I guess I answered my own post
Posted By: Questioning on 2007-12-07
In Reply to: OP in Texas, isn't she? Anyway, that's what - I meant.
The person posting above said Florida did not allow,something about all their capital punishment?? Whatever she meant by that. You are right, the poster is from Texas and I stated (without my knowing her state) I be willing to bet Texas did the whippings.
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I apoligized to a relative 1 time that got very upset with me. I called, told them over and over as they cursed me out I loved them (they had cancer by the way) and they finally said I could visit them again. I bit my tongue from then on- agreed with everything they said, never had my own thoughts any more but I was able to visit. Never did I say what I wanted to- just went along with the flow- so yes it meant that much to me and I will say sorry.
You answered your own post by questioning me
you said your children tell you everything. You at the same time said your 18 year old son had sex at 17 and told you about it the other day, meaning he had sex, what a year ago and he is now telling you, irregardless of whether he felt bad about it or liked it. It is good that you take the thought that your children tell you everything. I see many disillusioned parents who thought the same way as you do.
I guess I misunderstood the first post..sm
wow. this does not sound good. If sounds like they are looking to liquidate what ever assets you do have then, which would really suck. this part, I know nothing about, so I cannot really comment. I know that when I filed bankruptcy against an old student loan I had outstanding for 10 years, it did go on my husband's credit, as well, simply because we were married. It was one of the worst moves we ever made, even though it was against me personally, it affected both of our credit when it came to wanting to purchase a house, a vehicle, or anything on credit. It lasted for over 10 years, and I had to have it removed from all three credit reporting agencies, as removing it from only one does not remove it from all. I understand the interest rates though, which was the reason why I stopped trying to pay back my student loan. It was 98 percent interest on a 5000.00 loan. They were trying to force me to get the money from some other lending institution, parents, friends, anything, just so they got their money and I had a somewhat lower interest rate. It did not work that way though, because with the bankruptcy against me, I could not get a loan anywhere else either. It was a vicious circle. I got rid of my husband, who was draining every last cent we had on useless stuff he wanted, and I am financially solvent again, making a good annual income and debt free! It is a great feeling, and I no longer have any credit cards. I still wish you luck, but it sure does not sound good.
guess not. the post has been deleted. nm
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Sorry - guess I didn't read the whole post (sm)
I have driven to Florida by myself many times (about a 9 hour drive for me). I do have family there though. But I stayed in a hotel by myself while I was there and did the drive alone. I listen to my favorite music, talk on my cell phone (when I have service), etc. The drive is not bad at all. As far as the hotel room - I kind of adjust my brain and tell myself this time is all mine! I can eat whatever I want, go wherever I want, watch whatever I want. As long as you adjust your mind accordingly, it will be great! It really is a treat to be able to just make all the decisions yourself once in a while and not have to ask anyone else what they want.
Thanks so much, all who answered!
You all had some excellent advice, and I sure appreciate it. There are valid arguments on both sides of the question of whether or not to have a curfew for an 18-year-old. We decided to stick with the curfew, and made it clear to our daughter that she was to follow it, or the car would be taken away for a week. While she lives in our house, I want her home at a reasonable hour.
By the way, I do NOT implicitly trust her. My older daughter taught me how foolish that was after a late night car accident (she said she thinks she fell asleep at the wheel). I've been through the teenage thing long enough now to know that we really have no idea what they're doing when we can't see them. I just don't want her on the road at 4 a.m., even if she is 18.
Thanks again for your great advice.
I just answered your email *S*
 
You just answered a question I had.
I wondered how many symptoms it would help. It would be fantastic to be rid of periods, but how disappointing it doesn't do anything for PMS. So it sounds like you would still have whatever intestinal problems that go along with the hormone changes too. My colon is much more trouble than my uterus, unfortunately.
Once again, question not answered
WHO IS THIS PERSON?? Never heard of her and I am entitled to ask who she is, remember gab board to talk about anything.
ok you answered my question down here...
doesn't the daughter want the ashes or have any ideas what to do about the ashes? 22 years is a long time......
ok and here you answered my question about ...
I should have read the entire thread before I ever posted, eh? *lol* - All my queries have been answered, have a daughter who does not particularly care to have the ashes...but your fiance' does care and I understand the latter's feelings on it...
My suggestion is force the ashes on daughter - leave them at her house as you are getting ready to leave, then you leave...just my opinion, of course....
You answered my question....
Did not think pain, picking up she does not meow, just lays there. Thanks because never had a cat before to reach an old age and be on her last leg, like I suspect she is. I will just keep babying and taking care of her as much as possible.
you already answered you own ? about husband
A change in behavior like that is more than suspicious. Don't be blinded by how he was even a year ago. That was then, this is now. Not sure if you saw Dr. Phil last week about the swingers, but if not, check his w/s just for add'l info. If not that, there's clearly another woman (or man, maybe?). The fact that suddenly you're being left out is no accident, darlin'. I've known married men who do that
down-low thing (ick factor, but true), and everything else in-between.
Are you able to get someone to tail him (a PI, or even a friend who can be trusted)? Also, like I tell everyone, CHECK THE CELL PHONE CALLS! Many cheaters continue to get caught by this, as crazy as it sounds in 2008. The first thing you need to to is set aside your emotions, hard as it may be. So far you've been really smart. This way he's less likely to think you've already gotten a head start on him.
You wrote for advice, but you obviously know you're not being treated right here, and we support you. But don't be blinded by what "was" in the past 10 years. It really sucks, but it's sadly the truth. Many before you have been in the same position. Never again will I ever put all my trust in a man. I'm not bitter, I'm just telling it like it is. That doesn't mean there aren't great men/marriages out there, but there are far too many players and really good con artists!
Incidentally, to this date I still get an abundance of married men hitting on me, so single, married, separated, it matters not. So please get the info first, then remember to keep your self-respect. A man who is cheating, lying, or simply leaving you out of the picture altogether is no man you want to spend the rest of your days with. Don't mean to sound hard, but too many women waste valuable years trying to fix a man, when they should be cutting their losses (regardless of kids or no kids), and maintaining their dignity.
Please keep us posted.
Be strong!
She asked, I answered. Cool down.
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You've answered your question.
They wanted to be on Oprah, etc. This was a stunt.
Is this an answered prayer or is something wrong? (sm)
I have been in the process of getting ready for a divorce. My 11 year old in the past had asked me not to because he would have to spend to much time with his dad. Later he asked me about it, I told him it would be a few months, and he said he was "ready to go right now and get out of here". I have prayed and prayed about this and yesterday my son said it didn't matter to him either way, whether we divorce or not, he will be fine either way. He said it in such a calm nonchalant way. It almost makes me think he is at peace about it all. On the other hand I am worried that maybe he is just giving up or just not willing to talk to me anymore about it? He does seem very calm and ok with everything though and does not seem sad or depressed or worried. Could this be the answer to my prayers?
Well you answered a question that was not asked (sm)
I did not ask you if it was acceptable nor did I ask you if it was right. I asked if it was something most women end up dealing with at some point. Because the statistics I have read say that it occurs at some point in the majority of marriages. I wanted to see if that was true according to the sampling of women on here. Thanks for not patting me on the a&& though - I would have had to report you.
If I had answered with my first thought, X-rated back
but would be off this board so I will say after my bath this morning just put on some Lubriderm as my skin tends to be very dry.
It's anybody's guess
I hope it's Sanjaya, but three people forgot the words to their songs. My guess is maybe Brandon (one who forgot the words). With the exception of Lahisha, Melinda and Blake, I am not impressed with this years singers at all. It's one of the worst seasons for me.
Just old, I guess :(
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I guess
...that's why I gave up on Christianity. Jesus' message was beautiful and loving for the most part, but the religion has become inundated with intolerance and condemnation and even damnation. Religion world-wide is too much of a trigger for war and violence and I'm not sure how it got twisted into its present form(s). Well, let me take that back -- it seems as long as there has been religion humans have been fighting and killing each other over it, which is a sad advertisement for a particular religion, unfortunately.
To quote from a favorite folksong, I'm willing to "let the mystery be."
no, actually, i guess i don't. (nm)
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Well, I have 8, so I guess not . . .
and, if I had it to do over again, I would do exactly the same! My youngest will be two in June, and my oldest has two of his own. Yes, we have quite an age spread there.  Our 2-year-old is the joy of our lives. One little laugh or even a smile from him, and everything else seems to pale in importance. He's a great little de-stressor.
As I have always told my children, "Friends come and go, but familes are forever."
I guess it's not who you know, but who you ?
not funny
Hey, guess what???
Still havent called… I asked if anyone else had done this. I don’t live in terror that I will fall over, have my own blood pressure cuff. I can ask if others have done this without showing up at the emergency room....
Guess you were never a kid?
As long as she's smart, then she should be able to stay out. Now if she's going to be all night, she should have the courtesy to let her mother know. I've been in that situation where I had to pay rent to my parents once I was that age. They didn't have a curfew for me, but I was considerate enough to let them know when I'd be out all night or staying with a friend. According to tradition, the female child does not move out until she's courted and then gets married? I think the OP should cut the girl a break and let her make some decisions on her own.
Are they all like that? I guess that's what I really want to know
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LOL - I guess they run out often!!
I guess it should go to you, then, b/c you know what
Ahhh, the arrogance. You should be careful! lol
You said yourself so I guess sex at 16 ok
your daughter was 17 and this relationship going on over a year. Sorta sounds like 16 to me but hey, if you are alright with letting your daughter live like that, oh well.
Sorry, I guess this has already
been posted. I got it as an email from someone.....It is really cute for Christmas...
my guess is...sm
Wagons East  Cat
my guess is .......
My Cousin Vinnie?
I guess I was probably
a bit of a Nazi then because my kids opened one at a time, they took turns handing out presents to those who were there, and we recorded each one and made them actually look at whatever it happened to be that they opened and smile and say thank you grandma or whoever...
I guess I too, was trying to be brief....
Ablation was never an option for me. Besides the adenomyosis, I had a septum inside my uterus and was told this prevented me from ever having any kind of ablative therapy.
Guess I am the only one who DID. LOL! SM
You probably know it is a musical. I loved the time period, etc. Yesterday I checked on the price of a the Sweeney Todd CD and can't wait to get it. I was very low in money, but just checking to see who had it. The song I was referring to is acutally "Not when I'm Around" sung by the young boy in the film. What a voice and what a beautiful song. Let me know if you see it, Cat. I warn you . . . not for the faint of heart! LOL.
LOL. I guess that's what I'm saying
I swear I have a four year old and a 14 year old (on 2/10) and they act like they're both four. The older one can't get that all she has to do is walk away from her sister. I let my husband deal with that one a week. LOL.
Let me guess again
You're the same who has been arguing the same nonsensical points for the last 2 days. Three words for you: LET IT GO...breathe...LET IT GO. Nobody cares!
We all second guess ourselves but---sm
Keep up the great work. My daughters are 19 and 23 but I had the same standards you have. They did not get cell phones until high school, they could not wear tank tops that their bras would show. They had curfews. My 19 year old still does when she comes home from college 1 a.m. She hates it but I want to sleep at night. I went to all of their activities even though I could have been doing my own thing because they were my children and that is what we are suppose to do. That I always knew where they were, did not let them get involved with children that we knew the parents were drug addicts etc. They have recently told me that were glad that morals were instilled in them That they now know what is right and wrong because so many people they meet in college have parents who realy dont care and have no morals.
Someday your children will tell you they appreciate the way you brought them up.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY
We can only guess, and
one possibility would be a stressful home situation that has her so stressed out that her immune system is failing. One yeast growth gets out of control, thinking can get very fuzzy. She needs relief from the stress and somebody to take care of her physical condition. That's supposed to be her parents, but something is going on there.
Just my guess.
guess what
That makes us even - because I am having a hard time believing you! If there was a significant bite, something would have been done. Been there & done that.
Again, concentrate on what your child needs, not what you need to make yourself feel righteous.
Well then I guess I know someone just like you nm
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Tx - I guess its just sad (sm)
When you realize your own relatives think of you like that. DH says if that's the way he feels then fine he can just sit down there (where they live) and think whatever they want of us and they can all praise each other and tell each other over and over how intelligent they are. Then DH said "maybe he'll get some medication for it". :-) Anyway...we've got too much going here and from now on if his family calls they get voicemail. Just is sad - couldn't imagine my family saying things like that.
I would guess so, but I don't think you
can have as big a hard drive, memory, etc. Also, the screen would be soooo small.
I guess
A lot of schools are even cutting art programs (which is too bad because they keep SPORTS!)
At least the self-satisfaction of having a degree is a plus!
I guess 47 or 48.
I had tried a LOT of SSRIs but none of them worked. Effexor is an SNRI, which I guess is what made the difference. I was on a pretty big dose, 75 mg twice a day, for about 1-1/2 years. Very recently this has started to feel like too much...I'm not sure if my brain chemistry has become permanently "unscrambled" (which would be nice) - or if it's because I'm completely through menopause at this point -- but at some point a few months ago I started to feel "wired" and to have very bad nightmares. I've started cutting back VERY slowly. I don't know if I'll end up getting off it altogether. For the moment 37.5 twice a day feels okay. I took more than a month to wean this down, & even that might have been a little quick for this drug.
My main symptoms during menopause were (nice to be able to use the past tense) SEVERE, debilitating anxiety, almost a physical sensation of dread, a lot like extreme stage fright. There were days I was afraid to get out of bed and literally stayed in bed until 10, 11 in the morning, terrified, with the covers over my head. And explosive anger. I can't tell you how many nasty e-mails I fired off because some innocuous thing someone said made my head explode. Then I would be terrified to look at my e-mail for a week. This was all very tough. I did my share of mopping up after myself, but I did not tell anyone what was prompting my behavior. Maybe it would have helped, I don't know. At the time it felt like that would have been making excuses, but it's possible people would have understood, or maybe I would have gotten help sooner if I'd been able to articulate to myself -- out loud -- what the problem was. Adding to this was the resistance I have always had to using "female problems" as an excuse for anything -- not because it wasn't warranted from time to time, but because of the stereotype of women being less, what...reliable? level-headed? because of hormones. I didn't want to feed into that, even though Heaven Help Us, testosterone is a hormone, too, & a lot more dangerous than estrogen, from what I can see in the world around me.
Anyway, I know there are people who breeze through menopause. I was not one of them. I'm very glad it's over.
guess i'd
buy some sanitary pads and maybe have some Midol on hand. I've seen things about what we are doing (eating?) that is thought to create early puberty in young women, but can't remember what it is...might also have some hot cocoa on hand (warm drinks soothe)to help with cramps, encourage moving/walking if she gets too uncomfortable. Just let her know to tell you what she needs, and where supplies are...
Well, guess you could say same for why do I want my BMW
But, my husband buys for me and he says just wants to get me what he considers the best. I do not know what they cost and I do not know what he pays monthly just that he buys them for me.
Just a guess . . .
He gave you something very rare and special, the $2 bill represents your son.
I guess we can see where she got it from...
...if her mother didn't do anything about the situation, that's pretty indicative that she is a bully herself.
At least your mom tried. You gotta love her for that :-)
I am glad that you are an adult and no longer being bullied. What an awful thing for a child to have to go through.
my guess
My guess would be that she is in heart failure, but all the fluid in the lungs looks like pneumonia on the x-ray.
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