the hassle. Things look one way on TV or in a picture that do not translate well on me. Even in a store, I have picked something up that I thought was really nice and hated it once I tried it on, as I am sure many women have. I am not defending wearing too-small clothes. I am only trying to come up with a reason for someone doing so. You wouldn't catch me dead out of the house in something too small.
Cant understand that. Cosmetics are EXPENSIVE!
I just can see paying like $9.50 for a lipstick, when that will buy a gallon of milk, some pasta, some veggies, & maybe a couple pieces of chicken.
(Surely there can't be THAT many Tammy Faye Bakers in this country!)
Yeah but Macy's is EXPENSIVE. NM
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I would definitely stop this expensive gifts, but
I think that your son/daughter is either spoiled or maybe really depressed.
I would try to get closer to him/her and 'shake' him/her up to get out of this lethargy.
You did not explain much how your relationship with your son/daughter is in general?
If he/she is maried, children, etc....
Was it rude for your friend to want expensive gift?
Probably not but just not intelligent for the ones who would feel obligated to get one. A gift is simply that. You buy what YOU want to buy, not what another person wants to receive. A gift is given from the heart, makes no difference about the cost of it. Only someone shallow would worry about whether their gift was good enough.
I have seen them offered in VERY expensive housing markets -
I saw ads for 40-year mortgages offered when were on vacation in Hawaii a few years ago. My friend who lives in San Fran got one. The prices for houses in these markets is through the roof and it is the only way most people can afford anything at all. They are not offered any place I have seen where I live, which is AL. I agree with the poster below about maybe taking a loss on it with being in it for such a short period of time and wondering what the market might do and not having much equity in it when you go to sell. Remember to add in your closing costs because those are not cheap! I would just start calling around to banks. Most will be very eager to help you out. They love mortgages of any kind! :-)
The school-sponsored "jewelers" are too expensive.
Go to some place like Wal-mart for a decent ring for MUCH less money.
I'm glad my sons weren't interested in class rings. That saved me tons of money! And kids don't wear high school rings for very long after they graduate. I see more college rings on adult hands than high school rings. My youngest son decided he'd rather have an ring signifying he's an Eagle Scout, and we'll probably get that for him to present at his ceremony.
As for me, I remember how shocking the price was for my high school ring. Way back in 19mumblemumble I paid $65 for a Josten's ring! ROFL! Either I'm REALLY old, or inflation is just unbelievable!
Expensive, but love smell of my little grandson.
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Wore very expensive clothes. No one said a word.
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that. Biological has to be in the description. Wildly expensive, but works even
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Disagree with you on this
Happened to my father and it falls under the category of elderly abuse, same as if you beat old folks up. My father had no dementia but after his spouse passing, the younger married women moved in on him. He had lots of money. A person likes attention from someone they think finds them attractive. He had plenty of friends and associates, did not spend lonely times at home, nothing like that- just thought the wonen were interested in him sexually. He gave away over $100,000.00 to 1 woman I found out after he was killed in accident - get this, going to see her!
I disagree!!!!
Frenchie willingly posed completely topless for money for a website that reportedly was also using underage girls and apparently did not have a good reputation. Antonella posed with her friends and I believe a boyfriend and they betrayed her and put her pictures on the internet behind her back. They were really not even *nude* photos. I'm not saying they're not bad but then again in today's world is there anything left that would be really shocking? I definitely disagree that this was even similar to Frenchie's situation and her playing the race card is oh so typical and sickening to me. Some things never change. The only thing Antonella is guilty of is being a lousy singer.
I disagree and here's why - sm
While I may disagree with the idea of abortion, I am also completely against someone taking away a choice that is MINE, whatever the reason may be.
I don't understand why so many people don't try to look at the bigger picture. There are many reasons why a woman might choose abortion, not just as a form of birth control.
Can you honestly say if you knew a woman or girl was raped or became pregnant by incestuous means that you would prefer to traumatize her further by forcing her to carry a baby to term? I know the baby is an innocent that didn't ask for what happens. I struggle with that thought too but... I also believe that is one less baby who would probably be neglected, abused, or worse because that same woman or girl feels pressure to keep this baby.
If you are lucky enough to have never suffered a brutal rape, you could not possibly understand. If you have and you still feel this way, you are stronger than many many many women.
Disagree with you sm
I'm not going to get into a religious war but a TRUE Christian would never dress like that!
I disagree
I was both in the military and legally drinking when I was 18. Husband, whom I met and married in the military when I was still a teen, entered when he graduated high school at 17. We did not have a problem with drinking responsibly and neither did most of our fellow soldiers at that age. In fact, most of the young soldiers just out of high school are way more responsible than the average college student years older because that responsibility and accountability is demanded of them by the military and is generally not demanded in civilian life.
People trying to take away even more responsibility/accountability by excusing bad behavior because of the "youth" of people that are legally adults are creating the problem by refusing to put the accountability for said bad behavior exactly where it belongs--on the people behaving irresponsibly, and likely on the parents for not instilling the knowledge that there are consequences for bad actions. Budweiser is not responsible for their idiocy. Jack Daniels is not responsible for their stupidity. They are.
Oh I so disagree with you
I tried and tried, did things my g'children loved but I did NOT want them playing on my company computer and my company machines, not mine but if I asked them to come out of the room then the DIL thought I was wrong because at the other g'parents home they could do everything they wanted? As a PARENT you have to instill the fact there is not just 1 set of parents, usually 2 - maternal as well as paternal and both should be able to spend time with the kids. It is terribly unfair otherwise just to be 1 sided and this is exactly what happened in my case. I had no say in my being bypassed. My DIL so entangled in her family, my side didn’t and still doesn’t count. I eventually gave up- I did not want to compete for attention.
I disagree...I think you are looking too far into this...
her children obviously don't want to go for a reason because they are crying not to go...sounds to me like something the grandmother is doing and not the mother...rememeber she asked for opinions not judgement...
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