I have not been there, but...

Posted By: Kendra on 2009-01-07
In Reply to: Need advice from those of you who have been there. SM - anon

I have a hard time accepting that a marriage, especially one of many years, is disposable so easily. If he has not done anything to break his vows, cheated, beat you, etc., I think that you owe it to him and the proises that you made to try to work it out. I know that marriage is not always easy and that people grow apart, but there must have been something about him that made you love him, and I bet, if you try hard enough, you can see it again. Of course, I may be a little idealistic.

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Need advice from those of you who have been there. SM - anon
- Wow - same exact situation - mirror image
- Use caution.... - Innocent Bystander
  - Very well said... - me
- reverse it - reverse it
- Lady, just get out. You women who vacillate should I or - heres2cents
- OMG! Some of you people!!!! WTH??! sm - dumbfounded
  - ranter - me
- I am the OP and I did not mean to get people angry here. SM - anon
  - Feelings may be temporary sm - anonamiss
  - You do what you feel you need to do... - Been through it....
    - I get this little vision of you - LOL
      - as my version of "born again christian" - I'm glad you had a chucke
        COME ON PEOPLE!!! - christian
        Definitely take this gals advice! - what can I say?
  - I am in a very similar situation (sm) - anontoo
- I don't know the circumstances around - don't know
- I don't understand how people can advise - You know the answer
  - I think it is important to realize that... - Kendra
    - Read OP's post........... - Refuse to live in misery
      - I read the OPs post and nowhere - grams
      - I never once mentioned the Bible and have... - Kendra
      - Perverting the normal - to the troll
        Trolls like this generally are very unhappy people.......... sm - m
  - Life is too short - life is not that short
    - Better to live alone than with someone who degrades you (sm) - some things are worse than being alone
    - What?? You could end up the same way - even if you stayed married
    - And what do you call yourself in - What??
      - gloria - fish and bikes
        I think I struck a nerve with you because - How very mature of you
        name one creature on this earth that - lives alone
        Male grizzly bears, for one. (sm) - Me
        I DO! - some people DO live alone you know
        And you do not have to live with - shaking head
        security - secure
        WTH? That creeps me out - some people DO live alone you know
        No you do not have to live with people - still shaking head
    - That was the deciding factor--sm - DeeAnn
      - Not the OP, but thanks for the encouragement. - Me
    - nursing homes - one more for the throw away men
      - song - man lover
        I LOVE Leonard Cohen! - Kendra
- breaking the vase - my opinion
  - This has to be - one of the best...sm
    - Life is more fluid than a clay vessel, I think. - Me
- I have not been there, but... - Kendra
  - I got married out of fear. Then (sm) - I realized
    - Good for you! - Kendra
- A couple of things.......... sm - m
  - if your ex is the type of person who would allow (sm) - Just curious
    - Also, I tend to look back at decisions I made and (sm) - Just curious
- My parents were going to divorce before I turned 18 too... - AnonInFla
- IMOP there's no such thing as painless - - NYMT

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