Home     Contact Us    
Main Board Job Seeker's Board Job Wanted Board Resume Bank Company Board Word Help Medquist New MTs Classifieds Offshore Concerns VR/Speech Recognition Tech Help Coding/Medical Billing
Gab Board Politics Comedy Stop Health Issues
ADVERTISEMENT




Serving Over 20,000 US Medical Transcriptionists

I wanted to share this letter I sent to my mom who now lives sm

Posted By: Away from my momma... on 2007-11-20
In Reply to:

3,000 miles away this Thanksgiving/Christmas season.....I hope someone gets a kick out of it. I'm so sad today.


Good afternoon Ms. Best-Thanksgiving-Cook in the whole world! How are you today?


You know, I got really sad this morning when I was looking at all of the groceries I bought for my thanksgiving dinner.  I wasn't sure if I forgot anything or what exactly you're supposed to include in your traditional Thanksgiving dinner.  I became sad because growing up at 16, 17, 18, 19+, etc., I don't remember watching you cook or even helping you in the kitchen!  I was too busy being dumb! I do remember eating like a hog though.  That makes me sad.  Because I didn't watch you or HELP YOU (like I need help this week).  Why didn't I help you????  I did other things in vain that didn't even matter and now look - I don't even know how to take the neck parts out of a turkey or even what to do with it, what pan to use, how to stuff it, or anything!  When do I start defrosting it??

 

This is really my first real turkey! I was going to do it last year but I think I just bought a little hen.  This year, we are going to have some military families come over (maybe I inherited that much from  you), so I went ahead and got an 18 pounder and a large ham with the bone in it.  I don't even know what to do with that.  I spent 200.00 on all kinds of things and now I'm sitting here going, "Okay, what do I do with all this food and spices?"

 

I bought a couple of cans of pumpkin mix and Chris asked me, "What are you going to do with the pumpkin mix?" I was like, "I have no idea. I just thought I needed it.  You do something with it!" 

 

Where in the world is grandma Howard when you need her to come over and bring her world-famous Sweet Potato Pie!?  And your famous stuffing which I haven't had in 10 years?!

-------------------

 

I sent this letter to my mom this week.  I am a married mom of 3 now with regrets of not spending more time in the kitchen with my mom.  Instead I remember getting ready and going out with friends and ditching her on Thanksgiving and returning home late at night and eating leftovers.

 

What I wish I knew then what I know now...and need to know now...

 



Complete Discussion Below: marks the location of current message within thread

The messages you are viewing are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select the boards given in left menu


Other related messages found in our database

Just wanted to share...sm

I worked at a physical rehab center for 5 years.  As another poster stated, the amount of improvement depends on a lot of things.  However, I saw people leave or return for appts with no noticeable residual, others who still had deficits but were independent.  Those who were permanently impaired learned to adapt. There are some really cool gadgets out there! One thing I learned from working at the rehab center was determination really *can* pay off.  It was inspiring working there. 


IF your dad needs extensive therapy, the hardest part for YOU may be keeping him motivated.  So, best of luck to your dad, you and the family.  Let us know how things are going.


Wanted to share
My friend who is the companion to Sophia who I pictured in lower thread just made this video, she is an amateur, it brought tears to my eyes. She rescued Sophia from the woods behind her apartment building. She and others just got through rescuing another backyard chow too, she will be beautiful one day like Sophia too. Enjoy!

 


Just wanted to share some Halloweed fun....sm

It has become a tradition in our neighborhood to "spook" our neighbors.  Here is how it works. 


First the poem


Good Evening My Friends!


The Gretting of the Ghosts are haunting your way


A cursewill be left if you fail to obey!


To ward off the curse of the dreaded Phanton Wart


You have just ONE day till you must start.


Take treats to two houses in your neighborhood.


Be sure they are tasty! Be sure they are good!


Copy a letter and a phantom for each.


Help the "spirit" spread to those you can reach.


Post the ghost of the phanton on your front door.


So others can see he has been there before.


Join the fun of the season


Keep him right in sight


Share the "spirit" of giving


Till Halloween Night!


Sincerely,


                                             The Halloween Phantom.


 


Here is the rest....My dauther downloaded a picture of a ghost and printed it on an 8x10 piece of paper so we could go ahead and get started without having to make copies.


Then go to the dollar store and first get a big plastic candy bowl.  In our bowl we received last night there was candy....always candy, a halloween candle, a cermic figurine of a bear dressed like a ghost, halloween clings for windows, halloween potholders, and our fav. Peeps ghosts, all which I am sure came from the dollar store.  My son came home and found the bowl on front porch. 


Here are some other things we have recieved in the past....candy....always candy, halloween dishtowels, stickers, bubbles, and gel pens when the kids were younger, a plant in a halloween container, chip clips, magnetic grocery lists, brownine mixes, even a halloween throw rug for the front door.


We once spooked a couple that did not have kids so we gave them some goodies as well as dog treats. 


We also once spooked a family with a daughter the same age as mine so we thought we could get some really cute things.  They were Jehovah's witnesses.  Needless to say they did not put the pic. of the ghost on the front door. 


This has been going on in this growing neighborhood for the past 5 years and everyone really seems to enjoy it. 


This is also a geat idea for school teachers, dorm rooms, etc.  Hope this inspires some.


Just wanted to share my new cutie pie!
This is Radar, our new boxer puppy!
Just wanted to share my new cutie pie!
This is Radar, our new boxer puppy!
Thought this was priceless...wanted to share

Doctor just dictated this:


"I listened to the dictated report on the phone, but the radiologist speaks so quickly I cannot determine exactly what she said about FDG avidity of these lymph nodes."


I found this site of recipes wanted to share
All these recipes look good, from the Rice Dream/Soy Dream product - I want to make the macaroni casserole, pumpkin corn chowder, rice dream cupcakes with chocolate frosting, soy dream garlic mashed potatoes, banana berry smoothie, French Dream toast. Heck I want to do all of their recipes. They all sound good so wanted to share the site:

http://www.tastethedream.com/recipes/index.php


A cute little article/story my husband just wrote that I wanted to share!

Layoffs in the North Pole


 


Story by Bill Perkins


 


 


In a press release this morning Santa Claus announced the layoff of nearly 800,000 elf employees. The announcement was completely unexpected despite the current economic situation.


 


Due to the failing economy, and many companies cutting costs wherever they can, including advertising, Mr. Claus has lost several endorsement jobs.


 


Mr. Claus is seeking government aid, requesting his own bailout package from several different governments. However, he is meeting a great deal of resistance. Many toymakers and distributors, namely Walmart, Playskool, and the Chinese government, are lobbying against the bailout. They say Santa's "Free Toy for Every Child" program is a seasonal monopoly, and it generally takes four months to recover the losses sustained from his "good deeds."


 


Children across the globe will feel the impact this Christmas, particularly the naughty ones. Traditionally, naughty children receive lumps of coal from Santa on Christmas. Mr. Claus has no coal to give, though, as it was part of the elves' severance packages. It is Santa's hope that it will at least be enough to keep his former employees warm through the winter.


 


When asked if there was any hope of the elves returning to work next year, Santa replied, "It doesn't look very promising. The elves are like family to me; I love them all very dearly. Unfortunately, illegal immigrants work for a lot less, and I don't have to provide benefits, so that's probably what I'll have to do. It was a difficult decision to make, but it's necessary if I want to keep the business in operation."


 


The elves aren't the only ones hurting. The reindeer are suffering a great deal more. Mr. Claus has had to auction off much of his breeding stock just to stay operational until Christmas Eve. (See related story on page 5, "McDonald's Debuts new Christmas Menu.) It is questionable at this point how much longer Santa will be able to make his annual flight.


 


Could this be the beginning of the end of Santa Claus? Only time will tell for sure.


My husband wanted me to pick out what I wanted....sm
I narrowed it down to 2 choices and let him make the final decision on which style/carat size to get.
You will probably just need a letter
from your vet. But if you have any of the packages from the bad food, keep them, whether they are empty or still full. If they are still full, at least you can show you had been buying them at the time. Just make sure nobody accidently uses them!
letter
I worked for a family practice physician who would send personal letters to the family of any of his patients who died. He also pulled me aside when my dad died and expressed his condolences and told me how much he had enjoyed being my dad's doctor. What a great guy.
Anyone else get this letter in mail?
Got letter in mail --  inquiry about 'opportunity' for my service to hire on 50+ MTs including dictation platform - something about an MTSO losing 98% of its hospital business in November and wanting to place these MTs.  ?  I'm wondering if these poor MTs even know about it yet ??
That was the letter he was given by the teacher. nm
x
I have already written them a letter that I will
I also suggested they take the "America" off their name as they don't represent America in any form.

Sad letter to granddaughter
My GD has started college now. This is son's child. I have posted here before but for years I was always put on the backburner, her maternal side of the family always came first. I tried, really tried, took the entire family on wonderful vacations, bought clothes, gave them this and that but hardly any visits (passed me by on the way to the other GMs home) - always calls though from DIL but I so wanted to speak with my own son some. Oh, I could see and talk with him when I paid to have work done around my home (although on the maternal's side, GM and great-GM always had yard cleaning, painting, whatever done as freebies.) It really hurt my feelings. My DIL's family have no outside friends, just family and thick as thieves so I was the outsider. I remarried about 7 or so years ago and have wonderful man for a husband, spoils me and we have, in our golden years, much to be thankful for, jobs, travel, wonderful relationship. After my son wanted to give me a tongue lashing about what he perceives me to get in money from my father's estate, I had enough and basically threw in the towel. Just too much to take any more abuse, verbal or otherwise. I get letter yesterday from my GD asking me why did I give up "blood" for my present husband? I could not believe what she said. She said saw her great-aunts more than she does me or even communicates with me- This went on from the time she was born and it was due to her mother basically taking the kids around her family more than me. I used to cry, I was sad but finally just gave up and I mean no visits, no calls, no nothing. I cannot tell her why- she probably would never believe me and why should she? She is her mother's daughter and extremely close to the maternal side. I wrote her back and told her unable to say why, would not be believed anyway- would only cause people to feel worse towards me (I never explained to anyone there why I stopped coming around- just stopped). I have been passed over all these years, just basically ignored when it came to the kids and now this?? I told her I would be the fall guy and to believe the ones she has heard for years, I would have nothing more to say. My father (prior to his death) had given the GD and her brother both $5,000.00 in their high school years to buy their clothing until they got out of HS- her mother spent that but does this daughter know? I kept that a secret- never said anything, would not be believed probably but yet this GD says I bailed when times got tough? My father also gave the GD and her brother (both my g-children) $20,000.00 several years ago for their college- I have no idea if any of that left in the bank as after father's death the parents of these children had access to the accounts- and yet I am to blame for bailing so to speak? I could write a book on this. My heart has been heavy for years but no way could I find to squeeze into their lives and now this. The no visiting and so forth started way before this marriage and now I have a DH who loves and adores me and yet I am catching flak for dropping out. My GD says the bad thing is that I seem to be content with things as they are- I have had to learn to live and accept things as they are if I could not change them and I am content now .Anyone else have a similar problem? Oh BTW, I moved to my new home in 2004- son who lives about 15 minutes away has never been to my new home nor even called.
I think that is really a touching letter. sm
I could send the exact same letter to my mom, unfortunately she is no longer here. Not trying to bring you down, but I am going to start paying more attention to my MIL cooking. She does the Thanksgiving dinner every year and I just make a couple of casseroles. Just may have to spend the day with her which is something I really enjoy doing, most of the time. LOL
What a lovely letter...sm
Thanks for sharing it.....My Mom's 1004 miles away.... I'm sure you've called her by now to get all the "how to's" for your first turkey and all the trimmings...She'll be delighted to give you all the secret family recipes....Have a great Thanksgiving!  Cat      
This is a letter I sent to the parents of a
I am writing to inform you that, after much discussion with other parents of children who are in direct contact with your son, Matthew, and daughter, Samantha, i.e. on the bus and in school, it has been the consensus that your children seem to be modeling quite a bit of inappropriate behavior, including bullying and inappropriate language, as well as not being able to keep their hands off of other children. As parents of children in this community, we are concerned about your children’s apparent complete lack of respect for not only the rules of the school and the bus, but also lack of empathy for the feelings of their classmates and fellow bus riders. Bullying is not only painful to the victim, but is also a reflection of the bully’s own ineptness at dealing with their own feelings of insecurity and perhaps a direct reflection of a dysfunctional home life. It also interferes with all of the children’s education and the feeling of safety and community in the school environment.

As the parents of these children, we would avail you to please work with your children to teach them appropriate behavior and to keep their hands to themselves in order to not be disruptive and stressors to the other well-adjusted children in the classroom setting.

Thank you in advance for your efforts to teach your children appropriate behavior and social skills.

anything positive come out of this letter?
x
I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph.  I would have left that section out.  At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
Stimulus Letter
Even though I had my direct deposited, I actually got a letter two days after it was already deposited that it would be coming.
If its a business letter,
I wouldn't use Thanks. It's too informal for me. I use the old standby Sincerely most often.
he did send a thank you letter
the following day. See I don't know if the secretary gave the interviewer the message and he didn't call back or if he didn't get it. If he did get it I'm worried if he calls again he'll seem to pushy.

They should just make it a law that you have to tell them right after the interview!! LOL
Send them a letter . . .
stating that the debt is not valid. They will have to prove the debt is valid within 30 days before they can continue trying to collect. A lot of times, collection agencies buy up batches of bad debt for pennies on the dollar and do not have documentation to prove it is a valid debt. Many times, they give up after this, but will sell it to another collection agency. Also send a letter telling them to stop contacting you. It is a good idea to send these letters certified.

If they cannot prove it, dispute it if it is on your credit reports. Also check your state's statute of limitations for collecting debt. In my state it is 7 years. If they do not collect it by then, they are legally out of luck.

Lastly, if they prove it is a valid debt and it is within the legal time frame, you can negotiate a payoff with them. Don't pay more than the original debt because they only paid pennies on the dollar for it.
having said that, I would tell my husband about the letter...
He deserves to know what is being said about him.
Been there - I just cut them off and out of our lives!
Don't feel any bit of guilt either. My in-laws, the whole bunch of them, are just nasty, evil people and I refuse to be around them. My kids don't even want to be around them. If my hubby wants, he can go by himself, but he doesn't even want to be around them. It took a lot of hurt, and evil doings for me to get this way, but I am here and will never have them as part of my family ever again!

I am Thankful they are out of our lives!
if one lives to be even 80 though...
At 50, that's still 30 years to go...a lifetime! Guess it's a relative question and I will be looking forward to your responses!
I am the one who lives in FL from below.
You are exactly right. We got hit by Charley and then once repaired, policy was cancelled, thru the bank no less!
PS: I didn't send the letter...Thanks! nm
/
does pizza hut begin with the letter D?
nm
They guaranteed me a letter grade better
It is quite expensive though. But it was worth it in my household. Good luck!
Mine is letter carrier
and with mail volume going down, he is thankful for Netflix, and Amazon, and E-bay and people mailing oranges from Florida, and . . . .
To the poster that got the certified letter from the ER

Been thinking about you and hoping everything turned out okay.


 


I would write a detailed letter - sm
to the teacher, school counselor, principal, and send a copy to the school board. No resolution, no satisfaction, no kids in your school!

That counselor was way out of line but the blame also falls to the principal and teacher for not following up and making sure you were able to get a meeting.

They have some nerve. They forget WHO pays their salaries.
I just read a letter I received from the SM

ASPCA thanking me for my membership and devotion.  The letter describes a gift they will be sending in appreciation.


They indicate a gift from "Miss Bea" will be comiing. They tell the story of this darling little dog who was locked in a closet with atrophied muscles from no exercise, etc. This dog was living with pounds of matter fur and living in urine and feces. 


The letter went on to say that every time they go into the field to rescue an aminal people like me are with them. 


I just needed to share this with you, and to urge you to donate to either the ASPCA or your local animal shelter in behalf of these defneseless animals. The level of cruelty and ignorance is apauling.


I am reduced to tears with emotion at this story, and the fact that I am so appreciated. Thanks for listening.


 


 


no letter p was allowed on this street
When my dd was first learning her alphabet we were driving down the street
one day and she asks me why no letter p was allowed on this street. It took me a minute to realize she was talking about a no parking sign.
Letter to Tech Support...sm
Thought I would share this exchange with Tech Support:

Dear Tech Support,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in overall system performance, particularly in the Flower and Jewelry application, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed undesirable programs such as NASCAR 6.0, NFL 5.1 and Golf Clubs 4.1.

Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system.

Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail. What can I do?

Signed, Desperate

DEAR DESPERATE,

First, keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system.

Please go to the Web page "ithoughtyoulovedme.html" and try to download Tears 6.2. Do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update while you're at it.

If those applications work as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5.

However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default toGrumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0 or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6. 1 is a very bad program that will download the Farting and Snoring Loudly Beta.

Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0, which runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.

In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0-program. This will cause Husband 1.0 to crash.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great operating system, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We recommend Cooking 3.0 and Hot Lingerie 7.7.

Good luck!
write him a letter and explain to him like you
explained it to us. Tell him how you really feel. Give him some days to 'digest' it, then give him a call.
If you have definitely made up your mind, you have to tell him before he gets out, otherwise I doubt that you will be able to tell him face to face and you will just give in.
This is a joke, right? Your son LIVES with her,
and you wonder about any of this? Give me a break! If the coach were God Himself, that would be no excuse to hand over your mothering duties and your son to someone else, let alone someone you think is a B. Give me a break. What is wrong with you?
OP lives in Monterey, CA

nm


 


But no matter where she lives, she is still
just not that pretty and I personally would not want to be her, no matter where she lives. I love my neighborhood and I don’t have man hands, huge teeth, watermelon head, toothpick body and no one has ever complained about my voice. I do not like her show at all.
...though it won't be soon as he still lives here, but possibly not
s
My MIL lives about 1/4 mile from me, and . . .

right now she is on a cruise, and I can't hardly stand it!  She and I are best friends.  I absolutely LOVE her.  We are very much alike in our thinking . . . most of the time.  Even when we don't agree, we still manage to talk about things and agree to disagree.  I know I have a real treasure in her.  In my book, MILs can be wonderful.  I know that isn't the case for everyone, but I know it is very, very possible. 


When my MIL gets back home on the 15th, I'm going to be extremely happy! 


I meant lives near me - sorry. NM
/
I can ask my mom who lives there (just got off the phone, actually). sm
I do know that in the summer, the highs are around 70s or so. Does not get much higher than that. A Big Mac and fries with drink in Alaska (Anchorage) will run you about 6.00 w/o tax.

My mom received an expensive gift card for the doc she works for - for Nordstrom Dept. Store. Instead of spending it in Alaska, she is coming to Texas next month and thinks she will get double for her money at the Nordstrom's here.

They just bought a 4 BR/2BA home in the town of Palmer, AK (about an hour from Anchorage?) and they paid 200,000 for it. BUT, they are now selling their home and moving BACK towards Anchorage as she realized she cannot drive in the winter that far to work! She makes 22.00 an hour running a doctor's office. My dad works for the prison system and they are doing VERY WELL. He is retired A.F. She NEVER complains about money - like how much things costs. If anything, she says, "boy it's nice not to have to worry about money!"

Every year residents get a "dividend" check for a couple thousand dollars from the oil companies, too, from what I understand.

If you are a woman, Alaska is a WONDERFUL place to live, from what I hear. My mom and dad are still young (in their late 40s - early 50s) and my mom says that dad brings home "friends from work" and the way she puts it, if I were single and visiting I wouldn't be single for very long! Plenty of good looking, hard-working men and not enough women...........My mom has a weird sense of humor, but she's not kidding!

Of course, you MUST love the outdoors if you live there. My dad is constantly shoveling snow and working on their vehicles - at least 7 months out of the year, preparing them for the cold. He just bought himself a new snowmobile and he is an avid hunter and salmon fisherman. My mom is outdoorsy too, so it works well for them. I have no plans on visiting any time soon. I enjoy not having to deal with snow where I am at.

I hope this helps you a little bit. The further you go from the city the cheaper the housing. My parents want to move back to Eagle River,AK, but don't think they could get a decent house for the price they are asking in that particular area.

I'll tell you this. If I were going to move there I certainly wouldn't go far from Anchorage unless you want to live in the middle of nowhere! At least in Anchorage (or near Anchorage), you have full access to the airport where you could get on a plane and get away if you need to which is what my mom does often. I see her "all the time" even though she lives there. She flies out a lot! And that is because no one in the family goes to visit them.......Hope this helps!

FIL lives with us & his will be with his May check sm
The notice about the deposit said that it was going to be deposited separately but at the same time as his regular SS check, which is the 4th Wednesday of the month because of when his birthday falls.
Be thankful you have your wonderful mom to write that letter to..sm
It has been a little over a year since my mom passed away. I miss her so much. I would love to be able to write my mom or call her. I was fortuante enough to have spent many, many holidays in the kitchen helping my mom. I sure do miss it now. Give thanks that you have your mom in your life. I am also a married mother of 3 and am 36 y/o with no mom for the holidays. God Bless you, your family, and most of all your mom. I am so sad every day without mine.
That letter brought tears to my eyes

and I miss her every day. I could've written your letter, especially the part about ditching her and going with friends. I could sure kick myself now for not spending more time with her.  She was a beautiful lady and I miss her, especially at the holidays.


At Christmas 1993, my husband said Let's go see your folks. I said it's such a long trip, etc etc. Next year!


Well, 10 days later, mom was gone from pneumonia. Just like that she was gone and I was left with a big gaping hole in my heart and plenty of I wish and Why didn't I?


God Bless all of us orphans on the holidays.


I


My daughter came home from school with yet another letter...sm
saying that a classmate has lice. This is the same little girl over and over. She had lice the entire year last year in kindergarten and has now had it all of this year so far. Why should she be allowed to come to school and infest everyone? I understand if this is a random thing and it is taken care of, but when it is a constant problem she should not be allowed to attend school. Last year she infested most of her kindergarten class and when I treated my daughter with the shampoo she ended up with an allergic reaction and a flaming red scalp!!! People have even take free products and left them on their porch so mom could use them. She is just to darn lazy to do it. Why should lice be treated any different than when a child has chickenpox?? I am having a meeting with the principal today and then if nothing is done I am going to the school board of education. These kids are crammed 24 in a room and are expected to share computer headphones. I know some people are going to say jeez its only lice, but ya know what it is nasty little bugs and we shouldnt have to get them or suffer with flaming heads because people cannot be clean and get rid of them. I say this kind of infestation should require the child to stay at home and no school. She has so many bugs you can actually stand by her and see all of them crawling!!!! Sorry to be so angry, but this is so frustrating. I have three daughters all with long hair and I have thick, long hair also. Last year it cost me a fortune and took forever to get everything out of everyones hair. It is just nasty and disgusting. The nurse even said they called the health department and got no help on this. Unbelievable!!!
Letter or card writing to Iraq sm
Get an address for someone in Iraq and have them all write a letter or draw a picture for them.. All it will cost you is to buy some paper & envelopes and provide a stamp, won't cost much more for material than most projects. There was an address on here and perhaps she will e-mail you. My brother never forgot that my son's class did this for him. At that time the postage was free, not so with this president, I assume. I put postage in mine to Iraq, didn't ask.Dont know what the postage is today - it should be free but I seriously doubt it.Perhaps some parents would donate stamps as well.
I doubt a guy would send an anonymous letter- sm
it is mostly likely a woman sending it, possibly the girl in question if there is a girlfriend. I would not blindly accept it as untrue but then again I would not let it wreak my marriage as it is quite possibly the work of some sick individual out to cause trouble. I do trust my DH, but he will never cheat as he is terrified of getting a STD and of getting someone pregnant as well, and I do keep him happy as well. But I would just be a bit more aware of things, if any red flags pop up, then maybe have him followed by a PI for a few days to see if there is anything to it. If they find nothing then I would not worry about it. One of my good friends had her DH followed, though she could not get any proof as he was pretty slick and suspected he was being followed which did not help, but he did give her crabs which is what led her to use a PI, he had some lame excuse as to how he got crabs too, really makes me wonder at how dumb men think women are. They divorced in the end of course and she (and the kids) are much happier today.