Please start planning your escape...sm
Posted By: NOW on 2008-06-29
In Reply to: Well, now it's my turn to tell my story...(Beware..this is long) - In Trouble
I am joining in your children's pleas to get out of this situation. I found this website:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm
Please take a look at it, and then call the number they give for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. I am assuming/hoping they would know how to guide you. NO ONE should have to live like you are. Best of luck to you and your children.
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For those people with school aged children when do vacations start to dwindle and you start getting
ready for school. I usually take a vacation when things slow down at the end of Summer and I am just wondering when in August most people start getting into school things and less vacations are taken.
In MHO when they start asking its time to start explaining.
My daughter and I started discussing the basics in like second or third grade.
Good luck it was much harder for me with my son.
Thanks, but I planning on being
right in the ocean with them or my husband will be. We've been to the beaches in Florida and have never let the children go out alone. But thanks for the reminder. Glad to hear your situation turned out okay.
thank you so much..i am planning to ask the mgr for new apt...sm
I have lived in apartments all my live and have never experienced anything as noxious as this lady's smoke, and I have lived above smokers for years and years but this is extreme. Thank you all so much for your comments, since my DH does not care to exert himself, it is all on me, and so I will ask for another apt. It's just a shame that they can't help with the expenses. If that doesn't work, maybe something private. Thanks again. I sincerely appreciate your great advice.
Exactly what to you mean by not planning
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I am terrible about no pre-planning
I often go to the grocery store 3 or 4 times a week. I love to watch the cooking channel when I have time. Robin Miller has a show that usually shows how to cook a couple of times a week and take the leftovers and use for another meal. She now has out a cookbook so that might be a great place to start.
Not if you are planning on baking
Wax paper will melt wax into your foods if you are baking. That being said, if you are making a cake you can butter the pan, both sides of the wax paper, and place the wax paper on the bottom of the pan wax side down, putting your batter on top. You can also use wax paper to steam. If you are planning on baking using direct oven heat (where the paper will be exposed directly to the enviornment around it) I would not suggest it.
If you think that one little hour or less of planning
These teachers don't get anything done on their planning period, because they're too busy calling parents who won't respond, trying to actually FIND a parent, talking to a student who is obviously having problems at home which is affecting their performance at school. They don't get paid to be a mentor, surrogate mom, social worker, assistance program, etc., but most good teachers do this becaue they genuinely care for their kids. That "planning period" is a joke!
Are you planning the party for the day your son
If not, then wait for the wedding date, and then decide on the graduation party. Believe me, I know where you're coming from.
BWT....I am planning on quitting......sm
in January and a couple of other posters and I are forming a support group. I promise we would never get tired of you! Won't you join us? Maybe the 7th time is a charm!!!!
Planning an overnight bus trip to NYC...
bags after we check out of our hotel on the 2nd day? I don't want to have to carry my luggage around all day. Surely others have run into this problem. Anyone have any ideas?? Thanks a bunch!!!
Most teachers have at least one planning period when they
can grade papers. If their job requires work-related hours away from school, they are given comp time.
I was planning on making a flower bed there
with several good-sized bushes such as hydrangea and/or forsythia. Hopefully that would take care of the problem, especially since we don't plan to get any other pets (we're mid-50s, want to travel, plus I don't think I can go through this pain again).
I am planning as we speak to move in the next . . .
1-2 years. I have lived and traveled all over and have been in Georgia for almost 20 years. I hate this backwards state!! I am originally from Virginia and that's where I want to live out the rest of my life. It is the best and truly God's country.
If you aren't planning on more children, I would have the surgery.
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Planning a trip to New York City and
was looking for suggestions on a nice hotel to stay in and what are some of the best sites to see. Will only be there for four days at the end of May and want to cram as much in as possible.
Okay, planning a trip to see some snow (first in 10 years). Here's what I need! sm
Where can I go just north of Atlanta, GA, to see a good amount of snow that isn't too far? I have no clue! I'm thinking around mid Dec. Want to take the kids. With or without hubby. I'm not looking to snow ski, just take them to see snow for the first time in their lives. NC? TN? I have no idea! 
Would this have made you mad - husband planning trip
My husband has a habit of making plans and then telling me where I am expected to be without discussing it with me first. This drives me crazy and I have asked him many times to stop. He also makes lots of plans for himself for weekend and sometimes 3 or 4 day trips and just e-mails me a note to put it on my calendar, without asking if I mind. He does this all the time.
Yesterday he came home from work and announced that "Joe and I are planning a family trip for this summer, so start saving your money." I said, oh is Joe your wife now?? Do you think you could ask me if I want to go there before you tell me to save my money?" So he got really angry and started yelling at me that I never understand anything. I told him I like to be treated as an equal in the marriage and that I would not plan a trip for him without discussing it with him. It is a HUGE trip, to California, and we live in NC. I would have been happy if he came home and suggested it to see what I thought..but I was angry that he planned it out that way. He wants us to go with a family that I have never met. My kids are elementary age and their kids are in high school. The two men would be in conferences all day so this other lady and her kids and me and my kids are expected to hang out together. He is very furious with me for not being receptive to this whole plan. Should I have not been mad?
Planning on using mine for chicken tonight - We love it!
We use it a couple times a week!
I am planning several long weekends this summer for mini-vacations.
We are going to drive up to the Omaha Zoo for a weekend. We live in rural Missouri north of Kansas City, so it's about a three or four hour drive.
Then, we have a family reunion in southern Missouri and I'm planning a 4-day weekend for that so we can spend some time in the Ozarks.
Then, we will go into Kansas City to Worlds of Fun and Oceans of Fun.
Then, I'm planning a four-day weekend in Branson.
So I guess we are going to explore our state too!
Plus we have a public pool in our town that the kids spend a lot of time at. Then there is girl scout camp for my daughter. My son will be getting a job this summer as he's 16 now and mom can't afford gas for my car and his car and to pay for his dates all of the time.
As you can see I try to keep my kids as busy as possible! There is nothing worse than bored children when you're trying to work!
Maybe learn some life planning skills before bringing blessings into the world that you can't aff
and not very responsible or mature.
I think we are going to start having more
play dates with my sister's dog. She is an adorable mix that looks like a border collie, and my sister's hubby does not allow spoiling of mere dogs. Therefore, any time we have pet sit for them, this young dog has had a wonderful time, though Misha found her a bit, um, disrespectul to her queenliness, but it was just inexperienced puppy excitement My sister lives 5 minutes away, and it was my sister's idea. So when we go to a park, if I feel like doing 2 dogs, I'll go get her. When we want to go to a pet store or other more civilized place, then I'll just take my well-mannered Sasha.
Where to start. -
I have 2 teenage boys and yes I so agree with you there. If I have to tell them one more time to put a belt on that I do not want to see their underwear I am going to scream.
Another one is people who say K-Marts and Wal-Marts. There is no "s" on the end of these stores. I drives me crazy!
You know what I would start saying? (sm)
"Oh my goodness!! You better knock - one day you're gonna walk in and see me naked!! LOL! Maybe also put a little note on the door that says "please knock". that way it is to everyone and not just them.
I could start doing that...
We have a baby that still takes naps so it would be for everyone too...and especially knowing we have a little one they continue to do this anyways...barge right in and yell HELLO...good grief...can't wait until we move---LOL
Where does it start? sm
What I mean is, where is the line drawn between helping and enabling? I'm not talking drinking, etc. There's no drinking or drugs involved, just an 18 year old son who started community college because his h.s. grades were too bad for a four-year, hasn't made it to school on time more than a handful of times since September, finally got his driver's license (after our driving him to and from school 30 miles away for two months), and two weeks later totaled the car in a rollover. No ticket - he swerved to avoid a squirrel. He has no job, puts in an occasional application. But he's obviously not ready to live on his own. How do we know if we're helping or enabling him?
Well, where should I start?...sm
I love comedies and it's hard to choose just a couple.
The Birdcage
8 heads in a duffel bag
Sister Act
Meet the Parents
Monty Python and the Holy Grail (that's a given)
To Wong Foo
Stir Crazy
Bananas
Miss Congeniality
I could go on and on.... Cat
How do you start on that? I went there..
Do you just make a profile, introduce yourself, and then go on your own diet? It seems like a good place to check back in for support. Is there anything else there I didn't find?
Looking for help on where to start
over. I've decided to leave my husband and will be searching the internet for affordable places to live, etc. I would prefer to live in warmer climate year round. Any ideas, sugesstions would be appreciated. This has been a long time coming and I'm tired of this battle. Thanks for your feedback. Please fee free to Email me if you would prefer.
Start here
Read this article and check some of the links.
http://marketplace.publicradio.org/display/web/2007/09/14/debt_consolidation/
what age did this start?
I am 42. My NP said that sometimes husbands refer their wives for hormones. I just told her at my house they just make fun of me until I realize that I am skipping off the cliff.
As soon as they start asking! sm
My mother never spoke to me about things when I was young. Maybe, if she had, I wouldn't have been a single mother in my teens.
I am completely honest with my kids about everything. What good does it do to lie? If some think it protects them, it won't.
My kids are all pretty much grown now but they have all told me that they appreciate my honesty about my past because it means more coming from someone who has been through it, not just telling them not to do something.
I trust my kids but I don't expect them to be perfect. There will be mistakes and errors in judgement, it happens.
Only one has gotten into any trouble (minor in possession) and has never had any trouble since then, graduated from high school, joined the military, and now married.
Trust me, I wasn't really comfortable talking about it with my kids but I felt I was doing them a favor and hopefully preventing them from the same or worse.
Where to start?
I could use some help finding a starting point.
Background:
Yesterday I called a friend and found out she is wanting to leave her DH. She has 2 kids. One 6 and one 2 yo.
Her complaints:
1. He will not spend any time with the kids.
2. He will not spend any time with her. He told her "Haven't you noticed when I have something to do (hunting or spending time with guys) I get off work at 2:30. When I have to be with you, I work until 6:30."
3. Money. They have not made their Jan. house payment, yet he has money to go out.
She has begged him to go to marriage counseling or at least talk to her about the problems. He refuses. She told him she was going to leave. He told her she was not and makes fun of her abut it.
OK, she wants to know some of the laws about leaving. Especially pertaining to taking the kids to another state. As far as I know there is no physical abuse. I would like to help her at least look up stuff online, if such stuff is indeed online. She does not have internet.
Where to start? Any advice? She wants to have her ducks in a row by the end of thie school year.
TIA
Here's a start...sm
See the link below and please read it carefully, by which I mean following the links in the article as well.
http://www.firstthings.com/onthesquare/?p=498
As for Obama's rep as the "abortion president", etc., perhaps you don't watch the news but I presume you know how to use Google and won't have any problem educating yourself on that score. And please remember, I don't sign the executive orders...he does.
Where do I start
Sorry to get you all excited, but I don't have the time or energy to go into it all now ... I will just say it all starts from noticing some things don't add up. You accidentally catch them and then just set out to prove it to yourself.
This will start a thread about who does not like her
but I was reminded when I saw your post about seeing Sylvia Browne in person 1 time. She said if someone toxic, no matter who they were, your own son, you should exclude them. I truly believe this to be the case.
It all has to start somewhere doesn't it?
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Maybe if you start a fire in your
fireplace, your swamp cooler will be more effective!
Either that or get a dehumidifier.
I hate humidity also, and here I am in NC. Would you believe that when people are sick they sometimes run HUMIDIFIERS HERE?? Makes no sense to me when they could just step outside most of the time, and we have enough fungus amongus, LOL.
Now he just came in and asked me to start over (sm)
He hugged me and said, "do you want to let's start over?" (which we have been through so many times) and I said, "how do we start over? I lose weight and get super-organized?" and he said, "Well, not SUPER organized."
Here in mid-TN they start the first of August, sm
Unfortunately, the temps have been 100+ and messing up the air-conditioning, so some school districts were just going half days, also no air-conditioning on buses.
Local university started classes today.
Where Did the MyBad start at?
I keep hearing the younger generation saying this and it isn't even proper english.Where did it start and When. What made me think of it I just seen a commercial for Macys and JS unpluged the radio and she said MyBad. I get onto my kids and Grandkids for saying it I tell them it isn't proper english and to talk right.I know its slang but dang its stupi*d.
Were you always in shape before that or did you start at 49? nm
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Anyone start Atkins on Jan 1?
I'm doing it again......Atkins that is. I started January 2 and have lost 6 pounds, yea! I want to lose about 30. Anyone else start it that wants to encouarge each other on here? I can't find a dieting forum, so hope it's okay to put it on the gab board. Think I'll go eat some chicken!
But if you are going to change, have to start some
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I definitely will let you know when I start seeing results! I sm
am usually a quitter when it comes to stuff like this b/c I'm so busy with work, home, kids, but I am not giving up this time even if I don't start seeing results in 3 months!
I start feeling bad when #s go into the 60-70s. Had
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Thank you everyone! What a great start to my day
I can't thank you all enough for your kind words and hugs here today. I figure today is the last day of bad stress since tomorrow is my husband's final hearing and we received the report from the court that the children will stay here, but the child support and financial issue stands on the table for tomorrow. So today is the last day I can be subpoenaed (the ex always subpoenas at the last minute) and after today's "knock on the door" and tomorrow's judge decision, maybe things will let up. But you are all right about counting blessings and so nice for saying I am strong and everything. Just knowing there are people out there understanding, especially MTs (who I value opinions) it will help me get through the next few days. Thank you! And BTW: The birds are fine today and DH cleaned the living room! Today is another day. But I will refer back to this often. And thank you so very much! :)
It is going to hurt less if you just say no at the start.
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my way to start to achieve this.
human scum who abuse innocent, defenseless children and animals should be quietly eliminated.
And just wait until they start using your DNA sm
to profile everyone for genetic health risks. I see that day coming. Some states already are proposing creating a "DNA databank" for newborns....
Again, thanks to all of you. I was gong to start s/m
drinking soy milk, which I understand is to really help, but I will look for the pill form of the ACV today. Here's to feeling better! 
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