Maybe it doesn't work for everyone, but it can happen
Posted By: LinK on 2009-01-13
In Reply to: ra, ra - pff
Don't let this poster discourage you. Maybe that's her experience, but but it can be done. My sister-in-law and her ex-husband (as well as my sister-in-law's current husband) are all friends. Even though they've been divorced for years, my kids still call him Uncle Tom and he is invited to all family parties and always spends the holidays with us.
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It always seems to happen like that, doesn't it.
Everything falls apart at once. Anyway, I have gas after having had electric for 15 years. I love my gas stove. The stove top is much faster, saves a lot of time. In the winter, when I'm done with the oven and turn it off, I open the door and it heats up the kitchen so nice and toasty. I would not go back to electric if I had a choice.
But now doesn’t happen anymore
because I have no further contact with them- this is part of my past life. I wish them well.
Even though it used to happen, doesn't make it right.
Honestly the humilitation of being paddled by a man in front of my mother would have sent me into hysterics. I was paddled a couple times in school, and yes it hurt a LOT, by a principal and a teacher but it was always in private, but even with the witness it was always really embarrassing. I hated it, sticking my be-hind out for all the world to see so someone could try to get me to cry.
I don't think humiliation is a good punishment, don't like shame. Pain isn't either.
he may love the dog and doesn't want something bad to happen; he is 14.
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It doesn't always work that way though - some give but it doesn't come back like that nm
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Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
Why doesn't your son work? (sm)
I understand with all those children it may not even be worth it for the mom to work (child care would take all her earnings) but why doesn't your son work? Sounds like my sister. She has been living off of my parents for years.
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Try this one
www.shanibooks.com
Thanks!
No...old XB works in new 360 but new doesn't work in old XB.
Hope that answers your question.
PPS! (And if Prozac doesn't work for the cat, - sm
then maybe I'll just cut my losses and take the Prozac myself. I'll need it by then!
But that philosophy doesn't work unless
practiced from the beginning. You can't expect a child who has been virtually allowed to make no decisions from the get-to to be capable of making them later.
I completely agree with your philosophy, but I think at this stage in the OP's situation, it may be too late for that.
I actually insisted my daughter make her own decisions since she was able to communicate. Of course, you don't let them run out in the street if they want, but I taught her right wrong, guided her (which included punishment guidelines for inappropriate behavior), and gave her my opinions, but for the most part, she was in control.
When they're able to make the little decisions (like the example you gave) when they're young, they are more equipped to graduate into the more important decisions down the road.
My DD is 21 now and I feel like the luckiest mom in the world because other than just menial, normal things/stressors, she's really been just a wonderful child.
I'm not saying I'm mom of the year because I do believe in the 'bad seed' theory and I just think she'd have turned out good if the wolves had raised her, but I do believe she has a certain confidence in herself that is a result of being able to make choices and suffering the consequences or reaping the benefits.
I've gone on way too long, but I just wanted to say that I totally agree with your post and even though every child is different, they do need to learn how to make decisions, just like they learn how to talk. But you can't throw it at them all of the sudden... jmo ;-)
Just want to say one more thing. I've know many kids there were raised 'do it my way or no way' and just about every one of them are the worst behaved kids outside of the presence of their parents. And what's really bad is they're sneaky about it. They've mastered how to get away with things because they have to... and that's dangerous...
Timeline doesn't work
The time line on this supposed event doesn't work. She finished the play and immediately boarded a jet for Cali = even on a private jet we're talking a 5 hour flight. She was photographed with Tom in Cali that night. Where in the world would she have had time to go to this detox center?
I now have spent WAY too much time on this really goofy topic.
don't worry - laser doesn't always work
I would not recommend laser to anyone. I spent thousands on it for my daughter who has hair growing in many places that it should not - she started shaving her arms - which has taken care of the situation - she uses a man's razor - which cuts much closer than the women's do. It is a hassel when she does it - but it stays smooth for a longer period of time than cream hair removers, bleaching, etc.
There's a lot of talk about DE, but the fact is, it doesn't work.
I base this on my own experience. What does work, is this...
First, mow as directed. Apply a formulation of horticultural oil and water. If you don't know what to use ask your nursery or farm supply sote, also called 'dormant' oil. The same stuff you spray on your fruit trees in the Spring. Use the "summer" formulation, some soap (like dawn) may also be added as a 'spreader'. Spray at the reccomeded rate. Try to do this on a cloudy day or in the evening. Burning of foliage may occur, especially if it has been hot and dry. Do a small test spot if you are unsure and adjust accordingly. The oil (and/or soap) will smother the mites and severly limit numbers available for reproduction.
You can also use sulfur dust (aka flowers of sulfur). Use the recommended rate. The action here is that sulfor dioxide (SO2) is formed by oxidation in the presence of sunlight and kills the pest. The sulfur will also kill other insects, possibly the beneficials as well. Do not, and I repeat DO NOT use oil and sulfur at the same time , that is unless you want to kill everything. But, if you do that is a great way to go about it, much better than defoliants.
Best of luck
Exactly, he doesn't have to work so I've assigned him the job of Mr. Mom...
It works for us. I didn't realize how much he did for me with all the errand running etc until he hurt his foot once..I was exhausted trying to do his jobs and mine too. That is when I learned to appreciate what I had. I can't remember now what it was like being a single parent and how I did it. It is hard work.. and don't you think I haven't said a prayer every day to God for bringing me my guardian angel. He has changed my life 100%. I was the one on an earlier post who told of my abusive prior marriage so I paid my dues and this is what I was blessed with.
PS - Don't you remember Prohibition? It doesn't work. nm
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Though it doesn't work for everyone, feverfew can often be helpful. sm
It won't stop a migraine in progress, or lessen its severity, but when taken on a regular basis (and generally after taking it for a period of time) many (including me) feel that it dramatically reduced the number of migraines one gets.
You could check Amazon.com if copying doesn't work. nm
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I have been told that pepper spray doesn't always work
She probably could benefit from self-defence classes as well.
Oops..you actually need to surround the key in a blob of the silicone so it doesn't work loose.
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Hey, have at it. If you want a lazy, apathetic, not affectionate, doesn't listen, doesn't make
can reach him!!! Let me know if you're interested.
It doesn't make me mad but it doesn't sound intelligent either (sm)
I am sure if all of those people who were aborted were living, some would be good and some would be bad, in the same proportion as there is good to bad now. Your statement makes no sense. So somehow the babies who were aborted were meant to be aborted because they were bad seeds? Whatever. Sorry, that's just silly.
My son had this happen to him, as well--sm
and he did report it to the bank. however, he only got half of his money back (I don't know why) even though the woman who stole his cc# was caught. I had the same bank as he did and apparently they told him they would only reimburse half of the charges. To this day, he will not buy items on line.
me too but I don't think that's going to happen...sm
GOP-democratic ongoing battle will make it political, but if WE can resist all that.....it would be good.
Just as an aside, us older MTs...are really going to be the largest senior group ever.......in the USA - something like 70+ million - and we, politically, are a HUGE voice (in numbers)....so I still believe WE CAN change the world.......that we CAN make the difference.
just as I believed 40 years ago too.......
perhaps I'm deluded.....*winks*
sure hope not......
p.s. please don't burst my bubble....
Did this happen already?
I'm watching CNN and they haven't mentioned it. They just have a message up saying that Judge to decide if Paris Hilton goes back to jail. She isn't even at the courthouse yet. The Sheriff are picking her up at her house. I definitely think she needs to go back to jail no question about it.
Happen to be in
or is this something happening all over Indiana, thanks to our MITCH????
He does not ALLOW it to happen...
We are humans, with minds of our own, allowed to make choices. We're not puppets on a string being guided around. Come on now, you can't be that unschooled in the Bible.It's unfortunate that bad things and abuse and so forth happens in this world, but it does...and it's because there are so many nonbelievers and so much evil...God wants us to come to Him. He's not going to force Himself on anyone.
Having same happen to me
Gosh I love these fuzzies but shocked every time I pet them, etc. but that is just the tip of the iceberg- getting shocked from clothing, coats, blankets, etc. etc. Does anyone have a good idea how to stop some of this- and no, I will not get rid of the fuzzies.
You could have this happen to you sm
where you disconnected from someone because of something petty (shower) and then when you really had time to look back on it and put it into perspective, along with putting yourself in her situation, you realize that you miss your friend and try to reconnect.
When you do, you find out she actually died a year before. Think about that before you make a decision to end the friendship. I wish I had.
I can see how it could happen
Years ago, I went for an upper GI. The tech came in right before the test to ask if I had done the bowel prep. They were preparing to do a barium enema instead of an upper GI. It was a good thing I was in the medical field and knew exactly what test I was having and why.
I agree that it must happen a lot..sm
A few years back I had an ink cartridge that I wanted to return because I had grabbed the wrong one. The Walmart wouldn't take it back. For that store anyways, it was their policy not to accept ink cartridges in return for that very reason. They told me that I wouldn't even believe how many they get back and are actually empty. I was told that I needed to send it back to the company for whatever brand it was.
I believed what they said because at that time my husband was a manager there.
When they do inventory it takes them like a month to do it, and you wouldn't believe sometimes how much money and merchandise is unaccounted for, not just easily concealable things either. No way to know how much of it was really stolen, but I would bet a good portion of it.
I'm sure they'll take back your cartridge. If you can't find your receipt, they will probably just give you a gift card figuring that if by chance you didn't get that cartridge there, at least they know you have to spend that gift card at a Walmart.
Just my 2 cents.
I'll tell you exactly what will happen.
If you don't buy it, everything will break. If you buy it, everything will break right after it runs out. lol. I bought a blazer a couple years ago, bought an extended warrantly and literally a month after it ran out my fuel pump burned up, some motor for my blinker burned out, had to get a new alternator, new battery, new tires (due to neighborhood felon in the making), driver side viser broke...I think there was more but I can't remember at the moment.
Anyhoo, good luck! :-)
i expected this probably would happen, but not yet.
I feel for her baby growing up without her mom and for her mother, who i'm sure always had hope that "vicki lynn" would come out of this downward spiral before it was too late. It's tragic all the way around. I would love to know if mr. lawyer is really innocent of all this too.
did these happen at once or different times? nm
I can only imagine what would happen
to all the animals that would not be adopted because the owners could not afford health insurance. We have 2 dogs and 2 cats,all adopted from shelters. We don't have insurance on them but isn't them living in a loving home a better alternqative then what might have happened to them?
Gee. I knew that would happen! LOL!
Know things happen but.....
I can relate to what you say; however when my own father asked me to move in with him (close to age 90) I refused to do that. I visited, had seen him growing up (parents divorced) but I would never ruin my life moving in with him as life would have been hel* for me, overbearing, rude, constantly belittled me in front of others (weight issue he had with me) and generally not the kind of person I would care to live with. However, this is what I did and he could take or leave it. He lived close by in another state and I told him I would get any assistance he could use be it Meals on Wheels, rides to and from appointments, just anything. It was up to him if he wanted or not. I did not care norr do I care now what anyone would think about this situation. My maternal aunt (who knew my father very, very well) said he had lived his life, now I should live mine. I am not throwing away my happiness to satisfy someone else. Now, if he had been a kind, understanding, loving father he could have possibly (and that is not a sure thing) moved in with ME but definitely not giving up my home, etc. to have lived with him.
What's the worst that can happen; you buy a new one?
I have heard people clean them by running them under the shower and letting them dry in the warm outside air. I'm going to try it, I have a backup cheapie to use if it gets ruined and I have to buy a new one.
Would you happen to be a male
Because any female knows how hard it is to go to school while having your period, especially having your FIRST period. And the thought of her using a tampon at that age I am sure freaks the poor child out. My DD is 17 and she still doesn't use tampons. I never used them until I had my 3rd child, over the age of 30. Only a male (I hope) would make such an uneducated response...more power to ya Mom, stick up for your DD 100%... the teacher was absolutely wrong in the way this situation was handled and should be confronted about it...good luck!
Yes, my mother had this happen. sm
I think she was in her 40s, can't remember exactly. She said it was the worst headache and vomiting ever. Her's also was a small bleed, such a small aneurysm that when it burst that was the end of the aneurysm. She recovered fully and if I remember right she was only in the hospital for a week or so.
A lot of assuming going on here. Did it happen or
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It's not uncommon for this to happen, (sm)
and it suggests you are headed for reading glasses. The first indication will be that your focus change slows down because the lens is getting stiffer with age. This slowing started to happen to me about 2 years ago, and I started taking the eye supplement, lutein. It is described as a supplement for eye health, and I decided to take it because it's supposed to help avoid macular degeneration. But would you believe that slowing of my focus problem WENT AWAY completely? I am still not in reading glasses and have no trouble with my focus as long as I take lutein. This would be the time for you to start it to keep you out of bifocals for as long as possible.
I'm curious - how did that happen? - sm
I recently got pet health insurance for my cats, and notice that one of the things NOT covered is ACL injuries. Never heard of it in a cat before, but sometimes in dogs. Did she jump from something high? Is it in a back or a front leg?
You know what will happen if we all quit
There will have to be money coming from somewhere to replace the tax revenue lost if all of us wicked smokers just up and quit (or died, whichever!). They already decided we could do without the transfats and took those away from our McFrys; Salmonella risk caused many places to get rid of genuine cesar salads because of the raw eggs; and some places have banned pate. They may start slowly hitting the US consumer with a Twinkie tax- $1/pack, $10/carton. Those McFrys, even without the transfat we knew and loved) will have a $0.10 surcharge each (eek, I can't afford to supersize anymore), and I'm afraid that it will take a mortgage if I want to get that Chantilly Lace cake from the bakery.
Fat people and smokers- the last two groups that it's okay to make fun of in this country, and dang if I ain't both!
You wouldn't happen to be a bio-mom would you???
That sure would explain a lot of your behavior and comments.
The OP is doing nothing wrong by wanting a FAMILY and not a part-time husband. Leave her alone.
I've had this happen before and it is usually
when there is fluid behind my eardrum. Usually no cold associated with it. It sounds like a bee buzzing in my ear.
The point is this should NOT happen every day -
The fact that some people think this is okay is why a lot of these kids are so out of control. Do you want everyone to wait to take action until it's a 6:00 news story??? When I was in school this would not have been a big deal, and worked out between kids/parents. Unfortunately we live in a world today where kids do not seem to have morals or consciences and do not think twice about hurting another person because they were "mad". IMO the only way to change that is to STOP making it okay.
Yes, I've had this happen too, sm
As my allergies have gotten worse over the years, I have been pulling up the carpet throughout my house and yuck, nasty! I would love to put wood floors throughout, but cannot afford it. In the fall, my sinuses are even worse. I can't dust or vacuum, make the kids or DH do it.
To get rid of the drainage, you have to dry up your sinuses. I personally use Zyrtec and it works very well for me. I also have a personal steamer that I use a few times a day to try and steam things out. I've heard of the neti pot (not sure if that is spelled right) and that is supposed to work really, really good.
I keep a few peppermints with me in case I'm in public and the nausea gets too bad, it helps dry things up for a few minutes at least.
Good luck!
This could happen anywhere, not just WalMart.
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they didn't tell me that could happen! sm
Thanks for the info - they did not tell me that could happen! They told me the other one would take over the work of both. Mine was also removed due to a cyst. It has been a month and so far I am wondering if mine is working. How did you know yours stopped? Other than the obvious (no period) what symptoms did you have?
this didn't happen to me but had a sm
friend who use to work the ER as an aid back in the 80s. Ambulance and EMTs brought in two guys "stuck together." No kidding. I just have a visual on that one don't you all?
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