She asked, I answered. Cool down.
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Well you answered a question that was not asked (sm)
I did not ask you if it was acceptable nor did I ask you if it was right. I asked if it was something most women end up dealing with at some point. Because the statistics I have read say that it occurs at some point in the majority of marriages. I wanted to see if that was true according to the sampling of women on here. Thanks for not patting me on the a&& though - I would have had to report you.
Thanks so much, all who answered!
You all had some excellent advice, and I sure appreciate it. There are valid arguments on both sides of the question of whether or not to have a curfew for an 18-year-old. We decided to stick with the curfew, and made it clear to our daughter that she was to follow it, or the car would be taken away for a week. While she lives in our house, I want her home at a reasonable hour.
By the way, I do NOT implicitly trust her. My older daughter taught me how foolish that was after a late night car accident (she said she thinks she fell asleep at the wheel). I've been through the teenage thing long enough now to know that we really have no idea what they're doing when we can't see them. I just don't want her on the road at 4 a.m., even if she is 18.
Thanks again for your great advice.
I just answered your email *S*
 
You just answered a question I had.
I wondered how many symptoms it would help. It would be fantastic to be rid of periods, but how disappointing it doesn't do anything for PMS. So it sounds like you would still have whatever intestinal problems that go along with the hormone changes too. My colon is much more trouble than my uterus, unfortunately.
Once again, question not answered
WHO IS THIS PERSON?? Never heard of her and I am entitled to ask who she is, remember gab board to talk about anything.
ok you answered my question down here...
doesn't the daughter want the ashes or have any ideas what to do about the ashes? 22 years is a long time......
ok and here you answered my question about ...
I should have read the entire thread before I ever posted, eh? *lol* - All my queries have been answered, have a daughter who does not particularly care to have the ashes...but your fiance' does care and I understand the latter's feelings on it...
My suggestion is force the ashes on daughter - leave them at her house as you are getting ready to leave, then you leave...just my opinion, of course....
You answered my question....
Did not think pain, picking up she does not meow, just lays there. Thanks because never had a cat before to reach an old age and be on her last leg, like I suspect she is. I will just keep babying and taking care of her as much as possible.
you already answered you own ? about husband
A change in behavior like that is more than suspicious. Don't be blinded by how he was even a year ago. That was then, this is now. Not sure if you saw Dr. Phil last week about the swingers, but if not, check his w/s just for add'l info. If not that, there's clearly another woman (or man, maybe?). The fact that suddenly you're being left out is no accident, darlin'. I've known married men who do that
down-low thing (ick factor, but true), and everything else in-between.
Are you able to get someone to tail him (a PI, or even a friend who can be trusted)? Also, like I tell everyone, CHECK THE CELL PHONE CALLS! Many cheaters continue to get caught by this, as crazy as it sounds in 2008. The first thing you need to to is set aside your emotions, hard as it may be. So far you've been really smart. This way he's less likely to think you've already gotten a head start on him.
You wrote for advice, but you obviously know you're not being treated right here, and we support you. But don't be blinded by what "was" in the past 10 years. It really sucks, but it's sadly the truth. Many before you have been in the same position. Never again will I ever put all my trust in a man. I'm not bitter, I'm just telling it like it is. That doesn't mean there aren't great men/marriages out there, but there are far too many players and really good con artists!
Incidentally, to this date I still get an abundance of married men hitting on me, so single, married, separated, it matters not. So please get the info first, then remember to keep your self-respect. A man who is cheating, lying, or simply leaving you out of the picture altogether is no man you want to spend the rest of your days with. Don't mean to sound hard, but too many women waste valuable years trying to fix a man, when they should be cutting their losses (regardless of kids or no kids), and maintaining their dignity.
Please keep us posted.
Be strong!
That was answered in another post
I apoligized to a relative 1 time that got very upset with me. I called, told them over and over as they cursed me out I loved them (they had cancer by the way) and they finally said I could visit them again. I bit my tongue from then on- agreed with everything they said, never had my own thoughts any more but I was able to visit. Never did I say what I wanted to- just went along with the flow- so yes it meant that much to me and I will say sorry.
You answered your own post by questioning me
you said your children tell you everything. You at the same time said your 18 year old son had sex at 17 and told you about it the other day, meaning he had sex, what a year ago and he is now telling you, irregardless of whether he felt bad about it or liked it. It is good that you take the thought that your children tell you everything. I see many disillusioned parents who thought the same way as you do.
I guess I answered my own post
The person posting above said Florida did not allow,something about all their capital punishment?? Whatever she meant by that. You are right, the poster is from Texas and I stated (without my knowing her state) I be willing to bet Texas did the whippings.
You've answered your question.
They wanted to be on Oprah, etc. This was a stunt.
Is this an answered prayer or is something wrong? (sm)
I have been in the process of getting ready for a divorce. My 11 year old in the past had asked me not to because he would have to spend to much time with his dad. Later he asked me about it, I told him it would be a few months, and he said he was "ready to go right now and get out of here". I have prayed and prayed about this and yesterday my son said it didn't matter to him either way, whether we divorce or not, he will be fine either way. He said it in such a calm nonchalant way. It almost makes me think he is at peace about it all. On the other hand I am worried that maybe he is just giving up or just not willing to talk to me anymore about it? He does seem very calm and ok with everything though and does not seem sad or depressed or worried. Could this be the answer to my prayers?
If I had answered with my first thought, X-rated back
but would be off this board so I will say after my bath this morning just put on some Lubriderm as my skin tends to be very dry.
Very cool - thanks.nm
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Cool that so rox!!!!!
 My son is in a band, too!
That's way cool!
Yes, there are good people out there. Seems like you hear more about the bad than the good, unfortunately.
Much support to you, your son and your family!
Cool!
I had a lot of pen pals when I was in junior high. We were obligated to take German and French in 7th and 8th grade and the teachers arranged for us to get pen pals in both countries. I also ended up with one from Japan. It has been 25 years since then and I am still in contact with my pen pal from France. It is such a wonderful experience.
That is so cool!
I found my first bat upstairs in the hayloft a few years ago...oh it was so cute and so tiny! My husband had to physically hold me back from trying to pick it up. I think it was a youngin' who just came inside to sneak a nap and decided bales of hay were a most comfy place to crash.
I pretty much try to make a grab for anything like that...which is totally not normal, I know.
Spiders though...well, if I see a spider, no matter how teeny, I do that thing...what's it called..."vagal."  I'm like a fainting goat when it comes to spiders for some reason. Pass right the frig out and poo myself. Not too proud of that, but there ya have it, so I can totally understand someone else's phobias for sure!
OMG!! How cool is that!!
My daughter is turning 21 July of next year and that's what I'm doing for her.
We travel about 200 miles down the road to see a pro game series usually 2 or 3 times a season, but only once this year... $$$ is low :(
We are already starting to save and plan for her 21st. She's really excited. It would be SO awesome if Carl Crawford or Rocco Baldelli yelled happy birthday to her from the outfield.
What a memory that would be!
Very cool, - sm
First as a mom who adopted her first son when he was 9, I say congratulations to you all. What a special blessing it is. Your daughter has probably already met all of your relatives, but we made a special photo album with all of the extended relatives in it and labeled each one so that he had an album of his new family. We also had a photo album of the adoption procedure with pics of all of us with the judge and pics of Anthony behind the judges desk and such. We had a great judge, who let us take our time and take as many pics as we wanted. We also planted a tree in the back yard as a reminder of adoption day, which we celebrate each year just like it was a birthday. Also we bought a special frame for the adoption certificate and it is hanging in our living room in a very prominent place. Something that we thought about after the fact and never did was to take out an adoption anouncement in the paper, just like a baby anouncement.
Just some of the ideas that we used, praying that you have a joyous and blessed life with your new sweetheart.
so cool
It was really cool. . I felt like I was witnessing a miracle - which, of course, birth is. . I doubt very many people get to see something like that - It definitely made my day!
I am such a cool mom
My DD just called from the bowling alley to ask if she and her friends could come here to watch their movie. I said, "Why yes, of course."
Now excuse me while I panic and try to clean this place up!
That is cool!!...nm
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Cool!
It makes such a difference doesn't it? I used to HATE my nose and used to always say if I had the money I would have a nose job. Once I had my teeth done, I can honestly say my nose does not bother me like it used to! I think a healthy smile just helps the whole face.
Cool
I didn't know about the yoga positions. I haven't ever done yoga, but it's something I'm interested in. I'm definitely going to check that out!
cool
I am so glad everything worked out for you all.
Cool!
Thank you for your reply. Do you know how to go about doing that?
Those are cool. You should
try to send them to any specific tv shows that might have characters who would wear something like that. I always figure if you can get celebrities to pick up on an item, you can make big bucks. The celebs seem to pick up on certain things for a period time and pay big $$ for them!
That is cool....sm
Sell them on ebay. Put some on there and see.
Cool
Nope, you're not out of sync. Unfortunately, with the government-run school system, you have to stay on top of things and take matters into your own hands!
Our schools (I'm in Georgia), do not start at the same time and they do not bus elementary and high school together. They do bus middle school and high school together in some instances. We do get 2 weeks for Christmas and 1 for spring break and also 1 week in Feb for a winter break and 1 in Sept for a fall break. We get out at the end of May but start back at the very beginning of August (which I don't care for!). Since we're in GA, the air conditioner thing is not an issue because every building down here has central air.
We do not have the 2-hour delay thing. That seems really silly. I think my kids would just end up staying home "sick" those days. We have teacher work days every once in a while where the kids have the whole day off of school so the teachers can plan.
Anyway, I hope this helps with your comparison!
I think it's a great idea to go the meetings and give input!
Good luck with everything!
I would play it cool
If it's meant to be, it will happen.
You're not really sure he is interested. Your gut tells you he is, and he probably is, but if he is, he will definitely make the moves.
If you act to eager... well...
And, if you do call and he was just being nice with his note, then you'll feel silly (however, I'm thinking a handwritten note is pretty personal).
There are ways to let him know you're interested. Just a look works on must guys ;-).
Also, be sure he's not hitched as well!
Seriously, be patient. Just do a lot of "thinking" about him. He'll catch those vibes too, trust me!
Good luck, sweetie.
Cool! How do you find those? sm
I've never seen any links like that...that I was aware of.
My husband always claimed since he had seen my first 2 C-sections as well as watched 1 on TV that he could've delivered our third child at home. LOL!
Way cool; you go girl! : )
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That's cool, but for me it's easier to
grow the flowers than keep the feeder clean and filled. Cause I'd have some kind of flowers anyway, LOL.
Wow! That is sooo cool! (sm)
Congratulations! I don't have any advice - but would like some! How do you buy a forclosed house?? I may be in the divorced boat soon myself and I would love to know how to do something like that!
Have you tried a cool bath. sm
I have also heard rubbing the child down with alcohol helps. Prayers going up for your baby.
Take a little time to cool down
I understand your anger and I don't blame you at all - but be sure of your facts before you make a huge deal out of this. For example, your SIL might have been talking to your niece about the topic in general and your niece asked specifically about your husband and son, to be sure she understood what her mother was telling her.
Not defending your SIL at all, I'm just saying that your niece is only 8 years old and she could have condensed an entire conversation down to one sentence. Just be sure of the facts. If indeed your SIL did say exactly those words in exactly that way, then I would certainly agree that asking her why she is suddenly singling out your husband and son is an appropriate reaction.
I was recently told by my SIL that she would prefer that I didn't tickle her children (in the ribs, in front of the whole family - not like I was trying to hide it) because they have ONE family member who lives a THOUSAND miles away who is a pedophile. So they don't allow ANY family members to touch their children at all, except for a hug when you are leaving their house - and at that point, I felt awkward even about that and waited for her to say, "Go ahead and hug your aunt."
So I really do understand how you're feeling. I think my SIL is WAY overreacting to the situation but those are her children and I don't have any right to tell her how to raise them.
Your SIL may be just trying to make trouble. That is certainly a possibility. But it's not the only possibility.
Good luck. I hope the situation can be resolved without any hard feelings.
or hot and they are seeking cool!
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They are cool dogs.
Heck, they could probably discourage bears and mountain lions, too!
Cool! Good example.
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yes, cool show.
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You're a cool cat, Cat ;-) (nm)
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I'm quite cool, thanks. Just wondering why you had
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Sounds cool.
I wish I could find it in a grocery store. I don't get to the mall often, but I'll try.
very cool ! Thanks for sharing. nm
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I'm impressed. Very cool.
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That is cool! He seems like a hoot! nm
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That is cool you got to go up to the house ...sm
when he was living there. It still has those lions on each side of the steps too. It is so cool inside. I absolutely love Elvis.
Very cool! I bet he loves it! (nm)
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