I had a great uncle who hated the custom of "viewings"
Posted By: Lllls on 2008-12-09
In Reply to: This may seem gross or morbid...sm - curious
And you know, so many people will say things like, "He looks good/peaceful/asleep," etc. My uncle always used to say, "Now how can he look good, he's dead!" Well, my dear uncle passed away at the age of 96. He died peacefully in his sleep. He was independent and active all of his life. The day he died, he had been working in his garden, doing house repairs, and cooking dinner for himself and his wife. Business as usual, except he went to bed that evening and quietly passed away. Wouldn't we all like to finish out 96 years like that! There was a closed casket at the viewing, and his wife told us, "Well, you know how Joe felt. He didn't want people filing by saying 'He looks good.' But the thing is, he actually looks great!" My aunt was a little sad that she didn't have an open-casket viewing, but it was Uncle Joe's wish for a closed casket.
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why do we have this custom anyway?
I never want to see anyone that way, I want to remember them as they were alive. The last few funerals I've been to they haven't forced you to go look like they used to. when I was younger they made you go row by row and file by the casket. My 6-week-old nephew died of SIDS when I was 14 and that was a horrible experience to see his little body in that tiny little coffin. After that I always sat on the end of the pew and snuck out the back when they tried to make you go look. I think it's kind of morbid to make you go look if you don't want to. It's not like you have to see their empty shell to say goodbye.
I went with a custom color I made....
If you click on 'customize' it brings up this color wheel sort of thing. I just scrolled around until I found something that was both soothing on the ol' eyeballs and tickled my fancy. I would up going with like a periwinkle blue/gray/violet combination and it so purdy...makes me smile when I type.
I like him! Fun, artistic, not stuffy. Not into the extreme custom, high-end stuff. nm
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My uncle did that, his daughter
who was 8 told him not to, but he didn't believe her.
How wonderful to know someone like your step-uncle!
Have a great weekend with your family!
Does he like Uncle John's sausage? sm
I can't remember where you said y'all were now, but that is definitely a local thing. Their plant is in Brandon. Anyway, they are also available online but the shipping is very expensive. They are the ones that make the mojo sausage (and other fresh sausage) and sell it to Sweetbay/Kash N Karry stores.
Thank you. Like I said before, I hated to
have to ask for help, but I did what was necessary to take care of my kids. I know there are lots of people who abuse government assistance and that should be stopped. I was not one of them. As soon as I could, I got off food stamps. Sometimes, though, you just do what you have to do.
My mom hated everybody.
It is hard to be around and infectious. She had been disappointed by the people whom she trusted and loved at a very tender age. I'd change subject and if that is not possible, go shopping or some other activity together, something that limits ability to express ones' self. (one's self, oneself. omg which is it?))
Negativity is contagious though.
Love the Italian therapy! My dad and uncle were...
raised that way...no coddling or worrying about hurting the little one's feelings. My grandmother would have made a fortune from her therapeutic thwaps!
Going to my aunt & uncle's house as usual
My husband, my parents, and I all drive down to my aunt and uncle's house every year. We usually bring something like pumpkin and/or apple pie.
This is truly sickening. I had an uncle who lived with his mother sm
until his 50s, lived off of her, stole from her, slept in the same bedroom. They are both gone now, but the whole family was disgusted by this and him. She was definitely an enabler. Would borrow money so she could "help him out." He attended a methadone clinic monthly and she paid for it. No one could tell her anything, either.
He died young. Committed suicide.
because WE, the people are NOT hated by them
That was one of the most hated on the list! (nm)
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I had a dog once that hated when I left and would eat anything he could get...sm
We put him in an old fashioned wire dog cage and he bent the door down on it and then ate through the wall and then on to my moms sofa, pillows, and rugs. Needless to say mom was not happy with me or Rambo! He was just a stray that got so attached to me he would get angry when I left him. Ended up taking him everywhere I could!!
TV Commericals - most hated.
1. Political.
2. Car/trucks.
3. Geico.
4. Safe Auto.
5. Reverse mortgages.
I know there's more. What's yours?
I lived there and HATED it!
There is nothing to do in North Carolina. The BIG event in Raleigh is the weekly Farmer's Market. The lakes are ugly, manmade bowl-like things. The police are out of control in that part of the country.
You could not PAY me to live in North Carolina again. At least not near Raleigh. Charlotte and the Mountain area are nice, but for the middle of the state? YUCK!!!
Yeah, my mom tried it and HATED the food.
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Lived right at the beach before, hated it
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I had a dog that hated it when I worked outside the home.
She would climb up on the kitchen table and then jump over to the counter. We wondered for a long time which one of the kids was wiping a slice of bread or something across the top of the butter in the dish and leaving the lid off. Then I figured out after coming home one day to dog vomit on my kitchen table that it was dog lick marks in the butter. EWWWWW!!!! She used to go potty in the house and sleep on the furniture. I couldn't leave her outside all day in the winter so we put in a dog door. That worked OK until a city employee operating a grader drove over our back fence and she got out.
I hated to pay for expensive bras as well
but it really is worth it I promise you. I have a black and a nude bra from VS. I went in for an actucal fitting and these bras have been wonderful. I don't think I will ever wear anything else. I know that you don't have to go to VS to get a good bra, but I had a gift certificate, and while I don't think that is what DH was expecting my to buy, it was totally worth it. Right now I am in the second year of both bras, just wash in the sink and hang dry which definitely helps keep them in shape. I am 38D so I really need plenty of support. It is almost time for new bras, but since you can tighten the straps as well as around as you go, they have made all the difference in the world. Like I said, you can get good quality bras at major department stores without spending what you would spend at VS, but just check into it. I promise you it will be worth it.
Agree. As much as I hated Bush and
all his policies, etc., I won't say a harsh word about his wife and daughters. That's just silly.
My uncle told me each teat on a cow gave different kinds of milk (sm)
One for whole, one for 2%, one for chocolate, and one for buttermilk. That was when I was *real* little; I don't think I bought that one very long.
He also told me that the mountain people had to have "hill cows" which had legs shorter one side than the other so they could stand on the hills without falling over. (If you've ever seen cows standing on a steep hill in the mountains, you'll understand why I believed that for a while...)
LOL.
My uncle's sister worked as Paul Anka's assistant
and got us free tickets to a show in Vegas :)
When our rich uncle got out of the poor house we'd be rich...sm
when we were young we'd think we'd be rich one day and it took us a while to catch on!
Limbo. Great song, great game. Also,
The girls all line up and walk through a room as if they are modeling on the catwalk. Get a couple of bright colored boa's from the party store. It's a real riot and the kids have a blast especially if a couple of brave boys grab a boa and do it too. We've had many a birthday party doing this and it was totally hilarious.
Wow!! What a great attitude! I love that - great perspective!
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What great determination and help from a great friend! :) nm
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I am sure that you are a great mother and a great cook,
and that you tried everything, now try the 'hunger diet'.
Great one! Thanks!! nm
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That's great!!
A great big congrats to your daughter! She is so fortunate to have such a supportive and helpful family!!
Did he say anything at all about how great a new job for you would be? I'd keep an eye on him as
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Wow, that's great!
We had always said 3 and that's when we stopped. They are all teenagers now. Wouldn't change a thing either.
That was great.
I'm glad they did that. What fun. Not only was he thin, but his clothes were nice. No jump suit. I preferred his hair when it was his natural brown rather than the black dye job.
That's great - sm
I'm glad I don't need them anymore then! Also check with your state regarding laws about those things. For example, in Florida you are only allowed to borrow 500, in which case I would be weary of anyone offering more. Thanks for the tip - looks like you should be advising me!
Great, thanks!
I listen and take all ideas I can.
My mom did it and it looks great.
She did not fill in the cracks, and it looks great simply painted.
DS, he does a great job.
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For her age, I don't think she looks great at all
isn't she around 20? She looks more like 30 and haggard half the time. Oh, and you too can have that body with the cocaine/alcohol-only diet! Get real!
She is such a piece of garbage. But they say her mother is too (was desperate for fame so pushed her daughter into the spotlight) and her dad as well (didn't he just get released from prison)?
Sad.
That's great! Another one sm
I haven't seen Chuck and Larry yet, but will definitely ignore the reviews and see it. I love good comedies.
Another one, if you haven't seen it, is the Wedding Crashers. I thought it was just supposed to be a silly romantic comedy, but my daughter and watched it on cable last weekend and I cannot remember the last time I laughed out loud, spewing drink laughing, in some time. See that movie.
I think it would be a great job (sm)
True they don't pay real high but you are at your kids school, no child care costs, good benefits, and summers off - sounds pretty good to me!!! They are hard to get where I live also though. Best wishes to you!
That was great. Thanks. (nm)
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Great Job
There should be more people like you!
They have been a great help to me
in dealing with a similiar situation with a family member. Sometimes you hear things that you don't want to hear but the people in these groups have been in your shoes and they understand what you're going through like no one else.
I got to do this. It was great.
I contacted her because I was going to the 20-year reunion. I couldn't talk her into going, but I did get her to meet me for another trip back home.
There was plenty to talk about. It was great.
Have a great
weekend everybody
Thanks. Those were great! nm
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They are not that great...SM
They are great for a while, but then if the DVD player breaks, you are stuck with a TV with a broken DVD player and end up having the buy a whole new DVD player. If the TV breaks, you are stuck with a DVD player that you can't use because the TV part is broken. I would not recommend getting a TV/DVD player combo. I know many people who had had these problems with them. I would buy each component separate so that if one thing breaks, you only have to replace that.
That was great! Thanks. nm
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Great tip! Thanks!
Thank you for that website. I'm going to check them out. Thanks to everyone for all of your informative posts on this subject. You have all be very, very helpful. I appreciate you!!
That's a great one!...sm
Rhinoceros where stomping out fires (the fire brigade)...We wore the tape out watching it so many times...I suppose it's on DVD by now. Thanks for reminding me of that one!  Cat
This is great!
This is the greatest thing I have seen in a long time. I just cannot stop laughing.  I know I will remember this one for as long as I live! Thank you so much for this holiday memory. MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL. (I did not mean to yell, just consider it a loud voice LOL.)
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