Would you be mad? (sm)

It has been a year since this happened...I saw this lady recently and she asked me to go to dinner or something sometime soon.... For several years I was good friends with "Pam".  She invited me to start being a fill-in for her Bunco group and I went to several Bunco parties when they were short a person (I do not live in a neighborhood and this was her neighborhood Bunco group).  At one point I mentioned that I was short on money, just that particular time.  She later called me and said that she had spoken to "Susan" (another Bunco player who I barely knew) and told her about my financial problem and that they had discussed it and thought it would be a great idea for me to come to a Bunco party and paint everyone's toenails and they would all pitch in pay me $50. I was very offended.  She didn't understand why and said that if it were her, she would do it.  I kind of stopped talking to her after that but she never knew really why. 

Recently we ran into Pam and I talked to her a few minutes, she mentioned getting together, etc.  Later my 8-year-old daughter asked me why I never do things with Pam anymore and I told her in very simple terms what had happened.  My 8 year old said, "That's like telling you that you're not really part of the party, isn't it mom?" 

I like Pam, but she never understood that this hurt my feelings and I am just not comfortable being around her now.  Am I wrong?

• Would you be mad? (sm) - Just me
  • No. It's a personality type to try to fix - Misha
  • toenails - Barbara
  • Kind of sounds a little like my situation sm - mlstoo
    • That is terrible!. . sm - sleepy
      • I wouldn't have quit - I'd have reported her for creating - a hostile workplace & gotten her canned. -nm
        • I wish I would have reported her. . sm - sleepy
          • What would you have reported about her? - Question
            • I'm not the one that got the pink roll of toliet paper. . sm - sleepy
              • Actually it is answering the one who said should be canned, creating hostile - Question
  • I don't let people hurt my feelings any more sm - elaine
    • My psychologist who became a dear friend during our many SM - Me, too
      • You know both of you make a good point (sm) - Justme
  • Your daughter sounds so sweet!. . . sm - sleepy
    • And incredibly mature and smart. You are blessed. nm - trose
    • Thanks...my daughter is a sweetheart (sm) - Just me
  • Also didn't mention the money issue at the party, just in private to her (nm) - Just me
  • I should add that Pam and I were friends (sm) - Just me
    • I think your daughter is a cool chick - mtusa13
    • well... - jlo
      • Explain Bunco please sm - wordsmith
        • Excuse the typos sm - wordsmith
        • Bunco is a game....(sm) - Just me

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