No. It's a personality type to try to fix
Posted By: Misha on 2008-02-04
In Reply to: Would you be mad? (sm) - Just me
things. A fixer (a male trait that some women have) doesn't realize it when a person is just asking for sympathy, not actual help. They think that by coming up with a practical solution, in this case, an honest way for you to make some cash and everybody to enjoy a little pampering for a small price, she has helped solve your problem. She has no idea this would be offensive and hurtful to you. If you complain she will be shocked because she honestly thought you were asking for help.
I had to figure this out because I have this trait and it's really hard for me to tell if somebody wants help or just a pity party.
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no one changes their personality..
wake up now before its too late. I'm just a few years older than you and I'm glad I didn't settle for something less than what I expected. Sure you have to think of your children and that is 1 more reason not to put up with crap. Best of luck to you though.
pit personality
You know when my male pit that is inside turned a year and a half old he got real protective over us & VERY dog aggressive. There is no doubt in my mind he wouldn't kill another dog because he is just a completely different dog when he sees a strange dog he doesn't know. BUT there is no way he would turn that aggression towards us. AND I knew he was going to more than likely be that way because he has Boudreaux bloodline & his mother was aggressive. But that didn't keep me from falling in love with him or owning him. I just have to be careful that he doesn't come in contact with another dog. He has a fenced in yard and if another dog approaches the fence I give him his command to come inside & he does so. All too often this type aggression that some pits can display gets mistaken for people aggression, but these are two totally different things.
Type 1 requires insulin, type 2 does not - sm
that is the basic difference. Type 2 can be controlled by diet changes and/or medication (pills). My MIL has type 2 which runs in her family, no one is obese either. She controls it with diet and medication. Your dermatologist I think is wrong. Doesn't your husband know which type he has?
personality/alcohol
Both, I think. Alcohol makes personality traits creep out from under the woodwork. Surly, sarcastic, belittling, called me four letter words in front of the kids. Yes, I consider the way he talks to you to be abuse, especially if this is how he talks to you most of the time. Of course, everything was my fault. An alcoholic does no wrong. It is never their fault, even when they are down to their last dime with no family left. My children were 14 and 16. However, they did not go with me. He had brainwashed them into thinking that he was the only one who could provide for them, that I could only work for minimus wage and that they would have nothing without him. I stayed in the same town, we had joint custody, he had residential. He has since died and my kids and I are fine.
Pitbulls personality
I totally sympathize with you. Sorry for you having to go through this. I really try to urge people when they get a pitbull to really get to know the mom/dad personalities & the breeder. Like I said in an earlier post my male pitbull that is inside is VERY dog aggressive BUT on the flip side he is the most gentle loving dog I have ever owned. He just doesn't like other animals, ESPECIALLY dogs. We have a fenced in yard though. If he come in contact with an unfamiliar dog he would definitely be in kill mode with his aggression. BUT I knew what I was getting myself into cuz he is Boudreaux bloodline & his mother was aggressive. His father was an absolute sweetheart to anything. I knew that aggression would probably surface up in my dog & it did at a year and a half old, but I wouldn't ever trade him up for anything in this world. He wouldn't dare turn on us, and I know that animal or dog aggression is not people aggression. I do have a great respect for what could happen if I let it happen, but I am responsible enough to know what my dogs like & don't like & I never have a problem out of them. They are definitely a vital part of our family & we love them dearly.
she may have a passive personality, is all.
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My hormones rule my personality
and I'm tired of it also. I have many problems with ovarian cysts, etc. I believe if you have problems like these, it is worse. I never know what kind of mood I'll be in, and neither does anyone else :) One minute I can be laughing and the next I'll be screaming in anger. There are a lot of natural things out there they say help, I have not tried any but may do that soon. Here's just one article I found....
http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/womenshealth/a/PMS.htm
Personality wise? I am probably most like Blanche! LOL
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Sounds like a personality disorder
to me. Perhaps Borderline Personality Disorder, or personality disorder NOS. Maybe, though, it is hormonal. An abundance in testosterone CAN cause aggressive behavior, mood fluctuations, etc.
I hope you get to the root of the problem. But, the main thing that concerns me is his unwillingness to be evaluated or even admit that there may be a problem. This is what leads me to believe it's a personality disorder (borderline). People afflicted with this and anti-social personality disorder often do not admit that anything is off keel with themselves. Rather, it's alway's *someone else's* problem/matter/issue.
Good luck to you. I'll be thinking of you. Please keep us posted. The erratic behavior is really concerning.
alcoholics have personality changes; talk to AA group
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twins nor triplets would be born at same minute. must be split personality, LOL! nm
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Food Network TV personality...host of Good Eats.
 Great show...he blends science with food. It's perfect for those of us with attention-span-holding issues!
I would type
MEDICATIONS: Zocor and Ambien.
OR
MEDICATIONS
1. Zocor
2. Ambien
And
DIAGNOSES: Hypertension and chronic heart failure.
OR
DIAGNOSES
1. Hypertension.
2. Chronic heart failure.
Depending on which looked better in relation to the rest of the report. But that's just me. :-)
Not my type either..
I do like the scruffier male type image - kind of like that actor who plays "House"
Always. I can't type without it. nm
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I had to type it in...
the address bar but could not find the Pantene link to click on.
It's 3 a.m. to type or not to type
Need some ideas about insomnia. Don't want to take those sleeping pills. I used to begin work at 3 a.m. and worked split. But, recently changed to day because I found if I got a good night's sleep my line count and disposition was better. Lucky to get day because it takes a lot of years usually to get it. But, now I find myself up at 3 anyway and for the last 2 hours have been surfing the net, mostly here and e bay. I know that if I typed some now I would be no good during the day and not get my usually good line count during the day that I usually get. BTW: Today is my day off, but I still plan to work and obviously hyper because I can't sleep now. Any suggestions on how to get off this overnight shift pattern? Been doing this insomnia overnight thing for about 2 years, and I like the quiet (3 kids and a husband) in the middle of the night, but worn out.
Please suggestions for an insomnia. And forget the warm milk, please YUK LOL. Thanks for your help. Maybe with your suggestions in a week or so I can get off this 3 a.m. pattern. TIA.
If you don't type why are you here?
Just leave!!!!!!
anybody out there ever type
What are the rules you apply to yourself for taking sedatives and drinking while at work? Does happy hour ever start early?
Wow, when I type
for a typing test (trying to get a job), I get so nervous I can barely type and practically pass out. Any tips on how NOT to do that.
I could never type 104 wpm anyway, but I type much worse when trying for a job. Gulp!
Well who is going to type MJ and FF?
That hospital was one of ours, so I told my DH that the docs will type it themselves as to not to get a leak out to the press. Sad times, sad times. I am in the Midwest now, not to worry about celebs. Pretty interesting day it was in the land of transcription. JMO. 
Ever have a day when you just cannot type
I had one of those days yesterday where I typed dyslexic all day and it's spilling over into today. Man, this sucks. Normally I never have more than one uncoordinated day every few months. Argh. It's frustrating!
We have to type it if dictated. I do this..
MEDICATIONS INCLUDE:
1.
2.
DIAGNOSES INCLUDE:
1.
2.
I didn't type this but...
During a report, this derm doctor who speaks in this odd monotone voice went on a diatribe (off the record) about a patient using something called "Boudreaux's Butt Paste." He had never heard of it, and neither had I until his report. The dude was HILARIOUS! He went off on a tangent, talking into the mic as if he were talking to another person, asking what it must be like for someone to go up to the pharmacy counter and ask for butt paste, and why on earth were they using butt paste on their face...and oh it went on for a good couple of minutes! I was actually laughing so hard I had tears down my face! Months later I found a tube of it in the baby section of Target and was tempted to mail him a small tube just for giggles, but then I thought maybe that would get me into trouble, so I didn't.
That was my most memorable and most fun report and I will never forget it. The dude should do stand up comedy, he was THAT funny!
Good times 
it was a *duh* type question. that's all. nm
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But I am certainly horrified when I type
a report of an facial x-ray on a patient who has been punched in the face.
They do it on TV and the movies all the time, and it only results in bloody lip, lost tooth, bloody nose, or broken nose. The reality can be much worse and quite horrifying to think just a punch with a fist could do that kind of damage.
LOL!! You should try to learn to type with them ;-) nm
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Why can't you type Restuvus here?
Obviously am I missing something?
LOL SO TRUE! That is so true. Especially if you type and type
and forget the catheter in that your boss sent you with the computer and company policies booklet. LOL.
What type of mixer do you have?
ty :)
Sorry! What type of machine do you have? :)
ty
smart type
I had someone tell me that Stedman's smart type was the way to go as far as spell checker and speed typing program. what do you use? and have you used it?
no clue what I was trying to type- sm
under influence of cold meds......think I was trying to type "I was born in 1965".
What type of shipping?
If the person ships it media mail for the book, it will take up to three weeks for you to receive it. Regardless, one week is not really long enough to file a complaint or start contacting the person. I have been doing business on ebay, buying and selling once in a while, and I know you cannot expect your items so soon...especially around Christmas.
if your ex is the type of person who would allow (sm)
an evil witch stepmother to deny his children things... and would not even bother to get his own child a Christmas present, why would you regret not staying married to him? If that is who he is, that is who he already was. If he cared about his children he would do better by them now. I think you did the right thing by divorcing him.
do you type with those nails??
your pup is freaking adorable i love all dogs :)
are you an MT? My nails are long but not that long! :)
What type of kitchen mop do you use?
I am really frustrated with my kitchen mop right now. I have a cermanic tile floor that has to be mopped at least once or twice a week (when I feel like it). I can't find a mop that I like and gets the floor clean. Just curious what type of floor you have and what kind of mop do you use?
type drunk?
No but it wouldn't be the first time someone was dictating drunk. Happens more often than anyone would like to admit.
How do you two type with nails?.....
I am always filing mine short so they don't get in the way.
It is so hard to type
when your Boxer constantly wants to "box" the foot pedal!!
What type of advice?
There are pros and cons to each. Upside of craigslist is that it's free, all the proceeds come to you, and usually people come and pick up the item(s). Downside is that you get your day interrupted with phone calls, strangers come to your house, and potential buyers limited to your geographical area.
Upside of ebay is that you post it and forget about it for a couple of days (assuming you have a clear, concise ad). Your item is for sale across the nation/world. On the downside, you pay ebay fees and paypal fees when you sell your item. You have to box it up and either take it to the post office or arrange shipping. You may be stuck selling something at a price you feel is less than it's worth. You also potentially have people not paying or backing out after winning and we you have to go through the whole procedure again.
I think it's a matter of weighing which factors are more important to you...convenience, larger potential audience, and whether the fees are worth it.
I used to type ER reports.
They were quite, um, interesting. Lots of strange occurrences that increased around the time of the full moon each month. I had one doctor trying to dictate a drunk/drugged patient with foreign object removal, but he couldn't stop giggling through the entire report. He even apologized for giggling.
what type of worker
You need either the converter box or a new TV that by law has to have digital in it. I have a new TV and I scan the digital part of my TV. I get maybe one station every few days, so obviously I have the capability otherwise I would not get any digital TV. It is the reception as I live in a rural area. I do have to get a roof top antenna. I was wondering what type of worker does that? When I look in the yellow pages, all it has is satellite and cable, nothing about antenna installers. I was wondering can just a handy man that I would hire install one or do I have to get an electric contractor to do it.
It seems you are equating any type of housework
as a negative or belittling chore. Lots of high-power women CEOs who work from home as often as they can would even beg to differ with you. Obviously its something that is really on your heart. Why not pick up a copy of Working Mother? Really is a great eye-opener on being a successful professional female in our corporate world, with just as much respect and attention given to running a house as running your company. Its all in the mind of the beholder. Good luck to you. I have to go run and throw the clothes in the dryer.
This is very common for men after this type of surgery....sm
I would see this a lot when I worked for a group of cardiovascular surgeons. Make an appointment for your husband & yourself with his surgeon so that they can first off assure him that this is normal. Some hospitals have post-CABG support groups and if your hospital has this, go as that will help him. Men especially have a hard time post-CABG because the male ego is "I can do anything and won't get sick" and it crushes their ego to have their heart become diseased. Continue to try to get him involved in things without nagging. The doctor may also place him on an antidepressant short-term if they feel it is indicated. Good luck!
Be careful of what type of massage too!
I got my husband a massage for a gift once...what a disaster! We knew nothing about them...I thought it would be relaxing. NOT! Apparently it was for something called a "deep tissue massage." What the heck did we know--a massage is a massage. We almost had to call the ambulance to get him off the table because the lady just totally messed up his back, even though on the "getting to know you sheet" I had specifically wrote down that he had degenerative disk disease. So here was this poor grown man, in tears, extreme pain, and completely embarassed that he couldn't move. The massage lady was freaking out saying she had never had anything like that happen to her. The total kicker was no money was ever refunded to us, and we never even got a call at home to check on him. I was just so preoccupied with getting him safely into our pickup truck with minimal embarassment to him and getting him home.
Thinking back, he says he wouldn't have minded the whole ordeal at all if there was a "happy ending" to his massage, but alas, this was a "legit" place
 Men.
Hmmm, could make some type of
shutters too like the white boards but have them open like the old fashioned shutters. thanks
I meant to type this - see inside
Don't go telling people they aren't "special enough" to enter heaven just because they were "good" people. Shame on you. That is NOT supportive to someone who has lost 2 family members so soon.
sorry, I meant to type Appalachian....sm
not Adirondacks - I just made an error............very sorry :)
I have no clue as to what type the flowers are
just know they are a beautiful shade of purple, hopefully still are. I just brought some English ivy back from his home and plan on planting that in something containable because would not put outside to run. Also, get this, I will have flowers galore when I finish. I am going to get some of his purple iris when they lose their bloom (which is July or the next 2 months) but I have places to put those out at my home. Just wish I could bring 1 of his big ole magnolia trees home. By the way south Georgia but do not know my zone- have seen on a planting map before but just not sure right now. My hydrangea, by the way, has bloomed big at the bottom of the plant but last years limbs are just dead- is this what they normally do? I really babied this plant, put covers over it when had some early frost so have really tried with it.
After we type in the post and we hit send...sm
After we type a post and click on Post Reply - we get sent to an authentication page to type in a code...like 2d4s or something. Someone last week had asked MTStars to fix it so that when we get to that page, the mouse/cursor ends up automatically in the box so all we have to do is type the code, versus how it was before - we had to place the mouse/cursor into that little box. MTStars addressed this poster by fixing it. I was not the poster who asked for the fix but I certainly recognized the fix and was just thanking MTStars for fixing it.
Have a great weekend!!! 
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